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Salam alaykum sisters and brothers and Ramadan Kareem! Yesterday I found out methods of Istikhara and how to perform it by doing tasbeeh (counting beads with a rosary). I performed the same night the same method given out by imam Al Mahdi (A.S) and the first time I got an answer telling me to do it (what is on my mind). I performed again (the same method) after and it instead said to not do it. I then a few minutes after performed another method given out by another imam (A.S) which I forgot whom it was and my answer came out to be to do it. And now a day later i performed istikhara a few times with the different methods by different imams and some of the answers were to not do it while others were to do it. I then performed the istikhara given out by prophet Muhammad (A.S) which you get an answer from by opening the Quran after following some other steps and then seeing which sentence you get. I don’t remember which sentence/verse I got but if I would translate it to an answer I would say the answer were to not do it or like to not do something without Allah allowing it. I’m now very confused, shall I do the thing in my mind or not. I don’t remember if I got “do it” most or “do not do it” most. But I think I got “do it” maybe one or two times more than to not do it. Please if anyone knows what you shall do (based on knowledges) can you please advise me? And please brothers and sisters avoiding telling me to not do it only to be on the safe zone because I really want to make my decision but of course seek Allah the almighty’s knowledge and permission first. Jazakhum Allah Khayr o3alaykum alsalam o rahmat Allah o barakato! Here is the link to where all the methods that I performed are: http://www.duas.org/istikhara.htm

Salaam, Hope this finds all in the best of health and imaan inshallah. So Inshallah I am looking to get married in a couple of weeks and have never had any experience with women in my life whatsoever. It is going to be a typical traditional marriage, arranged by our parents. She will be moving into my family house to live with myself, along with my parents and my siblings (inshallah). We are of Indian descent, living in the west and are quite a traditional family (and so is she!). My question to the reader is that now that you've been married for a while now (Alhamdolillah) and have the knowledge and experience, what would you differently in the : 1) Wedding night 2) First week 3) First month 4) First 3 months 5) First 6 months 6) First year 7) First 5 years Any other advise would be highly appreciated as I don't have any elder brothers or cousins of a similar age who can give me guidance on this topic. I am also amongst the first to get married from my friends as well! Thanks! God bless all, through the Ahlulbayt AS inshallah.

Asalaam Alaikum my dear brothers and sister: Currently, I am in need of some advice, this does not have to be limited to women only, men may feel free to offer advice as well. I have a sister in faith who converted last spring. I only spoke to her a few days before her conversion; she had told me of her intent to convert. Unfortunately, she visited another sister's house, and this sister's husband rushed her into conversion. He exclaimed "convert you may die tomorrow!" Now this approach would work on a convert who was already deep in the process in the converting and needed an extra emotional push; however, she was greatly overwhelmed by this as she admitted this to me later. Only a few days later she started wearing a hijab because she was in contact with a rather conservative brother. She may have felt compelled because he influenced her before she was ready. There is nothing wrong with wearing the hijab early if you are prepared, but I believe she was scared to commit a sin after being a new convert. She always tells me she wished she converted in the manner I did. I admit, however, I took a while: I prayed for months prior, and sought education on Islamic matters. I even fasted during Ramdhan before I formally did my shahadha. This I believe, is important to understand the current situation. This past Ramadhan she took off the hijab, for the biggest reason being she did not enjoy it and was disillusioned by the harsh criticism women received for not wearing the "proper hijab." She may have also worn it due to her contact with the conservative man she was gathering information from. While, I know it is not my place to tell her to wear it as she already knows it is the Qur'an and is a commandment from Allah swt. I understand that hijab is difficult, and she did not ease into the hijab. For example, when I was in the process of beginning to wear it, I started only wearing pants or long skirts, long sleeves with no skin showing, and tying my hair back with a large headband. She just wore it one day, and that was it. Now she does not wear hijab, but she does not observe the modesty similar to how I began. I fear she took it as a pass to wear immodest clothes simply because she was no longer wearing the scarf. Unfortunately she is in relations with a non-Muslim man, and I am worried she will continue to do so. I have no idea if she has the intent in marrying this man, but I know she is deeply opposed to marriage due to the Saudi culture she is exposed to. Also, I do not know if she knows that she cannot marry this man unless he converts. I know he is a good man, but still I am worried. Everyone around her congratulates her for taking the scarf off and asks her to share experience on this; she, however, does not like this attention. I was hoping if you guys had any advice on what to say or do for her. I am too scared of showing her videos in fear that will drive her away from me. She is a very good friend of mine, and a wonderful woman. She is opinionated and therefore I do not know if she will take any of my advice. She had the opportunity to marry the man who she had contact with, but she refused, and I hope not because of me. I told her of some of the obligations of the woman/wife, and this put her off. I just did not want her to enter a marriage with a conservative man without knowing what she would need to do as her new role as wife. Sorry if this sounds like rambling, but I would greatly appreciate your advice. I am very meek so I hope some of you can give me good advice. Masalaama. Peace

Aslam-e-elukum, I am writing this topic on behalf of a sister. Please help and guide her. She seems lost. Thank you. Dear Brothers & Sisters, I need help from you guys, I am really depressed and frustrated. I am a convert here in an Asian country. I was previously a Sunni but I accepted Shiaism long ago. And I consider myself a great lover of Prophet Muhammad(SAW) and Ahl-ul-bait(AS). I was opposed by my family when I converted and faced a few hardships along the way. Things got better and then came the issue of my marriage. I am obviously looking for a Shia husband but I am being rejected by Shia families mainly because I am not a born Shia. And they question my faith. And this is causing frustration. Even my mom is asking me to go back to Sunnism. And marry soon. Otherwise I will be too old for marriage. I asked my mom to forget the matter that I will be a Sunni again because that will never happen. I don’t know what to do. These people who reject me make me feel like a worthless creature and it is creating problems for me. I am falling into a deep depression. L

Salam alakom everybody... ISLAM recently had a very big effect of me because i actually opened my eyes to the real world. I really want to become a good muslim inshallah. A REAL MUSLIM not the so called ones. But all my freinds are in the wrong paths and i eventually start loosing track of becoming a good muslim. my heart hurts after i think of doing bad stuff with guilt and want advise on how to go to the clear path of life. PLEASE AND THANK YOU Salam brothers and sisters . Please no hate comments im new to this and trying to become a better person . Peace and Love to everyone