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  1. salam everyone, i recently advised my friend to not do something and she still did it. i spoke to her so many times she was doing something really wrong and if she got caught it will be bad. she did not listen and suddenly she forgot about her religion completely, she also starting disrespecting her parents and lived a careless life. she drifted about because of this but i was still disappointed and just wanted to her to go back to how she was. so i pretended that she did get caught doing an act and she was very embarrassed but was still lying about everything. she's really upset right now (but hasn't learnt her lesson due to saying she's not going to stop) but i feel really ashamed and i regret it because i feel like i exposed her sin which i am not meant to, i feel like Allah is already planning to get me back and my heart feels heavy with so much regret but i love her and i just wanted to protect her, i wanted her to go back to religion and being a smart girl but i didn't know that its going to hurt her so much. is what i did a big sin? I've always been very nice and this made me feel like a horrible person with good intentions but still so horrible and its not a good feeling at all.
  2. Getting Drunk Was Considered a Sin in Medieval Christianity بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم TIL that getting drunk was considered a sin in Medieval Christianity. Alcohol itself was considered permissible, but drinking to the point of inebriation was considered a subset of the deadly sin of gluttony. The full reddit thread on r/askhistorians can be found below, although I’ll quote the relevant parts: Click here to continue reading.
  3. If it is past experiences that shape a person, (and those past experiences or things that happen to him, he would not be able to control, i would say that God controls what happens to a person) then if it is past experiences that make someone bad, then are his bad actions blameworthy? EDIT: i meant to say would it be his fault
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    tired

    salam alaykum! When i was a child I got abused by my father. He used to abuse my mother and siblings too. sometimes he would just leave me and my family for a long time, like a half year. He would go to our homeland, iraq. After some time we decided to move there. We lived there a year and then moved back. Time passed, he changed. He's not abusing me anymore. Not long time ago my brother started to abuse me. One time he even wanted too kill my mother, i know its crazy. He was out of he's mind. My mom did forgive him. But now we moved back to iraq. I really don't want to live here but i want a change. I used to pray but not all the time, its on and off. I was in a really dark place. No one was there for me not even my mother. Whenever I would tell her in tears that I'm feeling sad and she'd say "you are so unthankful go away". But after the years passed i started to sin. I lost my faith. I believed in Allah SWT of course but I wasn't really righteous or so. I've been suffering a lot. But after all this time I started to pray. I've become more righteous. But the thing is my mother, she always says something or does something to push me away. I'm so tired. I'm really trying to be good with her. I admit i'm not the perfect child. i have my mistakes. but It feels like she doesn't even love me, seriously. I feel very unloved in my family. Its not like i've been the devil or so hahah. I'm understanding to my parents, i don't get them upset, i don't get angry at them unlike my brother. He has never been understanding he has just been a huge pain in the ass but still they love him more. I'm not jealous i just want to know why? have i done something to make them hate me? whenever i ask them they say that they love me even more than my brother. I know its a lie, I'm not a fool. I'm just tired not having anyone by my side. and now when i've moved to iraq it just made things worse. I really want to move back. I'm just so tired, I'm exhausted. Seriously i wouldn't mind if someone would kill me and that makes me sick, because i should be grateful for breathing. I'm really trying to have patience. When i didn't pray i was really depressed and i felt empty but now I pray but still i feel exhausted but not depressed. Not like before. What should i do? can i even do anything? Is Allah trying to test my patience?
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    Paradox of sin

    Salaam, Hello brothers and sisters, I have somewhat a really weird experience regarding sinning. Usually when you comit a sin Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى will punish you for having committed that sin afterwards. But the strangest thing is; my experience(almost all of it) shows that divine punishment happens before I commit the sin? For example, you loose money in your pocket while going out so you go back home to get more. Later you are approached by someone who asks you for some change but you decide not to give any. Moral of the story: punishment before sin It may happen once, it may happen twice. But to happen consecutively is really quite frightening. What does this mean? Is this normal? Is anyone else experiencing this? Please if anyone can give explanation as to why this is? I'm not entirely knowledgeable but my faith is still in practice. Many thanks, God bless.
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    Riya

    Aslamualikum I'm new here I have a question very simple question . is sin considered sin if u don't know it's sin ? . i ll explain If I go to a Sunni mosque and pray with hand folded so that I won't be odd one is it considered riya as I didn't know about this and I stoped now , now I pray with hand alongside wherever I go
  7. A'uzobilla himinash Shaitaanir rajeem. Bismillahir Ra'hmaanir Ra'heem. Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barkatuhu. I mean no offence. A hadith says that after reciting Sura Kaafirun and going to sleep makes reciter immune (i.e, a barrier) from Shirk. What does it mean by "immunity" and "barrier"? Those who recite or have started to recite, do you notice any change? (And please, no debates) Thanks in advance.
  8. Asalamalekum, Recently, i have been hired at a new job, and i am getting training at the moment. Moreover, I have just gotten married couple months ago and was hunting for full time job in the few months. Hence, this job is really important for me and my family. But i have a problem, during the job application process. I did not mention the name and phone number of one past job i worked at. Because, i committed some mistakes their, which i deeply regret and feel sorry. Instead, i mentioned some other jobs i worked at. At that time i was young and immature, therefore, if i would have written that older employer name and phone number in the application process. My current employer could have call them and found out about my past mistake which i deeply regret, and i might not get this job which "i really want". I had other jobs in the past and have been loyal and hardworking towards those companies and received a lot of praise from my bosses. Therefore, i would like to know what is the Islamic ruling in this situation. I deeply regret my past mistake, and if i tell my current employer about one of my last job. They might call them, and find out about this mistake and i could end up getting fired. Many Thanks!
  9. How can God justify giving eternal punishment to anyone? Our life is very short, and we can only commit a finite amount of sins, so how can god give eternity in hell for a finite number of sins? Even if someone spent a million years sinning how can god justify eternity, a million years of punishment at most, but eternity?
  10. If God loves unconditionally, how can sin exist? Indeed, Allah, the Compassionate, loves all His creatures but not unconditionally. If we accept the unconditional love of Allah to all creatures, irrespective their piety, then can we talk of Allah’s wisdom and justice. Allah two different kinds of mercy A) Common, B) Particular. The first category includes everyone but the second is exclusive of the most virtuous and pious ones. For sure, Allah loves the sinner servants to return to Allah and make themselves purified of the major and minor sins. But it does not necessarily imply that Allah’s love towards them is similar to the individual who lived his whole life with purity, sincerity and honesty. Even the Human beings can not have unconditional love to their kids and friends. For unconditional love runs counter to one’s sagacity and wisdom. It can be interred this way that Love can be of different levels. The more competent and honest you are, the more love and blessings you will be enjoying from the Lord. The level of one’s pious character or mean behavior can a game changer in attraction or distraction of Allah’s love. Human’s good deeds and bad actions can make huge differences on how Allah, would love and resurrect us. For he has explicitly said: وَمَا خَلَقْنَا السَّمَاءَ وَالْأَرْضَ وَمَا بَيْنَهُمَا بَاطِلًا ۚ ذَٰلِكَ ظَنُّ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا ۚ فَوَيْلٌ لِّلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا مِنَ النَّارِ [٣٨:٢٧] أَمْ نَجْعَلُ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ كَالْمُفْسِدِينَ فِي الْأَرْضِ أَمْ نَجْعَلُ الْمُتَّقِينَ كَالْفُجَّارِ [٣٨:٢٨] And We did not create the heaven and the earth and that between them aimlessly. That is the assumption of those who disbelieve, so woe to those who disbelieve from the Fire. Or should we treat those who believe and do righteous deeds like corrupters in the land? Or should We treat those who fear Allah like the wicked? To have more information on whom is Loved or Hated by Allah, you can click to the following link. Shuja's answer to What are the characteristics of those whom Allah loves? Thanks May, Allah Grant us His Exclusive Blessings
  11. I cursed and mocked Allah, will Allah forgive me? I was a short-term atheist this summer. Whenever I got angry I cursed Allah and mocked muslims. But now I returned to Islam and I pray him everyday to forgive me. I know it's a very big sin and I regret it so much. Will he forgive me? My humble response to the question is: Why not? Allah, the Almighty, in various verses of the Holy Quran has explicitly promised us all that He will forgive those who commit sins. His all-Inclusive and all-Embracing mercy requires that such sins and even bigger than that are to be forgiven easily and instantly. Let me describe it through an example, when we [human] are a bit kind hearted and in good mood, we can forgive sins that are far greater in size and scale than insulting and slanderous expressions. How is it possible that Allah whose compassion is not a match to His creatures’ should not forgive the minor wrongdoings. You might have come across events in your daily life that when, one violates the rights of faithful and pious Muslims, if he asks them earnestly to forgive him, most of them, most of the time, would forgive him and his misbehavior; because Allah has ordered them to experience the sweet taste of forgiveness. How Allah, the Most Compassionate, would not forgive what His week creatures forgive and forget? Moreover, Allah, the Most Exalted, says I love those who return to Me. Indeed, every returning of a repentant servant to Allah, begins with Allah's return to him. From the Quranic point of view, every repentance of a man/woman is wrapped up with two returns of Allah. When a man/woman feels regret of his/her sins, actually God, the Almighty, has showered blessings upon him/her which made him/her mindful of correcting his/her faults. Then that repentant individual turns his face towards his creator and asks for Allah's forgiveness. Finally, Allah, the Most Merciful, would return to him by accepting his repentance. In such a way, the servants will be cleansed of the dirt of sins and mischievous actions. It is why Allah, the Benevolent, has said that every blessing begins with Him. Your mindfulness and regret of the sin can be a clear embodiment of Allah's limitless grace and blessings. Don't let the feeling of guilt undermine your will of spiritual growth. Thanks May Allah, Bless Us All.
  12. Salaamu Alaykum everyone, I wrote this post detailing how to re-establish a connection with God when you feel like you're in a state of spiritual recession. It includes a more detailed guide on repentance for new converts (which those more experienced can browse over) and then a golden tip which I think everybody should read. It's one of the great realizations of my spiritual journey. Make sure to like/share/comment/subscribe inshaAllah! http://themuslimtheist.com/how-to-escape-being-burried-in-your-sins/
  13. Please read all of it. This is a serious issue affecting our Muslim community! Assalaamu alaykom wa rahmatullahu wa barakatuh, firstly I ask all of you who read this to sincerely open your hearts to accepting what is truth and rejecting what is false. If you find any good in what is said then follow it, if not you are free to choose what to do with it. There is an issue in the Muslim youth that I am particularly disturbed by and have been looking for ways to create this awareness through people of influence or who have the platform to create awareness on a large scale. I don't know how impactful this message will be but I pray to Allah that he makes it reach all of you and that this helps to put an end to this issue. The problem effecting our youth is the whole Youtuber and Social Media Celebrity syndrome especially in our women with the whole Muslim "Make Up Artist" (MUA) and "Modest trend". This is a trend that is leading our youth in complete destruction. Day after day, one after another Muslim MUAs are popping up and Muslim youtubers/vloggers/pranksters in search of fame and money. I am so ashamed to admit that MAJORITY of our hijabis have fallen into this trap. I really don't wish for you anyone to see any of the images of our sisters in this way social media is filled with it and there is no escaping from them. We have sisters with a million over followers and some hundreds and thousands and are promoting make up and "modest" fashion which are not what would be considered acceptable or pleasing to Allah at all. And their fame is a complete joke vlogging about everything and nothing. Astaghfirllah -hijabis using vulgar language, talking about what they wear underneath, bedroom talk with their husbands, full on tabbaruj and just complete shamelessness. On the other hand you have the youtuber brothers doing pranks, vlogs, social experiments and what not. They start innocently and end up with kufr pranks such as pranking their friends that they are leaving Islam and actually say words of kufr and even asking Muslim sisters for sex as a prank and many other sick things. And they are so followed and come across as "Islamic" because they combine committing major sins openly and doing qur'an or prayer social experiments or "dawah" and occasionally post Islamic quotes or term their videos as "halal". And sometimes these brothers are defending hijab at the same time kissing hijabis and posting the photos. What a combo right? "I'm not perfect, I commit major sins and kufr and love Allah at the same time." This is the trend now wal iyyadhubillah! I want to reach out to the youth to let them know to make a concious decision to get ouf of it. Unfollow these people! I don't want to name names but you know who they are. Unfollow them FOR Allah'S SAKE. I am begging you brothers and sisters. Wallahi I have no self interest in this matter. Do it for the ummah, for Islam. Don't support the wrong things. And sisters, stop beautifying yourself, whether you do it for your own self or for men or whatever, it is still haram and hated by Allah. It is sinful for you to display yourself in public beautified whether you are wearing hijab or not. Please learn more seek knowledge and let Imaan enter your hearts. Seek Allah's pleasure alone don't fall for the trap of shaytaan. It's gotten so bad to the point that the pages with pornographic images of women are reposting hijabi photos praising their makeup and eyebrow game and beauty. And the husbands who allow their wives to display their beauty, Rasulullah ص called them dayooth. ‘’Three people will not enter paradise, and Allah will not look to them on the Day of Judgment: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth.” Please brothers and sisters, reach out to them and speak more openly about this issue. Discourage the sisters from displaying their beauty. From wearing heels and the wrong hijab and fake lashes and doing their eyebrows and displaying themselves. Brands today have completely hijacked the term modesty and Hayaa, we need to redefine it to it's originally meaning which is what Allah has defined it as. So please brothers and sisters talk more about this and discourage them from it. Keep on sending the message out. Wassalamm aleikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh PS: Sorry for the long post
  14. Asalamu alaikum, I have been trying to deal with this issue for quite some time now. I am a devouted shia muslim. I do my prayers, fasting, don't drink, gamble, fornicate, or any of those things. But what I do wonder is that why is homosexuality a bad thing? I read into it a lot and hear so many of their stories on how they have to struggle to live their lives. Now we can say that perhaps they weren't born like this since biologically homosexuality is useless and that they chose this path instead. But it doesn't seem to be that way when I read about it, and getting to learn more about it. Now of course we as Muslims believe they are sinful since for another reason aside from it being not natural which is that this will in turn lead to other types of sexuality such as bestiality, incest, pedophilia, necrophilia and what not. So I don't believe in the short term but in the long term instead. Even if USA enacted a law which accepts gay marriage now its only been a year since then. But there is a long term course of gay acceptance in the Netherlands and I did my research about it and found out that its just the same as straight marriages. I hope anyone out there can be give a reasonable explanation on how this is considered wrong or at least how we as Muslims should deal with it now with all this awarness and information about them instead of just murdering them at blank point.
  15. Asalamu aleykum my brothers and sisters I want to ask help for this bad problem? I feel me very ashamed about this ASTAGHFIRULLAH and i want to finally leave it! Its a sin which follows me since my childhood and its masturbation. Maybe some will be shocked and I also read in a Hadiths that mastubation is a way to hell. I love Allah, the Quran and the Ahlul Bayt and i dont want to disapointed them with this, because i want also take responsibility when i want to marry a future wive, to be muslim father/husband and the masturbation destroys me physically and mentally and its need to stop. I even started to not do it for 2 weeks but it came back automatically in some pornography websites when something give me a influence like social media or even not from social media. I tried often not to use electronic things like smartphones or computer, but its impossible because i need to connect with people when its really important. I hope you can help me in some way, and please make Dua for me to stop it. Wa salam
  16. A letter to Mr. Sin: Dear Mr. Sin... On Your sweet pleasures my life i lived, Rooted in me was your germinated seed, The Qur'aan was recited but i took no heed, Fire of hell to my soul i used to feed... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... I had fallen trapped to to your evil vice, Of The scorching flames i paid the price, I've elevated myself as i now realise, How i was fooled, allured and unwise... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... How you blindfolded me i have no clue, You're a fantasy, a distant dream untrue, Retraced my steps I've gone far from you, I've now escalated to the Repenters' hue... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... I take lesson from the Darbaar of Husayn, My Master's sacrifices shall not go vain, No longer can i bear Lady Zahraa's pain, I take refuge and from you i refrain... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... Why Husayn gave his head i now understand, Why he withheld his hand i now comprehend, Truth and Justice, Humanity was his stand, Way away from you O' Deceiving Fiend... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... Moharram After Moharram comes every year, How have we prepared where's our gear, The sun is overhead the time is here, Let go every sin that you hold dear... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... In Karbalaa they wept enough a tear, In Bazaars of shaam on the spear, Truth was hidden to cover the fear, Revenge has come now very near... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... I leave you here, Dear Mr. Sin, I choose to go along with my Deen, I'm out of your clutches unscathed and clean, As Pure as a new born has ever been... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... As i join forces with my Holy Emam, We work towards Karbalaa's Enteqaam, Promoting Halaal Condemning the Haraam, Salaam to you, O' Husayn Salaam... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... I pledge to Husayn the oath of Sincerity, I ask Zaynab for the Veil of Purity, I ask 'Abbas to cover my audacity, I wish to walk the vision of Clarity... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... We vow to live Your lofty Misson, We're released from Mr. Sin's Prison, We see hope in the new horizon, Husayn and Mahdy are One Liason... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... Truth'll prevail injustice will extinguish, Haqq from Batel we'll now distinguish, All your evils we shall relinquish, Right from wrong we will establish... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... Goodbye Mr. Sin, O' Dream Goodbye, On the path of purity i now soar high, I leave you behind O' obstructive lie, Only i regret i befriended you why... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... As i Pen off addressing my Chief, The Angels cry it's beyond belief, How "Fatimeh" is overcome with grief, In calling The Mahdy to bring Relief... >> Watch out Mr. Sin, It's the Mahdy's Realm... Courtesy of Fatimiyyeh © Ba Sadaaqat, Tofayl va Taufeeq-az Ahlebayt AS Forever In Servitude & Adoration of The Mahdy (AS/AJTFS) * اللهمّ عجّل عجّل عجّل لوليّك الفرج عليه السلام *
  17. a conservative answer by a Christian pastor As Pastors we must not be cavalier in the advocacy of drinking alcohol... http://www.crosswalk.com/church/pastors-or-leadership/is-it-wrong-for-christian-have-drink-alcohol.html
  18. I had always had a strong connection and chemistry with someone i had known and grown up with all my life, we had a relaltionship when we were younger at around 13-14 we were both young and stupid and got caught by my mother, then last year it all started again, we love each other so much and we both still do, things started to get serious really quickly, he said he wants to get married and i agreed, anyways things got serious really quickly and he convinced me that we would be together no matter what even though we both knew we would have massive problems with our parents accepting us, but i still believed and trusted him, unfortunately i allowed for the worst to happen, we both committed zina and fornication without nikkah, this now means i am no longer a pure girl. months went by and things were going great except for his parents who were strongly against me simply because they did not like me and they wanted a bride from their home land. two weeks before my birthday he stopped talking to me, i was really confused and i didn't know why, he broke up with me because of his parents and he said that he is going to get married to the person they desire only because he does not want to disrespect his parents for Allah's sake, but what about me ? he has basically ruined my life if he marries another, how am i supposed to get married to someone else like this? what will my parents do when they find out from a future husband? does respecting his parents outweigh leaving me like this with no future? anyway, he is about to go and get nikkah with someone very shortly, my mother found out about our recent relationship and she asked if we had commited zina or fornication but i was too afraid to tell her the truth, she said that it will ruin your honour, our families honour, and your future, i really wanted to tell her that we did fornicate and commit zina but i was so scared, what do i do ? do i tell her? do i leave it? please please help me as he is going to get married soon and i dont want to be too late to take action
  19. Salam Aleikum to you all! In this post i want to know why "a part" of the shiites hate the sahaba's of the prophet (saws). I know that the shiites think that a big part of the sahabs were disbelief or deviants, which offcause is not the truth.. Why does you talk bad about the wife of the prophet, Aisha (ra) ?? Do you really think, that the prophet (saws) would be happy about your behavour? Do you think Allah (SWT) is pleased with your cursing over the sahaba's? Do you think your a better muslim than the people closes to the prophet (saws)? How would you stand in front of Allah (SWT) at the judgments day and say that your not acknowledges the people that he has protected and blessed? Wa Salam
  20. do shi'ites believe sunnis are sinners?
  21. I am going to visit my parents in America in a month or so, and I am newly religious. I live in Lebanon, and I have gotten use to not shaking hands with men since I put my scarf on in 2009. My husband is also moderatly religious as I am. We are so worried about whats going to happen when we go to America and we dont shake hands with men/women. How am I suppose to explain my stance? Without them thinking I am an extemist maniac? My dad is Sunni & doesnt really support some of my religious boundries. If there is anyone out there with this problem, please enlighten me on how you act when an old friend comes charging at you with a hug when you havent seen them for 3 years. Or when you are almosted forced to shake someones hand! Like what do we do!
  22. This is probably the most rational and best article I have so far read on the issue of infallibility in Shia Islam. It touches ever single aspect you can think of. From sins, to errors, to forgetfulness. Please take a look at this. Taharah & 'Ismah of The Prophets, Messengers, Awsiya', And Imams (Peace Be Upon Them) (wasalam)
  23. Salam, I have been reading topics on this site for quite some time but tonight thought I would make a post and maybe I will be able to get some help. As many people on here I find that finding a spouse to be very difficult. For me, it is not because there are not any proposals but rather the proposals being turned down for no reason other than my parents not wanting me to get married. I am 26 years old and have completed my studies so that is not the issue. You may think they have valid reasons for this decision of theirs but I cannot seem to come up with a single one. I am very mature and physically and mentally ready for marriage. Their reasons for turning people away and straight out telling them that they will not marry me have changed quite a few times. At first, their reason was because I am their "baby" and they want me to stay and care for them, Now the reason was because they fear I will get hurt and end up divorced due to the high divorce rate and my sibling getting divorced. I do not find either of these to be valid reasons. Not so long ago I walked in the house only to hear my mom on the phone telling someone "no, we are not marrying her off" and I later found out through my sister that it was a phone call leading to a proposal. I was very upset at that moment because this was not the first time and I knew it would not be the last time. It especially upsets me because I am never told by them or given a choice; this has been going on since I was in high school and even before my older sister got married. After that phone call I started to get very active in my local Masjid. I had always attended and had been attending this Masjid for quite a few years but at this point I became one of the head volunteers. I ended up meeting a brother at the Masjid who is also a volunteer and all our talking was always at the Masjid and about the Masjid but one day he asked me if I was married. I told him that I am not married, obviously this lead me believe that he wanted to ask for my hand in marriage. During this time I received another proposal and this time because they allowed for the family to come to our house but they made it perfectly clear that I was not to get married and did not give me a choice in the matter. After that incident and some time passed and the guy from the Masjid did not propose to me I started to distance myself from him until one day he asked what was wrong with me. I was honest and told him that I thought he would propose to me. He told me that he knows my parents would not accept and his father told him that he does not want to ruin the relationship between himself and my father. Apparently word had gotten around that I am not eligible for marriage. This really upset me and I found myself talking to this man more and more but nothing intimate. We were getting to know each other until one day he asked me to contract a temporary marriage with him and I said yes. Now I know my fathers approval is required but I felt they had left me no choice. My shatan was strong and my emotions overtook me. During the contract we were intimate but I remained a virgin. This was something that he wanted and put as a condition. He did not want to ruin me and this made me love him even more, He always put my feelings ahead of his own and I felt that he truly did love me. We had a month left in our contract when he just disappeared for a few days and I got very worried. So when Friday came along and I saw that he was at the Masjid I asked him what was going on. It turned out his father realized he was in some sort of relationship and told him that if it is a girl from the community that he would disown him. This man is 30; not a child. How can you threaten to disown him? So, he left me with a month left in our marriage. I did not know what to do, day in and day out I was crying. I didn't get any sleep, I wasn't eating all I did was cry. I was and still am in love with this man (I know it is haram). I still see him at the Masjid but our communication even about the Masjid has decreased a lot. It hurts, to see him and not be able to talk to him. I keep thinking could I have done something differently? Is this Allah's way of punishing me? Was what I did wrong? What are my options now? I have thought of not going to the Masjid but the Masjid is like my second home, I grew up around the Masjid and one week of not going makes me feel like I am missing a big part of my life. Any advice as to how to deal with my situation of marriage and how to move on would be great. Please I don't need anyone telling me what I did was wrong because I already have a hard time forgiving myself for going behind my parents back. But did they leave me a choice? Thank you. P.S. Sorry if this is too long,
  24. Asalamu Alaikum brothers and sisters,, i have heard this hadith,, im pretty sure its from Imam Ali AS,, and i wanted to see if anyone has a source for it,, or is able to give me a similar Hadith to this one,, "someone came to the Imam and asked him,, how can we follow you if your unable to sin,, the Imam replies and says that its not that we are unable to sin,, its that we dont allow ourselves to sin,," W/Salam
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