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Salam all, I'm a young woman that has been getting proposals for a while. Most of them have been my cousins, so I rejected them because I don't want to marry them. However, there is someone I'm talking to right now; we click very well conversationally and are compatible on many aspects. However, I met him in person after talking online for a while and got a very bodily response that said 'no', I'm not attracted to him at all. I mean he's not ugly by any means, but no, I'm not attracted to him at all. He likes me quite a lot, prays 5x a day, and has good qualities about him. However, I also do not like his voice, and this may be impacted by the manner in which he talks/the kinds of jokes he makes. He makes jokes about how people look (as I've known a lot of young men to do), and he said he never means any of them. However, the kind of person I want to marry would never make those kinds of jokes at the expense of people. He also feels very emotionally flat/1 dimensional to me and although we clicked well in the beginning, I'm beginning to really not want to talk to him. It doesn't help that my friends don't like him for me either (2 of them met him). He is a good guy on paper, has a good job, generous (gives money to the homeless when he can), loves and wants kids, and all that. However, he's far too immature (comes across as my age even though he's a number of years older). One of the biggest qualities I'm realizing I want in a spouse is wisdom, but is this even something that is able to be found in a spouse? Or do I just have to amrry someone and hope that one day they'll grow to be wise and spiritual. I am just really getting a body intuition that I don't want to marry him because I feel like I'm settling. I've also known my intuition to be wrong in the past, so there's that. My parents think that if their background checking goes well, there is no reason I shouldn't marry him. To them, these reasons I'm mentioning are stupid/baseless. But I really just am not feeling that into him at all, and I don't want to marry him because I think I will eventually meet someone that I am both compatible with and attracted to. Let me know your thoughts and what of your experiences is informing you.

Salam, I am wondering, does anyone know any good Shia books that are related specifically/mainly to perfecting your character? Thank you in advance.

Salam, I am wondering, does anyone know any shia books that have a focus on perfecting character? Thank you in advance.

What are the characteristics of those whom Allah loves and hates? For more than a billion Muslims around the globe, the Qurān reproduces God’s very own words. To find our answer whom are loved and what constitutes their important characteristics, let's turn the pages of the Quran. I searched the Quran with the keywords of یحب [whom He loves] and لایحب [whom He dislikes] and the result is somehow noteworthy. The numbers in the brackets signify the number of Chapters and Verses of the Quran respectively. In the light of the Quranic verses, one can find who are to be loved and who are to be hated by the most merciful Creator. Moreover, his creatures can follow the suit. Allah loves those who have beautified themselves with the following characteristics: 1. Indeed, Allah loves the virtuous. (02:195), (03:134), (03:148), (05:13), (05:93). 2. Indeed, Allah loves the penitent and He loves those who keep clean (02:222), (09:108). 3. Yes, whoever fulfills his commitments and is wary of Allah, Allah indeed loves the God wary (03:76), (09:04), 4. And Allah loves the steadfast (03:146). 5. Indeed, Allah loves those who trust in Him (03:159). 6. Indeed, Allah loves the just (05:42), (49:09), (60:08), 7. Indeed, Allah loves those who fight in His way in ranks, as if they were a compact structure (61:04). Allah does not like the individuals with the following characteristics: 1. Indeed, Allah does not like transgressors (02:190), (05:87), (07:55). 2. Allah does not like corruption (02:205). 3. Allah does not like any sinful ingrate. (02:276). 4. Indeed, Allah does not like the faithless (03:32), (30:45). 5. And Allah does not like the wrongdoers (03:57), (03:140), (42: 40). 6. Indeed, Allah does not like anyone who is a swaggering braggart (04:36), (31:18), (57:23). 7. Indeed, Allah does not like someone who is treacherous and sinful (04:107). 8. Allah does not like the disclosure of [anyone's] evil [ conduct] in speech except by someone who has been wronged, and Allah is all-hearing, all-knowing (04:148). 9. And Allah does not like the agents of corruption (05:64), (28:77) 10. Do not be wasteful; indeed, He does not like the wasteful (06:141), (07:31), 11. Indeed, Allah does not like the treacherous (08:58). 12. Indeed, He does not like the arrogant (16:23). 13. Indeed, Allah does not like any ingrate traitor (14:38). 14. Do not exult! Indeed, Allah does not like the exultant (28:76). A man/woman with primordial and innate nature Loves and Hates whom his Lord likes and dislikes accordingly. May Allah grant us the blessing to fall in the first category. Thanks May Allah Bless Us All

What are the most effective beauty secrets? Though, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but there are sheet facts and so called secrets that can make you look more impressive and appealing. Top among them seems to be meticulous harmony between different physical organs, then the curves and curling Allah has granted His creatures and finally the appealing colors Allah has covered us All with. Allah is the most beautiful and hence the world along with all creatures are beautiful. Finally, everyone would agree me that beauty in character can outclass his serious rival ‘physical beatitude’. Thanks May Allah Sees us as Beautiful Creatures as He was Proud of us while Creating!

I think people who have a good opinion of religion would have a good opinion of religious but people who have a bad opinion of religion will have bad opinion of religious. So here I would like us to discuss what it means to be religious. In my view, religion is what brings morality, kindness, abstention from evil, altruism and virtues, and it brings organization, efficiency and integrity. This is my view of religion so whenever I see the word religious I think positive, religious people, religious governance, religious relations means goodness for me and so I use religious as a compliment. However some people view religion as bad, they see it as unnecessary, a justifier of moral wrongs, its practices are seen as evil, it suppresses human virtues and it ruins organization, diplomacy, and reliability. This griefs me that being religious has become something bad in the eyes of people, mainly because there are so many crimes committed in the name of religion therefore the religious are treated as supporters of crimes in the name of religion. I personally do not ever consider ISIS, Boko Haram, Al Qaida, Al Nusra, Saudi family, monarchies, and Salafis as religious because these are all what religion is against, therefore it would not be correct to call them religious. I consider the good organizations, good leaders, virtues men and women, just and moral people as religious because these qualities are what religion teaches in its pure essence. Therefore I think only this is the correct attributes of a religious. It griefs me when someone says religious and uses it to describe the damned people.

(salam) I'm sure everyone has seen these before but have just come across them again... 1. Offer the 5 prayers on time. 2. Observe fast on Mondays & Thursdays as much possible. 3. Reduce the period of sleep & busy yourself on the recitation of the Holy Qur'an. 4. Attach importance to your promises & agreements. 5. Help the needy. 6. Keep away from the places where your morality may come under assault. 7. Avoid pompous & luxurious gatherings & do not arrange the same. 8. Put on simple dress. 9. Do not indulge in talkativeness. 10. Put in regular physical exercise. 11. Study more. 12. Help people in learning crafts. 13. Learn the Arabic language & be alert in every field. 14. You should not remember the good that you have done, but instead dwell on your past mistakes. 15. Consider the poor materially, but think of the pious & saints spiritually. 16. Keep yourself informed about Muslims.