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In the Name of God بسم الله

Marie1986

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  1. I think ppl all go through phases when I first put on hijab it was really difficult for me as a convert to understand . I never was one to seek attention and wore what ever I liked weather it was in or not and I most definately NEVER wore clothes to get someones attention NO EXCEPTIONS and still don't now. I put the scarf on about 7-8 mths after I converted and began by wearing skirts and long shirts I felt like I was wearing my brothers clothed because I was use to properly fitted clothing and not loose not so fitting clothing ( shirts don't exactly line up with your shoulders and such) But even from then to now I would never wear some of those things the skirts were tight , shirts weren't quite long enough and now I live in cardigans just for extra protection . ( but NEVER close them) I do see all of the above styles more so when I visit Dearborn , but I'm no one to judge I had a friend that was a pirate/aviator/emo and I know a lot of the reason she wore what she did is because of pressure and she was rebelling , I also know a couple girls that took off there scarf because it wad difficult to take the pressure of being judged. I thought this was cute assuming it was just something entertaining .
  2. Personally I wear a mendeel (SP) the rectangle ones but simple no bird on top and just an umta under. I usually wear a black one or white I have 2 kids n pregnant with #3 it takes wayyy to much time to co ordinate everything if I pick any thing else I also have an abaya I wear alot ESP lately when I don't feel like finding skirt and a top. My husband always laughs but its still really nice!
  3. I am a convert amd i too had a simple wedding me hubby and MIL went to shikk , and I was forced to have a ladies gathering with about thirty ppl ( including children) for dinner only maybe 5 of my Muslim girl friends were there the rest his family/family friends. But I know many white ppl who spend 30,000 CND on there wedding plus honey moon which they might of gotten for a gift from inlaws ppl spend thousands for open bar, something crazy like 3000 for DJ, 6000 for photographer then there's the food the chairs , table wear like plates n silverwear. The gift fir each person at there setting. The invitations the thank you cards . The dresses,shoes,accessories, hair n make up for bride as well as up to sometimes 6-7 bridesmaids then the suits ect for the groom and grooms ppl and each if them get a special gift . Some ppl fly in family and pay for there stay .... It's definitely not cheap. I was never materialistic or vain so it wasn't because I converted but just not my thing!
  4. I understand the meaning of this , I do speak Arabic and exclusively with my children , it's there first language. Thank you for your help.
  5. It's still saying I dont have permission !! And no one ever changed the thing where my messages have to be approved OR replied to my original message where I asked if there was a way I could find out my user name I've had an acct 2-3 years but forgot it and I can't PM so there's no one to help!!
  6. I think that this may be true but u also think things are a lot different now then in the olden days, ppl are so worried about careers and there ability to live comfortably with the nice cats and latest technology that they put off having children because of the financial "burden " I had children right away after getting married and have 2 and one on the way (2yo,3,yo) and would like to have 1 more for a total of 4. But it's a lot I do home schooling for my girls, half day, we dont have regular cartoon or tv just religious ones i find on the net. I live a pretty old fashioned lifestyle as a stay at home mom and I think that has a lot to do with amount of children too.
  7. I think that this may be true but u also think things are a lot different now then in the olden days, ppl are so worried about careers and there ability to live comfortably with the nice cats and latest technology that they put off having children because of the financial "burden " I had children right away after getting married and have 2 and one on the way (2yo,3,yo) and would like to have 1 more for a total of 4. But it's a lot I do home schooling for my girls, half day, we dont have regular cartoon or tv just religious ones i find on the net. I live a pretty old fashioned lifestyle as a stay at home mom and I think that has a lot to do with amount of children too.
  8. Most white women where I live DON'T like facial hair and if they do it has to be very neat tidy and short! I am a convert and I have to say the facial hair thing really bothers me because it's the full face I just feel it's clean and fresh with minimum facial hair like gotea or chin strap or something that is short. But we like to link less hair with cleanliness And I think it's because we are in general less hairy over all. I have 4 brothers and my 28 yr old might have enough for a go tee and the rest 20,20&22 might have a tiny shadow in there upper lip if there lucky!
  9. I'm a married revert married to non revert muslim BUT I converted FIRST and met my husband about 6 mths later which I feel is worth noting that he had zero influence . I hear a lot if ppl talking about/asking if I changed my religion for him and it really bothers me!!! I would never EVER change any religion for a man. And that's what most ppl assume with converts in my area.
  10. I was taught that we have to list a certain number of believers is this right or can you just say the number of believers you can think of. I'm a convert and this part makes my whole witr sort of uneasy I have to pray with a list beside me because I don't know say 45 (or so) believers!!
  11. I understand the meaning , thankfully I do speak Arabic even exclusively to my children we make sure it's there first language. Thank you for your help
  12. I'm not reading it, I have it play on an app from my IPad constantly through the day. I do realize it's said alot but I never noticed these words until maybe 2 weeks ago and I've had it playing neirly 4 years now!!! I'm more then likely over thinking thank you for your response And thank you W.s.
  13. I re read some and I had a private room so I never had an issue when it came to breastfeeding , but yes it is very common to see ppl BF in the hospital but usually ppl cover with blankets so you don't really notice . Some ppl will look at you different because your wearing hijab but it's no Different then any other place like a store ect. The food I didn't get food from the hospital but they do have veg food , some have kosher and if your in Michigan they even have halal. My mil made me food and my husband brought it but really I didn't have much of an appetite . And it's not just Muslims that get food so it's not odd in any way. And as far as birthing plans go don't expect it to go exactly as planned because labour is completely in predictable just have a general ideaif what you would like, and have back up plans . Like me I knew I wanted just females unless no other choice, i wanted epidural, I wanted no visitors except mil,SIL . Also know if you don't want epidural there are other pain management meds and gas available. One of the best feelings was doing the after birth ghusle I got up very shortly after giving birth to do this! Do bring something cozy and easy to remove for after birth like the abayas that are open at the front or side ( instead of the over the head ones) even if you don't usually wear abaya changing and fussing with clothes every time you want to feed is a nightmare becausebthey feed any where between every hour to every two hours. Do your self a favor and get lanolin cream and have it ready to apply after the first feeding this prevents cracking and bleeding which is EXTREMELY painful .
  14. W.s.I'm on my third pregnancy and I've had a female ob each time . My first time no male was ever present for any thing , I requested just in case but there was no need. My second I had no choice but to have a man at the end because that was the only dr on duty and we only have one hospital i actually Gage birth without The dr because of extreme circumstances ( I was 36 weeks and had been given medication , and my labour progressed extremely fast 4 minutes from fully dialated to baby to be exact ) but he did make it after . The first time o did not wear hijab because i knew for sure but the second I wore hijab until the very end ( I didn't know I'd be giving birth any time soon and no one was by my side husband went to pray and by the time he came back I had had the baby) But it was just the one dr , I made sure to keep the door closed I had a private room both times. There's no way to keep everyone quiet but as soon as I got to hold the baby which is AFTER they do a quick check/clear the air passages we made sure to say and do all of the mustahabs like milk in the eyes/nose ,zam zam, me eat date as well as the ones stated. In a hospital setting I can't see this being able to be any different so if this is not for you then maybe a home birth would be best. Where I live there are a lot of women ob's they know the basics of our religion and some get a little annoyed when it's Ramadan and you fast but after they see you and your doing exceptional they see it was nit a big deal my dr who has seen me through all of my pregnancies has now changed her thought on it since seeing how well I do during the mth. There were a lot of questions so I'll have to go back n re read but really it depends in what you decide there's an app called baby bump and I think they have a online site there are lots of ppl from UK you might want to try that site to see if there are any Muslim women (who actually follow) that could give you better idea
  15. Why do they say a person can't know there mentally Ive been in situations where I've met very very extremely I'll ppl like you see in the movies and they usually know there I'll sometimes they may denie it out of fear or anger but they know as long as there being or have been treated. Is there any more info about this I once looked into an answer for it but never found.
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