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  1. AOA, Before i ask, I have tried the search engine and searched for fatwas on the sites of grand ayatullah but could not find anything. however, since i do not speak persian or arabic my search was very limited. I would like to know if the conditions mentioned in the contract, say for example of having no sexual intercourse, be ignored or violated with the consent of both parties? or does the couple have to wait until the end of the time period to add or remove new condition? Thank you, Kind regards, :) Wasslam
  2. Just a quick question while we are the this period issue: is it true that women cannot eat 'mojza food' while in their period. the other day there was some delicious inidian sweets but someone told me 'mojza stories has been recited on it' (by mojza stories I mean the 14 miracles stories of the imam, in which people make some kind of vow and their hajjat is fulfilled through one of the Imam) so I cant eat them.?? thnx for answering :)
  3. The Light: Thank you :) This is what I keep telling my parents, but unfortunately is has not worked so far :( I am in my first year of university, and definably do not plan to have children until we are financially independent. however i recently came across this forum: http://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/60869-fathers-permission-in-nikahmutah/ which basically says: 2386. In the following situations, it will not be necessary for a woman to seek the permission of her father or paternal grandfather, before getting married: If she is not a virgin. If she is a virgin, but her father or paternal grandfather refuse to grant permission to her for marrying a man who is compatible to her in the eyes of Shariah, as well as custom. If the father and the grandfather are not in any way willing to participate in the marriage. If they are not in a capacity to give their consent, like in the case of mental illness etc. If it is not possible to obtain their permission because of their absence, or such other reasons, and the woman is eager to get married urgently. I personally think the second point applys to our situation, and since no witnesses are needed we could perform it secretly and then do it again when our parents think its the right time. I dont know if taking this step would be the right thing to do. it will prevent us from doing haram but at the same time i would feel like i betrayed by parents. i dont know what to do :(
  4. Pakistan but living in the west for the most part of my life i have learned how to distinguish culture and religion, unfortunately both our parents do not have the same mind set as us. This is what i proposed to my father: We get a simple Nikkah done, so that we can talk and meet freely without the psychological distress of performing haram. I continue to stay with my parents and he continues to stay with his parents ie. nothing changes at all, we complete our study and then move in together when we can do so financially. I understand that talking with your finance without any mehram present is Haram, but is thinking about him/ her also not permissible???. :( :( since Nikah or Mutah cannot be performed without my father's permission i guess we have to stay cut off for the next 3 years :no: hehe Thank you :)
  5. Since we talk Without any mehram presnt i beleive it is haram.. And yes i proposed the idea of performing mutah or nikkah now and me staying with my parents until we both finish our education, but this in my culture is very rare, my father and his parents where not okay with that..i dnt see the reasoning behind it tho..
  6. Aoa, i will try to keep this short. A school mate proposed to me in september, i have known him for several years as a good class mate. Now that he proposed and we spoke to each other regarding this matter, we came to know that we are very compatibale and really like each other. Not wanting to do anything haram we told our parents and last week his parents came to meet my parents and Alhamolillah everything went fine. Both parties are extremely happy. I am really thankful to God that I got to meet this guy that will IA my future spouse, but the only problem i have is that the parents have decided to carry out the Nikkah ceremony after 2-3 years aftet we finish our education. Which for me and him is a long time to wait. We have grown quiet close and speak to each other nearly everyday, i realise that this is haram and not allowed, even if we decide not to talk to each other for 2-3 years not thinking about each other is nearly imposible. My parents are aware that i talk to him everyday and they dont see the harm since we are going to marry after a few years anyway, but i am psychologically very disturbed and really do not want to keep performing haram.i spoke to my dad about it, i was brave enough to bring Mutah up and simple Nilkkah, had a very lenghty discussion but i had to give up as i had to stay respectful. I really wish there was another way as keeping this as it is will only lead to more haram.. If you have any suggestions of what i should do it would be really helpful. Thank you in advance Ws
  7. AOA, As part of my Bachelor programme we have to organise an event as a group to raise money for a charity. Due to some unexpected situations my team ended up deciding to do a charity event in a PUB. The event will require people to pay an entrance fee and take part in a lucky draw that will allow them to win prizes. As the event is taking place in a PUB it will involve dancing, drinking alcohol and music. As I am part of the team I am required to be present in the event and make sure that everything is taken care of. The money that will be given to the charity involves only the entrance fee and the tickets sold for the lucky draw, not the money from selling alcohol which will go to the PUB itself. will the money given to the charity be Halal? Is it permissible for me to join the event given that I do not get involved in dancing and drinking and only go with the intention of passing this particular course? Or should I quite my team fail this course and take it again next year and organise a different event? Thank you for your help, King Regards, Zahra
  8. AOA, Was just wondering if any of you are in a habit of writing a daily dairy or journal? Sonething really personal...How long have u been writting for? Wasslam =)
  9. Already citizen who is a Muslim. Thank you for your reply but I finished my project :D :angel: Wasslam
  10. AOA, I am doing a cours at uni called 'islam and citizenship in europe' and we have to pick a european country and discuss the issues affecting Islam and citizenship in that country.identofying 3 core issues that confront the country being research. Its been over an hour and I have no clue which country to pick and on what issue to write on...i really want to get an A :s if anybody has an interesting topic in mind please share :) Would be very thank ful With Duas Wasslam
  11. AOA, This is an extrat from the last will of ayatullah marashi najafi ra In the Qunoot of obligatory prayers, always recite the following: Allahuma Inni Asaluka Bi Haqqi Fatimata Wa Abiha Wa Ba'liha Wa Baniha Wa Sirril Mustaudihi Fiha, An Tusalli Ala Muhammadin Wa Aali Muhammad, Wa An Taf'al Bi Ma Anta Ahlu, Wa La Taf'al Bi Ma Ana Ahlu. – "O Allah, I beseech you in the name of Fatima, her father, her husband, her sons, and the secret she is buried with: shower your blessings upon Muhammad and his Progeny, and do unto me that which is worthy of Your mercy, and not that which is worthy of my actions." This supplication was taught to me by both my father as well as my teacher Shaikh Muhammad Hussain Shirazi. He has narrated this authentic narration from Sayyid Murtadha Kashmiri by Ibn Taoos from the Holy Imams (peace be upon them). I was wondering if anybody can write the bolded part in Arabic font please and please keep the font size quite big and include all the little things that make up the pronounciation (sorry i forgot what they are called :donno: ), i would be very thankful. W assalam
  12. AOA I would like to learn arabic, is anyone here from brussels who knows where I can learn how to speak and understand arabic? Thank you wassalam
  13. Aoa, I just heard that it is not permissable unless there is no other choice, for a syed to be a boucher, shoe maker or barber, because these jobs does not suit a syed. Can anybody clearify if this is true witg reference? To me this seems a bit odd because it sounds like arrogance to me... Thank you Wassalam
  14. Salam sister I live in belgium too, I know there is an a shia mosque that conducts lectures for children, quran and other good things for adults and children, in lemonier near the tour de midi. I dont go there since they do eveything in arabic and I dont speak arabic. If you do speak arabic it would be a good place to go. I heard alot of good things about that mosque :) wassalam
  15. Aoa, These women are truly inspiring. I wanted to know if wr can we do taqleed of female mujhtahed? Ws
  16. If the room you use to say your Prayer is slightly dark, the sense of darkness brings into us fear and awe, increasing one’s concentration by further limiting eyesight. The lesser the items you are able to see during Prayer, the better it is. The walls should be free from pictures and other objects that might attract your attention or stimulate a memory or thought. This is what I was able to find from the following source http://www.al-islam.org/concentration-in-prayer-jameel-kermalli/strategies-concentrating-prayer#setting-prayer-scene-and-burning-incense So is even if the room is completely darks okay right?
  17. Aoa, I wanted to know if turing off thr light, or praying in a dark room make the prayers void? I feel I concentrate more in the dark but my father says it makes the prayer void? Thank you ws
  18. AOA, I have started a student job in feburary. Since I am dependent on my father, anything i earn is a surplus for me so I am assuming I have to pay khums on the entire amount i earn in a year. do I calculate how much money I will have until next feburary and then divide it by 5? or can I calculate the amount of money I will have until June, calculate the khums amount and then start the financial year from september, as I will not be working during July and August? I am a bit confused here... Thank you for your reply. Wasslam
  19. AOA, Long story short... my parents wanted me to get married to a family relative, I kept on saying no because i felt that we were not compatible spiritually. my mother and sister recently went to our home country in the middle east and met him and when they came back my sister told me that he really want this marriage to happen and i am his 'childhood love' however, he totally refused to come to the west and live here as he would like to continue his father's business there. Now at that point i was confused what to do and secretly emailed a Syedna and got an Istekhara done, which came out positive. So i started communicating with him and realised that we are not very compatible spiritually...I am not really looking for an extremely religious patner but at least someone who offers his prayers...honour women..all the basic. now my question, I submit to the will of Allah as the Istekhara came out postive but is it possible for me that my parents look for someone else and and carry out an Istekahara and it comes out positive as well? or if i reject this proposal will i face really bad consequences for not following the will of Allah? I am so confused...I pray alot for him to change like i did...sometimes I feel all of this was a big mistake I should have not gotten the Istekhara done. What do I do now, how do i fix this? Thank you for your replies, Wassalam
  20. AOA, Does anyone know any website where I can order shia book in urdu online. There are many places where books are available in pdf but I find it impossible to read on my mobile or computer. If there is no website available would a kind sister be able to send me one or two books and I can pay her via paypal. I am Desparate for urdu books :( Thank you very much WaSsalam.
  21. Umm he actually wants me to come back home...he doesnt want to come and live in the west... I'hv had a chat with him and tried to match his and mune islamic values...but m still extremely consufed i still think we r nt very compatible spiritually but i might b jumping to conclusions.....everyone keeps telling me tht m making a huge mistake and if they were at my place they would never miss this chance...
  22. AOA brothers and sisters I hope you all are doing well. I have been ask by my cousin for marriage. Little history bout us...when we were young we use to be very good friends we loved to play together and stuff, until I moved to the west when I was 9. After that we were totally cut off from one another we didnt speak at all there always has been this awkward feeling between us even when we met when I visted my home country we never spoke. Now he has asked about marriage through my parents and I am not sure what to do. When I moved to the west I changed so much religiously and I dream about going to qum. M not saying he is nt religious at all but I dont think we are compatible spiritually. . . on the other hand I dont knw if I am making the right desicion by rejecting this proposal..knowing that he has genuine feelings towards me.. What would sisters here do if they were at my place? And to the brothers if a guy is saying that he had feelings for a girl since age 9-10 and already told his mom at that age and sending an official proposal now when he is 20, am I being cruel by rejecting it...? :/ I hope all the above makes sense thank you for your help Wassalam.
  23. AOA i onced asked this to a Scholar and this is the reply i got. There are various punishments found in Islamic law. Although the Quran calls for such punishments, it is important to note that these punishments are based in certain conditions. One of these conditions is that the act of adultery must be physically witnessed by four individuals for it to be accepted. Otherwise, the punishment is not carried out. This difficult condition makes it almost impossible to verify that the act has been carried out. Also, according to Islamic law, such crimes must happen in public, and not in the privacy of one's home for them to be considered. Another condition is that the punishment is not carried out by anyone who feels like it. In other words, it is the court which carries out such a punishment after all of the conditions are fulfilled. Furthermore, there are differences between scholars as to whether these punishments have to be carried out, or whether they may be substituted for other punishments. Thus, the issue is complex and not simply a matter of stoning for adultery. I hope this all makes sense. Best Wassalam
  24. AOA, I just wanted to know if there is a shia auto azan app? Basicaly an app that plays the azan automatically when its time and its updated automatically according to accurate azan tmings? Thnx WS
  25. My followers are only people from my old school that I left and some family relatives...like I mentioned before I think its a fun way to stay in touch with people but of coursr if its haram I have no problem dractivating my account.. My intention would be just to show wht I am doing or my expression at the time.. I dnt wear makeup or pose my pics are usually just of my face... M still not sure if its permissable :s
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