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Would it kill Muslims of various sects to just freaking get along?  
This is the problem with the takfiri attitude that all Muslims have.  
 
"Shias are Kafir"
"Okay, we'll kill them"
 
"Bakris are Kafir"
"Okay, we'll kill them"
 
"Ahmadi's are Kafir"
"Okay, we'll kill them"
 
If all Muslims left the judging to Allah [swt] and was polite to every person that claimed to be a Muslim, there would be no fighting whatsoever.  The level of unity across the entire Muslim world would be astounding.  We would be unstoppable.  Those who know me know that I hate the concept of "unity".  There should be no compromise for any side.  By by Allah [swt], would it kill any of us to try to get along with other's that claim to be Muslim?

Asalamu alaykum
 
 
Please recite al fathia.........
 

You Don't Like the Niqab? Get Over Ithttp://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/robin-lustig/niqab-ban_b_3959671.html?utm_hp_ref=tw
 
Give me one good reason why a woman shouldn't be allowed to cover her face in public if that's what she wants to do. You don't object to her covering her buttocks, do you, or her breasts? Do you find it offensive if a woman wears sunglasses? And anyway, what's it got to do with you?
 
Yes, I deliberately phrase the questions provocatively. I do so because I find the amount of cant that's been spoken and written on the subject of the "Muslim face veil" (note the first adjective, to which we shall return) frankly ridiculous.
Oh, and before you ask, yes, I do think this is an important issue, even though only a tiny, tiny number of women in Britain choose to wear the niqab, or face veil. It's important because it's about what kind of society Britain wants to be in the 21st century. There'll be other opportunities to return to Syria, Iran, Germany, and even the Lib Dems. This week, I want to write about women's faces.
 
Here goes. Reason one: "It's not acceptable for people to cover their faces in public so that they can't be recognised." Really? So should we ban men wearing hoodies or face-concealing crash helmets? Women wearing outsize sunglasses even in the pouring rain? Anyone wearing a face mask because they're scared of catching flu from someone on the bus? I think not.
 
Reason two: "It's a symbol of male oppression of women and often imposed on women by fathers and/or husbands as a
means of control." Well, yes, sometimes it is, but sometimes it isn't. Some women's fathers/husbands insist that they wear skirts below the knee, or long sleeves -- but is clothing choice really a matter for legislation? And if you argue that even when women choose to cover their faces of their own free will, it's only because they wish to avoid lascivious male attention -- well, isn't that why women cover their breasts?
 
Reason three: "It makes me feel uncomfortable because it's entirely alien to who we British are." Hmm. Who's "we" in that sentence, I wonder? We, the British Hasidic Jews of Stamford Hill, where the women wear wigs and woollen stockings, and the men wear long frock coats, wide-brimmed hats and side-curls? We, the British Sikhs of Coventry or Leicester, who wear turbans? Or we, the British Catholic nuns who wear cowls and wimples?
 
I'm old enough to remember the rows over whether Sikh bus conductors should be allowed to wear turbans instead of peaked caps, and whether Sikh motor-cyclists should be allowed to roar around the streets without crash helmets. I remember the debates over whether schoolgirls from Pakistani backgrounds should be allowed to wear trousers to school, or special swimming costumes for their swimming lessons. I thought we'd moved on, and that Britain had learned to accept that minorities have rights too.
 
Reason four: "It's important to be able to identify people, and you can't do that if you can't see their face." True, so in those circumstances -- in airports or police stations or court-rooms, for example -- where identities need to be checked, you can easily make arrangements to enable women with covered faces to reveal themselves in a private place. (We don't expect women travellers at airports to be body-checked by men, so if their wishes can be met, why not those of niqab-wearers?)
 
As for teachers, doctors or nurses, or others whose jobs entail dealing with members of the public, if it's an issue, write it into their contract. The vast majority of Muslim women do not cover their faces, so I see no problem with religious discrimination legislation in saying: "You want to work as a teacher, or a doctor? Fine, no face veil." (By the way, even in ultra-strict Iran, contrary to mythology, women are not required to cover their faces.)
 
I find it intriguing that most of the people who sound off on this issue are men. Why do they feel so threatened by women who don't want their faces to be looked at? Why do they think it's any of their business? Personally, I'm not wildly keen on women with metal studs in their lips, or men whose low-hanging underwear reveals far more than I would ever wish to see -- but I wouldn't dream of banning items of clothing simply because I don't like them.
 
When a man says: "Women shouldn't be allowed to cover their faces in public", what I hear is: "I'm a man, and I have the right to tell you, a woman, how to dress." Sorry, not acceptable.
 
Ah yes, I nearly forgot. Muslim. It's that word again. The word that seems to be inextricably linked in so many people's minds to other words like extremism, fundamentalism, terrorism. So if the niqab is Muslim, then, in the blink of an eye, the women who wear it must be extremists, fundamentalists or terrorists.
 
No, actually. Most of them are simply women who, for reasons of their own, whether good or bad, have decided to cover their faces. Would I be happy if my daughter wore a niqab? No, I wouldn't -- but then what I want her to wear has rarely been a major factor in her thinking. Nor should it be.
 
Because what other people choose to wear is nothing to do with me, or with you. You don't like the niqab? Get over it.

(salam)
Both are tests in their own way so it is possible for imaan to increase in either situation. A poor person can be patient and have faith in Allah (s.w.t) or lose faith and become ungrateful of the things he/she does have. Similarly a rich person may be generous and charitable or miserly and greedy. In the end money is not good or evil and it is how they behave and feel, not how much somebody has that determines their level of imaan. 

absolutely agree, the hate for shia is getting worse and worse, not just in Iraq but around the world.
 
what is happening is all expected and narrated from our imams (as). and we are always ready. and im confident enough to say that this is nothing compared to what is about to happen.

Although the title of the lecture is not really indicative of the content, Ammar goes on a tangent (albeit a good tangent) during the lecture talking about the various rights of the wife and the husband in their partnership (yes, a partnership, not a dictatorship as some on SC like to claim sadly) in a beautiful way.

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That is terrible advice because what will happen if she calls the authorities is they will notify child protective services. After she does this there is a good chance her daughter could end up in foster care if she can't provide healthy living conditions for the 2 year old child. Have you heard about some of the horror stories that go on in foster care? She will spend her entire life running from these people once they are involved in her life, and if her husband isn't there by the time her child is born they may take that child straight from her at the hospital....such a wonderful way for her to begin her life with her husband when he finally does arrive. 
 
Original poster please don't take Waiting for Him's advice.

(salam)
 
Since the health of your children is no laughing matter, at this stage I would advise moving out to a friend's place or rent a cheap apartment, just to hammer a strong message into your father's stubborn head. Make sure you don't see him for at least a couple of days to show him the error of his ways. As "cruel" as this may seem, this will knock some sense into him and compel him to at the very least seek help.
 
It's a drastic step, but it is for your children's health. Good luck and God Bless.

I found ~Rose~ on YouTube.

This man is in fact the very antithesis of all the gratuitous name calling he receives. Watch this interview and try to not drown in respect for him. This "dictator" makes Charlie Rose, an otherwise respectable journalist, look like a belligerent dumb ass here. Charlie begins and ends the interview with predetermined assumptions and conclusions, and Assad dealt with it brilliantly. A true diplomat.

Salam. there's no philosophy or benefit of tatbir.. And here's what shia mara'ji say about it: http://tatbir.org chek the fatawa there please.. ma salam

Shan't be watching any news channels tomorrow, and I'm in the UK. Can't stand all that nonsense, intermingled with public displays of patriotism. I don't need reminding that Westerners' lives are more invaluable than the rest of the world's populace who have suffered.

http://www.hautehijab.com/blogs/hijab-fashion/8553371-an-american-non-muslim-hijabi-shares-her-story
 
 
 
Amanda lives in Sacramento, California. She is a recent graduate of the University of Utah where she earned a B.A. in International Studies and Arabic. Amanda intends to pursue a Ph.D. in World Cultures.
 
 

 
 
I am an American non-Muslim woman who has chosen to wear the hijab. Yes, you did read that correctly! I am not conducting an experiment on what the hijab is like or trying to explore the lives of Muslims. I have made a permanent life decision to only show my face and hands while in public, and I love it!
 
When I was younger, I found the hijab to be beautiful, but unfortunately I thought that a lot of the myths about the hijab were true, and so I was daunted by it. When I started college I studied Arabic and made friends with the Muslim students in my classes. A few of the girls wore a hijab, and even though I liked the look of it and respected their right to wear it, I thought that it was oppressive.
 
Unfortunately, around the same time, I began to notice that some of the men at my university would openly speak about their female classmates as though they were moving pieces of meat. I would often have to hear stories that I rather wouldn’t about what these boys would like to do to this girl or that one, and I began to notice their looks. Before entering university, I would catch men looking at me in an inappropriate way from time to time, and I would just ignore it, but after hearing these conversations and feeling their many looks, I couldn’t just ignore it anymore.
 
I mentioned how I felt to some of my classmates, and often I got responses like “boys will be boys,” or “it’s just their biology, they can’t help their behavior.” At the time, I bought these responses, and I thought that my discomfort was just my problem. I thought that these people had a right to behave the way they were, and I had no right to try and stop them. When I got engaged, this all changed.
 
My fiance is my soulmate. We met in junior high and were friends for years before we began dating. He had asked me out a few times before then, and even though I turned him down, he always behaved around me in a respectful way. It was because of how he always treated me that I eventually agreed to go out with him. The day he proposed to me is, so far, the happiest day of my life. Once I made the decision to make a lifelong commitment to him and only him, it seemed obvious that no one had the right to treat me like their sex object. Whenever I would notice someone looking at me inappropriately, I no longer felt uncomfortable, I felt outraged! But I still had no idea what I could do about it.
 
Finally, one day I saw one of my hijabi friends at school and ran over to say hi to her. She started to walk towards me, and for some reason I was just struck by her. She was wearing a scarf and an abayaa like she normally did, but in that moment she looked regal and powerful. In my mind I thought, “Wow, I want to look just like that.” I started researching the hijab, and I learned more about why Muslims wear a hijab, what makes a hijab a hijab, and how to wrap scarves. I watched youtube videos, browsed online hijab shops (including Haute Hijab) and the more I saw the more I was impressed by how these hijabi women exuded class and elegance. I wanted so much be like these women, and couldn’t get the hijab out of my mind. I even started dreaming about it!
 
There were many things I liked about the hijab. I liked the thought of having so much control over my body and how the outside world saw it, but what I also liked was how well it fit with my feminist beliefs. As a feminist I believe that women and men should be equals in society, and that the norm of treating women like sex objects is a form of unequal and unfair treatment. Women in American society are looked down upon if they don’t dress in order to be attractive for others, but I believe that women shouldn’t have to conform to some ridiculous and unattainable standard of beauty. The hijab is a way to be free of that.
 
However, the way the hijab best complemented my feminist beliefs was how it was about so much more than women’s clothing. As I understood it, the hijab is about how men and women should interact while in public. Men also dress in a non-revealing way, and both men and women are supposed to treat each other with respect. I was happy to learn that both men and women were expected to be responsible for their own actions, and impressed at how egalitarian the ideals of the hijab are.
 
At this point, I was certain that I wanted to wear a hijab, but I had a problem. I was afraid that wearing a hijab as a non-muslim would be offensive, and I was too afraid to ask my friends. I found one youtube video on the subject, and though it said that it wouldn’t be offensive, I still wasn’t sure. But eventually, after weeks of thinking about the hijab, I finally asked one of my friends. She told me that she wouldn’t be offended, and then pointed out that Muslims aren’t the only ones who wear headscarves, many Jews and Christians do as well.
 
I started wearing it off and on for a few weeks after that, and once I felt comfortable I always wore it when I left home. Soon after, I left for an internship in Jordan. I was afraid that the Jordanians would not like that I was wearing a hijab, but quickly after I got off the plane I found otherwise! When I told people that I was an American non-Muslim, they were excited to see that I wore a hijab. People often told me that they thought it was a very good thing that I was wearing it, and some people were touched that I would show such respect to their culture. Best of all, I will never forget the sight of a fully grown man jumping with excitement because I was wearing a jilbab! These memories will always bring warmth to my heart, and they give me strength back in the states when I have to deal with angry glares or awkward questions about my hijab.
 
Sometimes I will still catch men looking at me in a disrespectful way, but I take joy in knowing that though they may try, they still cannot see what they want to. Because of the hijab, I understand that my body is my right, and I will be forever grateful to the Muslim women who taught that to me.
 
 
 
 

Yes, of course it's the same. All human beings have the right to life no matter what. Don't want the child? Adoption. End of story.
The only time I can see abortion as being permitted is if both mother and child would die without it. It is better to lose one life (the child's) than to lose two lives. Otherwise, there isn't an excuse in my opinion.
Adoption, adoption, adoption, and modern medicine. The solutions to those problems, none of which involves murder.

It's not about "her body," genius. That hackneyed old copout "Oh, it's my body, I can do what I want with it"  is the worst ever.
Aside from religious concerns (A Muslim can't actually say, "Oh, I can do with my body as I please;" our bodies are not ours, but belong to God and are used by us in trust), it is not even correct from a biological perspective. In abortion, a woman doesn't do something to her body; she destroys someone else's. That someone else being her own child, making it doubly depraved and callous.

I'm sure he was talking about abortion in situations where there are no special circumstances, like threat to the mother's health. And let's face it, the vast majority of abortions like that. Many people have abortions as a form of contraception, because the baby is a girl, out of fear of poverty, because it's not convenient (e.g. career-wise), etc. Those cases are precisely a modern-day form of burying babies alive, and one of the clearest indications of the utter decadence of this age.

No, it's like ripping your child apart with metal clamps and a high powered vacuum cleaner.

-I can't afford it and even if I could, time management would probably be a powerful stressor
 
-Sisters (more like potential wives) DEFINITELY wouldn't find it tolerable or acceptable as you're technically having a legalized affair; big slap in their faces
 
-I don't have health issues as far as I'm aware, but I guess I would lose the true meaning of love as it is meant to be between 2 people not 4; it would end up becoming some kind of bizarre relationship, think lions and gorillas
 
-It is not acceptable in the West, but this fact doesn't pertain to me as I'm not completely Westernized anyway

A husband has the responsibility to enjoin proper Islamic behaviour on his family, and should do his utmost to ensure his wife wears hijab, since it is wajib. In terms of 'forcing' her, he can certainly prevent her from leaving the house without hijab, since that is in any case his Islamic right.

In the mirror whispers are said.

Arms at my side dripping in red.

 

If you only knew what I have gone through.

Pain in my chest of what I once knew.

 

Vision of death over takes my soul.

Tears again taking me for a toll.

 

Memories that haunt me every day.

Wish that you could take it away.

^There are hundreds of 'car bombs' and shootings and etc... human suicide bombers explode sometimes... The government needs to step up intelligence efforts to stop these animals... spend money and obtain info on these networks... it is not individuals' work... organizing and exploding 100s of cars, bringing in human-suicide bombers, or organizing groups of armed men to shoot or plant bombs are not coming from the sky! They have planning, they have networks, they have spies and ppl who work for them and enable them to prepare targets for them, they receive funding from local/abroad sources... 90% of this could be prevented... The only time would be impossible where some individuals from nowhere try to explode him/her self and kill others. The Iraqi government also needs to act harsh on them...

2:233 'And the mothers shall suckle their children for two complete years, for whoever wishes to complete the suckling, and upon the father is their provision and clothing in a fair manner. A soul is not burdened except to its capacity; neither shall a mother be made to suffer harm on account of her child, nor a father on account of his child, and upon the heir is a similar duty. If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no blame on them. If ye decide on a foster-mother for your offspring, there is no blame on you, provided ye pay (the mother) what ye offered, on equitable terms. But fear Allah and know that Allah sees well what ye do.'
 
This verse seems to say a lot about the rights of a mother as well as a child and a father. It firstly shows us that women can determine what happens with regard to suckling their babies and that a husband is obliged to provide sufficiently for mother and baby. I think the boldened part is profoundly important. It indicates that a parent must not be made to suffer on account of their child and a child must not be made to suffer on account of a parent. It highlights how balance of rights is so important, and speaks to how, when we act out of aggressive or selfish intention (like using a child to manipulate your spouse) we are not only hurting the other person, but the child as well. I think this verse is important, because we have a pendulum situation historically, where men have been allowed to use a child to control the mother, whether in marriage or after divorce, and that situation has swung in the west, to where women have priority over fathers, who are so frustrated at their lack of rights that they create organisations like Fathers for Justice. What is needed is a balance, where the childs needs are put first and there is a fair share regarding custody with regular mediation to encourage people to behave fairly for the sake of the child.

Women's rights and situation pre-Islam: Pagan Arabs - Burying Girls Alive
1400 years ago the pagan Arab men used to bury their newborn daughters alive in the sand, out of shame for having something so low and disgusting like a girl instead of a son. Women were treated horribly and with utter disgust.
Men could marry as many as they liked and very often they owned women like cattle or sheep. There were no laws to protect the women and they had no rights at all.
Christians - Arguing If Women Had Souls
Christians at that time were holding council meetings to determine whether or not a woman even had a soul. The church blamed "Eve" the mother of all humans after Adam (pbuh) for the "original sin" and damned her and her seed for what she had done.
Priests - Best Men - Forbidden Marriage - To Any Women
Priests, bishops, cardinals and even the Pope are the very best of the Catholic men within the church. Yet the church still forbids their clergymen the chance for marriage and families. This unnatural situation has caused very serious ramifications throughout the society around the world.
Nuns - Best Women - No Marriage - No Children
Nuns are the very best of the Catholic women. They cover themselves in proper attire much the same way as the Muslim women. Yet, they are never allowed to marry or have children throughout their lives. This unnatural condition has caused untold number of disgraceful and disgusting practices within the very church itself.
If Only Bad People Have Children - What About Tomorrow?
We must ask the question, "If the very best of the men and the very best of the women are not allowed to marry or have children - does this mean only the worst of the people are the ones allowed to reproduce and populate the world?" - And where will that leave us tomorrow?
Jews - Blame Women and Curse Women
The Jews blamed women for the "original sin" and as such they were treated with disgust. A woman's monthly cycle was considered by the Old Testament of the Bible to be a "curse from God" for her inequities. Her child bearing pains were also a 'punishment from God' for her bringing man down from heaven.
 
Women's rights and situation in Islam: Islam - No Blame On Women For Evil
Islam does not blame Eve for Adam's sin. Each of them accepted their own mistake and repented to Allah, and asked Allah to forgive them and Allah did forgive them.
Man Supports And Protects Women
Man must take on the role of supporter, protector, provider, custodian and servant to the family.
Woman Gives Birth - Raises Children
Woman must take on the role of carrying the child and delivering it and then feeding it and raising it to become a true servant of Allah.
Not Equal - But Treated Fairly In Justice
Men and women are not the same nor are they "equal". Whatever is on one side of an 'equals' sign must be exactly the same as what is on the other side without any difference in value, only in the way that it is expressed. How then could we say that a man, who is unable to conceive or give birth and then breast feed a baby is the equal to a woman who can?
Equal In Faith And Actions
They are equal in their beliefs and good deeds of course. But still they are not the same as each other. Each one must fulfill their role as humans.
Children's Rights Protected
Islam is also very much about rights. Children also have rights in Islam. When a man dies his wealth is left to his family.
Women's Right - Best Treatment
Almost every society supported the concept of a man having more than one woman. Yet, they did not limit the number nor did they provide the protection and maintenance that Islam insists on for each one. Islam came to set things straight. Women were given rights. Men were strictly ordered to treat their women with the very best of treatment.
Limit - Number in Marriage
When the verse was revealed the companions of Muhammad (pbuh) did not run out with the attitude that they were going to get four wives all of a sudden. Some of them already had much more than that and these men had to divorce their wives, if they had more than four. So this was not an order to go out and get four wives. It was an order to begin limitations. And the first limitation was; No more than four.
Limit - Equal Maintenance and Treatment
Second, the limitation of equal treatment for all of them. How could a man keep more than one wife unless he was exceedingly wealthy and/or exceedingly strong and virile?
Next, the limitation very clearly states; ".. but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one ..."
Muslims Today - Most Monogamous
Step by step, the men of Islam have come to be known today as the most monogamous of all men on earth. In the majority of all the Muslim homes on earth, a man gets married once, to one woman and then he stays married to her until the death of either himself or his wife.
Woman's Right To Choose Any Husband She Likes -
Even If He Is Already Married
One very important point that is often overlooked by modern society is the right that Islam gave to the women that it does not give to the man. A man is limited to marry only from the woman who is not already married. Obviously, this provides rights for the children and provides for them from inheritance from the father. But Islam also permits the women to marry a man who is already married to protect her in a society where the number of women outnumbers the population of men. Additionally, the woman has a large selection of men to choose from. In fact, she has the right to choose from any man in the community as long as he does not already have four wives. She also has the opportunity to see how the other wife was being treated and go into a marriage knowing exactly what to expect from her husband. After all, he must treat her in the same way as he is treating the other wife.
Women's Right to Vote - 1,400 Years Ago
We might add that Islam also gave the women full status as citizens over 1,400 years ago by giving her to right to speak and vote the same as anyone else. American women had to take their cause to the streets with "Women's Suffrage" and were not granted the right to vote until just ninety years ago.
Women Keep Their Identity - And Their Names
Additionally, Islam protected women's rights to keep their identity and they were not considered property of some man. As such, they were no longer forced to change their last names to be that of their husbands. This is still the practice of Muslim women today just as it was fourteen hundred years ago.
Women Keep Their Property And Earnings - Men Must Share
Yet, at the same time the western society is so concerned about the way Islam demands that a couple be married, the man actually must work instead of the woman; the woman owns her own property without giving anything for the support of the house or the child; a child has the right to his or her own mother raising them instead of a baby sitter or day care; father must support his children; divorce is hated; and marriage is sanctified.
 
http://www.islamswomen.com/marriage/man_can_marry_four_why_not_women_marry_four.php
 
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It's sad when men can't enjoy the simple act of talking with their wives. If you can't handle comforting and talking to your wife maybe you shouldn't be married in the first place.