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lilacfatima

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  1. Salaam alaikum East essence.com is a nice well priced site. Wa salaam
  2. Salaam I'm not sure of other states but there are places in Maryland and virginia. Wa salaam
  3. Salaam alaikum I just wanted to reply and if I repeat something someone else has said my apologies. One suggestion would be really talk to anyone who is "helping" you. Give them some ideas of what you are looking for, ie.athletic, outgoing, more reserved etc. however I would caution on just a 30 second is she cute mentality ( not saying that is what you do just saying) attraction comes in many forms. Also as a wife of 17 years and mother of 4 kids that whole skinny thing comes and goes as the years pass so do looks on both sides. You need to be able to communicate and be friends in a marriage because there will be times where your friendship is what gets you through when the lovey dovey stuff comes and goes. So personally I would suggest really taking someone's character and personality into consideration, body issues can be fixed, ie.going to the gym could be a nice couples times, while helping each other with your goals,etc. Again if I have repeated or offended I apologize. Take care and good luck. :) Wa salaam
  4. salaam alaikum I was 22 and have been married for 14 years in August. wa salaam
  5. salaam alaikum It depends on the age of the child. Newborns can be anywhere from 1-3 hours, as they get older (3-6 months) the night feedings do tend to get less. And yes mothers suffer from sleep deprivation, I don't think Ive had an uninterrupted night of sleep in 10 years. They kick you when your preggers and then the kick you when they come and then they are hungry or need a diaper change =0P...........glass of water, potty, bad dreams, noises in the night ...........I think you get the idea,lol. wa salaam
  6. salaam alaikum I have to say I'm a little offended by some of ya'lls comments. When my hubby and I were married by mutah I was not a practicing convert, to be honest I wasn't even thinking of converting.However after being with hubby and him just being open and honest about any questions I had and not pressuring me I came to convert on my own. He noticed I was a "muslim" before I did, LOL. We have been married for almost 14 years and I've been a muslim for about 10 1/2 years. And I can honestly say if God forbid we ever divorce I would still be a muslim. Now don't get me wrong I know there are people who try to be what their significant other wants them to be, but lets be honest you can usually see the warning signs and you can't lump people in one category and assume something. wa salaam
  7. salaam alaikum Relax and breathe (not that panting breathe stuff either) Long breathes in and slow measured breathing out and relaxing as you breathe out. As for the last two months SLEEP!!!!!!!!!!! whenever you can!!! I can not stress this enough, because you will not be sleeping all that much for the first few months. I have four kids and I don't remember the last time I had a night of uninterrupted sleep in the last 9 1/2 years. So yeah sleep and pamper yourself, go on a date night with your hubby. wa salaam
  8. salaam alaikum I would say teaching them the value of hijab and religion as posted above and again as above teach through your own observance of proper hijab. My daughter started in 3rd grade when she was 8, it wasn't all the time but we encouraged her and told her how proud of her we were and now she freaks if her dad opens the front door to leave or if someone is there and doesn't give her warning.LOL She is now 9 1/2 and she is the only muslim girl in her school who observes hijab. Alhumdulillah even some of her teachers have suppoted her by having her bring in all her different types of hijabs so the other girls can try them on and ask questions. Some of her friends even asked if I could make some for them ( non muslim kids at that) lol.
  9. Salaam alaikum I'm sorry if this post is going to sound brutal but here goes. It's seems to me that the two of you need to first of all grow up and take a long look at BOTH of your actions. In all honesty YOU started the physical altercation in this situation. Now should he have said that he was going to throw you at the balcony, no of course not, but you took it to the next level of violence. I think it would be wise to get a babysitter for a few hours and have a long discussion with your hubby, about both of yall's behavior the underlying feelings involved etc. Then plan out some solutions and work on both this problem and your marriage. Me and my hubby have had to have some of these talks before and it's something that has to be done in a marriage, marriage is hard work with compromise and communication. We have been married for almost 14 years with 4 kids, so believe me it takes work. You will get mad, he will get mad that's just natural it's how you deal with it that is important. You guys are parents there is no more( me me me me), you need to be able to show your son how to resolve conflict the right way and trust me no matter how little they are they are watching. Just a little advice from a mommy and wife. Inshallah everything works out. And just wondering why would you not let him buy a bear for the little guy? No wonder he got upset, whether you meant it this way or not he probably felt you were belittling his affections for his son. I'm not trying to throw things in your face but sometimes we have to before aware of our own actions and words before we can look to others to change theirs.Inshallah sis sending you a big hug and wishes that everything works out for the best. Take care. If you get a chance watch a movie called Fireproof ( yes it is a christian based movie, but it speaks volumes about the way to treat our marriage partners) There is even a book based on the movie called The Love Dare. wa salaam
  10. salaam alaikum Don't skip meals (however be aware of balance and portion size) Don't eat out of boredom or in front of TV or computer Stay away from junk food and if you have a tendency to munch have healthy snacks around fruits, cut up veggies, cheese and crackers etc. (portion control is vital here as well) keep up with your walks or any other activity that you enjoy. all around easy simple no gimmicks just good sense, wa salaam
  11. salaam alaikum From someone who's had gestational diabetes twice that was mostly controlled by diet. In general the best "diet" is a well rounded diet that is full of lean meats, beans and grains, and fruits/ veggies is the best. With that said the most important thing to controlling sugar levels, weight etc. is portion sizes! Also the times which you eat are important as well, it is optimal to eat every 2-3 hours. Yes sugar should be used sparingly but it can be used (no difference between white and brown) hope this helps wa salaam
  12. salaam alaikum Najis only transfers with wetness. I personally don;t see myself dragging a mattress outside to use water on it, and that would definitely attract your parents attention. All else fails flip your mattress over and stop sleeping on unmade beds =0P And if it's a regular occurrence , due to ageor whatever, maybe you should get a mattress cover. wa salaam
  13. salaam alaikum Most doctors only do 1 ultrasound during a pregnancy and that is usually about 5 months. They are checking for growth data, health of heart and other organs etc. Two of my pregnancies I had regular ultrasounds because I was gestational diabetic and they needed to keep an eye on the placenta because w/ diabetes it ages quicker and the baby can end up not getting what it needs in the way of nutrients etc. Also they found my son Sajad only had a two vessel cord and after more looking they found he had only one kidney. So ultrasound have theirs uses. wa salaam
  14. Salaam alaikum Where in the south do you live, just curious. Well being an American convert with a white American hubby and obviously white kids I get a couple of looks as well. We live in Baton Rouge, Lousisana. And yeah you may have some stares or people being curious and some rude remarks, but to be honest you'll get that about anywhere you go in this world. Believe it or not it's not as difficult as we make it out to be, I remember working myself in to a fit about wanting to wear hijab and being a little to chicken to just put it on. One of my co-workers at the time told me to just put it on and stop stressing myself I did and that was the end of that,(actually she sewed me some scarves too, may Allah swt reward her for her aid and support and inshallah bring her to the path of Islam). Honestly it was a little anti climatic. Don't get me wrong you may be a little hyper aware of people glancing at you and such but this too shall pass. Just smile and say hello =0). wa salaam
  15. salaam alaikum This still throws me after all these years. I know exactly what you mean. I still haven't come to a balancing point. I know this doesn't help but at least your not the only one.;0P wa salaam
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