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  1. 4 minutes ago, Darth Vader said:

    I think its a wonderful idea that the two spouses follow different marja. Think of the ijtihad that will result from their possible debates and how the children will learn from it. Those children should then be sent to the schools in Qom and Najaf to become mujtahids.

    I think it’s a beautiful thing as well, on the condition that the conversations are done respectfully. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 

  2. 1 hour ago, Islandsandmirrors said:

    Ok OP, here’s something you should know: I’m married to a non-Shia (who may become Shia) and by your logic, everything will be oh so confusing for the children, but in actuality it’s not a problem at all. Religion and fiqh are something we typically don’t argue about. 

    Just because something doesn’t sound good on paper, it doesn’t mean that it wouldn’t work. There’s something called mutual respect and understanding within a marriage. You’re not supposed to marry your clone. 

    Thank you for your post. I’m not sure what "logic" of mine you are speaking of. You can elaborate if you’d like. 

    My question is not about major problems and issues because I don’t suspect that would happen. My question is asking about the frictions - points of conversation that would need to be addressed whether before marriage or in the moment. If I, a shi’a, marry a non-shi’a and want children I would want to discuss before the marriage areas where there may be friction ie. What madressah will we send them to, how will we teach them to pray, how do they pay their khums. 

    I hope that clarifies my question. 

  3. 1 hour ago, habib e najjaar said:

    For the specific marja's you've mentioned, I don't think it would be a major issue. But even with a similar marja', a problematic person will always marja hop when it suits their convenience :dry:

    Thank you for sharing. It does sound like it’s possible that rulings may be confused in this type of marriage especially when teaching children. Ie. Your child follows one marja and asks you a question about a ruling, but you confuse the two rulings. For example, how khums is paid. 


    That would entail that the parents know the basic rulings of the marja the child does taqlid of.



    thats a really good point so thank you for sharing.

  4. 9 hours ago, Guest Baghdad sans Mongols said:

    Seriously it had to come to this???

    Even their wives are not bound to do their taqleed, and are free to choose their own marja’. 


    Im sorry I don’t understand what you mean by this. Where have we come and whose wives? 


    5 hours ago, aaaz1618 said:

    Sounds very much like caste mentality to me 

    Everyone bleeds the same, don't they?

    Yes, 100% we come from the same source and return to it. thank you for sharing your thoughts. 


    To all,

    Never thought there would be any major issues. You all seem like you’ve experienced a lot on shiachat to have taken this question offensively. I’m sorry that you have experienced it.

    Conflicts between marriages between people that come from different countries or cultures exists even if they follow the same marja. I’m sorry, although I do respect the kind answers received, I don’t quite buy that there will be no frictions. For example, if I asked what are the frictions between people who come from different countries. An answer would be: they would need to discuss where they would live if they wanted to live together. 


    5 hours ago, Abu Nur said:

    There is absolutely no problem and conflict at all.


    5 hours ago, Propaganda_of_the_Deed said:



    Sistani - haram

    Khamenai - permissable

    Mind you, I posted this is the family section not in jurisprudence. Im not asking about the permissibility of this marriage. I know the differences between the maraja. Thank you for your input, however. The meme is funny so also thank you for sharing. 


  5. Salaam

    With respect to all the maraja, May God give them all long lives for the truth they share with us, I wanted to know what sorts of frictions of conflicts one can foresee between a marriage of two people who strongly follow Sayyid Sistani and Sayyid Khamanei, respectively. 

    I wasn’t able to find the question elsewhere; if it exists, please do kindly share it with me.

    I don’t suspect there be any major issues but I am just looking into the topic for personal reasons. I’m especially curious if it will make it difficult for children who come from that marriage if no agreement for the influences the child will be exposed to was made beforehand. 

  6. As salaamu alaikum - 

    I am wondering about the daughters of Imam Ali un Naqi al Hadi, and Imam Muhammad at-Taqi.

    However, firstly, I hope you can help me clarify something - in Kitab al-Irshad, compiled by Shaykh al-Mufid, the children of Imam al-Jawad are listed as,


    He left among his children ‘Alī, his son, the Imam after him, and Mūsā, and his two daughters Fāṭima and Imāma. There were no other male children except those we have mentioned.


    I know Imam al-Jawad has a daughter, Sayida Hakima, who taught Sayida Narjis when she married Imam al-Askari. Are one of the names written above, Fatima or Imama, referring to Hakima khatoon?

  7. "your remedy is within you, but you do not sense it. your sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it. you presume you're a small entity, but within you is enfolded the entire universe. You are indeed the evident book, by whose alphabet the hidden becomes manifest. Therefore, you have no need to look beyond yourself. What you seek is within you, if only you reflect."

    Apparently it's in Nahj al Balagha, but I can't find it there. Could someone shed some light on the source. Thanks

  8. I'm pretty sure I could :)

    For example, this one says "Whoever takes water from the River Euphrates (Furat) for drinking and after drinking, spills it outside of the river, has done Israf (excess usage). (Imam Sadiq a.s)

    I am so grateful!!!

    I hope this isn't a challenging request

    Here's a dropbox link .https://www.dropbox.com/sh/5jlbuzrc1qucq6c/AAArDU_86PdNdLc5BQGzI7k0a?dl=0. In whatever way you prefer to send me the translations, I'll be happy to accept be it by email, direct messages, here etc :)

  9. Some sisters don't like to play games. I wouldn't want to "grab a cup of coffee" with any guy because God knows what he actually wants. A lot of women with honour will appreciate you for thinking about marriage. Tell her through a mutual friend that you're interested in getting to know her for the purposes of marriage.

    You can say it directly to her but some girls might find that too direct. Remember, you're putting her on the spot and that might make her uncomfortable even if she is interested.

  10. Salaam Alaykum sisters and Shahr Ramadhan Mubarak

    I'm looking for a French language partner I can speak with on Skype to practice my oral and written. I've talked with people but they're strangers so it's very scary if they tried to stalk me. I don't think a Shia sister would try to hurt me ;P I need someone who is serious about helping me améliorer mon français and I could help you practice English. Est-ce qu'il y'a qqn qui peut m'aider svp?

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