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    Exactly my sentiments! If the man is the man, he should make the effort to go meet the girl, at her families home, with her family there. Asking her to come meet him puts her in danger of anything really. For all she knows, he could be a predator, out to attack another victim. If this were my daughter or sister or cousin, i would get very angry at his request. And being as I am, i would probably have called him myself and told him to man up.

    yeah and I agree it was my initial reaction, but sometimes you make leneancies for the bigger picture, i think for the future i'd stick to the traditional ways of approaching these things

  2. well being wrong or wondering if certain elements of faith would fall under doubt, doubt is necessary for building strong faith...struggling towards certainty is what develops one as a person, and is what I believe Allah swt wishes for us to endure to claim great heights, without doubt there would be blind claims of absolute truth, this type of arrogant certainty can in cases lead to self righteousness, arrogance and dogmatism, it doesn't mean one should be cynical towards everything it just means not quashing the questions that come to mind when exploring religion,

  3. I think hes more annoyed or perhaps his mother is annoyed at how the proxy was treated, since my mum wasn't so obliging and welcoming towards her (none the less polite), as she really wasn't sure who she was , and since the lady didn't really assure her of who she was or introduce herself properly or say anything to make the situation seem legitimate,

  4. thanks for the feedback, he insisted that what he did was the norm for many Muslim communities, so I thought why not ask shia chat members and it seems it isn't, I mean I wouldn't have minded the proxy if we had known she was coming, oh well its a shame really, I didn't really expect this sort of behaviour, but better now than later

  5. Salams, I haven't posted in a while but thought this would be a good place to get the brutal truth or some closure

    To keep it brief, I had been conversing for marriage , since we are In different countries the process of knowing each other has been slightly long and tedious however we both made sound attempts to make the most of the situation , a few months on he wanted to meet and expressed it frequently, since his work had an issue he wasn't able to make it over to london, where he insisted I travelled to canada, I have been hesitant about this, since for me it's just not the usual protocol , none the less I didn't want to be egotistical if this was a genuine barrier, so I started coming around to the idea and if things carried on positively, I and family member would go, he provided his address and I mine as it seemed he was hinting he wanted to send something on a few occasions, and by now I had known him well, then the other day my mother rang me at work explaining a woman had turned up at our address , this woman didn't introduce herself properly say Salam or say who she was clearly , she said hello I want to speak to 'me' and she mentioned something briefly about canada but didn't mention the proper family name of who I was speaking to, since I had only provided an address the day before my mother wasn't aware, and is always on the side of caution, and because the lady had asked directly for me and not been clear in who she was it seems my mum was aloof with her and explained I was at work, where the lady went away, and that's it ... He told me in the evening his mother sent a 'proxy' I had to google it at the time and due to this misunderstanding he felt we should delay meeting , it all baffled me as this sort thing never happened to me , people usually make a time , he insists that this is the norm and that we turned the lady away knowingly , Im just stunned by the flip of events , was this really the norm ? Did we do a faux pas ?

  6. Well, questioning details of God, is not the same as questioning belief itself in God.

    I agree with Gypsy

    Yes yes agreed.. it is not the same. He is questioning a God existing, even though deep down he admitted to not feeling certain about it, he's swaying two ways you see which is why he is frustrated and 'losing sleep', which is what prompted me to post the question. By next year he will probably have decided, subscribed and be sleeping again ... I hope with a pocket Quran under his pillow ..ha..

    I think you should leave him alone. If you keep on insisting that he should believe in God and be a religious person for his own good, then you will push him even farther from Islam.

    Rather, for the purpose of interaction, you should find something common between the two of you that doesn't involve religious belief or activities.

    We have known each over for long enough that he can tell me to shut up anytime lol besides he does not have to, since Im aware of the etiquette of conversing with someone who follows something different to myself, without being whiny, finger wagging and 'insistent', my post is to get some practical advice that could help someone who openly admitted to needing help, since he is the one constantly opening up the discussion I feel obliged to retort with something constructive and at least one more time before 'I' tell him to keep his thoughts to himself and 'leave me alone' on the topic and confide in someone else. From my point of view there are plenty of 'believers' in the world and frankly it's not my idea of a fun time arguing or convincing someone just to increase that statistic by one, like I say hes intelligent and mature, but since we have mutual respect for one another beyond religion I do feel obliged to persuade him to some degree just for the fact that I am one of a few Muslims in his life who he is open with and so have that chance to make some sort of impact or influence, only because its the right thing to do in my opinion.

  7. It's important he brushes up his usool ud deen, i.e. aqeedah, thoroughly before delving into anything else. There are some good books, especially this one for example:

    http://www.sicm.org.uk/index.php?page=suduk/main - The Beliefs of the Shia Imamiya by Sheikh Saduq (ra)


    What are some of his arguments?

    Well he makes suggestions on the divinity of the Quran, miracles, the need for a God, possibility of a hereafter, story of creation and existence ... To name a few

  8. Salams. I am acquainted with a person who is struggling with religion (he comes from a shia background).

    He tries to intellectualise everything, and he seems to be becoming more and more sceptical angry and abrasive in his comments on religion, which resulted in a feud between us, which he later confided that he has tried to submit to Allah swt and wants to believe, but he finds it hard to reconcile his scientific sceptical head with his inner need for spirituality, there is no use debating him, he's well versed in islam, quran and history/ has a know it all attitude which makes it hard to converse with him, he also has a counter argument for everything, however he still admits he cannot be sure that his views are correct and in his heart hed rather be a believer. what would you suggest for someone who says they want to believe, but need a sign or help in sparking faith, any particular acts of worship ? Prayers? Dhikr ? I know its his choice and his life but I feel I should offer some last advice, would appreciate some suggestions.

  9. No, he is just a skillful artist and this artwork is praiseworthy. It contains a verse of Quran. I tried to change the colors in order to read the words, but I failed. I searched the image in google and found out that the artist is Mohammad Ehsai and this artwork is named "oo bakhshandeh ast" meaning "He is merciful" (notice the word "Rahman" in the left lower corner).

    That is great information you came up with! I had no idea about who the artist could be let alone the name! Thanks!

  10. Are you talking about folding the mat when you are ready to put it away? Cause my family is Lebanese and they do it, I just roll mines though...

    Sure folding the mat and putting it away when you're finished that's different , but I'm talking about the instance when you've left your mat for some time, some people will flip the top right corner over rather than leave the mat flat out

  11. While Muslims take pride in the movie the message, in my opinion it is one of the worse movies about Islam. Yes it does have some exciting parts that makes a Muslim emotional, but it clearly is a movie made by those believe in companion not Ahlulbayt leadership and using their references and ahadith to make the movie hence deceiving more of Muslims, including Shias, that was actually what happened.

    Many people reference to that movie, and subconsciously thinking that what happened is what the movie described what happened? That prophet Mohammad (pbuh) was in Hira cave "mediating" and all of the sudden he saw angel jibreel and prophet was running away from him and jibreel kept showing up in front of his face.

    And that's what troubling. I personally as a Shia, grew up to believe that story that I saw in the movie and I know for fact many other Shias as well. And when you tell them about what actually happened, people even Shias, end up arguing with you that you are wrong.

    When Allah (swt) told our prophet to "iqra" which means "recite", it was as "oh Mohammad (pbuh)

    Anyway I thought I get this out of my chest, this movie is deceiving and if I had kids, I wouldn't show it to my kids.

    Yes youre right if a Movie is based on fact or biography it seem to gain the instant trust of the audience too easily , I can't believe some of the movies based on fact which weren't really , like JFK , hurricane, the message with its sources shown in the opening def lead the viewer into thinking everything will be perfectly accurate when it may not be... however the other side of the coin is still shiny , at least non Muslims got a glimpse into Islam, especially for those who would never pick up a book or watch a historical doc anyway, and to say deceiving is strong since the movie was not made to mislead , it was merely conforming to the majority perspective as you said, and even so I think what the movie conveyed was still positive and touching, I'd let my kids watch but just hit the pause every few mins to say wellllll actuallyyyy. Non agenda movie makers creating films based on facts will find it impossible to please every historian or anthropologist or expert since its made to capture the masses within a time-slot with the motive of entertaining and having ' some' credibility to avoid criticism. Which is why I hope more shia movie makers are on the rise as their movies will iA primarily be to convey truth and then to entertain as secondary and i hope we have more especially from the west , so far I love the Iranian produced movies I have seen, but I want something in English.

  12. All Banking in this world is based on fraud and :Riba.

    It is the biggest scam in this world operated by the most powerful criminal cabal.

    like a vampire sucking the souls of humanity.

    This is reality , and no one can justify the income from such sources as :Halal.

    So if someone wanted to become a bank clerk, nothing directly involved what would you say ?

  13. Hello all

    I have a cousin, in chatting he told me that he has had interest from a foreign exchange company regards a work prospect dealing with clients / customer service . When I was happy for him he seemed hesitant. so I probed, and he started going on about a flawed money system , and it potentially being unislamic to work in such places with a general attitude of not wanting anything to do with this sector . And then came the conspiracy type talk which perhaps may hold some truth , but... Well to me sounded far fetched, he said that his wages could be paid from interest, I dont know how true that is and he can't prove it, I understand working directly with interest would be wrong , but my knowledge of banking/ foreign exchange markets/ economics are not sound or worthy of offering my opinion to him, so I just left the whole topic. Anyone have any knowledge on these systems or in particular foreign exchange market and a good answer to give him, affirming or negating his views as I don't believe he's based his decision on understanding , mA his intentions are noble but I don't want him to miss out on an good opportunity for no reason.

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