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UmmAhmad

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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from TryHard in How To Find A Wife(help From The Sisters)   
    Kudos for you! I am glad you think that way. When I was single I had got a lot of proposals by men personally. I did not appreciate it, but any man that went through a woman I knew that he respected me.
    I was working in a Muslim grocery store, I had been Muslim for only 5 months when a family that regularly came to the store asked me if I was interested in marriage. They had a cousin that they thought would suit me. A few days later I went to their house for supper and he did to, it was like love at first sight. I liked everything about him, how he dressed, how he held himself, how you could tell he was being himself. He was very humble and had something special about him. I accepted his proposal and we married 5 days later. We have been married for 1 1/2 years and haven't had one argument, sometimes disagreements, but that is only because of cultural misunderstandings.
    I don't know your age, but my husband was 24 when we married, in his country this is old. (His brother Kadhim who was 18 married only a few months after us). Sometimes you just have to be patient and make lots of dua. If you find a sister you are interested in, go through your mother or your sister, and if you are over seas without a sister or a mom, have one of your close friends who is married, and go through his wife- if that is your friend accepts. If there's a will there's a way. :)
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from TryHard in How Did You Find Your Spouse?   
    My situation was different then most. My father told me what ever I did with my life was up to me. I still ran things by him though out of respect.
    I was working at a store and knew a lot of Muslim families. One family said they would like to introduce me to their cousin, and that yes, he had his papers already-never want to be just a green card. LOL I accepted, and we met a few days later at the families house. It was love at first sight you might say. He was different then anyone else I had met, something special about him. I just knew he was the one. So I accepted his proposal (after several series of events that took place that night, which in return answered my dua of guidance). I had never received an answer so quickly to my prayers as I did that night. We decided to marry soon, due to circumstances that were out of our hands, so we met 5 nights in a row for a few hours to know each other more, and the 5th night we married. :) We were legally married by the government 1 month after our Islamic marriage.
    Before I married, I had several other proposals. With the first I turned down right away. For one, he asked me to marry him before he even told me his name, or even knew mine. Another, when I said no (he was 20 years older then me, at first he lied to me about his age, but then I found out his real age through a friend), later he became a stalker- scary time that was.
    A proposal I took seriously was through a friend of mine who was also an American revert. Her husband had a friend who was from Bosnia. We met at their house for 2 weeks, but nothing really clicked. So we both agreed to end it. It is best just to be open with the other person. Being open can make you vulnerable, but it is better then making a life changing mistake. Marriage is a big deal and it is something very serious.
    My husband and I were very open with each other, so there hasn't been any mistrust in our relationship. We haven't had any fights or arguments. Misunderstandings, yes, which is normal. We were both raised differently, came from different cultures, not 100% fluent in each others language. But if you both want to make it work, then it will. :)
    If I haven't been clear in anything I have said, then just ask and I will clarify for you. :)
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from 12reasons4truth. in Any Revert Sisters From North America?   
    Salam alaikum, I am a revert to Islam! I live in Florida. :)

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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from strength=Abbas in Salam Alaikum   
    Salam alaikum sisters, it has been about 2 years since I last logged in! Subhanallah! When I first joined shia chat I was a sunni, just trying to understand my husbands beliefs. But about a year and a half ago I started practicing shia islam. I don't see many of the ladies that I had grown to know 3 years ago on here? Or perhaps usernames have changed? Again, I have been gone for some time, so who knows what has changed?
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Chaotic Muslem in Salam Alaikum   
    Salam alaikum sisters, it has been about 2 years since I last logged in! Subhanallah! When I first joined shia chat I was a sunni, just trying to understand my husbands beliefs. But about a year and a half ago I started practicing shia islam. I don't see many of the ladies that I had grown to know 3 years ago on here? Or perhaps usernames have changed? Again, I have been gone for some time, so who knows what has changed?
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Hameedeh in Reverts to Islam [OFFICIAL THREAD]   
    This is the same for me as well, except for me, it was 5 months after my reversion. :) Now that I am married everyone assumes I became Muslim because of him! I say no! I knew and accepted Islam before I knew any Muslims.
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Qa'im in Salam Alaikum   
    Salam alaikum sisters, it has been about 2 years since I last logged in! Subhanallah! When I first joined shia chat I was a sunni, just trying to understand my husbands beliefs. But about a year and a half ago I started practicing shia islam. I don't see many of the ladies that I had grown to know 3 years ago on here? Or perhaps usernames have changed? Again, I have been gone for some time, so who knows what has changed?
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from starlight in Salam Alaikum   
    Salam alaikum sisters, it has been about 2 years since I last logged in! Subhanallah! When I first joined shia chat I was a sunni, just trying to understand my husbands beliefs. But about a year and a half ago I started practicing shia islam. I don't see many of the ladies that I had grown to know 3 years ago on here? Or perhaps usernames have changed? Again, I have been gone for some time, so who knows what has changed?
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Hameedeh in Salam Alaikum   
    Salam alaikum sisters, it has been about 2 years since I last logged in! Subhanallah! When I first joined shia chat I was a sunni, just trying to understand my husbands beliefs. But about a year and a half ago I started practicing shia islam. I don't see many of the ladies that I had grown to know 3 years ago on here? Or perhaps usernames have changed? Again, I have been gone for some time, so who knows what has changed?
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Repentant in How Did You Find Your Spouse?   
    My situation was different then most. My father told me what ever I did with my life was up to me. I still ran things by him though out of respect.
    I was working at a store and knew a lot of Muslim families. One family said they would like to introduce me to their cousin, and that yes, he had his papers already-never want to be just a green card. LOL I accepted, and we met a few days later at the families house. It was love at first sight you might say. He was different then anyone else I had met, something special about him. I just knew he was the one. So I accepted his proposal (after several series of events that took place that night, which in return answered my dua of guidance). I had never received an answer so quickly to my prayers as I did that night. We decided to marry soon, due to circumstances that were out of our hands, so we met 5 nights in a row for a few hours to know each other more, and the 5th night we married. :) We were legally married by the government 1 month after our Islamic marriage.
    Before I married, I had several other proposals. With the first I turned down right away. For one, he asked me to marry him before he even told me his name, or even knew mine. Another, when I said no (he was 20 years older then me, at first he lied to me about his age, but then I found out his real age through a friend), later he became a stalker- scary time that was.
    A proposal I took seriously was through a friend of mine who was also an American revert. Her husband had a friend who was from Bosnia. We met at their house for 2 weeks, but nothing really clicked. So we both agreed to end it. It is best just to be open with the other person. Being open can make you vulnerable, but it is better then making a life changing mistake. Marriage is a big deal and it is something very serious.
    My husband and I were very open with each other, so there hasn't been any mistrust in our relationship. We haven't had any fights or arguments. Misunderstandings, yes, which is normal. We were both raised differently, came from different cultures, not 100% fluent in each others language. But if you both want to make it work, then it will. :)
    If I haven't been clear in anything I have said, then just ask and I will clarify for you. :)
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from PeaceLoving in Why Most Christian Ladies Do Not Wear Hijab   
    I was a Seventh-Day Adventist before I came to Islam. Basically for every Christian denomination there are the "conservative's" and the "liberals". My family was conservative, but maybe another family was liberal. Also bear in mind, just like in any other religion there are those who just label themselves but do not truly follow what they supposedly believe.
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from struggling_On in White Girls Like Beards And Muslim Girls Don't   
    I'm white, Muslim, and I like beards. :)
    I don't get why they would like the "stubble" look, it is very irritating for the partners skin.
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Al-Hassan in Love You Dad!   
    Before my father had his logging accident and had to have surgery to remove part of his brain(which in turn has changed some of the good things about him), he was a good man.
    He always worked very hard for us. Rain or shine he always built fence for our neighbor farmers, cut logs for the Amish saw mill, cut firewood to sell during the winter, and yet would still have time to go fishing, swimming, horse riding with us.
    I remember when I was little and my daddy would take off his shirt to take a shower I would call him Hercules. LOL
    He always woke up very early in the morning to study the Bible with us, even though we were so sleepy (LOL sometimes I would say I had a headache and he would let me go back to bed, when in reality I was just very tired).
    Even though he hated dancing, I was always the one to talk him into dancing the waltz with me (when I was little my mother listened to old country music).
    He always encouraged me to dress modestly, to keep myself pure, to save myself for the right man, and to always remember where I came from as it makes me the person I am now.
    I love my daddy and miss how he was before the accident. <3
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Crescent in White Girls Like Beards And Muslim Girls Don't   
    Obviously you do not know the girls I know. For instance, my husband (Iraqi) and I's (American) nikah was very simple. The Imam came over, we had witness's, we both wore our nicest clothes and we married. Afterwards we served tea and sweets to every one. I know several girls of my ethnicity who have had their nikah in a similar fashion. Maybe you are referring to a Christian white girl, as of course a Muslim white girl wouldn't serve wine in her wedding. Even still, not all Christian's drink alcohol (my father is 48 and has never drank a drop of liquor in his life).
    We have been married for almost 2 years and haven't even had a honeymoon yet! He has too many obligations at work and I understand that. Better for him to be depended on at work then not having a job at all. :)
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Gotham in White Girls Like Beards And Muslim Girls Don't   
    Obviously you do not know the girls I know. For instance, my husband (Iraqi) and I's (American) nikah was very simple. The Imam came over, we had witness's, we both wore our nicest clothes and we married. Afterwards we served tea and sweets to every one. I know several girls of my ethnicity who have had their nikah in a similar fashion. Maybe you are referring to a Christian white girl, as of course a Muslim white girl wouldn't serve wine in her wedding. Even still, not all Christian's drink alcohol (my father is 48 and has never drank a drop of liquor in his life).
    We have been married for almost 2 years and haven't even had a honeymoon yet! He has too many obligations at work and I understand that. Better for him to be depended on at work then not having a job at all. :)
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Maryaam in White Girls Like Beards And Muslim Girls Don't   
    Obviously you do not know the girls I know. For instance, my husband (Iraqi) and I's (American) nikah was very simple. The Imam came over, we had witness's, we both wore our nicest clothes and we married. Afterwards we served tea and sweets to every one. I know several girls of my ethnicity who have had their nikah in a similar fashion. Maybe you are referring to a Christian white girl, as of course a Muslim white girl wouldn't serve wine in her wedding. Even still, not all Christian's drink alcohol (my father is 48 and has never drank a drop of liquor in his life).
    We have been married for almost 2 years and haven't even had a honeymoon yet! He has too many obligations at work and I understand that. Better for him to be depended on at work then not having a job at all. :)
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Ali-Reza in White Girls Like Beards And Muslim Girls Don't   
    I'm white, Muslim, and I like beards. :)
    I don't get why they would like the "stubble" look, it is very irritating for the partners skin.
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Hasan0404 in White Girls Like Beards And Muslim Girls Don't   
    Obviously you do not know the girls I know. For instance, my husband (Iraqi) and I's (American) nikah was very simple. The Imam came over, we had witness's, we both wore our nicest clothes and we married. Afterwards we served tea and sweets to every one. I know several girls of my ethnicity who have had their nikah in a similar fashion. Maybe you are referring to a Christian white girl, as of course a Muslim white girl wouldn't serve wine in her wedding. Even still, not all Christian's drink alcohol (my father is 48 and has never drank a drop of liquor in his life).
    We have been married for almost 2 years and haven't even had a honeymoon yet! He has too many obligations at work and I understand that. Better for him to be depended on at work then not having a job at all. :)
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Robin Hood in 101 Contradictions In The Bible:   
    I didn't read all of your reply because you always have long drawn out ones. But these contradictions are far bigger then "a big bird". There are major differences in numbers, who the father was, who was where, who was guided by who, etc. Why don't you just face the truth?
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Al-Hassan in Iraqi Dolma And Maqlooba   
    You are quite the rude one.
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from sunrise_786 in Any Revert Sisters From North America?   
    Salam alaikum, I am a revert to Islam! I live in Florida. :)

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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Peace! in Iraqi Dolma And Maqlooba   
    Yes aubergines/eggplants whatever you want to call them! LOL
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Peace! in Iraqi Dolma And Maqlooba   
    LOL I didn't mean any disrespect!
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Peace! in Iraqi Dolma And Maqlooba   
    The onions are my favorite! :) Actually I love everything about dolma, there isn't one thing in it that I dislike. At first I didn't care for maqlooba, but would cook it for my husband as he likes it, little by little I have grown to enjoy it. And yes I cooked these.
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    UmmAhmad got a reaction from Peace! in Iraqi Dolma And Maqlooba   
    You are quite the rude one.
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