Anisa Bandeh Khoda

Wow this is a pretty horrible place to be in. I'm very sorry to hear. I hope anyone out there whose suffering with these thoughts are recovered or recovering. But i have some questions. Why did you start having these thoughts? Some tips i can recommend: - stop listening to music - Stop watching western shows. - fast, give charity and pray. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will reward the one who is working hard in His way. No doubt he is aware of your suffering, but if you strive to please Him, He inshallah will free you of your troubles.

hello darling sister, I am so sorry for the struggles you're undergoing. My best advice to you is to remain patient. Do not worry about what your parents are doing, they are just being the loving and caring parents that they seem. Just be polite with them and let them know in a kind way that you're busy studying or working and you are not ready. Stay focused on your studies, you're still young. Sooner or later you will come across a shia family (man), and God willing find the one to settle down with. I am 25 and studying, we are all on a boat sailing to the same destination (grave) so we should be patient, humble, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) plans and His plans are the best. I do apologise if anyone misunderstood or said anything to hurt your feelings, you're going through a tough time at your age. I hope you find peace soon inshallah. Allah knows best.

Alaikom Salaam Starlight, Excellent post, we must always strive for perfection. Well, I would like to increase my patience, Imaan, knowledge in Islam and medicine, good deeds, good habits, The rest of this list is very long. . . And there are many things I’d like to decrease... bad deeds, bad habits , caring too much, letting people take advantage of my kindness. This list is very personal lol there are endless aspects of myself I’d love to decrease. I’d do anything and everything to please Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). This world is temporary. There is no benefit in gaining material luxuries. But increasing and decreasing certain aspects and deeds will be better for us. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows best!

When i was 6, I saw the movie Matilda, and wanted to be a Miss Honey, A teacher. Later when i was in grade 11/12 i wanted to be a doctor. 5 years later I ended up in hospital, suffered with my health, almost in coma. Had a second chance in life. And today I am a medical student, graduating next year. AlhamduliAllah. God takes and gives as he pleases.

Salaam to OP, How old are you? are you male or female? As a medical student, I can only say that if Medicine is your passion, that is you truly enjoy the concept of learning about Gods creation and the science of how everything works then you have nothing to fear, rather you should be excited and focus your energy on the positives. Perhaps, Let go of the negative energy,. The journey of becoming a medical doctor is one that will be challenging, but the challenges are what make us a doctor. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows best!

Why are you unhappy about people? Happiness is in your hands. You should not allow others to control your happiness. If they are not worthy of your kindness or friendship, then make peace with them by moving on.

@AkhiraisReal W'salaam AkhirasReal, From a female POV i would highly discourage this. There are many reasons for why I have answered NO, if i had a daughter. As parents, we have many responsibilities, and one of them is that we must protect our children from harm, whether it be physical, verbal, emotional, psychological. Allowing your daughter into such a contract will put her at risk of these complications which she will not be able to address aloud. Protect your daughter, she is a gem and not for all to have. The generation of today are not kind to our daughters. So why place your daughter in a position where she will face many issues. Perhaps even pregnancy. This is not in your control. But be very protective. Mutah in my opinion is suitable for women who are intelligent, mature and divorced, or who need support. but Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows best.

Salaam, I have some medical science background, I can also help if needed.

OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I would do anything to go back to this dayyyyy YA Allah :'(

Good old estekhara , I shall keep it in mind bro/sis

Thank you beautiful. I appreciate it

I've finished my bachelors. I'm nearly done with masters. Lol I have plenty suitors, my parents reject some before I even get a chance to find out who they were. It's just now things are getting serious and about to happen step by step. I'm trying to get advice on what steps to make and which to avoid. I am old.. Probably in my 20s

I'm close to both