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yellow billed magpie

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    yellow billed magpie reacted to 3laweyaZainabiya in Are You A Feminist?   
    (salam) ,
    1) I dont believe that Islam is patriarchal, you have to remember that just because it's a popular view doesnt mean it's the islamic view.
    2) I am not a feminist because feminism is an extreme. I think Islam balances out our roles as women.
    3) You wanna know what it means to be a Muslim woman? Go read about the life of Fatimat ul- Zahra (as). She is, and always will be, every Muslim woman's role model. Also her daughter, Zainab, whom without her brave speeches along the way to yazids palace, Islam wouldn't exist today.
    4) I do wear the hijab and there isn't anything in this world that can convince me to take it off.
    5) Yes they should and they are. I don't know much about other countries but in Iraq we have many women involved in politics. Also there is nothing in the Quran or any Hadith that says women shouldn't be involved in those matters.
    Well male politicians are elected by both men and woman so if it really is majority rules then i don't understand why it's a problem.
    6) If there are any improvements to be made It would be cultural and not religious. I don't quite understand this question. What difference would it make if a woman translated the Quran or a man. If you think something is unclear about a marja's ruling on things maybe you should contact them.
    7) Again, real Muslim men are different from Muslim men who are blinded by culture. In Islam, men and woman deserve the same amount of respect. All the muslim men that I've encountered were extremely respectful. I've had conversations with a lecturer at a mosque with men before. Some cultural men like making woman inferior and most of the time it's the old people so I usually let it slide because I respect them as elders but if I honestly feel like some sort of injustice is being served to me or anyone else I would say something. I don't think many lecturers talk about our issues mainly because they are men and can't see our point of view on things. Sometimes they're just too scared to even go there. Sayed ammar does a great job of touching on women's issues. Sayed Ammar isn't afraid of giving lectures about what Islam is really like. He doesn't care what the majority is, sometimes the popular view isn't the right one.
    There is a right and there is a wrong. Allah made hijab wajib for every girl 9 and up for a reason. If it was a muslim speaking about hijab it would be the same lecture Whether it is a woman or a man. So no I don't really mind.
    8) I honestly have never even heard of female circumcision being practiced outside of Africa and it's quite sickening. Thats also another thing that has nothing to do with islam.
    9) If a man can handle more than one woman and treat all of them fairly then I don't see the problem.
    10) My views on mutah are the same views of any Muslim woman. It's a blessing Allah (swt) bestowed upon us.
    You know what? You've been asking me all these questions, why don't you define virginity for me. What makes a woman chaste and pure? Her hymen? If that's the way that you're going to look at things then any woman who was unfortunate to have a hymen that doesn't break right away should be tried and convicted as a adulteress. As for the woman who lost their virginity during a mutah marriage, what's the difference between her and a divorced woman? She did it the halal way so what part of that is unchaste?
    11) I honestly believe a woman should get married whenever she feels ready to. Marriage is highly recommended but it's not wajib. I know some amazing middle aged woman who go to a howza in Najaf that aren't married. As to when I would get married, same thing. I'll get married whenever I believe I am ready to handle the immense responsibility of being a wife and mother.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Z.M in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    I don't know why exactly they can't be patient. But I don't blame them, where I live in the summer time women are practically walking around with nothing on, and many other temptations happen and are constantly happening, that and the natural need regardless of environment to have a partner. I'm sure you've seen all the "I can't stop masturbating" and "I can't stop watching porn threads", here on Shiachat, I would rather have a man who has had a healthy relationship(s), than be a masturbating porn freak. And honestly I don't there's as alternative to that. What's wrong with a man choosing a halal way to deal with his sex drive? Plus being in mutah's isn't always about sex, men also crave love, affection, and companionship (corny right?). So I don't think anyone entering a mutah is a rabid animal. And I already mentioned that it's totally problematic if he has a reputation for being in lot's of Mutah's or what I call a man hoar. lol
    That's my opinion and it has full legitimate standing in Islam.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to kim.tinkerbell in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    How many shia men are virgins? 2? Lool
    Anyways what happened in the past should be left like that. As long as it doesnt interfer with the future.
    As long as he sticks to you and has an amazing personality , is faithful and super stronge then its all good lool.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Z.M in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    I'm not going to bother to read all the posts. But it seems most of you are against it. I don't see what's wrong with a man who has experience being with women, and seriously you expect him to be a virgin till he crosses paths with you? God.. Naive much!
    I'll have a problem if he's a "loose man" and many girls in the community can claim they've been with him, that's just gross then and he's def a player. But if he got into previous mutah's to be in a serious relationship or if he was divorced, it just shows he's mature and wants to settle down. Plus honestly everyone gots some baggage. Be it past relationships or a [Edited Out]ty childhood or whatever else.
    Another thing I personally think no one can hold you accountable about your past, especially if everything you did was halal.
    And good luck sisters finding someone to marry if this is how you screen people out.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Haydar Husayn in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    I said that it was a possible reason, not a likely one. :dry:
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Naimah* in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    Salam
    Yes, if the man was right for me I would marry him if he was divorced. If he had children it would be a more difficult decision.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to always searching sister in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    Yes, I agree with this.
    Also I think the reasons why reviving this particular sunnah are so important can be emphasized through looking at two more narrations of Imam Ali.
    1. He says: ‘Each time one door of halal is closed, 1000 doors of haraam are opened.’
    2. He says: ‘If Umar had not prohibited temporary marriage, then no one would have committed adultery except the very evil.’
    The first haddith talks about the horrendous consequences that come with closing a halaal solution provided by God. There are so many evil consequences that come with prohibiting the lawful marriage systems, which is why Imam Ali says ‘a thousand doors of haraam are opened.’ Examples of some of these haraam doors include: the break down of families, the increase in fornication, the increase in homosexuality and many other types of perversion, potential spouses losing a chance to receive the guidance that may save them, major emotional scars on the women who are passed over that could have been married, more illegitimate children who do not get to receive the love and security of a complete family, increase in crime, increase in emotional problems in both the male and the female (such as: anger, depression, suicide, marital dissatisfaction, marital quarrels, domestic abuse, etc) and major impacts on the faith of the effected people and those effected by them (such as rejecting a religion that does not appear to be compatible with human needs, or feeling as though they have betrayed their God and distancing themselves from the religion due to the overwhelming guilt of their sins).
    The list of the 1000 doors of haraam that are opened are endless. To re-open and show that halaal door again for the people is priceless. This is why it is so important to revive the sunnah of the Prophets that are lost, this is why reviving temporary marriage and other abandoned systems of marriage is so highly encouraged and this is why the Prophet says: ‘the reward of one who revives a sunnah of the Prophets, at a time it is no longer practiced, is the reward of a thousand martyrs.’
    In fact I believe it is wajib kifai on anyone who realizes that there is a need to revive a sunnah of the Prophet (and they are able to do so), for them to perform that action. The Prophet said: “If any of you saw an evil let them change it with their hand, if they can not then with their tongue, and if they can not then at least hate it in their heart and this is the lowest level of faith.”
    The narration talking about how every man should perform mutah at least one time in their lifetime, makes a lot more sense when you study it from this angle. Imagine what would happen if every man did mutah (and freely admitted to it) at least once in his life? No longer would anyone be ashamed to admit to doing mutah, no longer would anyone be in fear to use this solution, no longer would any woman be able to reject a man in marriage because he had practiced mutah before, no longer would any Muslim not know that this is an available solution to their needs and that it will protect them from losing their faith.
    The second narration talks about the consequence of prohibiting mutah which has led many to the act of fornication/adultery. To understand why this is so important, one must study the consequences of adultery/fornication, and they will see that these consequences are absolutely disastrous.
    Adultery/fornication is a major sin and most who commit this sin (except for the very evil as mentioned in the narration), would feel a tremendous amount of guilt and self-disgust (at least when they first start committing this sin). And this utter feeling of self-disgust and of being a failure would drive a major distance between a person (with a conscience) and the closeness they feel to God. They would feel so ashamed of their action, yet they would feel as though they are compelled to continue in it, because they don’t know that there is a solution provided by God for their needs. Instead they start to feel at a distance from the religion and as a reaction they either lose faith in it because it does not seem relevant and applicable to real life, or they block out the sound of their conscience because it is too painful and they are able to continue in life by avoiding thinking about life at a deeper level.
    I witnessed so many examples of this that I could tell so many stories. On one occasion I was sitting on a bus and 2 teenage boys in another row were having a discussion about religion. They said to each other, that Christianity was impossible to follow. Their aunt told them that they had to wait to have marital relations until they were married or they would go to hell. They said it is too hard, that they needed girls now, and that they hoped hell was not too bad. They did not know that God provided specific means to fulfill their needs. No one told them about early marriage and no one told them about one sentence they could say for temporary marriage and everything would be ok between them and their Lord.
    I feel deeply hurt when I ponder this narration, that no one would have committed fornication except the very evil (and many similar narrations), because I think of person after person (that I have known or that I have heard about), who went down this path of evil. Both Muslims and Christians went down this path, because they thought fornication was the only way to fulfill their needs. The love of God and a desire to have a relationship with him, had been a rock for many of these people in their youth. But what they had been told God wanted from them, they believed was impossible for them to follow. They believed only ‘saintly people’ could follow these rules, and because of this they shut down their relationship with God and shut God out of their life.
    They did not know that God loved them so much, that He would never be so cruel and place a need in them that He did not provide an outlet for fulfilling. They did not know that all they needed to do was to say one sentence and their relationship with God would be maintained, and seeing this kills me every time I witness or hear about another person’s story.
    The truth is God wants for all humanity to be happy, and so He placed the need to have companionship inside of the people in order to bring them together and he placed rules to keep this relationship safe and nurturing. Marriage and the organization of human relationships into the institution of the family, is one of the major mercy’s Allah has provided to humanity. Family and marriage provide a safe and organized outlet for each member to receive the affection, support, guidance and everything else they need from these relationships. The institution of marriage with its’ specific rules protect this place of safety, peace, comfort and nurture that every person needs to truely flourish.
    Subhanallah, when you marry or you become a mother and you ponder about the amount of love you feel towards your spouse or your baby and you reflect how this relationship was created by God, you realize just how amazing God is. How He loved you so much he wanted you to feel this overwhelming feeling of happiness and love from being with your dear ones.
    I want people to know who God is, I want people to know how much He loves them and wants to look after them in every way. I want them to see the proof of this, I want them to see that God never left them alone and unguided, He was always there and He wanted to protect us from ever falling into any hurt and guide each one of us to our greatest happiness possible. God is the one who created the love and the mercy that a mother has for her child. Just reflect on how a mother truly is. A mother is so merciful that she has patience and even more patience for her child, all she wants is the best for her child, she forgives the child one hurt after another and keeps giving him more chances to do good, she does not mind how much work she has to do for him, how much time she has to spend on him providing him lesson after lesson and everything he needs nor how tired she becomes. She does all this, not wanting anything in return from him, all she wants is to guide him and for him to grow into a good person for the sake of his own happiness. If this is the mercy of a mother, just imagine how merciful the one who created this relationship must be?
    There is a narration that speaks about the level of the mercy of the mother. The narration says: ‘Prophet Musa witnessed a man trying to push his mother off a mountain to kill her. Even while the son was trying to kill his mother, the mother still worried about him. He heard the mother say to the son “be careful when you are going down the mountain that you don’t trip and get hurt.” In that instant Prophet Musa asked “What kind of mercy is this?” Then the call came down “By God I swear that Gods mercy for his slaves is even greater than the mercy of this mother for her child.’
    And even with this best of examples we still can not comprehend His level of love and Mercy for us. The most repeated and therefore emphasised name of Allah in the Quran, is that He is Ar- Rahman, Ar-Raheem, the Merciful, the Compassionate. The level of emphasis and repetition shows us that this is what God most wants us to know about Him. He wants us to never be afraid of turning to Him for His protection. Another narration on God’s mercy that blew me away, talked about how on the day of judgement when Shaytaan sees how many people are being allowed to enter paradise and how easily people are being allowed to enter, he lines up thinking it is his turn to enter next.
    This is why I believe we need to fight for this, Imam Ali says ‘God simplified the ways of obedience.’ The full view of God’s mercy is being covered, God’s perfect solutions are being covered and this is preventing people from knowing who God really is and this is creating a distance between them and Him.
    This is why the one’s who are sincerely fighting for the revival of the sunnah’s of the Prophets and the revival of God’s laws are fighting a true jihad, they will become punching bags and a ridicule in society, but God is Greater, AllahuAkbar.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to always searching sister in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    My view on STD’s and marriage:
    - All the major STD’s (that I am aware of) that are life threatening or seriously debilitating and many of the minor ones can be tested for, so the risk of serious harm from them can be mitigated by testing. Almost all of the other ones can be easily discovered when they occur and are easily treatable. So it could be that the harm that would come from rejecting a suitable person would be greater than the harm that would come from the potential risk of contracting one of these temporary, more minor diseases. I will give more info about STDs at the bottom.
    - You can’t be sure that anyone doesn’t have an STD, they could have lied to you about their past (like the girls who have many fornication partners and then do the virginity surgery to cover up). In fact it is very common for people to lie about their past relationships because they will pay a big price in this culture if they do tell the truth. The only way to be 100% sure you won’t be exposed to the risk of catching an STD is to be celibate. Sometimes the ‘solution’ to a problem causes a greater problem than the original problem itself, as you can see with the example of staying celibate. I believe the ‘solution’ of only marrying ‘the never married before’ will create far more harm than benefit, just like the ‘solution’ of celibacy for this problem. Not only that but a spouse may lie and have relations while married (which is very common) and pass STDs this way as well.
    - I believe it is wrong to refuse to marry someone who has been married before (after testing for the major STD’s) just because there is a small chance they might have an STD, which can be easily treated if contracted. Contracting a disease is not the only harm that needs to be avoided in life. What you could be losing by not marrying them could be a far greater loss, than the benefit of the false feeling that you are 100% sure you won’t get an STD. You could be losing the person who will guide you away from hell and towards heaven. For a perceived temporary benefit of avoid a minor STD, you risk suffering a far greater harm of burning in hell (which may not be temporary). And as I mentioned before you can’t be sure anyone else would have a lower risk of STDs (because they could be lying about their past and their present), so it would not lower your risk to reject this person anyway. You just suffer the loss of potential guidance for nothing.
    - One definite harm that is being caused by rejecting a person just because they have married before, is that you are creating a very evil and damaging culture. You are basically saying that divorcees and widows can not marry again, and you are pushing them towards desperation and haraam. And you are causing many other problems like a culture of lying and an increase in fornication by those scared they will lose out on a permanent wife in the future if they marry young. Imam Ali says: ‘every time one door of halaal is closed, 1000 doors of haraam are opened.’ And a culture that represses the basic instinctual needs of the people will never be successful (such as the culture of one spouse only for an entire lifetime). It is unrealistic and unnatural, and instead a different system will and has arisen. A system of lying, hypocrisy, decrease of marriages, increase of fornication and serial monogamy (with disastrous effects such as the breaking up of families, look at how high the divorce rates are in today’s world).
    - There are far more deadly diseases than the majority of the STDs that can’t be tested for. One of the most deadly infectious disease (causing the most deaths worldwide) is tuberculosis. You can catch this just by breathing the same air as a carrier. There are many similar very deadly diseases that you can catch just from engaging in everyday situations. The solution to never catch these diseases is to completely avoid human contact. So as you can see sometimes a ‘solution’ to avoid a problem will cause far bigger problems than the one it solves. Even if a person decides to just avoid places with a lot of people (like shopping centres, mosques and public transport), they could be creating far greater problems than the problem of being exposed to a minor risk.
    - The purpose of life is not to just avoid catching diseases. God wants us to be missionary and reach out to others, and present the solutions to humanity (through our own example) that will lead to their happiness. There are risks of different harms coming to us every time we reach out to someone but sometimes the harm that will come from not reaching out to someone will be far greater than the harm that could potentially come from doing so.
    - Main point Allah has given us a system with the best solutions for every situation we can face. We just need to study each situation and see what laws are relevant and apply them.
    - Information about different STDs (I’m not from a medical background but this is from my own research and there may be other STDs I have not heard about, please do your own research also, it is good to be aware of these issues).
    1. HIV/AIDS, can be tested for. HIV can now be prevented from ever becoming AIDS and causing death by taking regular medication.
    2. Hepatitis B, can be tested for. There is also a vaccine to prevent contraction.
    3. Human Papilloma Virus, there is a vaccination for many of the strains, it has a very low risk of becoming dangerous if contracted, can be very easily discovered in twice yearly pap test that all women are encouraged to take, and once discovered is very easy to treat.
    4. Chlamydia, can be tested for in women and effectively treated.
    5. Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Candidiasis (thrush), Crabs, Trichomoniasis, Chancroid, Granuloma inguinale, can be tested and treated
    6. Scabies can be tested, are spread from any skin contact not just marital relations, can be managed.
    7. Herpes, I want to research this one more, but from what I have understood is that either usually or always the man would show visible signs of an outbreak if he contracted this. Also that the symptoms can be managed quite well and outbreaks can be greatly reduced with medications.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to ImAli in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    I am not trying to affect younger minds.......I am warning of facts. The more sexual partners you have the greater your chances....and unless you are a virgin you should get tested. These girls need to know about this because alot of times this issue is kept hush hush in more conservative homes. STD's are a real issue....considering I was married in a sharia court and they required us to both have a full physical and blood work up for STD's.......funny they didn't think it was a non issue.
    You could also say I am sick of the ignorance about the issue that is being spread in the community. In fact a few years ago before right before I got married I went to get an HPV shot (when they first came out).
    Do you know what the muslim LPN told me? She said, "You don't need to get one of those shots....arab girls don't sleep around."
    WHAT ARE YOU KIDDING ME THAT SHE TOLD ME THAT?????.....YEAH BUT 99 PERCENT OF THE ARAB BOYS SLEEP WITH ANYTHING THAT HAS LEGS BEFORE THEY GET MARRIED! That is why I want it! because you never know what your husband has done or who he has been with....even if he appears to be a perfect angel.
    Anyway I think everyone on here has the sense to know that mut3a doesn't equate to STD's....but sex with more than one person does increase the risk of STD's and the best protection is prevention and awareness.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to always searching sister in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    Yes, the woman (or man) should always study the reasons why the person has divorced or had many temporary marriages. It may well be that they have wanted a permanent marriage and it just hasn’t worked out, for perfectly legitimate reasons.
    Or it may be that this person dumps others for invalid reasons or just wants to taste and then move onto the next person. That type of person is selfish and is not interested in obeying God. God says in the Quran ‘the wasters are the brothers of the devil.’ So a truly religious man or woman would keep away from a person who is a waster.
    The main point is that a girl has to be concerned about the person she is considering marrying regardless of what she knows about his past or present. She has to investigate any potential husband very thoroughly, because she is putting her future in that person’s hands.
    First she has to know what she really wants and doesn’t want, because she can’t find what she wants in another person if she doesn’t even know it herself. Then she has to devise effective ways of testing the man for the qualities she is looking for and the qualities that she wants to avoid.
    For me the only man I can really trust to not do injustice to me is a man whose priority is obeying Allah. Because if there is ever a problem between us, there is a constitution that we have both agreed to follow that will provide a just solution to our problem. I believe God is Just and therefore He provides a perfect set of laws for humanity that will lead to their happiness. So if we are both trying our utmost to be slaves of Allah and follow His guidance, then the benefit we provide each other will far outweigh the harm.
    Imam Ali says: ‘know the truth, and you will know the truthful.’ If a girl claims that she wants someone who is truly religious, then she has to know what the truth really is, otherwise she will never be able to identify the truthful, and she is at risk of being harmed.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Ismahan007 in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    ^Always searching
    I agree with you sister, it's absolutely unislamic to reject someone just because they have been married or done muta'h before. the fact that he was married or was in muta'h indicates that he was ''trying'' to keep himself from harram, however don't you think that if someone was married many times and done muta'h as well, then doesn't the girl has the right to be concerned about her own future with this man cos if he divorced many times what prevents him from divorcing you too. i mean it might be an easy thing for him do since he done it b4 many times? is she right by thinking this way is my question?
    thanks sister:)
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to always searching sister in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    Yes I would (and I did).
    The narration of the Prophet states ‘if a man comes to you asking for your daughters hand in marriage and you are happy with his religion and his manners, then marry your daughter to him otherwise great corruption will spread on the earth.’
    It is un-islamic to reject someone solely based on them having had a temporary marriage before, having been divorced before, having children, having another wife, etc. Women who follow this crtirea would reject most of the Imams and the Prophets if they had come and asked for their hand in marriage.
    I would prefer someone who had married before or at least tried to marry, because it would indicate to me that he cared about keeping himself away from sin. I would be very worried about a man who was years past his biological maturity, who said he had not even tried to marry. I would think either he is a liar (a very dangerous quality) or that he has very low desire (which would not suit most women) or that he didn’t care about stopping himself falling into sin and he fell into some level of sin (and he may have any numbers of social sicknesses as a result of that). Even if at best he had said he was praying and being patient until he was older but never tried to get married, I would find it alarming that he would reject the solution God provided for man as a first priority, which is to try to get married young. I would wonder whether he didn’t do this because of fear of the people’s reaction, and if he put fear of conflict with the people before fear of disobeying God and falling into sin, then I would not marry him because our objectives would be different.
    I need to marry a real man, who is free and only a slave to God, not a wuss (who is a slave to his mummy, his wife or to society). He has to be able to make his own decisions, and do what he truly believes is right, regardless of what others will say. A true man would also not be a waster, and he would enter every marriage where possible with the goal that if it is able to become permanent then it will, if it is not possible for any reason it won’t. A man whose objective is to help himself and to help any creature that God sends his way.
    Also when a man (or a woman) has been divorced, you need to ask why. It may not be his fault at all that it ended.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Ismahan007 in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    lying and cheating is not from the sunnah of the prophet. yes, i aso blv muta'h is allowed but that doesn't give any man the right to lie and tell his wife he has no kids when in fact he has one from another wife. a cheat is a cheat!
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Ismahan007 in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    calm down bro/sis LOOOOOL
    she certainly doesn't mean tha LOL... that's not the akhlaq of our imams but i wouldn't be surprised if a woman did tha to her husband who cheated, lied and destroyed her life
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to lalala123 in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    I'm sure she was just saying it for effect to portray how much it would upset her if her hubby went off and did a muta.
    Honestly, If was a man, that comment would massage my ego! :P
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to ImAli in Would You Marry Someone Who Was Divorced..mut'ahss   
    I wouldn't care if he was divorced or did mut3a as long as he doesn't have any STD's and treats me well. I wouldn't even hold it against him if he had premarital sex because let's face it people make mistakes all of the time, even muslims.......but then they repent after realizing what they have done. I think if they have repented and changed that is all that matters. Also I won't be like the men who hold a woman's past against her. However if he had a child and hid it from me I would be very angry because I think that our children would have the right to know their brother or sister.....and it would also mean that he sucks as a father....a child doesn't deserve to be hidden, it is innocent and has done nothing wrong.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to lover of Mola in The Lol Topic   
    Teacher : Google is a girl or a boy..?
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    Student: Google is a Girl.....because it won't let you complete
    the whole sentence and start guessing, suggesting.....
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    you ask only one question.....
    but get hundreds of irrelevant answers in seconds...xD xD
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Inception in Who Wants To Get Married?   
    Salaam
    wawa after 36 years?! hehe, but there you go, you have it in your genes
    I don't have it in my genes and still know that Allah (swt) can make it happen..inshaAllah..but first the good husband ehhehe
    Salaam
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Faatima_ki_kaneez in A Question For Reverts   
    As'Salaamu Alaikum,
    First of all, this if my first time posting on ShiaChat, so forgive me if I do/say something wrong.
    I'm actually a college student, and a student journalist. I also write for my school newspaper. This semester, I started a column sin which I address some of the misconceptions people have about Islam. Students email me questions/comments and I respond via my column.
    I'm finding that I often have the "correct" answer, but those commenting are not willing to accept it. They are not convinced.
    My question is for any revert who is willing to answer. It is not a big surprise that Islam is not seen well in the West. there are often misconceptions attatched to Islamic practicies that are further spread due to the ignorance of the media.
    When you first converted, I'm assuming you also knew about these misconceptions/stigmas. Can you explain what some of these misconceptions were and what you were told or what you read that made you think twice.
    I think it'll help me if I get an answer from someone who has been in the situation my readers are in to help me better explain my point to them.
    I would like to add that I'm not necessarily trying to convert them to Islam, but just to promote a better understanding of the religion.
    Thanks in advance
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    yellow billed magpie got a reaction from Naz_ in Who Wants To Get Married?   
    Salam-thank you for your kind response-It brought a smile to my face:) its funny you mentioned twins because recently (maybe 2 months ago)I found out that my grandmother had a twin brother:) Dont know why my mom never bothered to mention this to me til 36 years later,lol, but yeah, ANYTHING is possible, Allahs(swt) will permitting, and even MORE so with twins being in my genetics, hahaha! Wait-that may be TOO much of a blessing at one time! A good husband AND TWINS? I would be SERIOUSLY blessed with such an event:) And greatful to Allah(swt) Have a blessed day:)
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    yellow billed magpie got a reaction from Mushkil Kusha in Who Wants To Get Married?   
    Salam-this is an interesting topic-I am a convert to Shia Islam,and feel I have much going against me in terms of marriage...My problem is this-I am 36 years old...Probably too old to have kids at this point:( So my criteria for a husband is WAY different than most of what I have seen on here, but for the same reasons. I want to complete the other half of my deen. Besides that, what I would like in a husband is for him to be a true follower of Ahl Bayt-he HAS to be rightly guided,as I am still learning ( I am absolutely devoted to Islam and am pursuing it with all my might) He HAS to have good aklaq, and be patient and loving,and perform his daily prayers!!!.Preferably older than myself by x amount of years. I believe the main emphasis of the marriage should be Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì,and his main priority MUST be to llive and conduct himself in the manner that is pleasing to Allah and for us to be involved with the Islamic community around us. I want to have someone I can support emotionally. I want to support him in his goals and endeavors. A partner to live, love, and learn with and from..I will stand next to him through thick and thin, and even sleep on the floor at the hospital if,God forbid, something happens to him Heck, I'll even work on his car with him, and help him fix things around the house (I grew up on a farm,lol) I know how to treat a man,and know they need time to themselves also.I do not nag or complain-its just not in my nature.Because of my age, I am beginning to get concerned, but THANK GOD I DID NOT MARRY BEFORE I FOUND ISLAM:), Allah(swt) knows best, and inshaAllah, I will not end up alone:) He IS all merciful:) And he knows my heart and intentions-peace to all and may Allahs(swt) blessings be upon you all and your potential/future mates:)
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    Salam-this is an interesting topic-I am a convert to Shia Islam,and feel I have much going against me in terms of marriage...My problem is this-I am 36 years old...Probably too old to have kids at this point:( So my criteria for a husband is WAY different than most of what I have seen on here, but for the same reasons. I want to complete the other half of my deen. Besides that, what I would like in a husband is for him to be a true follower of Ahl Bayt-he HAS to be rightly guided,as I am still learning ( I am absolutely devoted to Islam and am pursuing it with all my might) He HAS to have good aklaq, and be patient and loving,and perform his daily prayers!!!.Preferably older than myself by x amount of years. I believe the main emphasis of the marriage should be Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì,and his main priority MUST be to llive and conduct himself in the manner that is pleasing to Allah and for us to be involved with the Islamic community around us. I want to have someone I can support emotionally. I want to support him in his goals and endeavors. A partner to live, love, and learn with and from..I will stand next to him through thick and thin, and even sleep on the floor at the hospital if,God forbid, something happens to him Heck, I'll even work on his car with him, and help him fix things around the house (I grew up on a farm,lol) I know how to treat a man,and know they need time to themselves also.I do not nag or complain-its just not in my nature.Because of my age, I am beginning to get concerned, but THANK GOD I DID NOT MARRY BEFORE I FOUND ISLAM:), Allah(swt) knows best, and inshaAllah, I will not end up alone:) He IS all merciful:) And he knows my heart and intentions-peace to all and may Allahs(swt) blessings be upon you all and your potential/future mates:)
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    yellow billed magpie got a reaction from AnaAmmar1 in Who Wants To Get Married?   
    Salam-this is an interesting topic-I am a convert to Shia Islam,and feel I have much going against me in terms of marriage...My problem is this-I am 36 years old...Probably too old to have kids at this point:( So my criteria for a husband is WAY different than most of what I have seen on here, but for the same reasons. I want to complete the other half of my deen. Besides that, what I would like in a husband is for him to be a true follower of Ahl Bayt-he HAS to be rightly guided,as I am still learning ( I am absolutely devoted to Islam and am pursuing it with all my might) He HAS to have good aklaq, and be patient and loving,and perform his daily prayers!!!.Preferably older than myself by x amount of years. I believe the main emphasis of the marriage should be Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì,and his main priority MUST be to llive and conduct himself in the manner that is pleasing to Allah and for us to be involved with the Islamic community around us. I want to have someone I can support emotionally. I want to support him in his goals and endeavors. A partner to live, love, and learn with and from..I will stand next to him through thick and thin, and even sleep on the floor at the hospital if,God forbid, something happens to him Heck, I'll even work on his car with him, and help him fix things around the house (I grew up on a farm,lol) I know how to treat a man,and know they need time to themselves also.I do not nag or complain-its just not in my nature.Because of my age, I am beginning to get concerned, but THANK GOD I DID NOT MARRY BEFORE I FOUND ISLAM:), Allah(swt) knows best, and inshaAllah, I will not end up alone:) He IS all merciful:) And he knows my heart and intentions-peace to all and may Allahs(swt) blessings be upon you all and your potential/future mates:)
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    yellow billed magpie got a reaction from Shia_Debater in Who Wants To Get Married?   
    Salam-this is an interesting topic-I am a convert to Shia Islam,and feel I have much going against me in terms of marriage...My problem is this-I am 36 years old...Probably too old to have kids at this point:( So my criteria for a husband is WAY different than most of what I have seen on here, but for the same reasons. I want to complete the other half of my deen. Besides that, what I would like in a husband is for him to be a true follower of Ahl Bayt-he HAS to be rightly guided,as I am still learning ( I am absolutely devoted to Islam and am pursuing it with all my might) He HAS to have good aklaq, and be patient and loving,and perform his daily prayers!!!.Preferably older than myself by x amount of years. I believe the main emphasis of the marriage should be Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì,and his main priority MUST be to llive and conduct himself in the manner that is pleasing to Allah and for us to be involved with the Islamic community around us. I want to have someone I can support emotionally. I want to support him in his goals and endeavors. A partner to live, love, and learn with and from..I will stand next to him through thick and thin, and even sleep on the floor at the hospital if,God forbid, something happens to him Heck, I'll even work on his car with him, and help him fix things around the house (I grew up on a farm,lol) I know how to treat a man,and know they need time to themselves also.I do not nag or complain-its just not in my nature.Because of my age, I am beginning to get concerned, but THANK GOD I DID NOT MARRY BEFORE I FOUND ISLAM:), Allah(swt) knows best, and inshaAllah, I will not end up alone:) He IS all merciful:) And he knows my heart and intentions-peace to all and may Allahs(swt) blessings be upon you all and your potential/future mates:)
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Mushkil Kusha in Who Wants To Get Married?   
    salaamz,
    I want to get married so I could complete half my faith. So I could be closer to my lord. My prayers in my lords eyes will be valued more. So I can be protected from Shaitan 70%. So my Faith gets strengthened. Ofc have kids (LOVE KIDS:D) Have a wonderful family who just submits to the ALL MIGHTY. INSHALLAH.
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