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yellow billed magpie

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    yellow billed magpie got a reaction from Inception in Prayer During Earthquakes/eclipses   
    Salam-Why do we perfom prayer during solar/lunar eclipses and earthquakes? Thanks in advance-
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Legendary in Would You Dye Your Hair When Your Gray   
    What ever my husband likes :)
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    yellow billed magpie got a reaction from Hameedeh in Would You Dye Your Hair When Your Gray   
    Salam:) I had already been dying my hair for such a long time, I didnt even know what my natural color even was anymore, lol! When I converted to Islam, I decided to accept whatever color it was that Allah had given me-AND IT LOOKS NOTHING LIKE ANY OF MY FAMILY MEMBERS :wacko: Very strange! Either way, I am through with dying it- it is a pain to keep up and I can do something better with my money, like help a hungry person:) But this is just my opinion. And because I was SO traumatized by what just happened to me, I can not resist mentioning it here-My husband came home the other day and he had dyed his beard AND his hair! I was like"NOOOOOOOOOO!!!! What did you DOOOOO????? He had salt and pepper colored hair and it was SO beautiful to me...Coupled with his wisdom and knowledge and beautiful smile and brown eyes and aklaq...MashAllah! But now he dyed it :no: Oh well...At least thats the only thing that changed,and none of the other aspects of himself:) It will grow back eventually,and he is still beautifiul to me:) Peace!
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    yellow billed magpie got a reaction from zeinab94 in Would You Dye Your Hair When Your Gray   
    Salam:) I had already been dying my hair for such a long time, I didnt even know what my natural color even was anymore, lol! When I converted to Islam, I decided to accept whatever color it was that Allah had given me-AND IT LOOKS NOTHING LIKE ANY OF MY FAMILY MEMBERS :wacko: Very strange! Either way, I am through with dying it- it is a pain to keep up and I can do something better with my money, like help a hungry person:) But this is just my opinion. And because I was SO traumatized by what just happened to me, I can not resist mentioning it here-My husband came home the other day and he had dyed his beard AND his hair! I was like"NOOOOOOOOOO!!!! What did you DOOOOO????? He had salt and pepper colored hair and it was SO beautiful to me...Coupled with his wisdom and knowledge and beautiful smile and brown eyes and aklaq...MashAllah! But now he dyed it :no: Oh well...At least thats the only thing that changed,and none of the other aspects of himself:) It will grow back eventually,and he is still beautifiul to me:) Peace!
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to habib e najjaar in Question For Sisters (from A Brother)   
    (salam)
    A stranger saying salam to you and insisting on a response, or waiting for an audible response is not too decent. However, I see no problem if a person says salam and goes their way (not waiting to hear you respond, or for you to respond) or simply just pass.. there is no harm in not saying salam in such a scenario :donno:
    (wasalam)
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Shia_Debater in Bumping In To A Non-mahram Hijab-less   
    Is there another SD that I don't know about... or did something happen to me which I don't remember happening...
    coworker? I don't even work :donno:
    :wacko:
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Waiting for HIM in Bumping In To A Non-mahram Hijab-less   
    Pick a hijab book, see how it is done and in front of who it needs to be done.
    Then do it.
    And do not listen to any body's BS be it your grand parents, parents, or siblings, or cousins, or friends.
    Allah's commands supersede all other's commands and wishes.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to 3laweyaZainabiya in Bumping In To A Non-mahram Hijab-less   
    (salam)
    Lol only happened once when I was thirteen.
    I was visiting iraq and I hadn't been used to having cousins around and it was so hot. I went into the kitchen thinking "why would the guys come in here??"
    So I partially took off my hijab only to hear my cousin drop a tray of empty tea cups trying to turn around >.<
    I felt bad because he got a lecture... Lol
    But I'm glad that my cousin feared Allah more than the wrath of my grandmother over the tea cups lol
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to muslimah1 in Bumping In To A Non-mahram Hijab-less   
    salam
    i hate when someone sees me without my hijab its the worst feeling in the world!
    once i was at home and my non-mahram cousin came and i was full speaking to him normal asking about his mum then i realised he was looking at me funny his face was like what the hell is wrong with this girl... so i slowly touched my head and realised i didnt have hijab on :wacko:
    i just scream and ran inside loll. i just cried and cried and cried read koran then hamdellah relaxed abit haha
    when ever someone sees me without hijab i automatically reach for my koran... it comforts me :)
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to kim.tinkerbell in Bumping In To A Non-mahram Hijab-less   
    Loool at the storys lool
    Hide quick.....
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Sweetn in Bumping In To A Non-mahram Hijab-less   
    The most awkward moment was when I was going to my basement and I had my hijab a little loose so half the hait was showing and suddenly my neighbour came (he's about 2 years older than me) and I totally panicked. But alhamdolillah,the guy was nice ,when he saw me he lowered his gaze although he wasn't a muslim so that really did me happy :) Not happy but like it was kind of "cool" (can't fins the exact word) that he respected me and didn't look up because he knew I was a hijabi.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Aabiss_Shakari in How To Find A Wife(help From The Sisters)   
    Recite two Rak'at prayer with the niyah of Namaz e Hajat and pray to Allah for a good spouse. This is what is taught by Mola Ali a.s. You will be blessed with a good wife within six months Inshallah. (Experience is a good teacher :) ).
    It has two benefits.
    1. Your search will end soon that it is Allah only who decides and His decision is always best. It may happen that you do not like some one or some one do not like you but Allah will make best match of you.
    2. As your spouse will be the gift of Allah after your prayer therefore, your spouse will be loyal and loving because Allah does not give defective gifts :)
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to ImAli in Would You Dye Your Hair When Your Gray   
    I bet it will look nice when it grows back (thick and healthy new hair)
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to lalala123 in Is It A Sign?   
    It's probably on your mind a lot, so you notice his name more.
    Also, I don't think you're actually meant to do istekhara for the purpose of marriage, but i think now it's done, you have to stick with the outcome. *I think*
    Plus, 7 years isn't too much of an age gap. I think it's a good gap. He will be a little older, more likely a bit more settled etc. If he is a good guy, I would advise you to consider it seriously. I say that as someone who has been looking for a good guy for a long time and they really are very rare!
    :)
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Shia_Debater in Homosexual Muslims   
    and as for the denying and being lonely part, there are many trials different people go through (in my opinion), for example lets say I want to get married all my life and no one wants to marry me (whether it be permanent marriage or temporary [Mutah]), then I too, even though I am straight, would not be able to act on my desires,and would be "lonely" all my life as all the other ways of acting on my desires would be haram i.e. committing sex outside of marraige, masturbation etc..
    however the reason why I personally wouldnt see it as being lonely, is because I would acknowledge that when I die I would get a reward in return for this "loneliness" that I went through, sure I may not have asked for it, however God knows better than us, I am sure that if you did believe in heaven and hell, and you were either straight or gay but never managed to get a partner (either due to someone not wanting to marry you [straight] or it being haram [gay]) and you acknowledged that God would reward you with something massive in return, then even if you did mind, after you died and got that massive reward you would be happy.
    Our 5th Imam, Imam al-Baqir (as) says that if man knew the reward he got for going through difficulties and hardships he would cut himself into small pieces.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Shia Fursan in Homosexual Muslims   
    (bismillah)
    Even if homosexuality is a "natural process", as so many corrupt people in the west say it is, does that make it OK?
    Lets expand the theory a little - if people are "born" as homosexuals, people are also born as paedophiles, murderers, rapists - does that mean paedophilia, murdering and raping is OK?
    If so, then throw out the rule book, and let anyone do whatever they want.
    Being homosexual itself is not a sin in Islam, but acting on those urges is a sin, just like how having sex outside marriage is.
    Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen Ali [a] said: “If man perceived his death and its speed towards him, he would certainly detest the world and its hopes.”
    The Holy Prophet said: “After myself, I fear of three things for my Ummah: misguidance after knowledge, misleading temptations, and the lust of the stomach and the privy parts.”
    (salam)
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to y3qub in Homosexual Muslims   
    I just want to make a comment on people's views, rather than give input. I hope that's okay.
    People can be very quick to judge others and the struggles they are given. So the majority of people aren't given the same struggle, it doesn't make the homosexual person's struggle less worthy of empathy. Muslims who have an attraction to people of the same gender know what acts are and are not acceptable in Islam, none are claiming otherwise (to my knowledge, anyway).
    When somebody says they are homosexual they mean they are attracted to a person of the same gender, i.e. a man likes another man or a woman likes another woman. It doesn't necessarily involve acts: there are homosexuals who never act upon their desire, just as there are heterosexuals who have sex with men of the same gender (i.e. situational homosexuality).
    If you want to help your fellow Muslims, support them in their struggle. Every Muslim has their own personal struggle.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Inception in Are You A Feminist?   
    1. No, I see now the burden men have, and understand that women wouldn't handle all burden/responsiblities in the same way..
    2. already answered that, define it as striving to have equal statues between gender with women in a "weaker" position to start with..
    3. Not sure I understand the question?? that muslim womanism would mean that we are striving to have better conditions for a muslim woman??
    4. yes, me and my sis wore hijab because we wanted to alhamdulillah, the men in our family were pushing, but we did it at the time we were ready for it, and we were not afraid of them..they are not forcing us in that meaning..alhamdulillah..
    5. I thaught women were already involved in politics?? why would you say that? is it a specific country you are thinking about? the males would NOT fight for our rights as females would do, so no, I wouldn't like to just chill when men are deciding things for us as a group...so the woman is a teacher, a doctor, a lawyer, a taxi driver, university professor...but dumb when it comes to politics??? (that awakened my feminism heheh)
    6. I never understood the rules of menstruation, so I just kept doing what I learned from mom, so yes that would make a huge difference..I don't think translating Quran should be gender biased, it sounds like most if not all translators will change the meaning of ayah because he didn't like giving woman thier rights or something??? I don't our olama'a (the greatest ones like Sistani :) ) have this mentality, I think it's more the local scholars that twist things according to thier local culture and society...I have faith in the brightest names we have.. alhamdulillah..
    7. in my family, I wasn't treated unfairly in a direct way, culture is there in the family..soooo...ok, yes, I think we can call it unfair afterall..about men in the community, we have faced alot of them..about a scholar lecturing women for anything...the scholar's job is to lecture all of us, not only women..about everything..women holding lectures and so should definitely be engaged, I mean women around here are engaged alhamdulillah..but the scholar/lecturer should point out all flaws/mistakes/disrespect we do in our lives..
    8. that doesnt happen in all muslim cultures, so its a weird question for me, has to do more with culture not islam..but definitely the most idiotic thing human can do..I mean we prove over and over again that we are just a punch of opressors and abusers waiting for our chance to break Geneiss records in inhumanity..
    9. It's a solution for many problems, if there is no problem, why you go for it??? you have no reason for it, there is no war and alot of widoes in your society, you are not travelling far way from your wife, u have a good wife and children...so why?? becuase you desire some variation in your life??? so, can your wife desire variation in her life too?? she is a human being, the science has claimed...my feminism again
    10. I thought mutah is not about virginity to start with?? well, if you are a virgin, then you have to ask permission from your father, then it will feel like a regular marraige..if not virgin, then you have your reasons to do it..
    if its about the man..so if he did marry mutah for good reasons (by the way, he doesnt need to tell you) I dont mind, but if he does it to have many "halal" girl friends, then no...this is a part of jihad, and if u can not do jihad in this thing you will not do jihad in other contexts..so it depends, otherwise, mutah, in its real meaning where both males and females are taking into consideration, yes no problem at all..but then comes the culture hehehe, and in culture, girls dont do mutah..so if we want to blame for unfair rules, its the culture, not islam..
    11. It depends, there are career oriented girls like me, and there are family oriented girls..so for me, it was natural to pursue my degree first, then I didnt feel the rush to marry soon after graduation...honestly, now I'm paniking, Im 31..so its time, honestly, I shouldn't have waited so long, but first I was drifted away with my career and then elhamdulillah alhamdulillah, I helped my family alot the past years, so sometimes I feel it was a blessing that I wasn't married in those difficult times, because I wouldn't be able to help them as much as I did (or handle the situation in a good way myself)..but ofcaurse sometimes or alot of times I wish I was married earlier, but not so much earlier..
    But only Allah knows what is best, so I try not to set a limit for marriage age or so..
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Inception in Are You A Feminist?   
    Salaam aleykom
    to be honest, I was a hard core feminist, now when I asked and read and learned, I have no problem with islam itself, because I found out that alot of injustise come come from culture not islam itself..you don't realise what a relief that is to me..now I'm so convinced about every singe rule in islam, doesnt mean Im super muslim but I dont argue like before, and dont get easily nervous about these things anymore alhamdulillah
    so your questions..
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Mehvish in Are You A Feminist?   
    Actually, I do mind. You are free to post here, of course, since you are not breaking any rules. However, your input is completely defeating the point of the thread. I do not mean to single you out because I know its tempting and there are a few other men who have taken it upon themselves to give their opinions on a thread where I really wanted to explore what Shia women think and feel about certain things.
    It is important for people, and in this case especially women to understand that it is okay to have difficulties understanding certain concepts or accepting certain things that may be "halal" and be uncomfortable with them. Judging from the responses I've seen here, even though certain things might be halal or haram everybody (again this is from what I have observed) faces some tensions between what they feel and what is "islamically" right and wrong. Its important to highlight these tensions, not to criticize Islam, but to figure out how we can confront them, because I truly believe Islam is a religion for all times.
    While the men on this board do make a lot of contributions, this is simply a domain they cannot contribute toward. They can lay down all the hadiths, ayats and "objective" opinions they want, but that doesn't change or help how we feel about gender-specific issues.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to WhiteSkies in Are You A Feminist?   
    2. Do you consider yourself a feminist? If so, how do you define 'feminism'? If not, why not?
    If we take the definition of feminism to be "the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men", then no I don't consider myself to be a feminist. The reason for this lies with the fact that I am happy with the position given to me by Islam and I have to reason to pursue what is seen as 'equal rights' by others (usually the Western world). However, that said, in many Islamic cultures women are not even respected like they should be in Islam, in such cases I do consider my self to be a feminist as I'm not being given my rights (given to me by Islam) and so I need to pursue them.
    4. Do you wear hijab? If not, why not? - If you used to wear the hijab, and decided to take it off, what led you to your decision?
    I do wear hijab (you didn't really ask 'why' so I shall leave it at that :P )
    6. For example, some women feel that there needs to be translations of the quran by women, or more female scholars to interpret the fiqh rules for women (as opposed to having a male ayatollah decide the rules for them). Do you think they might be unfair or unreasonable? 7. On a similar note, do you think the lecturers in mosques do a fair job talking about women's issues? Many of us have heard Ammar's rant about Muslim women who don't wear their hijabs properly. Are you okay with male preaches lecturing women about their hijab? or should women be the ones engaging in this discussion themselves?
    I think that questions 6 and 7 have elements of similarity and so I have put them together and taken out the parts I haven't thought of or have no interest in. Apologies, I hope that is okay? :blush:
    I don't have any problem with an Ayatollah telling me what I should do, what my rights are as a women, what are my duties as a women etc. I doubt that a scholar would purposely hold a bias approach to women and tell them things which are not Islamic. If anything, I think that if a woman was to interpret the fiqh rules for women they would hold more bias (as opposed to men) as they would be deciding on laws about themselves. To be honest, I don't really see any difference if a women did the translations of the Qur'an.. if anything I would look for the best and most learned person (when reading a translation) rather than worrying about their gender. On the other hand, I do feel encouraged by women who decide to study Islam as if anything, when lecturing, they can speak from experience when discussing female issues whereas with male speakers won't be able to and it may be hard for female listeners to be able to connect with them. An added bonus would also be that it can be awkward asking a male scholar about female issues (in person as opposed to online) and many women would probably feel a lot more comfortable talking to a woman.
    8. How do you feel about female circumcision?
    Apart from the fact that it is a horrible practice? I don't really think this is an issue in many Islamic cultures..
    9. What are your thoughts about polygamy?
    I don't have any particular views on polygamy however I do believe it should only be practised by men who can actually remain fair to all wives, whether there is such a man who can do that or not is another question. Though admittedly, being the romantic that I am, the idea of me being the only one for my (hypothetical) husband and him being the only one for me, appeals to me much more.
    10. What are your thoughts about mutah? Does (or did) your virginity hold any special importance to you?
    I don't have a problem with mu'ta at all really, I believe that you might as well stay with one women (for a period of time) in a halal way, rather than committing zina with your eyes with 20 women/men. That said though, I agree with mu'ta in theory however it is not really an option for many women who would probably be shunned by men when it came to permanent marriage.
    11. What age do you want to get married/What age do you think women should get married? Before college? After pursuing a career?
    The thing is, when people are on their own for so long, they develop their own lifestyles and when it comes to marriage they find that their lifestyles clash too much. Consequently, I think it is much better to get married young so you can grow and develop with your significant other
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to _JuGNii in Weird Stuff That You Think Only You Do   
    ^^ Errr yea only you do that :|
    Well.sometimes im walkin on the.path and I see a car coming.. I pic a point ahead.. I pick.a wish in my head.. And says to myself.. If I (WALK) get to that point before the car my wish will be fulfilled..
    P.S.. Good job you cant see me do my quick almost running walk..
    & yes im weird..!
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Gotham in Weird Stuff That You Think Only You Do   
    i used to climb the walls in my hallway, with one foot on each wall.
    i only eat green bananas-- unripe ones.
    if im on the bus/in line, i make up stories about the people around me.
    i count how many steps i take while im walking up/down stairs. if im outside i count how many squares ive walked on.
    if i ever say a sentence, i count how many syllables the sentence has in my head.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to satyaban in A Christian Mystic's Interpretation Of Hell   
    I want to say between 3000 and 2500 bce but I can not verify it right now because all of my books were lost when my apartment burned down on 30 Dec 2011.
    The Dead Sea Scrolls are almost a copt of Z's scripture.
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    yellow billed magpie reacted to Haydar Husayn in Are You A Feminist?   
    I don't know why you assume that, and anyway it has a strict definition. People can't just use words to mean something they don't.
    Nobody I suppose, but this is hardly a good state for a Muslim woman to be in.
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