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:Ruffles

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  1. Salaam brother, There are :Muslim brothers and sisters being oppressed and slaughtered every day and you cant get over a petty post/thread count thing on a silly website??? Please be more mature and maybe spend more time reflecting or trying to help others and less time making useless threads that the admins will not care much for anyway. ws
  2. Salaam, Unless both the male and female are close in maturity level, I would not recommend it.
  3. You really only need the B12 from meat. You need so little B12 to survive that eating meat once every 30 or 40 days should be enough. Its very difficult to get b12 *naturally* from plants (its usually fortified into processesed products like tofu). I was actually meat intolerant, meaning I got food poisoning to some degree literally every time I ate meat, which is a main ingredient in most paki dishes. So that's why I gave up meat but after going a few months without eating meat, it seems like I can now eat it occasionally without getting sick :Allhumdulilah :D But I still dislike the taste and texture of meat... The only time I really enjoyed the taste of meat was when a family freind who hunts his own deer to eat made some for us. It was so tasty! And that's coming from a person who hates steak (no matter how its cooked, medium rare, well done, etc.).
  4. Here was the reply: Subject: Fast Istifta’ no.: 459797 Bismihi Ta`ala Salamun `alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu If her not fasting was due to being unaware about the ruling or fasting was unbearably hard for her, she is not required to pay kaffarah rather it suffices to make up for the missed fasts in qada'. However, you should notice that if delaying the qaḍā’ until the next Ramadan is due to negligence and without any shar‘ī excuse, one should pay kaffarah of delay i.e. one mudd (750 grams) of food (wheat, bread, rice, etc.) to the needy for each day. However, if one has an excuse for the delay preventing them from performing valid fasts, kaffarah of delay is not required. With prayers for your success
  5. Its not girls who disapprove of men in school for marriage, its their parents usually. Dont just pray for yourself to get married, try to change the mindset of your community! Maybe give a talk on it and things.
  6. There are 20+ languages in India, they may share similar words with different meanings. People who speak Tamil in india cannot understand Hindi or urdu at all, but ill give you this example:Ask an indian/paki to say "like this" in urdu. It will sound very similar to the english word "essay" but mean something completely different. Or ask them to say "flower" in urdu and it will sound very similar to the word "pool" in english. Or ask a Kashmiri to say "hug" and it kinda sounds like an American from the sounth saying "my two"
  7. It is very difficult to get a person to change their lifestyle if they dont already want to do it on their own, and she will be likely to fall back into bad old habits. Sugar is addictive after all, so if a girl is overweight due to sugar,even if she gives it up, relapse may happen. She has to have the will power to change and be working on it on her own before she gets married because wanting to change for another human rarely continues to motivate a person in the long term. (She has to want to change for the sake of :Allah)
  8. salaam, please respond to my PM. Thanks.

  9. Salaam, No, I will be leaving sc so youll have to skype Br sami and ask him to add you to the group. Ws
  10. I dont think he will be using sc much anymore. If you wish to contact him, you should be able to find his skype name on his profile feed. Ws
  11. There is no rules or contract in dating and usually parents get involved after the fact with dating (like after the couple has dated for awhile and think its "time to meet the parents") whereas with :Mutah, the family tends to be involved in the very beginning especially if the female is a virgin.Yes, some people do :Mutah in an indecent or completely wrong way, but we do not let the hypocrites or ignorant ones define :Islam.
  12. Unfortunately I am not that scholarly myself but I have heard lectures where they point out the subtle differences between ayas and what the meaning and reason for it is. I will try to link you a lecture later iA.
  13. There are deeper understandings to the :Quran that simply "do this and not that." You should listen to Nouman Ali Khan, I dont know if he records them and posts them on youtube, but he has given lectures along with many others on deeper meanings of the :Quran by looking at exact wording and whatnot. We are :Shias, not wahabis who take the :Quran only at face value. Ws
  14. There is wisdom in the repition. Firstly, any good teacher knows that repetition is one of the best tools in teaching, especially if a student is only listening or reading and not doing an action. Second, there are signs in the repition, like how the word :Imam appears 12 times in the :Quran. Also the repition helps making memorization easier. Im sure there is more but there are three points for you. Ws
  15. :Ruffles

    "selfies"

    Usually men only save female's photos if theyre family (Like maybe an uncle) or if they are prevs who plan to look at them again for enjoyment. That is why you were labelled as a weirdo. You and marbles make me glad I dont use fb anymore. If I had a male friend who was saving my nice photos, Id punch in the face also. Its disrespectful to save other people's photos even if its not illegal. You as a :Muslim should not be saving and re looking at nice pictures of females anyway. Lower your gaze bro.
  16. And to whom did he say this to brother? I have heard it also.Ws
  17. Salaam, this seems illogical. If it is predestined who your mother and father will be (since you said all other relationships are predestined) then that means it would have to be predestined that your parents would meet and be together also.
  18. Yeah I just did that. I am just worried because fasting is a major pillar in :Islam so it might count as negligence for me not knowing it was obligatory to fast until I got older. If it counts as negligence, I think I would still have to fast 60 days for each missed fast. And my parents would forbid me to fast on weekdays so I did fast on weekends but I did miss a just a few of those also during those years...
  19. Okay, do you have a reference for that sister?
  20. Salam, So my family is more on the "liberal" side when it comes to :Islam. As a result, from ages below about 13 yrs, my parents did not tell me I had to fast during ramadan and often times would forbid me from fasting because they thought I was too young to fast. My question is, do I have to do qadha or kaffarah on the fasts I missed from the ages of 9-12 ? Because that would mean about 28 days x4 x60 days which would mean I have more than 18 years of continuous fasting to do! And I dont have the means to feed 6000+ poor people instead. Is there a cap on how many fasts one has to make up? Ws
  21. You ironically talk about how the boomers were racist, yet you have prejudices against the group of boomers. You blame them but keep in mind science was not as advanced back then and corporations still create a lot of waste, you dont see it because its mostly overseas. Sure they had major slip ups, but hey so do we. We allow our government today to use drones in foreign :Muslim countries to get terrorists, but usually the drones also end up killing many innocent civilians. This leads to those civilians hating America and more terrorists being created. Yet we continue this cycle of killing terrorists and making more terrorists because drones are cheaper monetarily than other means.
  22. Salaam, First off I'd like to say Mexicans are some of the hardest working people I have ever met in America. Second, I have family in texas too but I dont actually know much about the local economy or what living there long term is like. You should ask your in-laws about that. Third, we have no free health care. You must buy health insurance and usually it won't even help much in covering your health bills. So just keep that in mind. If you get super sick, :Allah forbid, it could be costly and I know my brother's doctor refuses to take insurance at all now so we would have to pay full price for any visit. One time I got a blood test for something and the insurance company didn't want to pay for most of it so they billed us about $600 for the blood test which ended up being useless anyway... if you're lucky though, your company might give you a good insurance plan but they will cut the cost of the insurance out of your paycheck anyway. Also, different parts of the country are more racist than others. Some places are super tolerant and some places people insult you to your face (ive had this happen multiple times to a few people I know but :Allhumdulilah I personally havent faced much racism.) But I know there's a big :Muslim community in texas so hopefully that shouldn't be a problem :Inshallah And keep in mind most parts of texas are hot whereas the UK is relatively cold in comparison. Some places dont even get snow. Finally, before you move here, thoroughly research how the job market is for your field. Some fields have high demands and others have very low. The cost of living is increasing, incomes have platued, and you dont want to be without a job Good luck Ps. I personally wouldn't move to the U.S. but that's because since I moved from canada, ive wanted to go back there since its better in a lot of ways imo, but canada is also going down hill these days :( P.p.s- home prices vary from place to place but in most places you can get a 3000sqft place for about 300k give or take. The houses my in my old subdivision were 3500-3800 sqft and they cost between 360k-430k depending on the market and house size/age. I know my family lived in a 2 bedroom apartment with two bathrooms and balcony, it was about 750sqft and we paid $700 or so a month. The complex also had a pool and gym and it was in a good school district so not bad.
  23. I will have to save at least a few years from now since im in uni. :/ Maybe ill give one of these creams a try anyway...
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