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kim.tinkerbell

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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Zaynab_fr in A Women's Jihad Is Pleasing Her Husband?   
    Am not going to responed to everyone,but the only two people I agree with are notme and fatmia hussain.
    I dont understand the other females on this plateform,thats all am going to say for today.....
    I too would like to quote a couple of sayings... Am only quoting them because am sick of people quoting for one gender and what they should be doing...
    "God will not accept prayer and good deeds of a man who harasses his wife and he is among the first people to enter the Hell."
    "I bring God as witness that I never made Fademah (as) angery and never made he do anything."
    "Woman are like flowers. They should be treated gently,kindly, and with affection."
    "Be kind and considerate to your woman. She is a tender flower, and not your slave in the household." Imam Ali (as)
    Some woman and men need to understand that not every woman will agree or like your suggestion. If a man is marrying someone like the op or other sisters with similar view then he can marry up to 4. But if he is going for someone similar to myself, they should think twice ( or 10) before even considering or speaking about this matter...
    Were not alike,what doesnt hurt you can deeply hurt another person. And life is not just about pleasing your husband, theirs others that you need to please eg your family,specially your mother that gave brith to you....
    You cant buy respect,you earn it and if you want to be respected then you to should respect the person your with. Respect a man who can protect you, that helps you,that supports you in your ups and downs. Not a man that has no reason for you to respect him....
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Sirius_Bright in Abu Lulu Committed Haram, Yes Or No?   
    Salam,
    Umar got what he desrves.
    Abu lulu is the best,lol.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Hameedeh in Your Own Great Quotes   
    A tongue can kill, so be gentle when you speak....
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from shia farm girl in Wife Beating Verse   
    How the hell did he come up with a possibility that wadrbhunna may mean separate??? Its clear it means hit them, why didnt it say ofrkuhuma ( separate them)?
    Anyways men that hit their wifes arint men....
    So can the woman use this method to get a message across , not the hitting approach because that just disrespectful and not right. But the strike approach if he wasnt treating her right, can she ignore him?
    There seems to be alot of punishments for woman, what will happen to the guy if he hitted her and broke her jaw? What he pays her and there done or does he have a punishment in the afterlife.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from thirsty seeker in Insecurity ; What To Do ?   
    How could you jump to all this conclusions without any evidence. What do you know about her to speak about her faith and so on?
    You know Allah is watching what you write,and speaking about her in this mannar is by far ugler. You dont even know her side of the story...
    Keep your stuiped assumptions to your self next time...
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Ali.Isa in How To Avoid A Haram Look.   
    Wsalam,
    Loool, havent you seen enough of her?
    Look at her eyes or forehead when your talking to her.
    Between whats the gay test,lol.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Rightly Guided Benefactor in Convict Beaten Before Execution In Iran   
    It's only Allah who can bring you fulll justices. The legal systems we have are good but do they bring full justices to victum,that's another story. The system only shows the criminales that the will be punished and makes the socity feel safe,as their is law and order.
    The death penalty is a good punishment, it not only saves the socity from the guy commiting more crime but it also safes him from doing more sins and saves him from wrong doing to himself/nafs.
    His punishmet is better then what the west gives. Where you dont see much justice, and yes,just because there is law and order it doesnt mean everyone will get justice's. Their are criminals that walk out freely,so yes, your not always going to see justices and that's why we have Allah,he will bring the haq of every mathluma and will punish those that need further punishment.
    Alisalah, I have done jury services,and it is a big responsibality and pressure. You can only judge on the information you have and sometimes,theirs not enough information to bring justices for certain cases. You and 10 other people have to agree to one decision, and being young and sentancing someone is a big thing and it's a massive responsibility because you dont want to do injustice to the guy or girl that is or is being accused of doing the crime. I learnt alot from that experience and found that the punishment they give some people are much lighter then what they desrve and as a resulte you see the same criminales coming back to prison for doing another thing that's wrong.. They dont learn, the guy I judged with other got 10 years, 5 years in and 5 years out, you would think that is a big punishment for a guy that did robbery,but then you hear his history of crimes,other robberies,raping his wife,use of weapon x and y and you wonder how in the hell, did they let this man go back outside and cause more crime? Did the sentance bring full justices to the victums and socity?....
    Anyways, I am not above the law, but the law doesnt always work in your favour or the socities favour nor does it always bring back full justice to the victum and their family.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Rightly Guided Benefactor in Convict Beaten Before Execution In Iran   
    I wouldnt view this case as revange but rather justices. If we let this man go would that bring justice? Will it heal the socity and victum? We can not call this a revangful act because the murder never got what he real desrved. If revanage was implented,then he would of be tortured badly and cut before he get's the final excaution.
    I doudt thr victum will feel save even when the rapiest is dead. And the flashback of the situation will always be with her,the way I see it he has killed the victum from the inside... And the victum will take a longer time to recover..
    Yes,the murders family will to have flashbacks of how their son died but that is nothing in comparesint to what the victum and her family want throu and are still going throu.
    I think it will affect us more if we dont see justices, and let's be honesty half of the punishments dont even bring back the haq that the victum desrved.
    It will be seen as revenge to some ,but with out revange/karma we will never see justices...
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Al-Englisi in Coconut Oil For Skin   
    Salam,
    You can try amazon or ebay,they have good prices. You just need a tiny bit. I brought this conditioner that has argan oil for like £10.00 from tk max, the bottle is big, I been using it for a while and it still not finished.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from A true Sunni in Al-Sistani's On Insulting The Wives And Companions   
    I dont understand why people would ask a less knowledgable person about a very knowledgable person. Sistaniee is the most knowledagble person in the sahha, no one needs to take yassier approvel to prove this.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from struggling_On in Bumping In To A Non-mahram Hijab-less   
    Loool at the storys lool
    Hide quick.....
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Shabnam Rizvi in I Don't Understand Why...   
    It's early. Am 23 and sometimes I think its way to early to get married. In my head 26 seems to be the right age,but ofcourse if you find the right indivudal then maybe you worint see it as to early..
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from labaikYaZahra in Having A Break From Your Wife   
    Salam,
    Different people have different definations of cheating. What your husband is doing now,might be considered as cheating to some people and to others it may be normal.
    He can be asking for space to reflect on his actions,or to get away with his next act. To be honest with you,you should of been the one that asked for spaces first,especialliy if your not happy about what his doing. Dont view the space thing negativelly,infact think of it as a positive thing you can reflect the situation see if his worth your time and go enjoy yourself,you dont need to think about him 24/7.
    And dont go running to him when his back,make him wait. I personally dont like the fact,that a guy can send you home when he wants and can pick you up when he wants.That is just not right in my view.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from ksot91 in Having A Break From Your Wife   
    Salam,
    Different people have different definations of cheating. What your husband is doing now,might be considered as cheating to some people and to others it may be normal.
    He can be asking for space to reflect on his actions,or to get away with his next act. To be honest with you,you should of been the one that asked for spaces first,especialliy if your not happy about what his doing. Dont view the space thing negativelly,infact think of it as a positive thing you can reflect the situation see if his worth your time and go enjoy yourself,you dont need to think about him 24/7.
    And dont go running to him when his back,make him wait. I personally dont like the fact,that a guy can send you home when he wants and can pick you up when he wants.That is just not right in my view.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from -Fatima- in Jersusalem: Synagogue Attack   
    To be fair this attack is not going to help the paliestines one bit. We can order say rip to 100 palistienes from now,because you know so that the isrealies worint settle down and take this attack lightley. And yes,if isreal attacks palistien then it will be just called self defending and vice versa. And the cycle continues untill theirs no humans left to kill..
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from rafidhi1986 in Turkish Youth Beat Up An American Soldier   
    How do they know that those two guys were soliders?
    Bunch of idoits,if you want to prove a point theirs no need to attack innocent people,go for the big dogs and discuss your issues with them.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from hasanhh in How Active Are You All In Your Communities?   
    Am only active sometimes on shiachat,lol. What you faces online is preety much what you face offline...
    Commuinities only welcome there own people,you have groups of people that only interact with eachother,you have rude people that look like they dislike you for no reason...
    I cant stand that,and thats why I dont goo. Am suprised that I have been active in this place,with the amount of hate/critism I have recived..
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from iCambrian in My Wife Wants A Divorce For No Valid Reason   
    Well theirs something missing here. No woman crys for no reason.
    And I dont think holding her tight was the reason as to why she cried. You need to talk to her to understand why shes behaving this way.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Hameedeh in Minimum Of Prayer For Person With Down Syndrome   
    Salam,
    He can read surat al kwather after reading al fatiha,it's short. Whatever small thing he does will be accepted inshallah,dont put to much pressure on him. Get him to repeat the words after you,and say the salah in a loud (not overly loud) voice,so he can hear you and he can remmber the words.
    If he has a problem he will not get punished for not being able to remmber or to stay still while praying.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from Ethics in My Grandmother Passed Away   
    Wsalam,
    Allah er'hamaha. May her soul rest in peace and may god be with you and your family.
    Tc
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from power in Why Cussing Should Be Avoided   
    Salam,
    Our imams (as) didnt give anyone any reasons to curse them,thats the difference. What happened in ashurah,shows that the people we are putting the highest respect to will not appricate the goods you will do for them. Honestly whats left? Next thing, you know will say ,oh brothers and sisters dont send la3na on yazid (ra) our beloved sunni/wahabi brothers might get offended.
    Never have I seen a sunni care so much about how his follow shia brother/sister feels. They (not all of them,oofcourse) call us mushrikeen,kafar and more,yet we still will make 10 million excaues for them and try to stand by them. Some shias have gone as far as saying will protect our sunni brothers and sisters before ourselfs. Never in my years have I seen even in a mu'jamalaa way a sunni come up and say that they will do the same for us.
    Here,the akie (op) is sooo concerned with sunnis getting hurt. You do have a point thou,that it adds nothing. And here is where the problem is,even you dont curse or do anything wrong,you are still going to be seen as the kafar in the eyes of some sunnis. Anyways, I personally have stopped cursing some of them,just out of fear that I may of misjudged them and I have not seen them do wrong in my own eyes. But yazid will always get a la3na from me not just online but offline too.
    And for the record some of the people here,can dish out insults and hurt others,but they may think that they have great manniers because they dont insult or do la3na 3la fulan ibn fulan.You arint any better boy. Maybe we should start by not hurting others from our own people and then we can move to not hurting the others feeling and ofcourse the other should also respect this and not throw insults and try to cause a problem.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from iCambrian in Working/studying Moms + Pregnancy   
    Yes,thats why I suggest to not have babies in the first two years. Alot of my friends got pregent straight away,for me thats not the right thing to do. I feel that you need to live with the individal and build a strong relationship (like you stated) before making a child. Plus within those two years you can also see if the indivudal you married is actually right for you or not.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from iCambrian in Working/studying Moms + Pregnancy   
    I know, I dont fit the categary you are asking the question to but I would avoid making babies in the first two years of marriage.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from notme in Working/studying Moms + Pregnancy   
    Yes,thats why I suggest to not have babies in the first two years. Alot of my friends got pregent straight away,for me thats not the right thing to do. I feel that you need to live with the individal and build a strong relationship (like you stated) before making a child. Plus within those two years you can also see if the indivudal you married is actually right for you or not.
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    kim.tinkerbell got a reaction from iCambrian in Jealousy And Conflict In Polygamy   
    Polygamy will not be an evolution,it's been practised for many years,way back in time. The only thing left is gays marrying strights,like a group of different genders.. May that day never happen,but it's being practised by some people but the goverments hopefully never approve of us marriages.
    Peace30, your right it does seem like they the guys have alot of authority/rights. Truth is they really do have more authority. This practised has also be used by the propht and imams apperently, which means more will want to practise it or have an extra reason. You know in countries like egypte and yeman,some girls at the age of 9 get married of to older men,and some of those older usually richer men,divorce the girl when she hitts a certain age so that he can replace her with another younger one. The fact that some people are misusing it to this level makes me question why god has even haladed it. It may not be islam but the people that abuse it,however if the haq is with him how will he ever be stopped.
    A woman can write that she doesnt want to be part of this practise,ofcourse it will be relevent to her,but the guy can either make or break this rule.
    And why do some men feel the need to marry to woman in order to help her financelly. Why cant he do 3aml khairee for free. Honestly if those same men with money had given out their money to people that are facing hard ship. Their would be less homeless people,less girls/woman selling their bodies to survive. Am not sure if it will stop addicts to drugs/alchole to quite that awful habit.
    It's nice to see a guy (baqar) that understands why some of as are not for it. It causes way more conflicts then peacefullness. And again only the guy is benefitting from it. Some may argue that the woman can benefit from it to,another woman will look after her child and she will help with house chores. But in most cases one will be attempting to annoy the other,plus am not sure how much you can trust another woman who happens to be your husbands second wife,with your kids,while your out.
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