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    فكل النوائب تسلى لدى نوائب خير النسا زينبِ

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  1. Salam Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh dear sister,


    I am a sister too and I am just using the acc of my husband. I have found a post of yours with this content:


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    Salam sisters.

    I've always known that it's wajib to attend to your husband's needs, and I've come across many narrations regarding the woman's role of beautifying herself and not having Hayaa around her husband, i.e. "A woman should use the best perfume, wear her prettiest clothes, and groom herself in the best possible form. She should appear in front of her husband every morning and night displaying her beauties."  But a few nights ago I was reading a book that had a narration (according to what I remember narrated by Imam Sadiq) that addresses the issue in a way I haven't read before, and I thought it would be important for other sisters to know, just a heads up ;)  !

    It was in Arabic, but here's my translated version:


    A woman must offer her body to her husband every night, remove her clothes and let her skin touch his skin, if he refuses her then, she has done her part.


    I will upload the source once I find the book again.





    now.. could you tell which book it is? I really loved to read your translation and I really have to say that it is so beautiful that a woman has this kind of duty:) And I really woulkd love to know which narrations you came accross or which book it was.

    Wa Alaikum Salam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa barakatuh...

  2. No, all the women I'm speaking about from my environment and first hand experience. They wear Hijab the way their friends wear hijab or try to be accepted by the west. I am between these women, so I think I know what I'm saying. You do feel alienated when you're not going with the flow. Hijabis here always follow a trend. Always. Whether it's tribal patterns, to bow tie scarfs, to wearing necklaces on their head, it's all with the flow. I know they want to wear hijab, but they feel you can be modest and fashionable at the same time, western fashionable. They put on the scarf with their own wil
  3. Unfortunately in our society, immodestly dressed hijabis are everywhere now, not just in the west. I went down to Lebanon and Iran for a visit, I had a heart attack when I saw the Hijabis. In Iran they have red tattooed eyebrows and in Lebanon they have tattooed lips with 2 shots of botox pumped into them, their faces look like plastic. And I won't even begin to talk about their dressing. However, here in the west, women feel pressured by society to dress the way they do. I went to high school here, and every girl had a make-up salon packed in her purse, I felt left out. They dressed in tights
  4. I agree with you brother, well said. Alhamdulillah we are planning to go over seas soon, which is terrific and will detox our bodies from the toxins we have absorbed being in this environment, I cannot wait. Yes my husband and I are from two different cultures but we're both of middle eastern background :) Inshaa Allah I will pm you soon. Thank you brother, this is spot on. That's exactly why I'm here, I don't want to be the stereotype "Nagging wife", other than these small arguments our relationship is great, and I don't want to ruin it with coming across as nagging or annoying. It's true,
  5. As long as you dont know either of us, he'll be fine. I respect what you mean, but brother truly, research it, not mentioning the name of someone (or hinting out who they are) doesn't make it haram.
  6. He won't be upset brother, he always tells me ask before you assume. I'm here asking. I reckon he would throw what Abu Hadi said in my face to be honest. I've written on SC using him as an example before, and I read it to him he didn't care because I showed him that no one knew me and my info is misleading. God is my witness that I am not asking to prove him wrong here or try prove myself right, I'm only asking to see unbiased opinions and Brother Abu Hadi hit the mark alhamdulillah. Inshallah I will private message you my question unless you prefer for whatever reason that I post it publicly.
  7. Thank you for your reply brother, I have no proof of him actually playing sport with the women, I'm only sure that they were there, but I just have my doubts because he became so defensive, instead of saying no or yes :\ It's just difficult when you're a woman you know, we have estrogen jumping around on one side, and shaytaan on the other -_- I want to monitor my nafs to not fall in inappropriate doubt or even worse, jealousy. That's why I'm here hoping to find clarification.
  8. Brother Sami, no one knows who I am at all on this site, nor does anyone know my husband, in fact I have false information about myself to ensure no one knows me here. Why don't I consult a sheikh? Because then my identity would be known and so my husbands identity would be known, and I'm too embarrassed to ask my husband for permission to approach a sheikh. As well brother I read some posts of yours that you have posted in the past in fact a few years ago and I wanted some advice from you, but didn't know if you were still active to message you in regards to a certain topic. Ok enough with t
  9. Brother/sister, I am using ShiaChat for the sole reason of no one knowing who I am and who my husband is. Where I live and other details about me are false. No one knows me here, and no one that uses ShiaChat that I know, knows my activity on it, so don't worry, your practically speaking to a ghost. I never argued with him to add them, they added me, I asked him, he said no, I rejected them. Easy. But the thought lingered in my head. As for why, it is to know the state of my aunties, like I found out one of the has cancer at a high stage the other day, I would've known earlier if her son
  10. Yes it is true, however there is a verse that also says practically "And you will not be able to but try and God will forgive" so, not so myth. Brother Abu Hadi, I completely agree with you. However, is it normal to have your mate's Muslim sister that dresses inappropriately (without a hijab of course) and say it's a valid reason, or even have girls you knew 7 years ago or more? I don't understand this. I mean, men are more likely to fall into sin by looking at a woman, rather than for example, him not allowing me to have a cousin over seas that added me, isn't this double standards in one s
  11. (salam) Dear brothers, I have been married for over a year now, and both my husband and I try to be practicing Muslims. We stay away from haraam alhamdulillah as much as possible, however as a newly married couple we still have our arguments and misunderstandings. I among other things, have a certain problem. It's jealousy, however not the usual jealousy in women, and I try to suppress it as much as possible, and I know that the jealousy of a woman is kufr. However when I am jealous, I believe it is because of Islamic reasoning and logic. For example, my husband has women on his Facebook, m
  12. (salam) I know of women who sell there hair either online or to beauty stores, but is it permissible for a woman to sell her hair knowing that whoever turns it into natural hair extensions will wear them out. And if the case was to donate your hair to be made into wigs for children with cancer that have lost their hair in chemo, would the ruling be the same?
  13. Salam brother, A while ago I watched a lecture regarding this issue by the lecturer S. Ammar Nakshawani. I know he isn't a scholar but he does cover his topic nicely, while others never tackle this issue.. Have a listen, you may pick up on a few ideas: This is a lecture that I plan of watching, I'm not sure what's in it but you may find something of use:
  14. Salam brother, I've actually purchased the book, I have it. I completely forgot about it! Thank you for reminding me ^_^
  15. Perfect, I sure do. Thank you very much! Wassalam
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