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  1. As salamu alaykom. Recently for the past few years I have been on and off with my prayer. It seems that I only go back go prayer whenever a hardship or tragedy hits close to home. I love Allah, I love the Ahlul Bayt, I know prayer is wajib and neccessary but for some reason I will stick to it for a few months and then I find myself falling off the wagon. I also stuggle with my relationship with Allah. I feel that my way of approaching prayer and religion is that of a bargainer or a business man. It makes me feel very humiliated and its gotten to the point where I dont even want to pray because I feel like Im bargaining with Allah. So I'd rather not pray with those intentions. I would like sooo much to be able to pray on time, everyday and to break this horrible cycle. If anyone has any advice please let now.
  2. i've had many symbolic dreams in the last 2-3 years i am a very strong lover of Imam Ali and Ahlul Bayt peace and blessings be upon them, as well I am a Alweeya meaning i'm from the Holy Houshold of Rasulallah thank you for kindly replying to my thread :) thank you for kindly replying to my post :) stress could be part of it no doubt about it but honestly i'm not very good at distinguishing between an enemy and a friend so Allah al ya3lam thank you dear brother I am convinced that this is the best answer yet in regards to applying to my situation :) strength and success have been very high in my life this far and thank you for answering my post :)
  3. salam, i had a dream that i was at my house and these was a lion following me trying to do harm or at least it seemed like it. i was getting away from him but i wasn't running, i was pretty calm not really frightened but there were about two times when i would loose the lion like i would be walking inside the house and the lion would follow me as i go to close the door the lion would just try and break down the door but every time i overcame this lion and it seemed like i was stronger than the lion, though it took alot of strength to finally lock it out any suggestions of what this could mean ?
  4. Salam dear brothers and sisters, I have a question that I am unclear about and I would be interested in learning. So here is the deal .. My brother just turned 12, and he invited a few friends over for his birthday party, I did the decorating and I was in charge of taking pictures. I am 16, I had my hair covered, feet covered and I was wearing a traditional joba ( long dress like clothing) -I would like to know if during this process was there any haram involved ? - these boys had not hit puberty yet, from my understanding I am able to touch them :S - Also is there any haram if i sit with them and speak to them during that time ? I am 5 years older than my brother and his friends and I do not have any sexual desires what so ever and they do not as well considering they have yet to hit puberty I am interested in knowing the answers and particularly from quranic verses as well as from the opinion of the marajaa :) if you could provide proofs ( websites, quotes ect.. ) wa salam
  5. i ment to say that if she went to do ghusul for janaba, but noticed the blood what would be obligatory then ?
  6. dear sisters, if a women had sexual intercourse and after she was done and was ready to do ghusul she noticed blood which was her period what ghusul would be obligatory on the sister
  7. would you happen to know which one would be suitable to do ? the hayth ghusul or the janaba ghusul ?
  8. i'm curious to know that if a female has been involved in sexual intercourse and she didn't do ghusul janaba and the next day she got her period which ghusul will she be obligated to do ??? this is just a question out of curiosity :) thanks you wa salam
  9. dear brothers and sister i've been asked to teach someone how to properly do ghusil janabaa i would like it step by step in english if possibleee thankss peoplee !!
  10. wow soo much interesting information :D thanks to everyone that responded !!!!
  11. dear bothers and sisters, i would like to know if we have the choice to reject these hooris and be with the one we love in this dunya ?
  12. salam, hooris are the angles (malaikaa) we are rewarded with in heavean only the pious and good are promised them, for men they are beautiful virgin women that are subject to only their husbands and are beautiful in every way i'm not to sure about the males but they are as well beautiful and are subject to their wives :) don't take my wordsss i have just read a little bit i hope it helped :)
  13. salam dear brothers and sisters. i have very little knowledge of the hooris ( female malaika) i would like to ask a few questions and would highly appreciate all answers :) 1. does a man have a choice of rejecting a hooris if he wishes to stay commited to his wife (wives) of this dunya or is he automatically assigned these hooris ? 2. may a women decide to leave her husband from the dunya for a male malaika ? 3. is it possible that the hooris stay away from a family that wishes to stay together in the afterlife ? any answers would be appreciated wa salam :)
  14. salam brothers and sister, i have been having really unusual dreams about having sexual intercourse with the men in my life who are muhram on me :S like my older brother or my younger one :S i would like to know what this might mean, i am very disturbed by these dreams :'( i also dreamed that a huge black snake, as long as a house from the ground to the top was after me, it trapped me in a staircase and stood straight up looking for me from the bottom of the staircase as i was standing against a wall keeping quiet, i then was able to run up the stairs and half way up i noticed 3 bite marks that were blue but i went into a room and locked the door. shortly after the snake broke in but i ran across the hall to another room which i saw 3 of my younger brothers playing games, i held the door closed with my feet, yelling for help from my brothers but it seemed they just wouldn't listen ! then the snake broke in and pushed me to a bed and stared slithering and tying me up with it's body and squeezing hard :S before i woke up the snake looked me in my eyes and that's when i saw it's colour was black and brown and it looked really scaryy :( the snake was as wide as a medium build person and it was as long as long as the length of a normal house :S sooooooo scarryyy if anyone knows anything about these types of dreams please provide infoo :'(
  15. salam, Ramadan kareem to all the Mulsims in the world, i was wondering if anyone knew some good duas for the month of Ramadan ?
  16. Thank you all for the replies, Shia debater, I agree with what you have said, I read surat al fatiha for um Al Banin and do whudhu every night, Inshallah I will not share it again. iSilurian, you are right, I do worry, I'm a worrier but I don't know why the same dream repeats so much. I live in a very secure and safe community and my house is very secured as well, from alarms to security bells..... I might just be too worried about something else.. Idk. mun3t, Inshallah, right, thank you for your reply, thinking that it is a "shaytan dream" makes me feel a little worried because I am paranoying myself thinking that it may be because of something that I did but I reviewed all my actions of the past weeks and I can't find a reason other than I am over worried about things.
  17. salamu alaykom, I've been having dreams for the past three days that i am being robbed, my house and my family are all being robbed... And the past night i had a dream that i was crying sooooo terribly that i couldn't even breath... Every night i wake up shaking feeling soooo cold but the temperature in the room is fine, im terrified of sleeping and having the same dreams again. Can anyone please interpet this or give me any duas before sleeping??
  18. i thank all of your for your help and supportt !! he has made a new account and has added my family .. just not me :) i'm kind of relieved for this because it showed that he doesn't have anything for those girls. the thing is ... i've been using hotmail for about 6 years and i've never been through this problem :S when i delete someone i no longer apear online to them nor do i stay on their friends list !! like when i deleted him off of my msn i was no longer on his friends list ! inshallah the parents are getting involved (my father) and i think in the future mybe when 1 year passes i'll be willing to speak to him and his family but for now i want to think long and hard about this problem !
  19. If you are confused about whether you want to move on or not tell him to delete all these other girls on his msn and if any "random add" him then to not accept them or to delete them etc.. and if he does not then you will not marry him dear brother thank you for your advise :) it has really helped me, the thing is he gave me his password and i found nothing that showed him being friends with these girls. but when i go to their profiles and see their friends list .. he appears their </3 i tryed it many times myself by deleting people and checking to see if my name appears in their friends list but once i delete them i cannot see them nor can they see me :S it's really weird with him because he and his family claim that he deleted them the same day he added them or accepted them .. but to this day they still show up it's soo confusing although i have told my parents about this, nothing really serious happened i mean my father said to just let him go but it was half heartedly i still love him and the pics and all don't matter to me it's the fact that indstead of maturely getting this over with he overreacted and made it seem like there was something fishy in it :( i want to get back with him it's just my heart tells me not to until the truth is found !! i just want to see what others think about this kind of situation before i make any major desicion in moving on or going back !!!
  20. salam alaykom, dear brothers and sisters i am a 16 year old girl, i met my cousin through webcam when my mother traveled to iraq in 2009. He loved me since he was 14 and now he is 22 years old, i have heard of him through family and i developed a feeling for him when i was young but i thought i would never get with him until 2009 he asked my father for my hand in marrage. i was 13 at the time. my father agreed to his proposal but only until i was 18 and my father put out certain shuroot : ( job, degree ect.. ) we were not allowed to talk both in shara3 and by my parents. but we kept it a secret and talked to eachother for about 2 and a half years. his family was ok with it but my family wasn't, they wanted us to wait until we were engaged. we had a really strong relationship and we both loved each other very much. although we has some arguments it never got to a big problem. about a year ago i found a women who i knew on his hotmail profile who i did not like. this was the biggest turning point for us. although i trusted him and knew his intentions weren't what i was thinking i was still soo mad that he would have someone i did not like. he got rid of her by making his friendslist apear private for a year. then about 1 week ago he hadn't been on for about 3-4 days and i went on his profile to see if he had updated anything (hotmail) only to find 2 girls as his friends--- one of them was the same one i did not like and the other was a blond girl named chasity. chasity wasn't a good gurl she has a website wich had pictures of herself nude and other bad things on it. when i saw this i was shocked. immedietly i sent an e-mail with the pictures of this exept i did not react in a angry way. i maturly spoke to him about it. as i said he had been offline for 3-4 days and not even 7 minutes after i sent the e-mail he signed in and was already typing things about the e-mail.. so he was there but just offline :( he talked to me in a rude way and was acting really weird. he claimed that the add was auto and that it was before he met me. he said that he showe his parents to act as witnesses and that after seeing she was bad he deleted her. for some reason to this day when i go on both the girls profile and see their list of friends he always appears. he even gave me his passowrd to see for myself . i didnt find the girls but about 3 days after we stoped talking by then i had spoken to my parents and called the arrangment off . i found an e-mail from another blond girl asking him to add her and that he was cute ... but it was in his deleted folder. i am still in love with him but i have this urge to stay away from him and not to speak to him !!!! he is soo sweet and nice and i am in desperate need for advice. he has never cheated on me or even though about it and this is all just soo shocking to me ! i'm doing fine because i half convince myself that i'll get with him later but i also half convince myself i'll get someone wayy better that him ! my best friend tells me to move on and i want to move on exept he's my cousin and i am afraid of family problems get worse ( his family and my family don't get along alredy) we also have soo much in common and we got on a deep level and things were said please brothers and sisters help me :( we spoke through e-mail -- webcam-- phone his family is trying to get us back by speaking to me and trying to tell me this is all a misunderstanding ! literally everyone in my family ( in iraq) is trying to get us back even my mom .. is giving me hope to get back with him :(
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