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    repentance reacted to Maryaam in Status Of Women In Imam Ali's (as) Opinion   
    Status of Women in Imam Ali’s (as) Opinion

    
    Woman is a delicate creature with strong emotions who has been created by the Almighty God to shoulder responsibility for educating society and moving toward perfection. God created woman as symbol of His own beauty and to give solace to her partner and her family.
    Due to high importance that Islam attaches to women, there are many recommendations about venerating and respecting women and being kind to them. Islam lauds women and Imam Ali (as) has quoted Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) as saying that


    “Nobody respects women but those who are dignified and generous and nobody insults them but those who are mean and contemptible.”

    In another tradition, Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) appreciates a mother noting,


    “The entire respect that a child has for his/her mother would not be equal to one day of suffering that she has underwent to bring him/her to this world.”

    In pre-Islamic Arab society, people considered no value for women and girls and some tribes even went as far as burying their female infants alive. However, after the advent of Islam, Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) did his best to change women’s status and promote new attitudes toward women.


    Every time that Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) saw his daughter, Fatemeh (as), he greatly respected her and kissed her brow. Basically, respect for women is prominent in traditions as well as the conduct of Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) and his progeny.

    Ali (as) has been quoted as saying,


    “Girl is good deed and boy is bounty. Good deeds are rewarded while people are held accountable for bounties.”

    He has also been quoted as saying that


    “He who has a daughter will avail of blessing and forgiveness of God.”

    Imam Ali (as) did his best to make women understand true value of women and know that they need attention and kindness more than anything else and do not deserve to be treated harshly and violently. Imam Ali (as) has been quoted as saying,


    “God will not accept prayer and good deeds of a man who harasses his wife and he is among the first people to enter the Hell.”

    for more:
    http://www.iranreview.org/content/Documents/Status_of_Women_and_Family_in_Imam_Ali%E2%80%99s_AS_Opinion.htm
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    repentance got a reaction from Allahuakbar in Comparison Between Women   
    Very interesting topic. Am very happy after my divorce, got rid of the man who was an ugly burden of 9 years.
    However life is very hard for a single parent. Alhamdolillah; thanks to my high education; i am able to support myself and my child.my marriage was a disaster from the beginning. I blame myself to some extent that i rejected many good guys in my early twenties.
    I pray to Allah and Masumeen AS that all sisters and brothers in faith should get a blessed married life! Amen
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    repentance reacted to King in Comparison Between Women   
    Dude what are you talking about???


    "Women who get married before the age of 25 make up about 64 percent of all divorces in the U.S. On the other hand, women who get married in their late twenties make up only 16 percent of the divorces. This means that any woman who gets married before she turns 25 is about four times more likely to get a divorce. (Women in their 30s have even better odds of staying married.)"

    Couples with higher levels of education and higher income are less likely to divorce.


    "But, let’s look at some of the stats related to divorce within the first 10 years of marriage:

    Any amount of college decreases the chance of divorce by 13 percent
    An income over $50,000 decreases the chance of divorce by 30 percent
    Couples with an income under $25,000 have a 50 percent chance of ending up getting divorced."

    I know you will probably dismiss all the research since it isn't strictly based on muslim marriages and I don't know how reliable the statistics are but this is a heavily researched area and most research clearly shows that before a certain age, the earlier you marry, the greater the risk of divorce. Obviously every case is different.
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    repentance reacted to Gypsy in Comparison Between Women   
    It just isn't dependent on girls. A lot of time, it is the family that decide when the girls should settle down. In some family, girls get married between 18-23. In other family girls get married between 25-29. So again, most of the girls in Muslim community don't decide when they should get married. The family play an even bigger role in this.
    Education and career is just a part of your life. They wouldn't take you away from marriage if you really wanted to marry someone. Most of the problem is that people are no longer finding people they wish to marry.
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    repentance reacted to Golden-crowned in Comparison Between Women   
    salam
    you are right, I have been meeting guys with marriage proposal since I was 22-23 , in that time I had finished my B.A,but I couldn't understand meaning of getting married and living with someone else. however my parents always forced me to meet those guys.
    even later on, when I was working, and I continued my education in M.A degree, I was not really ready to get married. ...however, when I think deeply, I feel my problem was not about study and work , and they were only some excuses, my problem was that I hadn't understood marriage is a part of life which helps me face to my weaknesses and force me to remove them.
    if I had got married during 23 till 27-28, goals in my life would have been changed so much and it would have made problem in my marriage life, because when you choose a guy with intention of living with him for ever, you have to know that you are doing it with your current plan about future. and if later on, you change your main goals in your life and your husband is not compatible with them, you can't do anything about it.
    so for me, it was a good decision however I got older, but at least if I get married , I know myself more, I know why I get married and I know what I want in future and my life's plan will not change so much because my personality has become more fixed.
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    repentance reacted to samarobin0 in Sunnis Say Aisha Was 9 Years Old At Consummation   
    ready? do you really believe a 9 year old is ready? just because she has begun her cycle does not mean she is ready. it is the beginning of a womans ,development. Many changes occur the first few years of puberty.. at 9 years old no GIRL is ready. mentally or physically.
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    repentance reacted to samarobin0 in Sunnis Say Aisha Was 9 Years Old At Consummation   
    IDK, this makes me sad. I hate to say anything negative about the life our prophet led but... but... idk. I might regret posting this but 'trying this new thing called being open and honest.......if you know what i mean.
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    repentance reacted to Waiting for HIM in This Rajab Will See Emergence Of Sufyani In Syria   
    It may happen or it may not happen this Rajab, but one thing is for sure, it SHALL happen with subsequent events as first Sufyani, then Yamani, then the Balck flags from Afghan/Iran border, then the bright light of the great grand Son of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) shining the world over with the eternal peace.
    Here's part of Sura-Hud, Ayat 79,80,81 about the event of the LUT when Allah threw "marked stones" at the nation of LUT as their punishment. There is a very strong message in the ayat 80, that even Prophets and Aimah who are bestowed by Allah (swt) with special powers to Lead and Guide - stiil need the support of strong righteous nations and material strength behind them to stop the advances of evil. Imam Al-Mahdi (atf) is not going to have a magic wand with which he will bring ever lasting ADL (Justice) of Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì. He will need a willing and strong ummah (practicing political Shias) behind Him to bring about this ultimate revolution for the sake of humanity.
    Read the whole event from Quran and you will find many hidden messages. Use multiple translations and multiple tafaseer to get to the point.
    قَالُوا لَقَدْ عَلِمْتَ مَا لَنَا فِي بَنَاتِكَ مِنْ حَقٍّ وَإِنَّكَ لَتَعْلَمُ مَا نُرِيدُ {79}
    [11:79] They said: "Well dost thou know we have no need of thy daughters: indeed thou knowest quite well what we want!"
    قَالَ لَوْ أَنَّ لِي بِكُمْ قُوَّةً أَوْ آوِي إِلَىٰ رُكْنٍ شَدِيدٍ {80}
    [11:80] He said: "Would that I had power to suppress you or that I could betake myself to some powerful support."
    قَالُوا يَا لُوطُ إِنَّا رُسُلُ رَبِّكَ لَنْ يَصِلُوا إِلَيْكَ ۖ فَأَسْرِ بِأَهْلِكَ بِقِطْعٍ مِنَ اللَّيْلِ وَلَا يَلْتَفِتْ مِنْكُمْ أَحَدٌ إِلَّا امْرَأَتَكَ ۖ إِنَّهُ مُصِيبُهَا مَا أَصَابَهُمْ ۚ إِنَّ مَوْعِدَهُمُ الصُّبْحُ ۚ أَلَيْسَ الصُّبْحُ بِقَرِيبٍ {81}
    [11:81] (The Messengers) said: "O Lut! We are Messengers from thy Lord! By no means shall they reach thee! now travel with thy family while yet a part of the night remains, and let not any of you look back: but thy wife (will remain behind): To her will happen what happens to the people. Morning is their time appointed: Is not the morning nigh?"
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    repentance reacted to ילדת מלך in What Is Women's Big Test?   
    As a woman in my life the biggest test has proved to be coming face to face with :
    1---------People who have no mercy or compassion for others,
    2---------People who are always jumping to question and doubt my faith just because I had the naivety to express my distress about the plight of under-privileged, and then they savour your agony because it gives them double the pleasure ( 1-calling you faithless, 2-witnessing your discomfort )
    3---------People who relish labeling women feminist and treating them with contempt just because these women have the opinion that no woman, be it Muslim or non-Muslim should ever be degraded, used or humiliated--on the grounds of having the misfortune of being born as a woman. ( those women who do not mind it, are welcome to this treatment.)
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    repentance reacted to Aqua in What Is Women's Big Test?   
    My struggles:
    1. Every day struggle with inner imaan.
    2. Relationship with father.
    3. Feeling held back by social and cultural norms.
    4. Reconciliation with some aspects of my faith.
    5. A desire for true love and feeling like I won't ever get it.
    6. Not being appreciated as a human being.
    7. Constantly fighting against social adversity and stereotypes.
    8. Loneliness and isolation.
    9. People constantly trying to define my role in life as a woman, a Muslim, an Iraqi, an American, a daughter, a sister, a teenager a whatever the hell people try reduce my identity to.
    10. Finding balance in my life and myself in the middle of two worlds that conflict with each other.
    These are just a few of my personal struggles not just as a woman, but as a human being - things I think anyone can relate to. I believe that whatever struggles men and women may have in life, they certainly share more than they differ.
    In your original post, it comes off like you're assuming that all men and women are the same and thus have the same big "test" which is certainly not the case. Lust may be the biggest test for one person but not for the other - it depends on the person's strength of faith and self restraint.
    I won't define what I think every other woman's struggle in life is, but I definitely know that mine is the fear of giving someone my heart, consequently giving him the power to hurt me emotionally. From long past experiences and things that have happened quite recently, I know that this is probably the biggest thing I will have to overcome if I ever want to be happy.
    Coming away from that, all I want to say is, look deeper. Don't generalize in assuming every man and woman is the same. We all have different desires, fears and daily struggles - the sooner we realize that, the better we'll understand each other.
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    repentance reacted to AlwaysChangingHisUserName in Fajr - What A Blessing   
    (salam)
    This will be very quick, as it's 4:51 right now. Maybe later I'll come back and edit it with Qur'an and Ahadith quotes, but for now, I just want to share with you how Allah swt blessed me this morning :D
    I never wake up for Fajr. Never. I don't even bother trying, it is too hard. I think I may have prayed Fajr once in the entire 3 years that I've been Muslim, and that was in the middle of winter. Well, this morning I woke up at 4 AM and for some reason, could not go back to sleep. I was getting really angry with my body because it's a school day today and I needed the sleep. I then realized, I bet it's Fajr time. So I looked up the prayer times on my iPod, and sure enough, it was. So I made wudhu and prayed Fajr Alhamdulillah. If it weren't for the fact that I drank some water when I did wudhu (there's a glass in the bathroom, I didn't drink the wudhu water :P ), I would make niyyat to fast today in thanksgiving.
    I will Insh'Allah try my best to make all prayers today, which may be the first time in my life to recite all five. Even though this is only one time, I feel a huge calm pass over me, and I'm really not that sleepy anymore. I will definitely be setting my alarm for tomorrow morning :)
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    repentance got a reaction from Ismahan007 in The Obsession With White Skin   
    well done sister,
    i applaude you for raising your voice against Man's world.
    your statement is 100% correct, forget about the ordinary people, I have seen religious scholars searching for white skins!!!
    Muslim men need to wake up and start a self audit.
    Sister, there are more problems with Muslim men, Its not only white skin, they also look for immature and very young girls and she must be virgin, doesn't matter, he is married 03 times
    Salaams,
    correct me if iam wrong
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    repentance got a reaction from Abu Nur in No Shia Boy Wants To Marry Girls In Medical School   
    hello my dear headpod,
    welldone!!! :) I applaude you for opening pandora's box.
    i was very much amused by reading many silly comments but some scholarly answers put me at peace.
    I want to add something else for your information, there are so many divorced female shia doctors around just because of the above mentioned reasons. and guess what i am one of them. I practiced medicine for more than 10 years. Alhamdolillah!
    Being a professional doctor as a female is a blessing of God. First of all I veto your statement. Believe me the men world is very much interested in female doctors. we have to accept, it is a noble profession. I got far too many proposals, unfortunately I turned them down, just because someone is not goodlooking, someone educated is old fashioned etc. Finally 10 years ago I found mr. goodlooking businessman from UK. you know what my worst mistake i didn't check his morality or religiosity. basically he was a greedy monstor and control freak. I was never happy in my marriage. i stayed 09 years with him for the sake of my child. Atlast Allah accepted my REPENTANCE as my 7 years old child told me to stay away from his dad. I got the courage and separated from the Psycho. Alhamdolillah!
    I cannot think of remarrying someone as i am in peace with my child. my ex has really freaked me out. I took him as Allah's curse upon me for turning down good guys.
    No doubt my earnings were so high due to my full time work, my ex has full control over it and you know what my last savings ended up with paying megabox lawyer's fee.
    Please do not rush for marriage, involve some wise people. definitly check the guy's background. say no to control freaks in the name of religion.
    I wish you best of luck in your search!! Seek help from Allah and remember me in your prayers.
    Yours
    Repentance
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    repentance got a reaction from Hussien in No Shia Boy Wants To Marry Girls In Medical School   
    i mean ignorant people in the name of religion oppress women. True religious people could be ideals,
    i am very religious myself. unfortunately i worked in middle east including Iraq. I saw ignorance in the name of religion and worst oppression of women especially in our low socioeconomic groups.
    Lets not divert from the topic of Cephalopod! I wish her best of luck
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    repentance got a reaction from Hussien in No Shia Boy Wants To Marry Girls In Medical School   
    hello my dear headpod,
    welldone!!! :) I applaude you for opening pandora's box.
    i was very much amused by reading many silly comments but some scholarly answers put me at peace.
    I want to add something else for your information, there are so many divorced female shia doctors around just because of the above mentioned reasons. and guess what i am one of them. I practiced medicine for more than 10 years. Alhamdolillah!
    Being a professional doctor as a female is a blessing of God. First of all I veto your statement. Believe me the men world is very much interested in female doctors. we have to accept, it is a noble profession. I got far too many proposals, unfortunately I turned them down, just because someone is not goodlooking, someone educated is old fashioned etc. Finally 10 years ago I found mr. goodlooking businessman from UK. you know what my worst mistake i didn't check his morality or religiosity. basically he was a greedy monstor and control freak. I was never happy in my marriage. i stayed 09 years with him for the sake of my child. Atlast Allah accepted my REPENTANCE as my 7 years old child told me to stay away from his dad. I got the courage and separated from the Psycho. Alhamdolillah!
    I cannot think of remarrying someone as i am in peace with my child. my ex has really freaked me out. I took him as Allah's curse upon me for turning down good guys.
    No doubt my earnings were so high due to my full time work, my ex has full control over it and you know what my last savings ended up with paying megabox lawyer's fee.
    Please do not rush for marriage, involve some wise people. definitly check the guy's background. say no to control freaks in the name of religion.
    I wish you best of luck in your search!! Seek help from Allah and remember me in your prayers.
    Yours
    Repentance
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    repentance got a reaction from Gypsy in No Shia Boy Wants To Marry Girls In Medical School   
    hello my dear headpod,
    welldone!!! :) I applaude you for opening pandora's box.
    i was very much amused by reading many silly comments but some scholarly answers put me at peace.
    I want to add something else for your information, there are so many divorced female shia doctors around just because of the above mentioned reasons. and guess what i am one of them. I practiced medicine for more than 10 years. Alhamdolillah!
    Being a professional doctor as a female is a blessing of God. First of all I veto your statement. Believe me the men world is very much interested in female doctors. we have to accept, it is a noble profession. I got far too many proposals, unfortunately I turned them down, just because someone is not goodlooking, someone educated is old fashioned etc. Finally 10 years ago I found mr. goodlooking businessman from UK. you know what my worst mistake i didn't check his morality or religiosity. basically he was a greedy monstor and control freak. I was never happy in my marriage. i stayed 09 years with him for the sake of my child. Atlast Allah accepted my REPENTANCE as my 7 years old child told me to stay away from his dad. I got the courage and separated from the Psycho. Alhamdolillah!
    I cannot think of remarrying someone as i am in peace with my child. my ex has really freaked me out. I took him as Allah's curse upon me for turning down good guys.
    No doubt my earnings were so high due to my full time work, my ex has full control over it and you know what my last savings ended up with paying megabox lawyer's fee.
    Please do not rush for marriage, involve some wise people. definitly check the guy's background. say no to control freaks in the name of religion.
    I wish you best of luck in your search!! Seek help from Allah and remember me in your prayers.
    Yours
    Repentance
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    repentance reacted to ImAli in 10 Ways To Avoid Marrying The Wrong Person!   
    Thank you OP for the article
    And thank you Waiting for HIM for being one of the few on here that still agrees the woman needs permission of her wali.
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    repentance reacted to Waiting for HIM in Mutah With Escort - Separated From Wife 8 Years   
    Escort knowing what is mutah, I doubt. She is a sales person and would say and agree to any thing to sell her product.
    So I'll take it with a grain of salt as far as she has done it before.
    And someone already asked, are you not interested in permanent marriage?
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    repentance reacted to Waiting for HIM in Mutah With Escort - Separated From Wife 8 Years   
    I doubt if you are doing it halal way, because:
    1. She is a pros----e and doing mutah with prostitute is makrooh.
    2. Also she must not be doing iddah for 3 months after every breakup with you. You may be responsible for this.
    3. Also she does not understand what is mutah, which will make it haram as well.
    Consult your Marja or the Shia center close by and ask an alim. This is easy enough case, so am sure tons of SC members can quote you the right ruling as well.
    Also this whole sex with Prost----te is totally unfathomable for me. How come a momin (a follower of Prophet and Imam) could even touch, let alone do that with such a filth. Isn't it one of the most intimate and personal stuff to your self? This is purely based on the yuck factor.
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    repentance got a reaction from Heavenly Peace in No Shia Boy Wants To Marry Girls In Medical School   
    i mean ignorant people in the name of religion oppress women. True religious people could be ideals,
    i am very religious myself. unfortunately i worked in middle east including Iraq. I saw ignorance in the name of religion and worst oppression of women especially in our low socioeconomic groups.
    Lets not divert from the topic of Cephalopod! I wish her best of luck
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    repentance got a reaction from Waiting for HIM in No Shia Boy Wants To Marry Girls In Medical School   
    hello my dear headpod,
    welldone!!! :) I applaude you for opening pandora's box.
    i was very much amused by reading many silly comments but some scholarly answers put me at peace.
    I want to add something else for your information, there are so many divorced female shia doctors around just because of the above mentioned reasons. and guess what i am one of them. I practiced medicine for more than 10 years. Alhamdolillah!
    Being a professional doctor as a female is a blessing of God. First of all I veto your statement. Believe me the men world is very much interested in female doctors. we have to accept, it is a noble profession. I got far too many proposals, unfortunately I turned them down, just because someone is not goodlooking, someone educated is old fashioned etc. Finally 10 years ago I found mr. goodlooking businessman from UK. you know what my worst mistake i didn't check his morality or religiosity. basically he was a greedy monstor and control freak. I was never happy in my marriage. i stayed 09 years with him for the sake of my child. Atlast Allah accepted my REPENTANCE as my 7 years old child told me to stay away from his dad. I got the courage and separated from the Psycho. Alhamdolillah!
    I cannot think of remarrying someone as i am in peace with my child. my ex has really freaked me out. I took him as Allah's curse upon me for turning down good guys.
    No doubt my earnings were so high due to my full time work, my ex has full control over it and you know what my last savings ended up with paying megabox lawyer's fee.
    Please do not rush for marriage, involve some wise people. definitly check the guy's background. say no to control freaks in the name of religion.
    I wish you best of luck in your search!! Seek help from Allah and remember me in your prayers.
    Yours
    Repentance
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    repentance got a reaction from south-lebanon in Nabatieh’s Rituals Of Sword And Blood   
    please do not allow mums to cut the scalps of their young children. its barbaric!
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    repentance got a reaction from lalala123 in [Closed/Review]Zanjeer Zani And Quma Zani   
    ASA,
    My late father used to say, " Majority of Azadars who want to perform Zanjeer and Quma actually want to show off". That's true some people don't pray and do not carry good character, but they believe, blood letting in the name of Imam Hussain AS is enough to avoid hell fire.
    Wassalam
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    repentance got a reaction from Hameedeh in Recent Downtime   
    ok (bismillah) (salam) (pbuh)
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    repentance got a reaction from SD2 in Shahadat: Muslim Ibn Aqeel (a) - Ziyarat & Salawat   
    Assalamoalaikum O first Shaheed of Karbala! Ya Muslim Bin Aqeel(AS)
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