I agree with peer on the matter of doing matham etc. the day of ashura, as you are all aware , is to remember the pain and suffering of the Imam. We do these acts out of love for Imam Hussain(as) and the ahlul bayt. they are not forced upon anyone. I have 2 brothers. one does zangeer and the other does not, but that does not make him any less of a Shia. it depends on your level of understanding and being able to put yourself in the same situation. it is the love for the imam that makes these people want to crry out these acts and not beacuse its "tradition." Prophet Muhammed(pbuh) said there will be 73 sects in islam. One of these sects will be that of the shia. Within the shia sect there will be 13 groups. What is it do you think will make the one Shia sect split in to 13 groups? it is this. the questionng of whether or not these acts are right or wrong! next it will be, 'how do we know that Imam Ali(as) was the true successer of the prophet?'. If you do not want to do these acts, don't. But dont criticise those who do. as i have said they are not done out of tradition, but out of love. Today is the day of Chelum. The day of freedom for the prisoners of Kerbala. Today is the day that Bibi Zainab mourned the death of her family and brother. Today is the day she did a majlis. Today is the day she was 'allowed' to cry. Today is the day she did matham! wasalam