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    IFK got a reaction from Eddie Mecca in Jinns And Hinduism   
    Salam
    The main belief amongst Hindus is that the Vedas were the original scriptures revealed to saints through God, the one Bhagwan.
    The Hindu belief is that there is one God, but He has many forms, which is where the idols come in...
    So if you want wealth, pray to the Goddess of wealth
    For knowledge, Goddess of knowledge
    For new beginnings, God of goodluck (Ganesha) etcetc
    Some Hindus only focus on one of these forms, and do not give any attention to the rest (lots of Shive worshippers, Krishna worshippers, etc.) Others just feel more connected to some deities than others...
    Most, however, focus on a couple of major deities- these are different in the North and South, and in each part of India actually to some extent.
    Now coming to your question of jinns...its a very interesting point you have brought across.
    Hinduism believes in aatma, or the ruh/ spirit of a dead person...
    not real concept of jinns as far as i know though...but brother worshiper had said things that are correct (not sure why they have been cut off)
    Some Hindus have told me that there is a relationship with Hz Nuh (Noah's Ark story), whereas the story of Krishna to me is exactly that of Hz Moosa...literally Ive watched both movies and they were even pictured so similarly- with some differences too ofcourse (Krishna did not growup at the bad King's house, but grew up across the river)However, the King was killing every new born baby one lady had because he was told that he will be killed/overthrown by one of the children of this lady..but she sneaked him out across the river one night and he survived, to come back and fulfill the prophecy etc..
    Hinduism does have the concept of avatar, which is a reincarnation of God coming down in human forms..i believe there are several of these which have happened and the last one is expected to be the Kalki Avatar, who the the awaiting savior according to Hinduism.
    Most avatars come during the different yugs, or time periods lasting hundreds of thousands of years...we are currently in the Kal Yug, which is expected to be the worst, full of turmoils, disasters etc, and Kalki Avatar is expected to come in the yug...and once this yug is over, the cycle of the 4 yugas begins again...so time is cyclical in a way...
    The forms of the idols are mainly imaginations by people, also based on mythology to a great extent...
    Some Hindus say that they need a form to worship, in order to truely be close to God..and cannot worship the formless, since they need to have something to touch/imagine/experience/etc.
    However, others who are more spiritually evolved, like the people in my family, etc, claim that they do not need a form to worship (do not believe in idol worship) and believe that God is everywhere, within everyone, and everyone is also God through that logic...and they focus a lot more of meditation and going within urself to find the divine within, rather than any ritualistic prayers to stone idols...
    Hinduism on its own is veryyy vast...each Hindu has his/her own way of understanding and experiencing Hinduism...i had a friend whose mother was unbelievably strictly religious, and she would make clothes for the Gods statue, feed him, put him to sleep in his room, bath him with milk every morning, swing his cradle, etc...a silver statue of God....
    Others, which i can say are a little bigger in number, have a couple of idols of the few Gods they believe in, in the side of the room (small temple) with incense sticks and/or diyas (small candles)...might pray to them once/twice a day, or once in a while.. and light the incense sticks/diyas...
    Some Muslims believe that its possible that these "reincarnations" such as Vishnu, Shiva, Ram etc were Prophets sent down, since the Quran has mentioned that so many have been sent..and they have been sent to each and every community and tribe..
    But once again sorry for straying off topic...with regards to jinns, its also possible because Hinduism focuses a lot on past life stuff, hypnotism, future telling (VERY BIG part of it) etc...so possible that there is a strong element of jinns in those who do all these rituals...black magic is also very commonly practiced..have personally met people who have personally been, or their family members have been affected at some stage.
    But I think its very similar to the original Pagan worships...it could very likely be the same thing as mentioned earlier..because Hinduism is supposedly the oldest religion in the world..older or as old as Judaism...Hindu scriptures are the most ancient, and so is the language of Sanskrit (the scriptures were also revealed in this language). Unfortunately, people take this as a reason to assume that its got to be the correct path - because its the oldest...and if people follow just the original teachings of the Vedas, they will be on the right path
    (This teaching, known as Vedanta, is also another path followed in Hinduism..and does not allow any idol worship, nor does it talk about reincarnation/ cycle of birth and death, but ALL hindus still INSIST on proving is correct)
    I know i didnt cover much on ur idea of jinns, but i hope the above helped you understand the religion (known more as a cultural/traditional way of life) better...
    Wasalam
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    IFK got a reaction from PureExistence1 in Al Isra'a Wa'l Miraaj   
    Salaam everyone!
    So I've been doing alot of research on this, but am still totally confused..
    1 - I know the story of the physical ascension to the heavens - though I don't think most people believe that Hazrat Ali was there..so the majority Shia opinion is that it was only Prophet (saww) and Hazrat Jibrael (until a point only)...is that correct?
    So I understand that this night was very important: Prophet (saww) prayed with all the past prophets, spoke to Allah swt, the number of prayers were established, etc..
    2 - So my question is - what is the purpose of us doing the recommended amaals on this night?
    Like I know for Lailatul Qadr is because all the angels descend and ur destiny is decided for the next 1 year..some other amaals such as Amaal Umm e Dawood is also to grant any legitimate wish...then other amaals are for forgiveness etc...maatam is so that we get intercession of Bibi Fatima, and kind of helps in aakhirat as well and lots of sawaab..
    So what purpose do the Lailatul Miraaj amaals serve? What are we doing during the amaals? (Asking for forgiveness, seeking help, praising Allah, or...??)
    3 - Also, the other point I'm confused about, is that according to duas.org, in Shia history, it was also the day that the Prophet (saww) received first revelation, and official appointment to spread Islam....but I always thought that was Lailatul Qadr right?Wasnt the first Ayat of "Iqra" revealed on Lailatul Qadr night?
    Thanks a lot for your help in advance..since Shabe Miraaj is tmrw night for us, would love to know the purpose of these amaals before doing them:)
    Wasalam
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    IFK got a reaction from Maryam.It in Ebola [OFFICIAL THREAD]   
    Salam,
    Isn't there a hadith that sickness will kill 1/3rd of the world and war will kill another 1/3rd? Between Ebola and MERS, there seems to be enough going on..
    Is this before the re-appearance of the Imam ajf or after the arrival and before the Day of Judgment?
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    IFK got a reaction from Askari313 in Q&a With Sistani About Fasting   
    Salam, just a quick question..
    I gargled in wudu..and was afraid of swallowing but then recently they said that before praying, its highly recommended to brush/ wash mouth and scent yourself etc...so I did it with that niyyat.. and a little bit of water went until my throat...
    I immediately spat it all out ofcourse after my gargle...but is my fast valid? As per the above - it wasn't deliberate for sure...rather, I was being super careful not to do it...but just want to confirm.. because I know people usually just avoid the gargling part of wudu while fasting....
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    IFK got a reaction from Soldiers and Saffron in Anyone in Copenhagen/Rome?   
    Salam all,
     
    I'm from the Middle East and might need to travel for a while to these countries so just wanted to know - do we have any shia communities in these countries in case it is possible for me to go there?
    JazakAllah
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    IFK got a reaction from guest050817 in Planetary positions and Islam   
    As salam alaikum,
    Before I begin: I know astrology and future prediction is haraam... so not going into that.
    I have an issue I would like some help with: My parents are Hindu spiritual (I converted years ago) and they believe a lot in birth charts/ kundali/ janampatri etc... which charts out the positions of the planets and stars at the time of birth, and the effect that it will have on the child. Now they are convinced that I was born with a bad chart ...  some remedies include prayers, charity, donations, etc.... I was thinking I could do donations to make them happy I guess, but don't want to do any prayers ofcourse.
    This chart reading has been done by numerous reputed astrologers (inspite of my insisting that I do not want it and it is haraam, but they got it done any way for their own satisfaction - if anyone knows Hindus who are particular about it , you would know how much significance this has for them)
    Would someone be able to advise me with any Islamic duas... I know for a fact that it is Allah who decides our and our children's fates, and not some planets...
    I need some more assurance that the Imams and Prophets went against this,..i read somewhere about a hadith where someone told Imam Ali (as) not to move for war at a specific time due to the position of the stars, but he still did, and he won with a major victory inspite of going against this guy....
    Also, do we have any reverts who may have gone through something similar and proved it all incorrect..
    I know for a fact that we shouldn't do it..I didn't...but my parents did.. .what can I do in such a situation?
    JazakAllah
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    IFK got a reaction from Sirius_Bright in Planetary positions and Islam   
    I agree with all your points..but it is due to past experience that I am so worried... maybe Im just afraid because I felt the post isn't general enough...again, due to past experience...so even if i have an option to edit a bit, I would prefer to do that...because it seems that edit option has disappeared for my 1st post.
    And i would love to hear more on the stars, luck and pessimism in islam...so many things playing on my mind, and the toughest part is maintaining that delicate balance between keeping the parents happy yet not compromising on deen....Alhumdulillah on face value they say they accept it...though i know they are so badly hurt because of me emotionally (and its been yearssss but they still try to dissuade me)..and then its a new little issue daily...which adds up...
    And then there are consequences that i worry about by posting this on a forum...lol
    So would it be possible to atleast edit?JazakAllah 
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    IFK got a reaction from Chaotic Muslem in Planetary positions and Islam   
    I agree with all your points..but it is due to past experience that I am so worried... maybe Im just afraid because I felt the post isn't general enough...again, due to past experience...so even if i have an option to edit a bit, I would prefer to do that...because it seems that edit option has disappeared for my 1st post.
    And i would love to hear more on the stars, luck and pessimism in islam...so many things playing on my mind, and the toughest part is maintaining that delicate balance between keeping the parents happy yet not compromising on deen....Alhumdulillah on face value they say they accept it...though i know they are so badly hurt because of me emotionally (and its been yearssss but they still try to dissuade me)..and then its a new little issue daily...which adds up...
    And then there are consequences that i worry about by posting this on a forum...lol
    So would it be possible to atleast edit?JazakAllah 
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    IFK got a reaction from Chaotic Muslem in Planetary positions and Islam   
    As salam alaikum,
    Before I begin: I know astrology and future prediction is haraam... so not going into that.
    I have an issue I would like some help with: My parents are Hindu spiritual (I converted years ago) and they believe a lot in birth charts/ kundali/ janampatri etc... which charts out the positions of the planets and stars at the time of birth, and the effect that it will have on the child. Now they are convinced that I was born with a bad chart ...  some remedies include prayers, charity, donations, etc.... I was thinking I could do donations to make them happy I guess, but don't want to do any prayers ofcourse.
    This chart reading has been done by numerous reputed astrologers (inspite of my insisting that I do not want it and it is haraam, but they got it done any way for their own satisfaction - if anyone knows Hindus who are particular about it , you would know how much significance this has for them)
    Would someone be able to advise me with any Islamic duas... I know for a fact that it is Allah who decides our and our children's fates, and not some planets...
    I need some more assurance that the Imams and Prophets went against this,..i read somewhere about a hadith where someone told Imam Ali (as) not to move for war at a specific time due to the position of the stars, but he still did, and he won with a major victory inspite of going against this guy....
    Also, do we have any reverts who may have gone through something similar and proved it all incorrect..
    I know for a fact that we shouldn't do it..I didn't...but my parents did.. .what can I do in such a situation?
    JazakAllah
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    IFK got a reaction from saeid tavakoli in Marriage!   
    As salam alaikum...
     
    Alhumdulillah for meeting another sister who thinks this way..
    Most people I know would think I'm mad...lol, I remember recently at a marriage registration where the mehr was a symbolic $25 (roughly...translated...would not even equal to dinner for 2 at a decent restaurant lol), the registrar was shocked and re-checked so many times if there are any zeros missing loll...its like they just can't believe that people wouldn't ask for mehr..
    But the more annoying part is the cultural expectation...Alhumdulillah my parents, although nonMuslim, have always said that if they had to spend the money, they would rather give it to me...or give us a place or something more practical for our future instead (usually in desi weddings the bride's father pays for everything except reception)...maybe you can get away with convincing the parents about the more practical aspect...if they realllyy insist on spending money on it..
    though I know that for most people, its a matter of reputation...and even when my day comes, my dad will need to keep that in mind....so dont know how they will do it (especially coz I'm Muslim and I'd be marrying a Muslim...and thats bad enough to tarnish a reputation) but the idea of family honor, reputation and status in society is huge...and weddings are the biggest and best place to showcase that..
    I personally know manyyyy families who would be so miserly in their day to day spending, homes, etc.....but if its a wedding, they go out of the way to do the grandest, biggest, fanciest wedding ever........but stick to your points...I think any man should highly respect you for your opinion...
    At the same time, however, it is very possible that the moment people in the community find out that you aren't asking for much, men may seriously start wanting to come after your - u sound like the perfect Muslima wife and future mother, and they wont be thousands of pounds broke by the time the wedding is over....its a great deal
    but for this reason, you will need to be VERY careful about all your proposals....and see who genuinely wants YOU and not your "lack of demands"
    InshaAllah Allah will make it easy for you to stick to these great decisions...
     
    God bless!!
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    IFK got a reaction from saeid tavakoli in Irfan - Knowing Allah   
    Salaam..
     
    I really want to, and need to, understand irfaan better... does anyone know how can we go about this? I understand that a guide is important.. and I really want someone to help me...
    I converted several years ago, and I am starting to feel this gap/ missing spirituality... with tooo much focus on rituals, fiqh, history, dos and donts, as opposed to nourishment of the nafs....
     
    IF anyone knows how we can learn further, please let me know asap...
    I am currently in the Middle East... but anyone in ME or Canada will be helpful (i'm female... but not sure if that matters)
     
    or until then, please let me know if there is any place I can get access to such lectures, majalis of irfaan, etc...
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    IFK got a reaction from being Sayed in Uae Work Visa Policy For Shias   
    They are deporting shias day in and day out- they are very particular about it..I personally know active imambargah volunteers who went to renew their visas and immigration told them "sorry but you know why we can't renew it,(making it very very obvious)..please leave the country thankyou" its happening a lot more over the past 2 or more years, so you would want to be careful of telling them that you are shia.
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    IFK got a reaction from PureExistence1 in Irfan - Knowing Allah   
    Salaam..
     
    I really want to, and need to, understand irfaan better... does anyone know how can we go about this? I understand that a guide is important.. and I really want someone to help me...
    I converted several years ago, and I am starting to feel this gap/ missing spirituality... with tooo much focus on rituals, fiqh, history, dos and donts, as opposed to nourishment of the nafs....
     
    IF anyone knows how we can learn further, please let me know asap...
    I am currently in the Middle East... but anyone in ME or Canada will be helpful (i'm female... but not sure if that matters)
     
    or until then, please let me know if there is any place I can get access to such lectures, majalis of irfaan, etc...
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    IFK got a reaction from starlight in Say What You Would Otherwise Be Too Shy To Say   
    Salam all,
     
    I think this thread should be revived.. lots of good, honest and true comments and opinions.. its high time we bring out this honesty again..
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    IFK got a reaction from tendersoul in How To Convert/guide A Christian Spouse?   
    Salam brother,
     
    I hope I'm not too late...
     
    The most important thing... I would strongly suggest not to take her to Muharram majalis.. not sure of where you are... but for most people, if they go to the centers which are more cultural... and the maatam might scare them away..
    I know that if I ever take my nonMuslim parents (similar to what you said.. not much importance on following organized religion etc..) they would disown me and never understand the religion... the idea of mourning on its own is bad enough... but to actually do maatam, is usually looked at very negatively by nonMuslims... so please tread carefully..
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    IFK got a reaction from tendersoul in Irfan - Knowing Allah   
    Salaam..
     
    I really want to, and need to, understand irfaan better... does anyone know how can we go about this? I understand that a guide is important.. and I really want someone to help me...
    I converted several years ago, and I am starting to feel this gap/ missing spirituality... with tooo much focus on rituals, fiqh, history, dos and donts, as opposed to nourishment of the nafs....
     
    IF anyone knows how we can learn further, please let me know asap...
    I am currently in the Middle East... but anyone in ME or Canada will be helpful (i'm female... but not sure if that matters)
     
    or until then, please let me know if there is any place I can get access to such lectures, majalis of irfaan, etc...
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    IFK got a reaction from -Enlightened in Future Telling, Parents, Marriage, Emaan - Help   
    As salam alaikum,
     
    My parents (especially mum) is superstitious and believes in astrology majorly. Being brought up Hindu, reading birth charts and planet conditions for marriage purposes is essential....
    My parents do not agree to me being a Muslim or marrying a Muslim, but since its been so many years, mum got the birth charts made to see if they can be matched from an astrologer who is known to be very successful around India..
    She's studied stuff like geo-engineering, Vaastu (Indian fengshui) and had a scientific device to measure our aura and body energy fields. She came home yesterday to check our house energies etc.
    Since I have been wanting the aqeeq, emerald, ruby and firoza for very long, mum told me to wait and see if they suit me..I know that we do that in Islam as well (usually keep it under pillow and sleep and see if u get bad dreams, or it cracks, or none)...she had a scientific device that checked the change in energy fields based on the stones wearing, or holding a mobile (it went down bigtime), holding a tulsi leaf (increased alot) etc...so I bought the emerald from her coz that suited me a lot (I had been wanting the emerald the most for the past 3 years for some reason but couldnt get a good real one here)
     
    So anyway...
    After the scientific energy field related stuff, she took out tarot cards and my dad tried it...was alll very positive for his business etc....then mum did it for herself and then for me and my marriage..it was bad....so even after me insisting that I don't believe in future telling and all that, they finally made me pick up the cards myself for how my marriage would end up...was even worse.... (our istekhaara was very positive btw...but my parents don't care about that)
     
    Also, before meeting us yesterday, about two months ago, my mum gave her mine and my fiance's birth details and she said it was really bad and gave a detailed explanation on how our planets wouldnt work for marriage...so again yesterday
    she warned me that its got nothing to do with religions, and she spoke like a very intelligent neutral party against idol worship and all that drama - but that purely scientifically based on the alignments of our planets at our times of birth, its going to be BAD BAD BAD for us to get married...and its the worst mistake I can make ever...after me insisting on asking the solutions 3 times, she finally told me that the solution would be to do some chants, marry a hindu deity and submit my marriage to him (the deity Vishnu)...or to marry a tree (famous bollywood actress Aishwariya Rai did this fyi) - they believe that any badluck will fall on that tree and the boy married will be the "2nd husband" so either party will not die or the couple wont suffer through a divorce, since that would happen only to the 1st husband, the tree....I laughed at this the first time I heard it....but this woman was seriously telling me that its the only way the bad effects of my marriage may be mitigated to some extent....but she still says dont get married...its still much better for me..
     
    Ofcourse I know that this is all haraam but my mum refuses to let me get married unless she gets approval from her spiritual masters and our birth charts show some hope or positivity....so thats going to be a major challenge in the coming months....
    But the things this lady said started playing on my mind...because the lady kept insisting that whoever went against the charts has suffered etc etc...she was not one of those crazy gypsee females - seemed smart and objective and knew what she was talking about, backing a lot of it with science (apart from the tarot cards which I think were just silly but anyway)
     
    So with all this in my head, I was very upset so Alhumdulillah I opened my Quran for some comfort...ofcourse Allah swt has always guided me away from this nonsense and the verses I got were "Should Allah bring you harm, then there is none but He who could remove it and if He wishes you good, there is none who could take away His grace" and "whoever receives guidance is for themselves, whoever is led astray goes astray for himself"
    I was very comforted by this line....so finally fell asleep
     
    Then again today after my namaaz I wanted more from Allah to make sure that this future telling this is [Edited Out], so again Alhumdullilah, through the Quran He gave me verses like - " there is a reason you are all different tribes, and  you need to remain strong in your covenant with Allah...be patient..Allah will test and Shaytaan can't harm you if you remain strong in faith...those who once made oaths to Allah do not break those oaths...etc"
    So the idea that yea my parents have different beliefs but Allah has made it like this for a reason, but I need to keep away from this and stay strong....another 2 times the Quran gave me similar re-assurances...
     
    Then just now I was on facebook, and I follow this lady who posts very inspirational and deep insightful religious posts (mainly after her husband was martyred in Egypt revolutions)
    So just while scrolling on my newsfeed, I got a topic on which she has never written before
    "How Merciful a Lord that He did not allow us to know the future."
    Ofcourse I saw that and froze...
     
    and she kept talking about how Allah is so merciful because if we knew our future, we would never strive to live our lives, love or be happy...we would be in fear always if we knew our loved ones would die before we marry them, or that something bad will happen if we take certain steps...how many of us would not follow our dreams, not study, not have children, not travel, etc...and she goes on about things which pierced my heart like an arrow..and she ends with
     
    "How Merciful a Lord to not let us know our futures. He is Merciful to let us fail, and Merciful to let us lose, and Merciful to let us feel pain.
    It is only because of this Mercy that we are able to try and strive and attempt love and happiness. Alhamdulillah."
    (Direct quotation by this fb user above)
     
    That made me realize how weak my imaan had become...even if just for a day - just the fact that this future telling rubbish worried me...well thats something to worry about...I spoke to my fiance telling him that I think my emaan is weakening, and hes like...exactly!!!thats why I m unhappy - why would you let this affect you? I thought your emaan was stronger.....
    I have just got a shock realizing that my emaan actually isnt as strong as I thought it was...
    This happened to me a few years ago (just after I told my parents of my conversion, they took me to India and well- my emaan wasnt strong enough for their plans and I ALMOST broke...Alhumdulillah Allah saved me) I can't make mistakes again...I'm so afraid....what if my emaan is getting weaker?
    I really need some help....what can I do to remain steadfast in faith, when my own family is attacking me every single day?
    From my hijab style to the fact that I can't eat at home....I try everything I can to avoid these attacks but sometimes they make me change my clothes style, forced me to go abroad and study inspite of my istekhaara saying not to, and they always manipulate me into doing things they want me to....in a way that I don't feel that its manipulation...
    I have realized this...but they are my parents....
    I need to get married and get out of my house....but now all telling me don't take this bold stance of marrying this boy - ur life will be ruined....your parents only love u and care about u...etc etc.....while I don't believe their superstitious "stuff" anymore, they genuinely believe it...n I even told my mum that I think its HER negativity that is making this whole thing not work out for me...but she insists that shes just being a protective loving parent.....
    they love me to bits...but this is getting tooo much to handle and dodge their attacks....now im afraid if they do weird rituals in the house and stuff I dont know what can happen....
     
    so I need to have the weapons to fight this more...I need to make sure my emaan doesnt waver....
    pls help me...
    usually watching Islamic movies or hearing stories of miracles always re-assures me and increases my faith...
    ofcourse the Quranic verses and above post helped me BIGTIME....but I need a way to ensure my emaan is strong permanently..I can't let it keep going up an down...I'm scared they will ruin me this way.....
    I live in the same house....not working yet so almost home 24/7- cant stand it anymore and its sucking the life out of me....but then I feel soooo guilty feeling that way because they are my parents...
    so sometimes I do feel that what if Allah does punish me because I went against my loving parents so much? They say they love me and accept my faith and everything....but I have a grudge inspite of loving them...its just confusing..Allah tells me to feel one way about them but my heart feels anger and hate for their actions and opinions on my religion...and then sometimes I just feel sad and melt coz they are the ones who raised me....and I just can't deal with these anymore....
     
    Sorry for the rant....but I really need something that can be emaan-booosting...
    usually long Arabic duas don't do too well for me because I don't understand the language...so even with translations it gets lost sometimes...I want something I can be consistent with...
    or even just a movie, a story to help lift me, anything anyone has that can help me free myself from doubts and wavering emaan....
    I thought I was much stronger, and I know tht my belief in Islam is very very strong.....just can't lose patience or lose my mind...need more to hold onto - until whenever Allah wills..
     
    JazakAllah!!
     
     
     
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    IFK reacted to I.A.M in Marriage!   
    JAZZAK Allah SKAYR! May Allah grant you Ajr for this :-)
     
    Hahaha, its humbling to see your answer. I mean for paying me respect for the RIGHT thing to do! 
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    IFK reacted to I.A.M in Marriage!   
    Thank you soo much for the answer, where can I read about the marriage ceremony? I dont want any brief story but rather a detailed one if possible. 
     
     
    hahahaha I did not know I had an inbox (I am new to this place) and my chat room does not work so good for me, dont need to prepare any answers :-) but naa, its not about being a dream spouse but rather a good human being. Its my personal beliefe and I would rather make it easy on my spouse than to suck his energy out just because he need to satisfy my economically and give me this ultimate wedding that we girls tend to dream about. Its just a wordly thing and I would want him to rather spend those money on something that is beneficial for him/us in the long run in life and/or akhira. And even if I would want to have a wedding (because my mother, sister and aunts would certainly give me a hard time skipping the wedding) I would want us to split 50/50. I believe in making it as easy as possible for my future spouse, 
     
    Thank you for your answer :-) what do you mean by the last point? 
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    IFK reacted to Deewan in Marriage!   
    You sound like the dream spouse of a broke teenager on ShiaChat. I suggest you quickly prepare a stock answer to respond to the dozens of proposals that will inundate your inbox within the next several days :donno:
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    IFK reacted to Deewan in Hijabis Acting Like Western Girls ?   
    I've always objected to the venomous discourse employed by a number of atheists, especially scientists and public intellectuals, who look down upon those who believe. Theirs is a self-centered discourse that is conspicuous because of the pride it entails. That pride underlies a notion that all individuals should, irrespective of their life experience, education, family, culture, learning, age, abilities or lack thereof, arrive at the same conclusion and belief system--in this case that there's no god.
     
    For quite sometime now, I've been under the impression that humility is the cornerstone of our faith. But to the untrained eye like mine, those of you claiming to be better than others in the perceived correctness of the practice of your faith, humility is conspicuous by its absence. If you're doing what you're doing to serve God, why does it matter what anyone thinks or how another being choose to go about it?
     
    Moreover, all of you disgusted by those acting "like Westerners", how many of you are actually not from the West? As far as I know the overwhelming majority of you live in and enjoy the social, economic, and political benefits of the West. Just because you choose to segregate or ghettoize yourselves does not make you any less Western. Historical wrongs notwithstanding, all of us who are in the West came here for specific reasons and continue to choose to stay here. That makes us as Western as anyone, irrespective of skin colour or religion or culture. The West isn't some monolithic entity characterized by hedonism. Claiming or pretending so is simply internalizing the racist bigotry that many Western intellectuals have propagated in order to 'other', and therefore demonize, those deemed to be not belong to the geographic/sociological West.
     
    At the end of the day, my point is this: if you believe in God, you must also hopefully believe that He has given us some years on this earth and a freewill. Since that's the case, why not do with it what you think is right and leave the judging to God? Only those insecure in their own faith partake in the ritualized publicizing of their religion while becoming ever more corrupt from the inside. If you need evidence, look at the social ills like drug and sexual abuse, corruption, filth, violence, crime etc that plagues all Muslim countries.
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    IFK reacted to Pinata in Hijabis Acting Like Western Girls ?   
    This is the most ridiculous thing ever and makes me want to punch all my stuffed animals one by one. 
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    IFK reacted to Haydar Husayn in My Father Said No!   
    Do you have to get married in Afghanistan? Would it be out of the question to get married in England?
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    IFK reacted to gotmuffins! in Why Everyone Hate Converts   
    Convert here, can confirm, I went through a stage where I tried to be "Super Muslim" and thought I was better than everyone. Alhamdulillah I got over this. Converts get an idea of "What a Muslim should be" in their head, and oftentimes our longstanding brothers and sisters in faith don't fit that archetype. I thought this was a well thought out piece, and it is pretty relevant to the experience of new converts.
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    IFK got a reaction from sunrise_786 in Anyone Studying Social Work?   
    Would development studies count? Poverty alleviation, education, gender equality kind of things?
    I did my Bachelors in Business and landed a job in a humanitarian agency...after a year or so, I realized I wasn't made to do routine 9 to 5 jobs, but the only thing that kept me going was that it helped me realize my passion....I think one needs to find an aim and passion, and that was mine..
    Since my parents wouldn't let me get married and insisted I do masters first, the masters in a similar subject made sense...so I did it in development and humanitarian emergencies, albeit out of force, but atleast on something I liked Alhumdulillah..
    I like the fact that you can possibly try and make a difference in the lives of people, but I hate the fact that for some reason, it seems like it never ends - if you help one community, there's always another one suffering, and I just can't understand that...
    I don't know if you will have the depth of gruesome videos we had - mainly related to international relations and humanitarian situations, but the brutality some of them suffer, and the social consequences....are crazy.....maybe I'm too sensitive to actually go and do field based social work or try to understand the psychology part of it...really needs a heart of steel to handle these sensitive situations..
     
    Sorry I forgot to answer your question on field of focus: want to focus on gender equality and equal access to good quality education in developing countries inshaAllah since that is  something that it important to me, and it is something that will not affect me psychologically as opposed to the humanitarian related social work - I'm praying I get the job I want related to that..but Allah knows best...
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