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MohammadAli1993

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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Bakir in My younger sister has same-sex attraction   
    With the right tools, a bad situation can turn into a good one. I always talk about terrible realities in this forum, but in my personal case, I changed my family. It started with my siblings and friends, then cousins, then mother and some of my former generation (except my father, but he's got more problems to solve than just homophobia, and he just doesn't live with us, but in Iraq). I also started talking with other people of my local community, and the younger generations.
    For some, I may be indoctrinating. But the fact is that homophobia is also indoctrinated. Education shall be diverse, I don't fear people talking about the story of Lut @gayboyanon, I fear people not allowing their kids to listen to diverse voices. If the story of Lut, with its respective interpretation, is the only thing you hear, you will hate yourself to death. You grow up without tools to accept yourself. Especially gay Muslims, it's easy to feel alone in the world. Literally I used to believe I was the only gay shia in the world, heh.
    I did try to change back in the day, moved to a Muslim country for two years (it was good not to experience any sort of racism, so I agree with @3wliya_maryam, islamophobia is also exhausting in the West), but it didn't change my sexuality. I don't really think context can change one's sexuality after maturity as @Zainuu seems to point. There's also no proof for this, so...
    The thing is, with the right tools, gay Muslims can have a significant positive effect in our communities, probably more than anyone else, because it targets the core: families. People like me come to this forum and speak in their local Muslim communities about this topic with the hopes of bringing some tools to others like us. But the most effective change starts in families. I've seen changes in my relatives that no one could imagine it would happen. But it requires patience.
    Maybe today, for OP's relative, coming out can mean the risk of a forced marriage. Patience and hard work is necessary to achieve all the power and personal freedom she can, and when she has confidence and the right tools to speak, make a change. I didn't came out of the closet without tools. I had money, had a job, had knowledge (included Islamic one), and had confidence in myself. I had no fear in my eyes. But that requires work and certain tools that not everybody has.
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to gayboyanon in My younger sister has same-sex attraction   
    Actually, when you say it like that, Zainuu has a point. I hope that OP's sister will one day be able to come out to her parents, and even if they don't accept her, they still love her. But OP, that would take some work from you too. To slowly, I dunno, suggest the idea, or show them movies and stuff with gay characters so that your parents will be able to grow comfortable with the idea. But one thing you should never do is tell your parents yourself. That is your sister's decision whether or not to come out to them.
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Strange Samurai in How does Allah see and hear?   
    Shias accept the verse: "If there were seven oceans and sevens others were to add them, and all the trees would be pen, the word of Allah (عزّ وجلّ) would not have been completely defined by you". 
    Now, if you disagree and that you know complete about Allah (عزّ وجلّ) and disagree with Shias that Allah (عزّ وجلّ) is not kept by limits rather He limits the entire creation.
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Cool in How does Allah see and hear?   
    Imam Jafar al-Sadiq, peace with him, has said, “He, the most Exalted One, is Hearing and Seeing. He hears without a faculty, sees without a tool. Rather, He hears by Himself, sees by Himself
    Imam Muhammad al-Baqir, peace with him, has said, “He is Hearing, Seeing; He hears through what He sees, sees through what He hears.
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Warilla in How does Allah see and hear?   
    Allah does not require light to be refracted and focused on to a neurolical surface. That is the literal meaning of seeing. In the absence of light you can not see. Allah does not require light.
    Same argument for hearing.
    He is unlike anything. He is the All-Hearing, All-Seeing} (Q. 42:11)
    How he hears or sees we do not know.
    But it's not literal in the sense of what hearing and seeing is to created beings.
  6. Completely Agree
    MohammadAli1993 reacted to hasanhh in My wife creating issue without any reason.   
    EXACTLY
    Divorce her.
    lf you have put-up with this garbage for a year, you should already 'know' what off-the-wall-problems you will have if you do get her to Canada.
    Now, she knew that you are Canadian and now she doesn't want to come. You got "took" bro. Recover your money if you can. Go to court and get a divorce for desertion.
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    MohammadAli1993 got a reaction from AStruggler in Struggling to interact and meet females   
    Ma Shaa Allah brother
    This isn't something to be ashamed of 
    You have kept yourself away from corrupting your heart with the surrounding of women. 
    Now it is the time to look for your future spouse. As long as your intentions are clean, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will make it easy for you and if your future partner knows what type of a person you are then she will accept it and appreciate it. 
    Just think about it, would a wife like his man to have spoken to any girl out there or just to girls that was necessary to speak to (i.e work etc) 
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Fountain of youth in My sincere opinion on why the Imam successions is unnecessary concept in itself and also the existence of Imams orders   
    Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh brother I appreciate your hardwork in posting a long post.
     
    Here is where there occurs major error in your comment? Justify Usurpers? I am surprised? What is there to STEAL is the first question? PROPHETHOOD can't be stolen and there is no successions except by Allah's Decision and he chose the Prophet Muhammed to be the last messenger so there is no one after him. Allah never appointed imams the prophet chose 4 leaders after him to keep carrying on the message as ''GOVERNMENT LEADERS'' There is nothing to usurp here.
    As for the 4 Madhabs I don't agree with that nor do all the learn people because they didn't exist in the time of the prophet so they become invalid period. We have the direct source. The Sahaba and the Salaf were on the right path as they were following the direct source without anything middling with it and unaltered directing to the source. The 4 madhabs can only be used as an evidence but in reality they are irrelevant. 
    We have preserved the real message in full and the hadith relating to us how the prophet lived. 
    I repeat the prophet is not to be WORSHIPPED nor OVERGLORIFIED he was a mere man. This is where things get tricky when someone is involved in matters that are in reality unnecessary speaking about successions when they are none official as in OFFICIAL FROM ALLAH And these Imams have no divine communcation with Allah like Prophets and the best we can wish for them is that Allah rewards them for their deeds
     
     
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Mahdavist in My sincere opinion on why the Imam successions is unnecessary concept in itself and also the existence of Imams orders   
    I think you are mixing up worship and obedience. Worship is obviously only towards Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).
    However, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has ordained obedience of the prophet ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)) at various instances in the Qur'an, and the prophet ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)) has clearly stated that he leaves behind two weighty things, the Qur'an and the Ahlulbayt, which will never lead us astray and are inseparable from each other.
    Therefore this is what we must follow inshaAllah. 
  10. Completely Agree
    MohammadAli1993 reacted to lissenma in Would you allow your spouse online friends?   
    would a married sister need male friends?
    No.
    Man have no self worth if his wife contact other male (non-mahram) outside of proffesion. Interaction between non mahram should be proffesional/modest not friendly (smiles,laugther)
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    MohammadAli1993 got a reaction from lissenma in Would you allow your spouse online friends?   
    No - strictly forbidden 
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to guest 2025 in Would you allow your spouse online friends?   
    I would not. Even if the spouse is trustworthy, I can't let strange men get chummy with my wife. I have to question why they insist on chatting with married women in the first place. Real life isn't like Seinfeld or Friends where guys and gals just hang out, more often than not, lines are crossed.
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Ansur Shiat Ali in Sayyidah Fatima (as) is the mother of God?   
    You are Welcome brother, happy to help.
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to ahlulbaytkr in Sayyidah Fatima (as) is the mother of God?   
    I think hereby you've answered my questions. Thank you very much!
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    MohammadAli1993 got a reaction from AmirioTheMuzzy in Can we really say Saddam and oppressive Muslim leaders will be punished?   
    The battle of Jamal excused? What do u mean 
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    MohammadAli1993 got a reaction from AmirioTheMuzzy in Can we really say Saddam and oppressive Muslim leaders will be punished?   
    Sadam was a tyrant. I suggest you do some research and then you realise what a Son of Yazid he was. 
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    MohammadAli1993 got a reaction from Diaz in Can we really say Saddam and oppressive Muslim leaders will be punished?   
    The battle of Jamal excused? What do u mean 
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    MohammadAli1993 got a reaction from starlight in Can we really say Saddam and oppressive Muslim leaders will be punished?   
    The battle of Jamal excused? What do u mean 
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to aashiq-e-hussain in Convert to Shia Islam   
    Salam,
    I am Sunni Muslim right now. How can I convert to Shia Islam and be accepted by Shia soceity. I have read up about Shia and have Shia family and I wish to become a Shia.
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    MohammadAli1993 got a reaction from AliTanjiro in Struggling to interact and meet females   
    Ma Shaa Allah brother
    This isn't something to be ashamed of 
    You have kept yourself away from corrupting your heart with the surrounding of women. 
    Now it is the time to look for your future spouse. As long as your intentions are clean, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will make it easy for you and if your future partner knows what type of a person you are then she will accept it and appreciate it. 
    Just think about it, would a wife like his man to have spoken to any girl out there or just to girls that was necessary to speak to (i.e work etc) 
  21. Completely Agree
    MohammadAli1993 got a reaction from F.M in Struggling to interact and meet females   
    Ma Shaa Allah brother
    This isn't something to be ashamed of 
    You have kept yourself away from corrupting your heart with the surrounding of women. 
    Now it is the time to look for your future spouse. As long as your intentions are clean, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will make it easy for you and if your future partner knows what type of a person you are then she will accept it and appreciate it. 
    Just think about it, would a wife like his man to have spoken to any girl out there or just to girls that was necessary to speak to (i.e work etc) 
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    MohammadAli1993 got a reaction from Labbayka in Struggling to interact and meet females   
    Ma Shaa Allah brother
    This isn't something to be ashamed of 
    You have kept yourself away from corrupting your heart with the surrounding of women. 
    Now it is the time to look for your future spouse. As long as your intentions are clean, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will make it easy for you and if your future partner knows what type of a person you are then she will accept it and appreciate it. 
    Just think about it, would a wife like his man to have spoken to any girl out there or just to girls that was necessary to speak to (i.e work etc) 
  23. Completely Agree
    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Mahdavist in Friendship between a Male and a Female   
    The interesting (and unfortunate) thing is that many would probably be ok with the (haraam) friendship, but most would probably protest at the (halal) suggestion you made above. 
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Mahdavist in Friendship between a Male and a Female   
    The concept of friendship between males and females in islam doesn't really exist. Interactions are to be kept to the minimum that is necessary. 
    The only relationship between non mahram men and women in islam is marriage. 
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    MohammadAli1993 reacted to Labbayka in Struggling to interact and meet females   
    I’m 21 and I’m looking for marriage. My perceptions on girls have been skewed a lot because I was raised by a masculine code. It sounds awfully cringe but I have a very traditional view of females put it that way. I never had a girlfriend or even talked to a girl one on one for a long period of time. My family can’t find any suitable partner for me so now I’m out on my own. My attitude towards females won’t change, and I believe this is my nature. But I absolutely suck at talking to girls, I feel so awkward and uncomfortable asking about how did your day go etc. I want to have a partner so I don’t fall into any haram in life but I feel like getting one is unrealistic for me. It’s not who I am but I have no other choice. 
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