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    King got a reaction from notme in Philanthropy vs. Taxation   
    Right to property is very different from other fundamental rights universally agreed upon.  Its interpretation and the extent to which it is applied will always remain the contentious issue. 
  2. Confused
    King got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Did Hezbollah totally abandon his original goal?   
    He has made legitimate points which you have failed to respond to.  There is no need to insult people if you cannot keep up with the discussion.
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    King got a reaction from Islandsandmirrors in I can't stop this one sin :/   
    Chess being haram makes 0 sense but it is what it is.
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    King reacted to Maryaam in Illegitimate Children   
    New York Post - Oct 2018   According to the UNFPA State of the World Population 2018.  https://www.unfpa.org/sites/default/files/pub-pdf/UNFPA_PUB_2018_EN_SWP.pdf   Forty percent of US babies are being born to unmarried parents, a trend that has risen steadily over the past five decades.
    In 1970, only about 10 percent of births were outside marriage, according to the report, by the UN Population Fund.
    The trend toward out-of-wedlock babies is even higher in Europe.
    France has the largest percentage of out-of-wedlock births in the European Union, with 60 percent of babies being born outside marriage.
    The report also shows that women in America are waiting longer before having their first child.
    In the US, the average age of a woman having her first child is now 27, as opposed to in 1970, when that age was 22.
    Women in Canada, Japan, Spain and Korea all have still higher average ages for a woman’s first birth, with Korean women topping the chart by having their first child at an average of age 31.
    …………...
    Accuracy of reporting:  It is hard to know what the actual numbers of “married” parents are, as you would have to determine what is meant by “married”.  The legal definition would be to have a registered marriage with the state but that would not indicate marriages that are through religion only.  For example, how many Muslims register their marriages - especially if they have more than one?  
    Advantages:  There can be advantages to not getting married in terms of social services and benefits depending on one’s situation and issues within the family structure. (I know of a man disabled because of a car accident who receives more services as a single as when married.  He had to divorce his wife after his accident. It was the only way they could get significant services… because it was expected that his wife would be supplying a lot of the care - but she couldn’t as she now had to work and support the family.  He lives in a small apartment nearby and the whole family goes there for breakfast and then she drives kids to school and goes to work....)
    Societal Attitudes:  In general, in the West, the thoughts of a single woman having a child outside marriage is not looked upon favourably. It is not seen as being as bad, if the woman is wealthy or if she has a partner.  It appears that it is not the morality of it, so much as the cost of social services that are assumed the woman would need if she is on her own. Also, different cultural/ethnic groups view this financial dependence differently…. Some groups have no issue whatsoever and consider this the norm.
    The idea of ostracizing/belittling/shaming the parents who had a child outside of marriage does not make sense to me - How would that be beneficial for their children who obviously would be greatly affected by their family's standing in the community? What if the parents have repented and are remorseful?  How would we know?  And if so, is it our business to know - or is this between them and God?
    Also, open, overt condemnation, encourages unmarried people from conservative cultures to opt for abortion - compounding the sin.  And yes, women from conservative cultures have abortions - especially in countries where abortion is mainstream and your privacy is protected.
     
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    King got a reaction from Bakir in The Firestorm on Ilhan Omar   
    You may have this a little backwards.  Criticism of Israel has been considered anti-semitic for quite a while now.  If anything, there are a growing number of American Jews who are either indifferent or increasingly disillusioned with the state of Israel, they do not identify with Israel as strongly as their predecessors did.  There has been an extreme minority of Orthodox Jews that have been critical of Israel for decades but the new wave of indifference over the past decade or so has been driven by a younger and more liberal crowd.
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    King got a reaction from Bakir in The Firestorm on Ilhan Omar   
    You may have this a little backwards.  Criticism of Israel has been considered anti-semitic for quite a while now.  If anything, there are a growing number of American Jews who are either indifferent or increasingly disillusioned with the state of Israel, they do not identify with Israel as strongly as their predecessors did.  There has been an extreme minority of Orthodox Jews that have been critical of Israel for decades but the new wave of indifference over the past decade or so has been driven by a younger and more liberal crowd.
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    King got a reaction from Bakir in The Firestorm on Ilhan Omar   
    You may have this a little backwards.  Criticism of Israel has been considered anti-semitic for quite a while now.  If anything, there are a growing number of American Jews who are either indifferent or increasingly disillusioned with the state of Israel, they do not identify with Israel as strongly as their predecessors did.  There has been an extreme minority of Orthodox Jews that have been critical of Israel for decades but the new wave of indifference over the past decade or so has been driven by a younger and more liberal crowd.
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    King got a reaction from Bakir in The Firestorm on Ilhan Omar   
    You may have this a little backwards.  Criticism of Israel has been considered anti-semitic for quite a while now.  If anything, there are a growing number of American Jews who are either indifferent or increasingly disillusioned with the state of Israel, they do not identify with Israel as strongly as their predecessors did.  There has been an extreme minority of Orthodox Jews that have been critical of Israel for decades but the new wave of indifference over the past decade or so has been driven by a younger and more liberal crowd.
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    King got a reaction from Bakir in The Firestorm on Ilhan Omar   
    You may have this a little backwards.  Criticism of Israel has been considered anti-semitic for quite a while now.  If anything, there are a growing number of American Jews who are either indifferent or increasingly disillusioned with the state of Israel, they do not identify with Israel as strongly as their predecessors did.  There has been an extreme minority of Orthodox Jews that have been critical of Israel for decades but the new wave of indifference over the past decade or so has been driven by a younger and more liberal crowd.
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    King got a reaction from Bakir in The Firestorm on Ilhan Omar   
    You may have this a little backwards.  Criticism of Israel has been considered anti-semitic for quite a while now.  If anything, there are a growing number of American Jews who are either indifferent or increasingly disillusioned with the state of Israel, they do not identify with Israel as strongly as their predecessors did.  There has been an extreme minority of Orthodox Jews that have been critical of Israel for decades but the new wave of indifference over the past decade or so has been driven by a younger and more liberal crowd.
  11. Completely Agree
    King got a reaction from Maryaam in China Is Treating Islam Like a Mental Illness   
    lol Pakistan won't question China, their ties are too strong.  To think any country actually puts religion above all else is foolish, governments only care about their own interests.
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    King got a reaction from Islandsandmirrors in Masturbation issue   
    There is nothing wrong with discussing private parts and diseases if it is done in a scientific and serious manner.  Just because it is not appropriate in our cultures does not mean these details should not be discussed.  As far as I am aware there is nothing unislamic about it, it is a cultural issue we should overcome.
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    King got a reaction from Islandsandmirrors in Masturbation issue   
    There is nothing wrong with discussing private parts and diseases if it is done in a scientific and serious manner.  Just because it is not appropriate in our cultures does not mean these details should not be discussed.  As far as I am aware there is nothing unislamic about it, it is a cultural issue we should overcome.
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    King got a reaction from forte in Masturbation issue   
    I did skim through some of it.  I think it is mostly fine as long as a disclaimer is placed mentioning that the post might contain more explicit details.  If it is not un-Islamic then it shouldn't be removed as sometimes people do not have other means to discuss these issues.  We are all mature enough to read a disclaimer and not read on if we will feel uncomfortable.  As far as children are concerned then I would argue there are countless other threads on topics such as slavery, homosexuality which would all be off limits as they are potentially a lot more damaging.  It is an online forum, you cannot restrict all these discussions.
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    King got a reaction from Islandsandmirrors in Masturbation issue   
    There is nothing wrong with discussing private parts and diseases if it is done in a scientific and serious manner.  Just because it is not appropriate in our cultures does not mean these details should not be discussed.  As far as I am aware there is nothing unislamic about it, it is a cultural issue we should overcome.
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    King got a reaction from Islandsandmirrors in Masturbation issue   
    There is nothing wrong with discussing private parts and diseases if it is done in a scientific and serious manner.  Just because it is not appropriate in our cultures does not mean these details should not be discussed.  As far as I am aware there is nothing unislamic about it, it is a cultural issue we should overcome.
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    King got a reaction from Islandsandmirrors in Masturbation issue   
    There is nothing wrong with discussing private parts and diseases if it is done in a scientific and serious manner.  Just because it is not appropriate in our cultures does not mean these details should not be discussed.  As far as I am aware there is nothing unislamic about it, it is a cultural issue we should overcome.
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    King got a reaction from rkazmi33 in Are you allowed to miss your parent's funeral if your life is in danger?   
    If your life and safety would be in danger then you should not go.  God surely would never fault you for it.
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    King got a reaction from rkazmi33 in Are you allowed to miss your parent's funeral if your life is in danger?   
    If your life and safety would be in danger then you should not go.  God surely would never fault you for it.
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    King got a reaction from rkazmi33 in Are you allowed to miss your parent's funeral if your life is in danger?   
    If your life and safety would be in danger then you should not go.  God surely would never fault you for it.
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    King got a reaction from Islandsandmirrors in Ladies how did you fill up your time when you were newlywed?   
    The recipe for a successful marriage is hearty meals that take the whole day to prepare with tender love and care.
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    King got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Does marriage get inevitably boring?   
    Yes it gets boring, especially if you are a guy.  You should look for other qualities in a woman beyond how exciting she initially appears, it will all wear off.
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    King got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Does marriage get inevitably boring?   
    Yes it gets boring, especially if you are a guy.  You should look for other qualities in a woman beyond how exciting she initially appears, it will all wear off.
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    King reacted to Maryaam in Conflicted--please help.   
    Given what you have described of yourself (your interests, your attributes and health considerations), teaching of primary (Grade K - 3) students would be what I would suggest.  It is a very demanding but rewarding job. It is also a good pragmatic choice, in that it will take less investment in terms of time and money.  I can’t see how it would ever be boring.  Students have incredibly diverse envirionmental backgrounds, learning strengths and needs. Striving to meet the teaching and learning goals of each one, especially in a large group setting takes a lot of creativity; it is a true art form! You would also have a big part in developing the future of our communities. In the early grades, the students think you are pretty much the knower of all things - everything you say and do is of great importance and impact to them.  It is a wonderful opportunity to really reach out and guide children in the best ways.  
    Because of the July/August break, you would always have the opportunity to continue your studies in summer university programs leading to a masters in a specific teaching field (special education, literacy, etc) - which will open doors for higher level positions within the school system, or, perhaps a masters in educational psychology where you would work as part of a multi-disciplinary team in assessing and developing programs for children with exceptional learning requirements. These teams can consist of teachers, specialist teachers, counsellors, school psychologists, speech and language pathologists, occupational and physiotherapists, social workers and any number and variety of outside consultants.
    As one of those outside consultants, I work collaboratively with these teams. I am always impressed with the dedication and drive of these people - especially the teachers.  Most of the team members pretty much work one to one with a child, but the teacher has the most demanding role as they engage and manage an entire class as they perform their magic. I have nothing but praise and admiration for them.  
    In terms of work environment, it does not get much better.  You work with caring, supportive people who genuinely want you to succeed and be the best you can be - job satisfaction is very high.  This is not something to be taken for granted. I have heard that in many positions - especially in the corporate world - it can be very competitive and cut throat where any missteps you make for whatever reason, become someone else’s sought-after, and quickly exploited, opportunities. Some people claim to thrive on that, but I don't think it is healthy for anyone.  This is something that would very much remain foreign to you… which is a good thing.
     
  25. Completely Agree
    King got a reaction from Gaius I. Caesar in Freedom of opinion   
    I feel this site needs to get more moderators to catch up with the times.  At least someone who has elementary level knowledge of mental health issues and online abuse/bullying.  It is easy enough to warn and ban people for uttering the wrong word or breaking some rudimentary site rule.  People shouldn't be able to get away with extremely cruel personal remarks cloaked in Islamic slogans.  The same goes for a lot of racially insensitive remarks about Whites or Jews. 
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