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iltemas-e-dua

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  1. Salam sister. I am in dire need of your help regarding a topic. I have tried to press the message button but for some reason it won't let me PM you. How can I get in touch privately? 

    1. Mohammed-Mehdi

      Mohammed-Mehdi

      I think your account and activity is too new and low for that. 

  2. Managed to send a PM to sister Hameedeh, thank you for your replies inshAllah should get sorted soon.
  3. It wouldnt let me hence why I made a post...I hope someone can help me out!
  4. walaikum assalam, this does look good, but I am after a hard copy rather than a link or a electronic version. I know what you mean, and I do listen to the Quran, but I would really like to read it because there was many surahs I knew by heart and I have forgotten and if I had it in front of me to read, I would find it easier to memorise again. I don't work so well with audio.
  5. Salam, I used to have another shiachat account, which I did request to be deleted and all posts relating to that account to be deleted. A few days ago i just typed in my username in the search by on shiachat and found that my started threads and posts still show up. Please, I would like these deleted as they contain my email address in them, which I don't want to share and also because I am no longer comfortable with some of the things I shared being available anymore. This is only because I can be easily identified by them and people can know who I am, which I don't want. I have not used the account for ages, so I cannot even log in and maybe edit the posts because ive forgotten my log in credentials The username I will provide to you, if there is anyone that can help me. Please reply here and I will inbox you? Please can you delete this account or if thats not possible, then maybe ask me some questions to verify myself so that I can have my password reset? Please This would mean alot to me, and I would be extremely grateful. Thanks in advance.
  6. I know there is only one Quran, and of course there is no doubts about that. I guess I am just trying to find one that will have the best Transliteration, as I don't want to buy one to recite correctly and then to still be reciting it incorrectly, if that makes sense?
  7. I was hoping someone here could help. I am a long time sunni to shia revert. I am kind of okay with reading arabic, but not that great. Although in my younger years I went to madrassah and read the Quran in Arabic, I realised my recitation over the years has become quite weak. I would love to go back and re learn to read Arabic again, but right now its not possible because of the lack of time and money. However my weak Arabic has made me slightly not look forward to or even avoid reading altogether, which is obviously something I don't want. In order to help me practice with my Arabic recitation I am after a transliterated version so I can kind of look back to check I am reciting it okay (by transliteration I mean Arabic written in English like Alhamdulillah, Bismillah etc) I have seen a few online, but am not sure if there are any that are written by shia writers? So the help I am asking is: 1) Can anyone recommend me any they know or have brought? If yes any links to purchase would be appreciated 2) Is there any publishers, writers, transliterators that I should avoid? 3) Please can anyone look at the two I have found online, and see if they are okay?, I am abit worried about the amazon one as someone wrote a review to say the transliteration was incorrect in some places. The two that I found online: https://www.simplyislam.com/Iteminfo.asp?item=53058 by Taqi ud Din Al Hilali Mohsin Khan there are a few others available on the webiste too or http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Holy-Quran-Transliteration-Translation/dp/8171512070/ref=pd_cp_14_3?ie=UTF8&refRID=1HPMX1975YRWWRZ76AFP There are a few different editions available here all by Abdullah Yusuf Ali I am looking to buy one purely for its transliteration and not really too concerned on the translation. Thank you for all your help in advance. Iltemase Dua
  8. Thank you for replying to my post! If I wore a dark brown or navy blue abaya that would be okay too?
  9. Assalam o Alaikum Hope you are all well? InshALLAH by the grace of Allah I will soon be going on ziyarat in Iraq. I feel so lucky and blessed to have this opportunity to go and visit imam Hussain (as). Although wish I could have gone for Arbaeen but will inshALLAH be going in December during the xmas holidays. I am a revert shia (from sunni) and inshALLAH I will be going with my husband (who is a born shia), who has also never been before. My family is still all sunni, so I cant ask them as they'd have no idea. So i just thought you lovely members could help me out a little bit. So, i don't really know how to dress, i am a female, and I know I will have to be in full hijab. I already do hijab and will take some abayas with me, but the question I would like to ask is, as i will be going after Arbaeen would i be expected to wear black? I dont mind wearing black as most of my abayas are in black (and would be convenient). However then I wonder as its not Muharram and it will be after Arbaeen and even after Eid e Zahra...would it be bad to wear black. What colours should i wear/be expected to wear? what colours are a no no? Any advice on what I or my husband should wear and any other advice on what we should take with us? Many thanks for all your help Iltemase dua
  10. Thank you sister I appreciate your reply and i understand exactly what you mean as i do think of these things on a daily basis. Bless you, i wish this condition didnt exist and my heart goes out to anyone else out there who is going through the same thing, i know how soul destroying it is. I am just try to share how i feel about my husband and him having a mutaa and the reasons why i am against my husband having one. Please don't consider this as a dig at you or anyone else who has commented in any way. I am grateful for everyones response and its always good to hear everyones perspective. So basically every time i think of my situation and think if it was in reverse and my husband had a condition which prevented us from having sex (which was curable) would i just let him be and go my own way? and my answer is; no, i would not. I would never do that even if he had something which was uncurable because i love him for what and how he is not how i want him to be. I know our needs for certain things differ in degree and i know he does have the right to marry multiple wives granted by Allah but that doesnt mean that given any circumstances everyone should excercise these, because these decisions impact different people in different ways and these factors should be considered. I could understand if i was 'okay' and i simply denied him of sex and he was looking elsewhere. I know it may seem like i am making him frustrated but believe me this condition makes me frustrated just as much. I am not as expressive about it because to some extent i feel guilty and blame myself for the whole thing, but really its not my fault. I have thought about it and i don't feel i am denying him the right to mutaa (although we both follow Ayatullah Sistani and he says that a married man does require the permission of his wife should he wish to have a mutaa, i dont know the full ruling regarding this so don't quote me on it) However at the end of the day if he does it without telling me i cannot do anything about it, when i find out. However I felt it was necessary for him to know how i feel about it because if he went ahead with it, then i would never be able to see him in the same way. I couldn't respect him for it and it would hurt me and i've expressed this to him. I believe it was important for him to know, because he said he only wants to have a family with me and the mutaa would just be for sex and nothing else and i personally don't think that would work for me or work at all, for that matter. There is no guarantee that he would not impregnate the lady he would have a mutaa with (no birth control is 100% effective) so if she falls pregnant where does that then leave me? A so called sex only kind of relationship would turn to something much more after a child, as i know my husband will not back down from his responsibilities towards the child and the mother (i respect him for these qualities). Also i don't feel that any lady would want a sex only relationship as i know most females are very emotional and would certainly want more than that and therefore it isn't as easy as he believes and unwantedly our relationship will have more strain and will end up falling apart. He does understand where i am coming from and admits if it was the other way he wouldn't be able to share my like that either. My husband is great guy alhamdulillah and i don't want to ruin our relationship permanently because we cannot get through a temporary (inshALLAH) problem. It's not just me that wants our marriage to be long lasting, he does too and unfortunately as much as id love to be okay with it, i cannot feel too happy about about him sleeping with other women as a solution to our problem as it will only add to the problems in my opinion and not solve them.
  11. Thank you Ruq I feel you get where im coming from and it's nice to know I'm not insane/selfish for thinking the way I do ,regarding my husband potentially bedding other women. Saying that sister Fatima I do agree with you saying my husband is a strong man because he really is an amazing husband and I know he never did anything to hurt me. I've known my husband for 8 years including the 1.5yrs we've been married and I admire him in so many ways it's unreal. I must admit your original post did make me sob and felt I needed to be more considerate of his feelings and I went snd apologised to him for being selfish but bless his gentle soul he said that he knows that if I could choose I would not refuse him of any needs and it's not my fault he said he has a responsibility to take care of me and he will do that and will work with me in my problem. Notme, thank you for your reply. I agree and think I need to initiate on trying again otherwise things may stay the same for some time. I'm sure treatment will involve us having to continuously try anyway and if it doesn't help atleast we'll be more comfortable with each other physically. It's so psychological I wish I could control my thoughts and just snap out of it :( I respect and appreciate all the comments I've received and would love to hear more, especially success stories of overcoming this horrible condition. Ive no hard feelings towards anyone, thank you
  12. Thank you for your comment on my post. It was nice to hear from someone that agrees with how I feel and didn't make me feel I was oppressing. Please remember me in your Duas :) x

  13. Thank you for your comment on my post, it was comforting. Please make dua for me and my husband :) x

    1. Ruq

      Ruq

      Will do, try not to worry, inshAllah all will be fine in time =)

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