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Ruq

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    Ruq got a reaction from T.Nasir in For Those Who Are Deliberately Delaying Marriage..   
    Are any of us the Nasser we were 10 years ago? I do hope Nasser didnt read this article, i dont think it will have done anything for his self esteem. The narrator seems to be suggesting that Nasser was wrong to assume that no woman would be interested in him beyond his possessions and wealth (:)), but rather that, in reality, theyre not interested in him because he's wrinkly, miserable and balding (:(). Its also worrying that the narrator thinks that Nassers apparent perfection seeking tendency is reasonable and healthy, yet suggests an 'out of date'(?) girl is pretty much what he deserves for being such a misguided idiot. The general implication is that anyone approaching 30 who hasnt yet married must be a cowardly, unimaginative, listless, perverted, physically infirm, asocial and angry person and should expect a hostile and physically unsatisfying marriage. I think whoever wrote this article should stop using Shia Chat as the control group for their research
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    Ruq got a reaction from yusur317 in For Those Who Are Deliberately Delaying Marriage..   
    Are any of us the Nasser we were 10 years ago? I do hope Nasser didnt read this article, i dont think it will have done anything for his self esteem. The narrator seems to be suggesting that Nasser was wrong to assume that no woman would be interested in him beyond his possessions and wealth (:)), but rather that, in reality, theyre not interested in him because he's wrinkly, miserable and balding (:(). Its also worrying that the narrator thinks that Nassers apparent perfection seeking tendency is reasonable and healthy, yet suggests an 'out of date'(?) girl is pretty much what he deserves for being such a misguided idiot. The general implication is that anyone approaching 30 who hasnt yet married must be a cowardly, unimaginative, listless, perverted, physically infirm, asocial and angry person and should expect a hostile and physically unsatisfying marriage. I think whoever wrote this article should stop using Shia Chat as the control group for their research
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    Ruq got a reaction from Gaius I. Caesar in For Those Who Are Deliberately Delaying Marriage..   
    Are any of us the Nasser we were 10 years ago? I do hope Nasser didnt read this article, i dont think it will have done anything for his self esteem. The narrator seems to be suggesting that Nasser was wrong to assume that no woman would be interested in him beyond his possessions and wealth (:)), but rather that, in reality, theyre not interested in him because he's wrinkly, miserable and balding (:(). Its also worrying that the narrator thinks that Nassers apparent perfection seeking tendency is reasonable and healthy, yet suggests an 'out of date'(?) girl is pretty much what he deserves for being such a misguided idiot. The general implication is that anyone approaching 30 who hasnt yet married must be a cowardly, unimaginative, listless, perverted, physically infirm, asocial and angry person and should expect a hostile and physically unsatisfying marriage. I think whoever wrote this article should stop using Shia Chat as the control group for their research
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    Ruq got a reaction from eloquence in For Those Who Are Deliberately Delaying Marriage..   
    Are any of us the Nasser we were 10 years ago? I do hope Nasser didnt read this article, i dont think it will have done anything for his self esteem. The narrator seems to be suggesting that Nasser was wrong to assume that no woman would be interested in him beyond his possessions and wealth (:)), but rather that, in reality, theyre not interested in him because he's wrinkly, miserable and balding (:(). Its also worrying that the narrator thinks that Nassers apparent perfection seeking tendency is reasonable and healthy, yet suggests an 'out of date'(?) girl is pretty much what he deserves for being such a misguided idiot. The general implication is that anyone approaching 30 who hasnt yet married must be a cowardly, unimaginative, listless, perverted, physically infirm, asocial and angry person and should expect a hostile and physically unsatisfying marriage. I think whoever wrote this article should stop using Shia Chat as the control group for their research
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    Ruq reacted to Haji 2003 in Thinking Positive   
    Hameedeh, to be honest, I utterly HATE your blog.
    You write so little but your writing is so good, please at least write more frequently
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    Ruq got a reaction from yusur317 in Raising Maryam - Language lessons   
    Is she lerarning Fusah arabic?
    Check out the link in my signature, the sources on there are phenomenol for arabic.
    She will thank you when she is older.
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    Ruq got a reaction from yusur317 in Raising Maryam - Language lessons   
    I have always felt that every Muslim must have a good working knowledge of Arabic. But in in non-Arab countries such as the sub-continent, Iran, Turkey, Indonesia, etc. Arabic is meant mostly for those going into religious studies. The rest know almost nothing of Arabic.
    Compare that with the Jewish community - I am not talking about Israel but Jews around the world.
    A far greater proportion of Jews know Hebrew than Muslims know Arabic.
    That is sad ! Isn't it?
     
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    Ruq got a reaction from rkazmi33 in Spread by the Sword?   
    First of all there is proof that Imam Ali helped with those expanisions, namely the conquest of Persia. Shaykh Al-Korani has talked about this.
    Secondly, in our Fiqh there is something called offensive Jihad. Whether that is the exclusive right of the infallible Imam or another person can call it is a different issue, the point is not every war in Islam is defensive. Some are expansionist and offensive. 
    Sayyed Subah Shubbar nails it:
     
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    Ruq got a reaction from Miss Wonderful in Spread by the Sword?   
    First of all there is proof that Imam Ali helped with those expanisions, namely the conquest of Persia. Shaykh Al-Korani has talked about this.
    Secondly, in our Fiqh there is something called offensive Jihad. Whether that is the exclusive right of the infallible Imam or another person can call it is a different issue, the point is not every war in Islam is defensive. Some are expansionist and offensive. 
    Sayyed Subah Shubbar nails it:
     
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    Ruq reacted to Miss Wonderful in Purpose of Life   
    I am glad that you shared this thought.

    I was always told that I should find what I am good at that makes money, and do that. That's a nice sentiment for people who are "normal", capable, and are happy with "playing the game" so to speak-- I am not one of them. I have a learning disability, poor memory for anything that does not naturally fascinate me, and I have never been one who is able to "play the game" with teachers, supervisors, etc (I was released from two jobs this past year because I refused to turn a blind eye to illegal conduct that superiors were deeply involved with). I cannot ever seem to really hold a secure job and when I do, I do not make enough money to live independent from my mother (I am 30 years old as of this post). I have some college, but cannot graduate because my learning disability prevents me from being able to pass the math couses I need for an associates as they are structured. My work history exists, but I do not have references as I have lost contact with those I previously worked with.

    I am casually teaching myself to design and create a video game, I am a decent writer and like the *idea* of writing but never am able to follow through and really produce any content that I could earn with. Cleaning natural areas and serving the poor are activities I also have been apt to engage in when the opportunity presents itself. The main problem I have is that I have been born into an age wherein I am incapable of finding the time to hold a job and really dedicate myself to these four pursits, as the current societal ideal seems to be that employees are no longer selling their labor to an employer, but that they are more akin to property who should smile and continually lavish praise upon those who work them for low wages with no benefits at all. This is why I have struggled for so long to find a means to maintain employment and feel like my life has a valid purpose other than being a gear in someone else's wealth generator. Sometimes I honestly weigh the pros and cons of homelessness.

    If I haven't tried it, how would I find purpose in it? I have a crippling fear of failure and the ensuing shame from proving myself less capable than others (most of this is due to my estranged father & his psychopathy/narcissism). I have spent over a decade across many different employers in two industries I absolutely loathe due to my aversion for dealing with the public: food & retail.

    I'm not really sure what it is that I want, but I know for a fact that whatever it is has to be minimally stressful as well as engaging.
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    Ruq reacted to LeftCoastMom in Purpose of Life   
    Well, in my opinion the reason you're not finding your purpose is because of a crippling fear of failure for whatever reasons that spawned them.  They need to be dealt with, confronted or perhaps seeking out someone such as a therapist may assist you.
    You're severely handicapped by that fear.
    I gotta say, I've had a fear of the public, interacting with others outside my comfort zone since I was a child though, it wasn't due to a fear of proving to be less capable much less some kind of social anxiety - this was handled by plunging head first into what I was afraid of to get exposure and to understand that failure can only lead to success if you're able to learn from mistakes.  That is generally what anyone really cares about most in a hired employee.
    If you can't address that issue, then are you prepared to never find your life's true purpose?
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    Ruq got a reaction from Miss Wonderful in Hoor al-`Ayn are not White Chicks   
    Its from the Quran. Not hadith.
    I just know that they are beautiful women, never have known that it can go this deep. 
    I mean, what is the difference between white and brown women? 
    Both of them can be beautiful, or they have unique beauty. 
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    Ruq got a reaction from Sumayyeh in Hoor al-`Ayn are not White Chicks   
    true bro
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    Ruq reacted to Miss Wonderful in Death of the Shi'i Intellectual Pt1 - Akhbarism   
    This seems like a very interesting blog entry. Looking forward for the series.
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    Ruq reacted to Haji 2003 in Death of the Shi'i Intellectual Pt1 - Akhbarism   
    Looking forward to this. May Allah give this project tawfeeq
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    Ruq reacted to enigma313 in Islam and Feminism   
    Wow, you're ignorance is so deep.  The hardest years begin after the age of 4.  
    So only women who are thick and dumb stay at home, if they are intelligent they go out and work.  Spewing even more ignorance here.  I am educated to degree level, choose to work part time in television, and spend all my free time with my children. 
    I know women who are talented in the home and in the workplace, and they would surely wipe the floor with someone as ignorant as you. 
    The number of women with mental health issues is on the rise, as is the case of the number of women being treated for eating disorders, and the list goes on.
    Oh and btw, did I mention or emphasise enough how ignorant you are, and how insulting your comments are too. 
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    Ruq reacted to Ali_Hussain in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    Do my posts seems like the posts of someone who has been in the hawza for 4 years? I didn't write that.
    I didn't even have digital ummah in mind, I don't think that he even opened a thread on tatbir this year? There were so many I've lost count. Personally even though I'm against tatbir,  I don't like anti tatbir threads as they ruin the general ambiance of the forum.
    Not for the heck of it, just that they had been discussed before and the user should check the search engine, I can't recall any particular examples but the mod who used to close the most hasn't been active for a long time so there are no recent examples as the active mods don't tend to do that.
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    Ruq reacted to DigitalUmmah in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    @Ibn al-Hussain the mallangy brothers that I am in constant contact with, who are also former SCers, well. lets just say they probably wont be able to come back. mallang-ban-genocide and all that lol
     
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    Ruq reacted to Ali_Hussain in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    What about an option where non members have the opportunity to sign in easily just to ask a question, and they can only participate in that discussion, to have full access to the site they have to make an account.
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    Ruq reacted to guest050817 in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    We have got to make registering and posting questions easier on this board. In the past you could register without having such strict restrictions.
     
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    Ruq reacted to hayaah in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    Generally speaking, everyone seems to have lost interest in MOST areas of life and not just SC.
     i.e work, social media and school -(due to the repetitive nature) 
     
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    Ruq reacted to Ali_Hussain in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    That is part of the reason, however I believe that the forum died due to moderation issues, there were many, many occasion in which new members would come and ask a question only to have the thread locked and them to be told to just use the search engine. What did the mods think was going to happen? That kind of behaviour, first of all comes across as rude, and secondly doesn't allow the user to develop a taste for what this forum is supposed to be about.
    There are of course other issues, such as facebook being such a popular platform.
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    Ruq reacted to hayaah in A ShiaChat Reunion?   
    Hardly anyone uses facebook these days....
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    Ruq reacted to Sumerian in Islam and Feminism   
    How stupid is this argument. You are assuming that that somehow men have the right to emotionally abuse women and that is a right. As if I ever said that.
    In Islam, for the man, it all comes down to 2 rights.
    1) Wife cannot leave the house without his permission 2) When the husband demands intercourse, he gets it.
    He does not have the right to make her cook and clean.
    The wife is entitled to: 1) Nafaqa, he clothes her and feeds her. His money is the family's money, not his personal money, if he does not provide these things. 2) She has a right to intercourse every 4 months.
    Again, you put words in my mouth. You seem to somehow relate whatever I say to how "Muslim men" act. I don't care how they act, this is not the argument. A masculine man is someone like Imam Ali (AS), and a feminine woman is Sayyeda Fatima (AS).
    You seem to be acting masculinity is a bad thing.
    Would you rather a feminine and pathetic husband? Would you rather a man who wears dresses? 
    Alhamdulillah my beliefs are backwards, because progressive beliefs are cursed. If by backwards my beliefs are in touch with the Qur'an and Sunnah, then so be it. Alhamdulillah.
    Alhamdulillah, Islam embraces "gender roles". This is why some jobs only males are allowed to have.
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    Ruq reacted to mishalarif786 in Karbala: The Supreme Sacrifice   
    indeed karbala's incident is  very very saddest 
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