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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. A friend of mine went to Iraq recently and I requested that she bring me a Turbah from Karbala. Does anyone know what the price would be for it usually? I looked online and they were selling them for $55 which doesn't sound right at all. I want to pay her back so could someone tell me? Shukran
  2. He always tells me how he respects Iraqi girls a lot, I know this sounds really stupid but I really want to know what Iraqi girls are like to make him happy. I would do anything to be accepted by his family.He told me that he was going to try telling his parents slowly that he wanted to marry a girl that is not Iraqi. I don't know if he has talked to them in a serious manner because I am really shy and scared to talk to him about marriage. He is the only one to bring it up whenever we are together. When we talk he tells me how he tells his mother about me but that is all. I think he is serious because he has brought up the topic of marriage several times. Is it acceptable for me to meet his family even if we aren't engaged? If I do meet his family, is there anything I should be aware of before meeting them? Like traditions, should I hug his mother or just shake her hand? I get really nervous when I think about this because I will probably do something and they will think I am rude.
  3. As salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Recently, I have been feeling really bad about being friends with guys. I know many people will reply to his saying it is bad and I should stop, I am just looking for an answer on why it is haram. I know many people will not believe me on me saying this but my best friends are guys and never have I looked at them in an inappropriate way and they haven't either. Our friendship is literally exactly how two girls friendship would be, I tell them about all my problems just like normal friends. Recently, I went to a gathering at our Masjid and the speaker said that it was haram to hang out with guys because friendship turns into more and that eventually one of them fall in love with the other. I dont know why, but I am having a very hard time understanding this, because I have never ever been attracted to my guy friends. I really need your thoughts on this. I don't know what to do at this point because now every time I talk to a guy friend I feel guilty and I am so lost.
  4. As salam alaikum wa rahmatullah Wa barakatuhu, I am a 18 year old girl living in America and I want to know if it is allowed to marry a Shia. My story is kind of complicated.I have been friends with this guy I want to marry for two and a half years. At first, we had a haram relationship (no, we did not engage in sexual activity). The most we did was hold hands, kiss on the cheeck. But a year ago I changed a lot, I started seeing that most of the things I would do were haram. I started wearing hijaab about 6 months ago. My family is not a normal Muslim family. My parents are divorced, My father is very religious. He prays 5 times a day and is a very devout Muslim like I am. However, my mother does not wear hijaab but she still believes in Islam. My sister does not wear Hijaab and she believes in Islam too. The family of the man I want to marry is very religious. They are Iraqi Shia. This concerns me very much because I do not know if they will accept me since my family is Turkish and Sunni (I have some Shia relatives on my fathers side). This boy and I are friends now because I do not want to do anything haram. I have read a lot about Shia Islam and I am willing to convert, even if I do not end up marrying this boy, because I find that Shia Islam is the right path, but I still have respect for Sunni and other sects in Islam. I have tried to be kind to his family (his mother knows about me but I don't know if she likes me or not). But I have heard from several people that Iraqi Shias are very strict and only allow the men to marry Iraqi Shia girls who are usually related to them. I am scared that his family will not want me since I am not Iraqi and my parents are divorced. I would like to get some opinions on what I can do to make our marriage possible and on whether or not it is allowed to marry a girl that has converted to being Shia? Please, someone please give me advice.
  5. Assalamu Alaikum brothers and sisters. I want to marry a Shiite man, however I am Sunni. He is Iraqi and follows Al Sistani. And I am Turkish. We both live in America. My main concern is his family not accepting me. All my friends say his family will probably not accept me since I am not his cousin or because I am not Iraqi. I would like to ask you all who have experience with these things to give me some advice...Is there any way we can make it work? We have not talked to his parents yet so I do not know what they will say. But I do know that he talks about me to his mother and says good things about me to her. My family will allow me to marry him but it is his family that concerns me. Have any of you had the same problem?
  6. I like a Shia boy but I am Sunni. He is Iraqi and I am turkish but we both live in the US. I wish to marry him, but I do not know if his parents will allow it.Does anyone know the general rules that they go by when choosing a bride?
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