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As sad and unfortunate as this is most practising shias above the age of 25 have probably seen some form of minor or major oppression in their life due to their beliefs specially those who reside or at one point resided in the eastern world(Subcontinent, Iraq, Saudi, UAE, Qatar, Bahrain, etc), this just shows that we will always be oppressed as was Imam Hussain(عليه السلام) and his family just for being on the right path and following the truth and this will continue till imam Mahdi(may Allah hasten his reappearance) comes out of occultation to bring justice to the world. Things have been much worse in Pakistan with regards to persecution and oppression of shias in the past however would calm down at different times, last things had calmed down in 2015 after which it had been quiet until these recent events but hopefully these don't escalate further. This reminds me of a hadith by Imam Jaffer Sadiq(عليه السلام) There will be occultation for the master of this affair. During this those who remain attached to their religion will be like those who rub their hands on a thorny branch. Then he gestured and said: There is occultation for the master of this affair and every person is duty-bound to fear Allāh and remain attached to his religion. [Reference: The Promised Mahdi (English Translation of Biharul Anwar volumes on Imam Mahdi (عليه السلام).) – Part II, page 12 ]

Reading your question if there are men who get irritable doing chores as it requires physical activity then such men are probably lazy as are some women If men in general get irritable I guess it depends on the man, his views on traditional gender roles, how often has he done chores in his life etc, if you think of someone who rarely did anything and suddenly has to do it then naturally he would be irritable and exactly the same is applicable to women(which is why sexism is flawed )

Incase anyone else comes across a similar situation in the future, I asked in the office of Ayatullah Sistani in najaf they said there is no objection as the cable/satellite provider is a platform like a service provider(similar to an internet provider) which runs various kinds of content as a platform, a very simple low level example would be working for a gun factory I guess which is used is many different ways however you are not responsible for it's usage due to which it is fine specially when your work has no link with any such content.

Salam, Would it be permissible to work in a company which works as a platform/service provider for television channels such as Sky in the UK where the while the platform itself does not indulge in any haram activity however it's clientele could include TV channels which promote haram content such as adult channels or movie channels which would show haram content however would also include news channels and even Islamic TV channels perhaps neutral content such as news, sports etc being in the majority. The role would be more management of operations ensuring things are working in the company but not having any contact or work with these TV channels etc.

Would you happen to have or find the reference for this hadith?

2 things, one is to establish in mind before working on any endeavour, making an effort or attempting anything that you can only try to do, gain, prevent something and if you tried your best there isn't anything else you can do and it was the will of Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), it can be difficult to accept this specially if you haven't thought of things in this way before or if it was something really close to you, the second thing is that if it's something which has brought you down in the long run(death of a family member, some failure) where the grief lasts for months if not years then in that situation you need to find what makes you happy in life and focus all your energy on that, this way you will not only feel better but also start to accomplish, achieve or get whatever makes you happy. When I was around 15-16 years old I went through something like that in life and as I couldn't get away from that grief I used this which not only helped me become much stronger and wiser but also till date I get fruition of what I had done at that time. I know it's an old threat but thought to share as it may help someone .

Soo sorry to hear this , curious as to what you learned from all these experiences, is it that losing faith for you was worse than all of these things? Braintwister

Anymore gems of experiences people could share?

Sorry to hear this, sounds like you recently had a bad experience Good & bad people are everywhere, online and in real life, I have made amazing friends who I met online lateron in real life and while other people who I met in real life and they weren't so nice to put it in a subtle way. Being cautious in any environment is always good and often necessary but I feel thinking of an entire medium or environment as negative based on a certain experience may end up limiting us as it may prevent us from meeting or holding prejudice against someone who may actually be nice. Just my two cents .

I think there are all sorts of people on the forum from all backgrounds with all sorts of problems, if it does end up helping someone I'll be glad but the purpose of this was to learn from people's experiences and my own curiosity, though I sense immense negativity from whatever poor reasons you thought people here or myself shared this here(or do so generally) and that it lacks substance, may Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) help and guide all of us.

Things like this make me feel it's worth being a bad person just to make life hell for such people..

@smiiley001 I cannot imagine how much grief the situation may have caused you, I just came across this thread today, none of us is an infallible and Allah is the closest to us and most forgiving so I'm sure he understands much better than any of us. Though you did make a mistake but I feel your (ex)husbands response was completely unfair and perhaps if he were a different person then things could've been resolved. Be glad it's over inshallah you'll find someone much better, while reading the thread I was hoping that children/kids aren't mentioned anywhere and feel glad they weren't thus as they suffer the most when a divorce takes place. My prayers and best wishes are with you.

Anger is a fire which is burning away. The one who is able to swallow it is the one who has extinguished it, while the person who permits his anger to be free is the first person who shall be burnt by it - Imam Ali(عليه السلام) Ghurur Al-Hikm pg. 292 Surely as narrated in another hadith anger starts with madness and ends with regret So true, I think there is always something to be thankful for regardless of how bad the situation is, focusing on that and accepting things while being content not only makes you feel better but surely is liked by Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) as well. Though I think self pity is not comforting at all and rather just makes you more depressed and makes things seem more difficult.

Very good!, I think it was a famous Pakistani TV series, even when you Google the quote that's the first result. I guess literal translation would be "My existence is an insignificant particle" meaning to say that we are a small insignificant entity in a huge world, at the same time ofcourse Imam Ali(عليه السلام) said the entire universe is within you ;)

Watching too many Pakistani dramas lool, can you elaborate for those who don't speak Urdu