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  1. One answer. Spiritual weakness - the single biggest reason for which is consumption of haram. Consumption of haram which most typical practising families are unaware of is -traces of haram food, - rizq earned through haram means, lying is a major sin if your livelihood involves lying your rizq is contaminated as so are the souls being raised on that rizq. -eyes consuming haram, looking at namehrams, TV shows and movies with unislamic content no matter how little, haram sights while scrolling social media - haram consumption through ears music etc - any spiritual illnesses taking place in the family, backbiting, severing ties with relatives, oppressing people(remember, taking away someone's right no matter how minor is oppression or Zulm)
  2. No, you don't need witnesses for any kind of marriage in Shia fiqh. If both of you are reasonably confident about your Arabic pronunciation you can recite the nikkah yourself. Is there a nearby place with a Shia mosque? Just contact the sheikh there and ask him to recite the nikkah for you. Just you and your husband need to be present, it's a very simple process. Wish you both lots of happiness!!
  3. Would you drink this? No, what the point? :P گناہ بے لذت
  4. I don't know if this really counts but just putting this out there. I am a born Shia, lived all my life in a country with a sizeable Shia population but never had even one IRL Shia friend or even an acquaintance. Just never happened. The only Shia social circle I have is SC. I believe it's the same for @notme who is revert. Having a family who practises the same faith, of course, make a huge difference but just saying you can still have non Muslim or sunni friends and still be a Shia. Over time you might get some Shia friends or you might not. Either way don't let it stand in the way of following a school of faith you believe in otherwise.
  5. I am sorry I didn't see your post sooner. Don't know if you will come back to read this. But anyway regarding what you asked my advice would be, and this is coming from someone who can very much relate to everything you wrote up there, would be to keep your emotions only for Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Ahlulbayt (عليه السلام) ,give your love where it is truly valued, not to those who break you. Treat your close ones with kindness, fulfill their rights as dictated by our religion but don't engage with them emotionally if they have hurt you in the past. It's possible to remain emotionally detached and still take good care of people so I suggest that's what you do.
  6. It's the latter. Sorry, if this hurts any sentiments but most muslims who emigrated to west did so for a more luxurious worldly life and are lost completely engrossed in that.
  7. Maybe this will help answer some of your questions.
  8. I became less active on SC right after getting COVID, almost left the place. My unvaccinated cousin get got out of ICU, she is still on oxygen though.
  9. @Abu Hadi @Gaius I. Caesar Since you are both reverts from US maybe you will be able to help out the brother. Thanks!
  10. Salam, First of all maybe you will find consolation in the fact that it's not just your household or your family. Many many and dare I say most people have to deal with difficult people in their homes. A number of Ahlulbayt(عليه السلام) had close family members who were problematic. Personally, when I am facing a problem in dunya, I look at the lives of Ahlulbayt(عليه السلام) and whenever I contemplate over this for a bit I feel light. I think ,' if they were supposedly not good enough fathers, husbands or cousins according to some of their family members, then who am I to expect ease when dealing with my kin' The above part I think you must already know and understand. From what I get the thing bothering you is your reaction to these problems. Maybe you lose control sometimes, maybe you have tried hard for a pleasant environment at home or at at least a happy medium and that's not happening and you feel you have failed. Well remember - we are fallible human beings. We will fail again and again. it's normal to feel dejected but with certain things we cannot give up, however one can take a break. - The results don't count, it's the effort that does - with Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), so every second you try to improve yourself as a muslim is being recorded as a good deed, regardless of whether you count it as progress or not. - I don't know if this is the case or not but maybe you sometimes act in anger and then try to make up for it later? if that's how it is then I would suggest you to stick to a balanced stance. Practise staying polite and maybe a little formal always. Consistent behaviour even if it means being a little less cheerful always makes things easier for you and others around you. - There is lecture by Dr.Ammar Nakshwani titled 'relatives from hell' :P listening to it and reciting dua makaram ul Akhla helped me dealing with difficult people in my home. Was it a possibility for you to have gone ahead with the cleaning operation without consulting anybody? :P Like if you wanted to wash an area you quietly move things away from the area, pour water over it, wipe it dry as much as you can afterwards so as not to inconvenience others?? Unless someone physically stops you, you can ignore any yelling and just focus on what you have to do. I have tried this around people who are being unnecessarily argumentative. I switch off my auditory system and get down to what I have to do, don't respond, don't react, finish what I have to do and then act normally afterwards. It works! only it should be only resorted to in extreme situations.
  11. No, it's not. While it's important to practise self control in regards to carnal desires if a person is unmarried there is nothing wrong with wishing, praying and striving to get married.
  12. They last a few weeks in our body and are then broken down. Broken down to nucleotides and sugars
  13. No need for link, thank you. I was just quoting what was written in the other thread and wanted to let you know that information is incorrect.
  14. Immunocompromised people are at a higher risk for catching any infection from common cold to Tuberculosis and COVID 19 is highly contagious so that was the reason. The latest wave is due to the delta variant. The virus is mutating rapidly. Each time it shifts it changes it's antigenic sequence making the vaccine less effective. That's how small pox and polio got eradicated. (well, polio technically hasn't been eradicated everywhere but in most parts of the world) Where I live (in Pakistan, one of the countries where polio cases still emerge) one is required present a vaccination certificate for it at the airport if one wants to travel out of the country, just like for COVID now. It hasn't to me, either. I am not someone who rushes to take vaccines or antibiotics but in the current scenario, this seems the most rational thing to do. -I understand your scepticism about vaccines. I read your other thread where you said mRNA vaccines change the genetic code. Genetic code is made up of DNA not RNA. DNA controls the RNA , it's not the other way round so mRNA cannot change our genes/ genetic code or DNA. -mRNA has a life span of days and degrades after that. - "The spike protein remains with you indefinitely" Every foreign antigen (bacteria, virus, fungus, some particle or chemical) that encounters our immune system leaves its imprint(memory) indefinitely. That's how immune system works, it is supposed to remember and keep a copy of the invading antigen.
  15. You can read more here https://www.al-islam.org/istikhara-seeking-best-allah-(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)-muhammad-baqir-haideri/section-6-various-forms-istikhara-istikhara
  16. https://coronavirus.jhu.edu/data/mortality ?????? When did this happen?
  17. ^^ Israel has the second lowest case fatality ratio in the world, lowest being Bahrain.
  18. No words. This is so sad.
  19. @Ashvazdanghe is this true?
  20. Black death (bubonic plague) lasted more than five years. Spanish flu three years West African Ebola epidemic three years Zika virus ongoing since 2015 So to answer your question this is how pandemics and epidemics are. The fact that travel and mobility has increased greatly in the recent years isn't helping. Vaccines confer a degree of immunity. A vaccinated person would have either no disease or less severe form of disease. COVID vaccines aren't without side effects but they have definitely reduced the mortality rate (if you compare things to prevaccine COVID deaths in Iran, Spain and italy you will get the idea)
  21. Salam Laith and welcome back Inna lilahe wa Inna ilayhe rajioon. I am very sorry to hear about your family members passing away. Was it due to COVID? Both were very young May Allah ease their afterlife. Please pay our respects to the Imams(عليه السلام). I haven't been able to go despite yearning every single day. Bainulharmain seems so far away... :(((( Do keep visiting.
  22. So has anyone bought this. Dying to read it.
  23. They should wash and sanitise every inch of the place now.
  24. I am not sure if a human can be turned into a hoor because they are different beings. What I think the person means is that they want a certain woman to be their wife in Jannah. Well, one can pray for anything and hope for the best from Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) but alongwith that the person should work for that thing, which in this case would be the person himself striving to go to Jannah in the first place.
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