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Neither. The guy had drug and psychiatric problems.

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After the demise of Prophet I said! during the time when Abu bakr, Umar and Usman usurped his right. See, you are not really looking for answers you are just letting out your animosity towards Ahlulbayt (عليه السلام) What's exactly is your problem with shias celebrating the day? You want to believe shias are a deviated sect? Kaffir? Be my guest. I have never come across shias griping over the commemoration of Umar or Usman's death.

Just because you don't understand or refuse to accept the answer doesn't mean it hasn't been answered.

Welcome back! Muharram is almost here so not surprised. Was birthday of Prophets(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) celebrated during the time of panjtan? Studying a little bit of history with an open mind would have given you the answer. After demise of RasulAllah(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) Imam Ali(عليه السلام) spent his days in seclusion, after him(عليه السلام) Banu Ummayah took over. During a time when the ladies of Ahlulbayt (عليه السلام) weren't allowed to mourn the massacre of Karbala you are talking about celebrating Eid Ghadeer? Secondly, the reason these occasions are celebrated/commemorated today is keep the history alive and not let the enemies of Ahlulbayt (عليه السلام) succeed in covering these things up,something they have been actively trying to do since the death of RasulAllah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)

Ws, I didn't. I was merely expressing my opinion that there is little that's in our control in certain areas despite having an illusion of things being otherwise. I know couples who got married with the minimum of background checks, I know couple who spoke/met for the first time after Nikkah was done and things worked out well for them Mashallah What you have written is what I hear from most people for whom things worked out . I guess that's how humans are, they take credit for good things and blame fate for the ones that didn' turn out well when in things could have very well gone they other way in the same circumstances.

I meant I was willing to do everything to make the marriage work.

I lived with him for a number of years as his wife!!! Very naive statement to give, I must say. Thank you brother but I am good.

He lived in US, I was in Pakistan. We couldn't inquire before marriage but right afterwards when I met some of his friends and their wives they were singing praises of him, how he helped build the local hussainiya, how he baby sat one close friends's son for years so the kid was closer to him than his own dad, how excellent he was at his work, and lolz, how angry he got when a guy living there married a girl from back home, abused her and he was among the few people of the community who made arrangements to send the girl back home, one friend's wife even went on to say he was on considered a very eligible bachelor with people in their social circle wanting him to consider their sisters etc. He was on excellent terms with his immediate family and very close to his extended family too. Things are very different now in this aspect but at that time he was very close to them. I don't know what went wrong. I was willing to cross oceans to make things work. I guess it all comes down to fate and test from Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). Thank you for you advice, very helpful as always.

So what's the accurate one?

I used to have firm belief over this until I got married to an 'apparent man of faith' That was my only requirement from a prospective spouse (and no I am not a very bad person) but all I got from.the marriage was years of physical and verbal abuse. Things aren't that simple and one can't always peek into someone's heart to judge their level of faith.

What other category of men is out there,especially in the younger generation? It's not just women empowerment, I fail to see any strong men too but most of all it's the breakdown of the family structure that's the culprit. I absolutely loathe the nuclear family system. There is no guidance or care from elders but more than that children grow up lacking essential skills like taking care of family members and mutual tolerance. People never learn how to hold a family together through the ups and downs of life and this manifests later as divorces and abandonment of children. @3wliya_maryam it's not just the Sayyeds, everyone is behaving the same way. Things are falling apart everywhere. I was talking to some colleagues and was shocked to learn how common extra marital affairs are amongst married women these days. The whole thing was being discussed so causually that I was left dumbfounded and needed a few days to process the discussion. A guy commented that he is open to have a fling now and then but draws the line at married women because that's against his ethical values lol.

My husband and I have reached the difficult decision that we do not want children. If anybody does, please just send me your contact details and we can drop them off tomorrow.

I believe Imam (عليه السلام) meant actions and not merely words. I don't know how'd one interpret it to mean Mutah,but okay 1. We could 2. if we wish 3. Probably Not ambiguous? really? Not ambiguous in my opinion would be " I am in this country only for x number of week/months'' , "I plan to permanently marry someone from my own community/country/family".

Yes, and this makes it no different that a non islamic live-in relationship. I started a thread sometime ago about jurisprudential laws vs akhlaq and rectitude and how we often ignore the latter just because something's permissible as per jurisprudence. If it was made clear at the start that he would be leaving her for a Muslim woman when things stabilised in his personal life then it's okay but if things we left ambiguous and open ended like you suggested (but we could enter another if we wish to and probably we will) then it's a disservice to the other person and should be avoided in my opinion. Agree what you said in the second paragraph. I hope you were joking.