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And it's the duty of the wife to be available for intimacy.

Its not for her to decide if the excuse is good enough. We have to work by Allah's criteria so does she think she can stand in front of Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and say 'I refused my husband his right because I didn't feel like it', Or 'I used up my energy on housework even though I know it's was non obligatory and chose to neglect something that had been made wajib on me by you, my Lord' or ' I didn't care if my husband would be driven to sin because I found his needs inconvenient' I am sorry, Islam aside I find women like these selfish and unkind. They will happily enjoy the comfortable house and maids and money and social standing that come from the marriage but would be too selfish to put in their share towards a happy household. Who says everything in life has to be according to one's convenience and wishes? How can one claim to genuinely love their spouse and family if you are not able to walk the extra mile?

He won't. That's a tactic abusive men use to exercise control. Move out, take your Mum and siblings with you and marry whoever you what. You don't need uncle or grandfather. You are educated and independent. (Repeat this over and over to yourself) You are capable of taking care of yourself ,not just capable you have an obligation to remove yourself from the abusive environment. Allah gave your the resources. You have a sound mind and body, you are socially independent. Now the rest is up to you.

For all practical purposes,yes.

Does she every say how she plans to make up for all the zulm that's on her neck? (and yes, this is zulm plain and simple, not giving a person his or her due right is counted as zulm in Islam) Is she aware of the fact that she is answerable for every single time she's refused intimacy without a good excuse.

There was nothing Shia sunni in this. It's being blown out of proportion by certain elements to cause religious unrest in an already on the cusp of civil war.

Reading this thread made me sick, sorry.

It's not about the Surahs but the verse that came out in the istikhara.

Kids have been told they were sent to live on a farm but (BURP)

Update: After three years of constant struggle, yesterday... Starlight 0; Kitten 1

Beats me why people don't want to pay the Netflix subscription? A paltry sum of 10-15dollars!

This is one area of my life where I am truly blessed. I am still very close friends with people I went to school with, then some people from college and later I made some good friends at work. I don't know if it's just me and if yes, then exactly how so but I connect easily with people. Once I met a girl at a job interview, we spent a couple of hours together(the only time we met) and thereafter kept a friendship for the next several years. I wish I had some tips to share but if your fiancee is good friends with you then you will be fine.

If I were you, I would go on fb , like all his pictures, leave big heart emojis with comments like 'How I love you! my dear husband', 'my husband, the perfect gentleman' , or ' how lucky I feel to be married to you'

Lot more religious than I am now.

Plenty of women driving bikes now.