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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. Salaam I think the only way to get out of this problem is to use toilet paper in abundance both before use and before tahaarat. This will also increase the cleanliness of the toilet as well as minimizing the contact of hand with najasat, if used purposefully.
  2. Salaam If we were to take our principles from our prophet then shouldn't we also consider their implications and effects applicable in his time? From what I have read so far muta can be justified in a way but it can also be rejected if one wishes to. In the early Islamic periods they didn't have means of contraception such as condom coil pills etc, so it was inevitable to have babies (as it is with poor families in the third world countries in our time) which meant there would be children out of it left with or without mothers/fathers. Isn't it bad to deprive children of their parents? People also justify muta by its convenience. Their argument is usually for not being financially stable or that not finished study etc. If muta procedure is so simple so is nikah's. Both can be done with recitation of few words. People seem to mistaken nikah with wedding. It appears to them that if they could not afford a wedding thus there is no nikah. WHY? I understand the case with widows and I don't want to criticize them if they were practising muta. What I want to ask is why would a young virgin man or woman would consider muta for sexual convenience when they can do the same thing with nikah. To me that seems more like western relationships where they stay boyfriend/girlfriend for a period of time and when they are "settled" then they consider marriage, and if not then its not. Also, wouldn't a muslim person not feel ashamed knowing that their sisters/brothers or his past or future wife are sleeping with different people for just satisfying their sexual desires? If Muta was so sacred then our prophet wouldn't have said to fast to control our sexual desires would he? and that divorce would not be the most hated act before Allah....? Also "lowering gaze".. etc.. it just don't add up for me.
  3. Salaam, I think (good) habit is what solves these problems. It depends on the situation of the wife as well. Hadiths are good but I don't think you would ever get a yes or no answer.
  4. Do your hands need to be dry before doing wudu? Sometimes it takes more than twice to wash them.
  5. Salam brother. sorry 4 late reply but my cousins are fine alhamdulillah. i hope you doing well.

  6. (salam) This is how it should be but obviously it is not. Of course people have different colours different looks however it is exactly these differences that has created so much problems in the world. Race is not just important it is also unavoidable. But this does not mean to give superiority of one race over another. Here is a quote from wikipedia on white people. No one has problem with "white people" but it is the "white" bit that has created so much fitna. Of course this has nothing do with the white people in today's world and I don't see why anyone would get offended from this sort of discussions. If you read British/American history books you will see how they have drawn races of the world. I don't need to give their descriptions but anyone seeking knowledge would know how they were painted. Once upon a time, Russia was a superpower but they never claimed that they were "white race", and even today they are know as just "Russians". But I guess they couldn't reach South Asia or Africa for this sort of racial claim to have taken any effect for them. I was reading something on the internet where a person described themselves as "British Indian" and everyone was criticising them that there is no such thing as British Indian, it is either British or indian. But apparently for a native british "British" is not enough until it has "white" attached to it. Marble in his earlier post said that to say "white" is a "statement of fact". Now this statement of fact, apparently, does apply for other races in the same context. For example, no one here in the UK would call an Indian "brown" but rather they usually refer to them as Indian or by some racist names. And I wonder if Marble would consider these names as "statement of fact" as well. You are right that western people are more previlaged than other people but this has nothing to do with their race. People are dying on daily basis, getting killed, turtured, rubbed, invaded, etc for no reason. Why? If it is not from these superiorities then what is it from? Yes power and greed are two factors but everything has an origin. Isn't The US going around dictating to people that how much they are wrong and how righteous and rightful they themselves are? So this based on what? They ridicule Muslims for "arranged marriages" "wife beating" etc etc etc. Why should it even be their business? Sorry I am not referring to anyone here. Yes, definately a lot of miscommunication! and it is not just sad that someone leaves their "community" but it also shows how much people have respect for one another. She was basically, I think, referring to those things above. but unfortunately, to an average western person, it seems offensive, somehow. anyway, hope she comes back to share her thoughts with us cause, without any doubt, she is one of the most knowledgeable people here. I have honestly been feeling really bad that so much racist comments have been posted here. and I myself was rude in some of my replies and I do apologize, specially to sister maryaam. but I was aiming at something which seemed targeted something else. Salaam.
  7. Salaam, sister. I guess sometimes it takes more than two eyes to see things ;). BTW, I am really inspired by your career. may Allah bless you with success and harmony, always.

  8. Salam, Now you got it. but it was 3 out of 24 instead of 28. The bread loaves one is simple but genius!
  9. This is why the imperialistic glamourization of race needs to get amended to something more deserving. It will also help avoid unnecessary audience here on SC, who end up defending a corner they do not sit in.
  10. Yes i am aware of your advantages. the reason I said dont judge me was because you sounded quite critical in your first post where my original intentions wasn't to cause any bad feelings. anyway I said that to clear my intentions, not to have a contest with you. Exactly. he said it to make "an ice breaker", which you found amusing. whereas with my lecturer's talk there was no humour. I find the acceptance of this behaviour of generalized racial proflling as confusing, as Muslims (rightfully) scream with protest about the exact same stereotyping and treatment.? And I still respect you. Sorry couldn't reply to all of them because you did not reply to the things that I ACTUALLY said.
  11. Bro, I think you missed my whole post. I wasn't saying that classification of people by skin colour is wrong, anyone can describe themselves however they want, but what I wanted to say is that these "classifications" need to be precise so that when we talk, say, about british(englis) it is not directed at other nations like america. Anyway, I don't know about you. but in asia people refer to each other by race and tribe etc, but never by their skin colour even if they look the same or not. Even the concept of the "brown" is a western label. you would not see anyone in asian countries calling anyone brown, not from what I have seen anyway.
  12. It is because the shares do not make 100% - they go over it. That is why a new ratio have to be made.
  13. Sister maryaam, why do you have to get the wrong side of the stick. It doesn’t make a slightest difference to me whether you call yourself white pink yellow ginger blonde whatever, you are free to say anything! Exactly. but there is only two nations that put emphasis on skin colour rather than race or nationality. Don’t be too quick to judge me again because I have two of my own cousins who are blonde with blue eyes. and one of them who is quite young nearly got kidnapped by US soldiers in my country Afghanistan :) they all have same/similar background but since some live in hotter places and have got themselves “tanned”they seem to be have gone out of the circle of “white”?! Are you out of your mind? Why would a black or any person, when you physically see him and his skin colour, say to a fellow black person that he is black?! Anyway the reason he had said that is probably because that is how you people expect him to describe himself and secondly you were not black yourself there. I am not against anyone referring to themselves by their skin colour or whatever. What I am actually saying is that these racially established movements have gone to such an extent that now their followers cannot distinguish between race and skin colour. Anyway, my core point is this: would you go to people to whom you introduce yourself say that you are “human”? Do you get the logic? Or would you still call me a racist? I personally don’t have any problem with no one. But you guessed it so yes I am referring to those two, not the people of course, but the governments. And the person representing the country with the biggest contribution to the world is classified as “white”? And my whole argument is that they should not be “profiled” by skin colour. Rather by their status and background, so innocent people like you don’t get trapped in between. Wasalam
  14. Salaam, Men who sleep with different women(out of marriage) clearly deserve this title "wimp" and the same goes for women. Zealousy is one of the main forces that keep individuals real to their genders as opposed to being "wimp". Also I have know people who were addicted to gambling drinking etc and their sons ending up doing the same evil things, not because they were encouraged by their fathers but because their fathers couldn't stop them as they were themselves doing them. Nowadays, the western media portrays this "modern" idea that a "modern"man and woman should have X/Y number of sexual partners in their lives for them to "live it all", which plays a big role in brainwashing the "modern" youth and to fix them to their stereotypes There is a hadith of our prophet(saw) where he is asked to advise a boy not to eat dates to which he replies by asking them to come another day because he himself had consumed it that day. This shows that if we were to set examples we must be doing it ourselves in order for it to take any effect. Being a man clearly isn't about acting and talking "tough". and this hadith reminds one what the real virtues of a real man should be.
  15. Salaam, Please do not take this as a racist comment because it is not, but I would like to say few things. In today's world the only people who call themselves "white" (rather than ethnicity nationality etc) are in fact the anglosaxons who also name africans as "black", and the rest by their continents. I don't want to get into this but you all know how these classifications came about in history. I live england and I see english people calling themselves "white" while referring to other european people by their nationality. Couple of years ago we had this english lecturer who came to introduce himself to the class, most students being english with exceptions of few europeans and I the only non european, he started his introduction by saying "I am a white british middle class etc etc". Hence it is mentalities like this which have created this phenomenon that whatever goes on within these two "superpowers" it is either "white" or none. And moreover unfortunately, it IS the political agendas of these anglosaxon governments who have the greatest shares in almost all modern tragedies of the world worldwide.
  16. It is not fair to pass judgement on people without learning their backgrounds. In many islamic countries where shias and sunnis live side by side their mazhab/sect is usually seen as more like their identity/ethnicity, and that is usually how they refer to each other by.and if you speak against their sects it is like you undermine their identities/tribes/ethnicities etc. This is good in some way but extremely damaging in other ways. And unfortunately many people have carried this cultural tradition with themselves, even to western countries. Ordinary people in those countries pray daily, do their jobs, eat and sleep - they never really go and seek knowledge about Islam. Seeing things in theory is much different to seeing things that actually happen. Sunni madhab might not promote hatred towards shias and their beliefs, however, if one sees follower/s of a religion and they portray the religion in a certain way then one should not be blamed for his/her observation and certainly not be attacked on their mentality.
  17. I think the concept of "be and it is" applies to creation - thus, exclusively for Allah. And miracles are surely different to creations. Prophet Jesus might have cured people but that is something that a doctor can/might do as well - of course, with the difference that prophets do so miraculously through God-given power whereas doctors do it through studying the law of nature and through long procedure/s, which in both cases it is the will of Allah that concludes it at the end. No prophet/s or Imam ever created a new being and this is where one must differentiate between what God does and what God gives. Wasalam
  18. W/Salaam, brother or sister, Welcome to SC. Don't worry about what you knew, or didn't, about Islam. "Shia" and "sunni" ARE just two names from one perspective but they also convey a message that can not be explained very easily. Do your research and inshallah you will find the peace and beauty of Islam. There were already some links given above by some members. And I'm sure you will find more sources in helping you to make your decision. "The seeker is the finder".
  19. What about tuna sandwiches?! They taste much better than the vegie patties - and I hope they are not haram. I also agree that finding halal meat is difficult but luckily some of the major supermarkets do sell fresh certified halal meat. Also while some takeaway shops might sell haram food they are not bothered about food hygiene either. It has really put me off from eating take out now after a visit inside a takeaway shop. But of course not all are like that.
  20. I don't think there is such thing as "one true love" between males and females. The only one true love is for the divine love which its ocean has no shore. Although there might be no one true love among people but there is always one that stands higher and affects you in all times. This is not because of the way you feel about the person but because of the footprints that they leave on your heart(which will be stuck to you for as long as your memory functions). In other words, what you directly get in return - may it be happy or sad.
  21. There isn't a mosque where I live so I pray at home and love praying in quiet and isolation. It gives me that spirituality that I need to cope with the overwhilmingly worldly desires, though it is not always possible.
  22. And a good faultless answer! :)
  23. Nice to see variety of answers. I think spending time with the children when they are young is vital to any child. LOL. you are right and they can go for that option if they wish to so from now on it IS included. And to be honest, that too is an option in this day and age. :!!!:
  24. Where in Quran does it say what kind of marriage a woman can pursue? Can someone show me the verse please?
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