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  1. Salaam I think the only way to get out of this problem is to use toilet paper in abundance both before use and before tahaarat. This will also increase the cleanliness of the toilet as well as minimizing the contact of hand with najasat, if used purposefully.
  2. Salaam If we were to take our principles from our prophet then shouldn't we also consider their implications and effects applicable in his time? From what I have read so far muta can be justified in a way but it can also be rejected if one wishes to. In the early Islamic periods they didn't have means of contraception such as condom coil pills etc, so it was inevitable to have babies (as it is with poor families in the third world countries in our time) which meant there would be children out of it left with or without mothers/fathers. Isn't it bad to deprive children of their parents? People also justify muta by its convenience. Their argument is usually for not being financially stable or that not finished study etc. If muta procedure is so simple so is nikah's. Both can be done with recitation of few words. People seem to mistaken nikah with wedding. It appears to them that if they could not afford a wedding thus there is no nikah. WHY? I understand the case with widows and I don't want to criticize them if they were practising muta. What I want to ask is why would a young virgin man or woman would consider muta for sexual convenience when they can do the same thing with nikah. To me that seems more like western relationships where they stay boyfriend/girlfriend for a period of time and when they are "settled" then they consider marriage, and if not then its not. Also, wouldn't a muslim person not feel ashamed knowing that their sisters/brothers or his past or future wife are sleeping with different people for just satisfying their sexual desires? If Muta was so sacred then our prophet wouldn't have said to fast to control our sexual desires would he? and that divorce would not be the most hated act before Allah....? Also "lowering gaze".. etc.. it just don't add up for me.
  3. Salaam, I think (good) habit is what solves these problems. It depends on the situation of the wife as well. Hadiths are good but I don't think you would ever get a yes or no answer.
  4. Do your hands need to be dry before doing wudu? Sometimes it takes more than twice to wash them.
  5. Salam brother. sorry 4 late reply but my cousins are fine alhamdulillah. i hope you doing well.

  6. (salam) This is how it should be but obviously it is not. Of course people have different colours different looks however it is exactly these differences that has created so much problems in the world. Race is not just important it is also unavoidable. But this does not mean to give superiority of one race over another. Here is a quote from wikipedia on white people. No one has problem with "white people" but it is the "white" bit that has created so much fitna. Of course this has nothing do with the white people in today's world and I don't see why anyone would get offended from this sort of discussions. If you read British/American history books you will see how they have drawn races of the world. I don't need to give their descriptions but anyone seeking knowledge would know how they were painted. Once upon a time, Russia was a superpower but they never claimed that they were "white race", and even today they are know as just "Russians". But I guess they couldn't reach South Asia or Africa for this sort of racial claim to have taken any effect for them. I was reading something on the internet where a person described themselves as "British Indian" and everyone was criticising them that there is no such thing as British Indian, it is either British or indian. But apparently for a native british "British" is not enough until it has "white" attached to it. Marble in his earlier post said that to say "white" is a "statement of fact". Now this statement of fact, apparently, does apply for other races in the same context. For example, no one here in the UK would call an Indian "brown" but rather they usually refer to them as Indian or by some racist names. And I wonder if Marble would consider these names as "statement of fact" as well. You are right that western people are more previlaged than other people but this has nothing to do with their race. People are dying on daily basis, getting killed, turtured, rubbed, invaded, etc for no reason. Why? If it is not from these superiorities then what is it from? Yes power and greed are two factors but everything has an origin. Isn't The US going around dictating to people that how much they are wrong and how righteous and rightful they themselves are? So this based on what? They ridicule Muslims for "arranged marriages" "wife beating" etc etc etc. Why should it even be their business? Sorry I am not referring to anyone here. Yes, definately a lot of miscommunication! and it is not just sad that someone leaves their "community" but it also shows how much people have respect for one another. She was basically, I think, referring to those things above. but unfortunately, to an average western person, it seems offensive, somehow. anyway, hope she comes back to share her thoughts with us cause, without any doubt, she is one of the most knowledgeable people here. I have honestly been feeling really bad that so much racist comments have been posted here. and I myself was rude in some of my replies and I do apologize, specially to sister maryaam. but I was aiming at something which seemed targeted something else. Salaam.
  7. Salaam, sister. I guess sometimes it takes more than two eyes to see things ;). BTW, I am really inspired by your career. may Allah bless you with success and harmony, always.

  8. asalaamu alaikum It is getting embarrasing for me since you only understand my posts yet you are neither my brother or husband!

    any way I hope to leave peace Brother

  9. Salam, Now you got it. but it was 3 out of 24 instead of 28. The bread loaves one is simple but genius!
  10. This is why the imperialistic glamourization of race needs to get amended to something more deserving. It will also help avoid unnecessary audience here on SC, who end up defending a corner they do not sit in.
  11. Yes i am aware of your advantages. the reason I said dont judge me was because you sounded quite critical in your first post where my original intentions wasn't to cause any bad feelings. anyway I said that to clear my intentions, not to have a contest with you. Exactly. he said it to make "an ice breaker", which you found amusing. whereas with my lecturer's talk there was no humour. I find the acceptance of this behaviour of generalized racial proflling as confusing, as Muslims (rightfully) scream with protest about the exact same stereotyping and treatment.? And I still respect you. Sorry couldn't reply to all of them because you did not reply to the things that I ACTUALLY said.
  12. Bro, I think you missed my whole post. I wasn't saying that classification of people by skin colour is wrong, anyone can describe themselves however they want, but what I wanted to say is that these "classifications" need to be precise so that when we talk, say, about british(englis) it is not directed at other nations like america. Anyway, I don't know about you. but in asia people refer to each other by race and tribe etc, but never by their skin colour even if they look the same or not. Even the concept of the "brown" is a western label. you would not see anyone in asian countries calling anyone brown, not from what I have seen anyway.
  13. It is because the shares do not make 100% - they go over it. That is why a new ratio have to be made.
  14. Sister maryaam, why do you have to get the wrong side of the stick. It doesn’t make a slightest difference to me whether you call yourself white pink yellow ginger blonde whatever, you are free to say anything! Exactly. but there is only two nations that put emphasis on skin colour rather than race or nationality. Don’t be too quick to judge me again because I have two of my own cousins who are blonde with blue eyes. and one of them who is quite young nearly got kidnapped by US soldiers in my country Afghanistan :) they all have same/similar background but since some live in hotter places and have got themselves “tanned”they seem to be have gone out of the circle of “white”?! Are you out of your mind? Why would a black or any person, when you physically see him and his skin colour, say to a fellow black person that he is black?! Anyway the reason he had said that is probably because that is how you people expect him to describe himself and secondly you were not black yourself there. I am not against anyone referring to themselves by their skin colour or whatever. What I am actually saying is that these racially established movements have gone to such an extent that now their followers cannot distinguish between race and skin colour. Anyway, my core point is this: would you go to people to whom you introduce yourself say that you are “human”? Do you get the logic? Or would you still call me a racist? I personally don’t have any problem with no one. But you guessed it so yes I am referring to those two, not the people of course, but the governments. And the person representing the country with the biggest contribution to the world is classified as “white”? And my whole argument is that they should not be “profiled” by skin colour. Rather by their status and background, so innocent people like you don’t get trapped in between. Wasalam
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