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  1. Bakir

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    I need an icon to disagree with you but not respectfully lol. You are comparing stuff that have nothing to do. Basically confirming what @Klanky said before, that ignoring someone's situation leads to lack of empathy and understanding. Identifying as a kid is not the same as identifying with the opposite gender. There is a lot of literature on both topics and the scientific community usually describes as a psychological problem the first, but not the second. Mostly because the first has measurable causes leading to a pathological behaviour, while the second is more related to one's identity.
  2. Someone getting angry at you for building your own opinions is the issue, not that he is a deobandi scholar or not. Keep studying, explore your own mentality and beliefs through further studying, and when you feel prepared, express yourself to him as well. Give him the opportunity to show some tolerance towards you and your beliefs, and if he gets angry, well, you at least tried and did things right. No need to divorce anyone for having different beliefs, approaches and opinions. But mutual respect of each other's beliefs and opinions is essential, and that's the goal after all.
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    That's the thing. It's a matter of etiquette, no need to make laws for it. In my case as a teacher, there is no need for a specific law on queer pronouns. If it reaches the point where I'm causing psychological harm to one of my students, action can be taken against me without any law like that. Mistakes are normal because it is not normative. In the specific case I mentioned before, before receiving that email, I was impressed to see my student with a flower in her hair. When I saw it I thought it was some sort of gay joke or something, but would have never thought she identified as a woman. Even her new name sounds non-binary, so couldn't really guess.
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    What I have been able to appreciate is that we can't relate to that. In that sense, being called by the wrong gender won't affect us in the same way it may affect transgender people. It's not an attack for us because we really don't care, nor have any trauma nor suffered any social pressure in that sense. However, people who don't identify with their normative gender identity feel other way. Our potential and reasonable lack of empathy (because we just can't relate) doesn't mean it's not an attack (though that depends on a variety of factors). Two days ago I received an email informing me that one of my students is transitioning and wants to be treated as a female. If I choose to keep calling her by her male dead name and refer to her as a guy, and keep acting like that even though I'm asked several times to change my speech, then I may be attacking her, and reinforcing a discourse that could be seen as transphobic. Moreover, it would be reasonable to think it is psychologically disturbing that your teacher doesn't approve and publicly refuses to acknowledge your gender identity for ideological reasons.
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    I have faced this only once, in the university. When a student contacts the administration to inform of any change of identity (gender, name, etc.), we are asked to update our students list and call them by their preferred choice. Most of the cases are transgender people, but in some rare cases, they may be non-binary. I also believe we were created in pairs, but gender identity (not biological sex) seems to be a spectrum. Queer or non-normative people have always existed, I don't know the causes and can't call it an illness without solid evidence. If such pronouns help in decreasing the number of suicides and social pressure of queer people, I don't find them negative but positive. The issue here is when this is enforced by law without further consideration. Is rejecting using their preferred pronouns a hate crime, when the reason is precisely being against a speech enforced by law? This is the dilemma. I agree with the guy that such a law does no good to the LGBT community, because it is precisely such law enforcement what may make people be against using these pronouns, something that has nothing to do with LGBTphobia. LGBT community shouldn't fight for rights in this way. Activism has never had this style, which looks more like fascism. I really can't relate with modern LGBT activism, it is highly stubborn and lacks strategy.
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    This is actually a general phenomenom happening in universities (university students usually develop enough maturity to accept their gender identity at that stage). I don't really see the problem referring to someone the way they prefer. The issue for him is that it is enforced by law. It's not to be confused with transphobia, nor one should understand that he believes it's wrong to use these pronouns (in a transphobic sense). It's a political matter related to free speech for him.
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    Weird/ bad dreams ?

    If bad dreams persist for such an amount of time, I would say you are facing certain anxiety, and you are still exposed to the source of your anxiety (which probably is present at your own house). You should try to fix things or take distance, otherwise your negative feelings will keep progressing and will turn into physical weakness.
  8. I would advise you to study at your own pace, as you don't necessarily HAVE TO choose one sect or another (or at least I felt you are not very comfortable woth that idea). For instance, you don't HAVE TO believe in the 12 Imams and their imamate. Study them and see if they are worth to be considered Imams (and recognising their infallibility) by you. This is indeed nothing you choose to do because you have found Sunnis to behave wrongly in certain topics. You will see the same happening within the Shia community in other ways.
  9. It has never been theirs to offer it to anyone... Iraq is not a theocracy. This makes absolutely no sense Ashvaz, bombs were thrown in Iraq. It is ridiculous we are even discussing this because God knows who believe Saddam was betrayed by hawzas...
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    It can be anxiety actually...
  11. Man I'm not here to hear alternative versions of recent history. We are talking facts, don't expect me to discuss nonsense. Not losing my time on phantasies.
  12. People already live in tents. Religious sites are maintained mostly because of donations, but this is not how a country is supposed to survive... Lastly, Saddam lost to the US, not hawzas. The Dawa party has proven to be a complete failure (ideologically as well as politically), and its alternatives are even worse.
  13. Bakir

    On tolerance

    Tolerance is inherently moral and necessarily social. And it can only be applied to people who are different, people you wouldn't consider part of "your" group. It is taught, a developed moral characteristic that may become part of who you are. We aren't born tolerant though, and that is why so many groups of influence have tried to develop this concept of group. Fascism itself is based on it. Our natural intolerance spreads as the worst virus if there are no forces to put an end to it. This is what sociology, so far, has been able to appreciate in the concept of tolerance at a macro-social level, and it has its reasons. If tolerance is not natural to us, but rather "homophily" (the preference of those with similar characteristics: race, socio-economical class, ideology, etc.), then tolerance is a trait that we can only develop through education, and only if we find it any useful or right. In the Qur'an it was already pointed that we were created in different groups: "O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another." (Surat al Hujurat) So I can just expect that for an early Arabic society this indeed meant a call for tolerance for a religion that was going to spread across many nations. It was useful. However, nowaday, this is not what we, as individuals, face. Living in a globalized world, being connected by the Internet and its very own culture, tolerance seems less and less necessary and useful. Ideologies and groups compete between each other, and a call for tolerance is against the efforts to reinforce that feeling of group. It isn't useful for many. Not to mention that tolerance is a highly difficult trait to acquire, as it requires great efforts of empathy. Ask yourselves to which point can you accept the different? And I don't mean their mere existence, most don't care about that. I mean tolerating someone different that is part of your life, in some way or another. We have always been taught to be tolerant when it has been useful, but not because it is good, because it is morally right. Because it is not among the interest of any group of influence. Groups, as the master of history and sociology of the Muslim world once said, Ibn Khaldun, have only one goal: power. That's why, even revolutions, that are supposed to be the fight for ideas, end up in some sort of fascism and/or dictatorship. Even when the people that lead them truly wanted free elections (modern history is full of examples of this, it is something we can't avoid). They are still necessary, though, for the progress of ideas. What happens, however, in our societies? In the West, tolerance has been imposed as something useful, but racism, mysogyny, LGBTphobia, etc. are still realities that many people even hate to discuss (many people attack feminism, for instance). In the Muslim world, tolerance died centuries ago, and an enormous amount of groups appeared. We are still reinforcing through our culture this intolerance, based on unreasonable discrimination: country of origin, skin color, studies, amount of money, gender, sexuality, beliefs, family/tribe name, etc. You can realize this inability to accept the different for instance in the topic of marriage, at what type of characteristic will people, parents, or ourselves if we have sons or daughters to marry, will look at. And it's not always the obvious (like don’t be racist). It is usually ideological. We can't accept other mentalities because we weren't taught about that, because the group we belong to doesn't want that. Tolerance isn't only about accepting black people, or trans people, or seeing women as equals. People will probably try to appear as tolerant in that sense, because it is useful for them. However, as a moral trait, these people are not genuinely tolerant, but conveniently civilized. Real tolerance is being able to respect others by their opinion, beliefs, lifestyle, and of course, biological circumstances. Accept them as long as you are not tolerating the intolerant. This conflict is paradoxical, and it is a well known paradox in social sciences (originally proposed by Karl Popper). The problem with tolerating the intolerant, as I said at the start of this entry, is precisely how fast and easily their intolerance spreads (because it is natural). As individuals and iA as free thinkers, we should fight to develop tolerance within ourselves and condemn intolerance even when it is present in those people who are part of "our" group (be it our racial "group", ideological, whatever). Intolerance isn't a joke, it's a social human and moral issue of high importance, and has always shaped our destiny. Thus, I can only advise my readers to dedicate some time to observe that aspect of their hearts, if they behaved in a tolerant manner, identify our errors, ask for forgiveness to the Most Merciful, and ask him to guide us and make us more aware of being tolerant when we are, again, tested in life. Remember to ask Him to guide me as well, iA.
  14. Right now it is a dust bin with oil. I'm speaking with knowledge of affairs. My family is precisely among the few who have closed billionaire contracts with China, and there is no Communist agenda, but the goal to bring decent building materials, water, etc. As for Hawzas, I don't find them more important that finishing the building of the university of Baghdad. But our culture gives more importance to hawzas, mostly focused on what I can touch if my hands are wet instead of rebuilding the country's economy. There is a garbage dump next to masjid al Kufa, but it doesn't matter because it's not Karbala. Let this be an example of how pilgrim culture is mostly an economical enterprise. That by the way, I would dare to say many of the hotels are driven by mafia-like groups (considering the death threats lawyers of my family have got when they tried to recover/charge for the occupied lands that are ours, and for which we have proofs in the government files).
  15. Current commercial ties with China guarantee Iraqi businessman some credibility to their investment, as well as defense from corruption and US interference. So honestly, from a pragmatic perspective, I find commercial ties with China very convenient for Iraqi economy given the current circumstances. In the other hand, Iraq would see no benefit in further sectarism (Shia influence and ties with other Shia groups). Rather, I see the exact contrary. I have always said this, don't ask an injured soldier to go to war. Iraq doesn't need ideologies, it needs water, electricity, universities and jobs. We can live without all the rest (this includes the huge amount of money that goes on religious "jobs").