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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. Op, talk to Allah. He loves you more than your own parents love you. Go somewhere quiet and just tell Him exactly whats on your mind, and in your heart, no strings attached. He will embrace you. And forgiveness is easy for Him. He is truly merciful and you can always always turn to Him (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). Forgiveness is not only forgiveness, but it opens up huge blessings and inshAllah you will see that. I pray you are blessed. Keep us in your prayers as well.
  2. OP, when I was a little younger used to think believing in God was a matter of intellectual rationality (and to a great extent it is). I’ve learned that belief in God, for me, is what my heart knows to be true. My heart chose to believe. Corny, but truthfully, as I move through life, the challenges demand not that I re-rationalise my philosophical arguments for a God, but that I take a leap of faith into the unknown, that I trust Him. This is the only way I can face lifes hurdles and make any sense of them.
  3. Im so sorry to hear this sad news, how incredibly tragic and painful. I hope you find peace in knowing that he died in a state of principle uprightness and inspiring character. sending lve and prayers your way
  4. That notion is wholly untrue (assuming that that was the intent of that speaker - which if it was is a v irresponsible thing to say). Please don’t buy into it. Common sense and intellect is your 1st hujjah. There is beauty in every shade and color. There is no place for such ridiculous notions in our faith.
  5. There is nothing wrong with accepting when you are in need, I agree with you. Is one in need if they wont (not can’t) get a job? Edit: I understand that in the case of OP there is a legit difficulty in getting a job. I intended what I wrote as a general theme, not having known you OP and I sincerly hope I have not caused you hurt or offence. If I have, please forgive me.
  6. Theres a big difference between having a job, working hard and being poor vs not bothering to work and being poor...
  7. Unless you are trying, and unable to find a job, or have a condition that prevents you from working..why should you accept govt money? if you are fortunate to live in a country with a welfare state, don’t abuse it Earn your money through your own hard work
  8. Get a job for yourself, for your integrity and self sufficiency. Almost any job would be more dignified than not trying to look for a job at all. Do not get on govt assistance unless you have a physically or mentally debilitating condition, otherwise its immoral. A successful man (or woman) has integrity and holds themselves up to good principles and values
  9. Read a good translation of the Qur'an (or the original Arabic if you understand). You don’t have to read it cover to cover. Choose a section or surah that interests you. Get to know its tafsir/context/lessons. Reflect on it. I love the story of Moses in the Qur'an,
  10. Not every halal thing is ‘right’ in a particular time/place/context. Wisdom and common sense go along way
  11. None of the above are necessary for being a Shia though
  12. Evolution is a process. It does not offer any explanation for the origin of life. It does not challenge the notion of the necessity of an original causer of causes. Believing in evolution is not at odds with Islamic theology (as far as im aware)
  13. What is the relevance of whether or not she bled and why should she “check her virginity”? I find that to be a very inappropriate line of questioning and the least of this young lady’s concerns should be how others view her or her virginity status. She is an innocent victim of a heinous crime, do not add insult to injury by letting her carry the burden of whether or not shes a virgin in the eyes of society. Sister who opened this thread, you are right and brave to share your story, please please seek professional help and talk this through with a third party. Whether or not you choose disclose who did this to you is another issue which I’m sure you understand would have legal repercussions. Regardless of this, seek confidential help
  14. As corny as it sounds, gratitude is the attitude of success. We all need to learn to cultivate and flex our thankfulness muscles. For me, its the one major habit that helps me feel optimistic. Lifes too short for a rubbish moods we all have prayers and hopes for more blessings - and they will be answered. But there are so many blessings that have been given without us explicitly asking for them. So many. A warm bed, clean drinking water, taste buds, opposable thumbs, facial muscles, ear bones... its cheesy, yes, but trynand get into a habit of gratitude. as for everything else, try your best and dont place the weight of the world on your shoulders. Take each day as it comes. Dont burden yourself with high expectations of yourself.
  15. Thank you all for your kind words and advice. Your prayers are most appreciated
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