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  1. Salam i don't understand why there is a push to make men and women seem like they are the same. This is simply not true. I mean, our brains are very different and this has an affect on our thoughts, behaviors, etc. Not to mention tens of thousands of years of cultural evolution (in which men have been in charge in like 95% of these cultures) which has left very clear marks on the psyche of men and women. There is a reason why women tend to be more materialistic and chase after rich men. There are tens of thousands of years of biological evolution at play here. But the problem with academics (and why a lot of it is really useless) is that it often focuses more on theory than the real world. Realistically, men in general are superior to women in some aspects and women are superior to men in other aspects. The obvious difference between men and women is clearly seen in our biology, history, religious laws, and daily life which no honest person can deny. was salam
  2. Quite the opposite actually. al-Sayyid al-Kho'i has said that none of the hadiths prohibiting it are authentic and actually there are many hadiths supporting fasting on Ashura: http://www.al-khoei.us/books/?id=3258 And even says that there's an authentic hadith that fasting on Ashura forgives the sins of a year Allahu akbar. But of course, a person shouldn't be happy and joyful and taking it as a celebration. and Allah(swt) knows best
  3. (bismillah) (salam) I enjoy the voice of Shaykh Yasir al-Dawsari: And an amazing recitation with English subtitles:
  4. Honestly, what's the point of getting married to a woman like this? If you are a man who is providing for his family, then why would you want a woman to do the same exact thing? It's like having two people driving the same car together. So you both go to work then both come home and both have to clean and cook and take care of the kids? Seems like a lot more work and stress for all sides and is a much more inefficient way of living. And if a woman wants money for security, there are so many opportunities online alhamdulillah. You don't have to slave away in an office 8 hours a day i'm not saying a woman should be cooped up in a house all day but marriage is a partnership, one side strengthens the weaknesses of others. Each person has a role that contributes to the overall strength of the partnership.
  5. Salam bro very good link i would say that one of the simplest ways of addressing this issue is to simply read the Quran. A huge chunk of it is talking about events occurring during the life of the Prophet(pbuh) and thus it would make no sense to say that the Quran was revealed anytime other than during the life of Prophet Muhammad(pbuh). was salam
  6. wa alaykum asSalam I don't know why so many women are like this. Sisters, you will NOT be able to change the vast majority of bad men.
  7. *facepalm* Really? Have we dropped that low trying to make a buck? You don't need a copyright to distribute Quran CDs. Just record them yourself, make a bunch of copies and distribute them to the people. Or just simply upload them on the internet. These days you don't need publishers to get your work out.
  8. (bismillah) (salam) That's not at all true. The brother is not asking for any mere education; he's asking for medical school, the top of the top. This also means that he has education. It's not wajib for him to do so because there's literally millions of other doctors. And to say that you have to put yourself in debt in order to have a good life is incorrect on a few levels: 1) So it's ok to do something haram to be comfortable in life? 2) There are many alternatives to having to pay for university such as getting a scholarship and majoring in a field that has a quick payoff such as IT. My brother just spent years programming on the side and actually got a paid internship at Google without even finishing university alhamdulillah; just because he actually had the skills which Allah(swt) bless him with first then through his hard work. 3) You don't actually even need to go to university. If you go to trade school as a welder or any number of fields, you'll generally be way better off financially than the guy who takes out a $100,000 loan to major in some useless liberal arts degree. The problem is that most of the youth in America are brainwashed to think exactly as you said (so nothing personal against you my dear brother) and i myself have fallen into this trap. And it is truly a horrible trap for the debt will significantly impact how you spend the next decade of your life in terms of marriage, travel, housing, etc (this is without considering the Islamic consequences of this decision). For the topic starter; see if you can discharge that loan doing clinics for a few years or working treating people in Africa for a few years or w/e; basically some way where you don't have to pay the interest back.
  9. (bismillah) (salam) I don't know but some have said that it was written like this in surah a-Baqarah as a means of calling the Jews to Islam by writing "Ibrahim" in a manner that allows both Arabs and Jews to pronounce his (as) name in their respective languages (this is a way of emotionally connecting with the Jews). So: ابرهم Allows the Arab the extend the raa and haa (إبراهيم), just like we do when we write لكن as such but in reality pronounce it as لاكن. And allows the Jew to pronounce it as they normally would (أَبْرَهَم) It's an interesting theory but Allah(swt) knows best.
  10. وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته For translation in general, you have to be familiar with the context and time period of the work you're dealing with. For example, if you're translating an article on modern technology, you have to be familiar with the technology itself as well as the terms of art the technology industry uses. The is the same with translating, fiqh, etc etc If you're translating hadiths, you have to be familiar with the Arabic which they used back. And you can't put the Arabic of all hadiths in one basket, because there is a difference between the Arabic used by say the Sahaba (whose Arabic was more from the pure Arabic of Jahiliyyah, also the different dialects of the various tribes play a bigger role) and say the Arabic used by the companions of al-Imam al-Sadiq(as) (where they used a more standardized Arabic as a result of the massive numbers of non-Arabs coming into Islam. They also used way more terms of art because of the translation of Greek works and the founding of various schools of thought). The differences are generally very subtle, but knowing these differences makes a differences both in your understand as well as your translation. The point is that you have to understand the various meanings of words in its various contexts. To help you achieve this with the other texts, it helps to simply read through the various meanings of words in لسان العرب. Also if you're reading hadith books like al-Kafi, read books that explain these books. From example, al-Majlisi's مرآة العقول is an explanation of al-Kafi and he does a very good job simplifying the meanings of various words (so you get the basic meaning, but to get the deeper meaning, you often have to go to the dictionaries). In his بحار الأنوار he also explains a lot of the tricky words in a very simple way. Also just simply reading a lot of hadiths and Quran (and listening to them on audio form) will help you get more familiar with how they spoke then. As for 'Iraab, you simply just gotta use it on a daily basis. I recommend going through book 3 of Madinah books because they really drill 'Iraab in your brain and make it natural. But really, when you're reading don't get lazy by just putting sukoon over everything, you gotta read with 'Iraab. Also when you speak, speak with 'Iraab. You may find yourself struggling at first, but with a lot of practice, it becomes second nature. Remember that illiterate Arab kids in Jahiliyyah were speaking with 'Iraab and they certainly didn't have the benefit of universities, dictionaries, etc. If they could do it, so can we. And with speaking in general, you just gotta speak. Practice writing on forums, and practice THINKING in Arabic. i personally benefited a lot from this site: http://www.sharedtalk.com/ Basically there are Arabs wanting to learn English and you know English and want to learn Arabic. So you can teach English and practice Arabic with them. Esp try to go for the Saudis; almost all of the ones i talked with on that site were comfortable with speaking in Fusha. As for the thesaurus; that's actually a slightly controversial topic lol because there is a big debate whether there are synonyms (in a given dialect) in Arabic in the first place. This especially applies to the Quran where some scholars have the view that there are no synonyms in the Quran and that every word has a unique meaning and others say that there are synonyms. However there are books that discuss the differences between words. See this thread: http://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/234993611-official-difference-between-similar-words-thread/ http://waqfeya.com/book.php?bid=9432 http://www.alfaseeh.com/vb/showthread.php?t=4090 And similar books on the فروق But remember that at the end of the day, learning languages is like just about every other skill. You gotta consistently do it and slowly improve. And go through dictionaries like Hans Wehr in the beginning to just get the very basic meanings of words and as you advance go to لسان العرب to get a much deeper meaning of the advanced words. And keep reading and listening to hadiths and Quran so you start distinguishing the language better. And dua
  11. (bismillah) (salam) Why not? Actually, the Quran says that the disbelievers would LOVE for us to be heedless of our weapons: وَدَّ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا لَوْ تَغْفُلُونَ عَنْ أَسْلِحَتِكُمْ وَأَمْتِعَتِكُمْ فَيَمِيلُونَ عَلَيْكُم مَّيْلَةً وَاحِدَةً ... those who disbelieve desire that you may be careless of your arms and your luggage, so that they may then turn upon you with a sudden united attack... from 4:102 Shakir Of course the context is talking about warfare but it's a good principle to keep in mind and the Constitution specifically allows it. And this is an even stronger ayah, again the context being warfare but it provides important principles: وَأَعِدُّوا لَهُم مَّا اسْتَطَعْتُم مِّن قُوَّةٍ وَمِن رِّبَاطِ الْخَيْلِ تُرْهِبُونَ بِهِ عَدُوَّ اللَّـهِ وَعَدُوَّكُمْ وَآخَرِينَ مِن دُونِهِمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَهُمُ اللَّـهُ يَعْلَمُهُمْ ۚ وَمَا تُنفِقُوا مِن شَيْءٍ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّـهِ يُوَفَّ إِلَيْكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تُظْلَمُونَ ﴿٦٠﴾ وَإِن جَنَحُوا لِلسَّلْمِ فَاجْنَحْ لَهَا وَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّـهِ ۚ إِنَّهُ هُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ ﴿٦١﴾ 8:60] ShakirAnd prepare against them what force you can and horses tied at the frontier, to frighten thereby the enemy of Allah and your enemy and others besides them, whom you do not know (but) Allah knows them; and whatever thing you will spend in Allah's way, it will be paid back to you fully and you shall not be dealt with unjustly.[8:61] ShakirAnd if they incline to peace, then incline to it and trust in Allah; surely He is the Hearing, the Knowing. And the hadiths on self-defense are plenty. It's something that is specifically allowed both in Islamic law and American law (carrying a weapon in self-defense) wallahu a'lam
  12. (bismillah) wa alaykum asSalam Sister Your problem is actually quite common (unfortunately) among girls, particularly those of a Middle Eastern/South Asian background, so here are some general advices: 1) Don't focus or pay any attention to the evil eye or jinns or anything like that. Allah(swt) Alhamdulillah gave us the solution in the Quran; read surahs Falaq (chap. 113) and Naas (114) often 2) Please sister, don't make your value dependent on getting married. Yes you should be doing what you can to get married to a righteous man who fits you but don't make your value dependent on it. Unfortunately, a some girls view their wedding day as the most important day of their life but in reality this is mistaken because this means that this girl is basically useless if she has nothing else to show for her life. I mean in 70 years of life the best day of her life was getting married? How about an actual accomplishment like memorizing the Quran or setting up an orphanage or setting up a social media account to give da'wah which resulted in hundreds of people becoming Muslim or translating books of hadiths etc etc etc So yes try to get married but don't make it as if your value is judged by it. Your value should be judged by your nearness to Allah(swt). My dear Sister don't depressed about stuff like this. It literally happens all the time to both women and men). Look at your relationship with Allah(swt). If you are near to Him(swt) then be grateful and ask for more. And if you are far then yes be sad but work to get nearer. That is your true value in life :) So again, don't focus on bad luck or this stuff. Read surahs Falaq and Naas and read the Quran and work on your salat and try to get married in a halal way. Going through this website you'll probably see that there are some brothers who were rejected several times before finally getting married. It's completely normal. Just focus on Allah(swt) and keep trudging ahead. Your value is in your nearness to AllahÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì May Allah(swt) bless you and help you find a good husband amen was salam EDIT: and don't worry about your mom. Again that's strangely and unfortunately fairly common esp once you reach a certain age. You just gotta be patient and be good with her and try to avoid confrontation.
  13. (bismillah) (salam) Unfortunately a lot of men have been brainwashed by feminist media and K-12 education. When girls (and i say girls and not women because most of the females our age simply are not mature) are attracted to jerks, it's not that (most of them) they like being abused, rather it's because jerks tend to have traits that attracts them. For example, jerks tend to be their own independent person; they don't make their make their lives revolve around their spouse/girlfriend. Girls tend to want the man to steer the ship and allow them (the girl) to ride along (and occasional make suggestions). Whereas unfortunately a number of "nice guys" tend to lack the leadership material that girls look for. Even worse, they can sometimes be desperate/naggy/needy/clingy (which really turns off girls), and make their lives revolve around their girl (so they don't go anywhere). Whereas look at real men like the Prophet(pbuh). Honestly, how many men could handle having 9 WIVES (esp some of them being certain difficult historical figures whom we know about)? Without a doubt the Prophet(pbuh) was a kind and loving husband and would go out of his way to please his wives, but at the end of the day there was a power structure and those women knew that. And he(pbuh) wasn't afraid to put his foot down when needed. Or even generally look at Imam 'Ali(as) or the righteous companions. While yes they were humble, pious people, they also had an inner strength which commanded respect. And if you don't believe me, let's hear from the women themselves: (WARNING: contains horribly-dressed women, so cover the bottom of your screen, but it's a powerful learning video if you don't believe me) However we have definitely lost a great element of Islamic values that the Salaf used to have. Some of them would actively look for a good suitor for their daughter and they would look for the one with the most taqwa. Now-a-days many dads expect suitors to come up with a Benz and a suit and pay a ridiculous amount for the mahr. Look at the power of the Muslims back then (despite having awful leaders) and look at us now. Also we have to realize that a lot of girls are not people who we really want to spend the rest of our lives with (same with guys when it comes to sisters looking for a husband). We have to accept that. If a girl has unrealistic expectations of what a husband should be due to years of watching soap opreas, that's not really a girl you want to be with. EDIT: And even worse you're living in the UK bro. A lot of the women there are like men because the feminist propaganda is much worse so you have to try extra hard. And Allah(swt) knows best
  14. (BISMILLAH) (salam) A reason that is given is that generally a number of the scholars at that time wanted their chains of hadith to be as short as possible (so that they would be as close to the Prophet (pbuh) as possible). So since Muslim was with al-Bukhari for a long time, he not only heard many hadiths from al-Bukhari, but he also heard a number of these hadiths from the teachers of al-Bukhari who were still alive. So for example, why would Muslim say "al-Bukhari narrated to me from A from B from C from such-and-such Sahabi from the Prophet(pbuh)" (5 people between him and the Prophet(pbuh)), when he could say, "A narrated to me from B from C from such-and-such Sahabi from the Prophet(pbuh) (4 people between him and the Prophet(pbuh)). You can see a brief discussion of this here: http://www.ahlalhdeeth.com/vb/showthread.php?t=220236 And Allah(swt) knows best
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