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  1. Half a year on - just incase anyone wanted to know what happened. It didn't work out. Her values and morals were at a completely different place to what mine were. Funny thing is these women cry at night wondering why men treat them badly and why they aren't married and have a happy family when they're just chaos. The mental trauma this woman ended up putting me through is unimaginable. I know this is a laughable problem compared to the plights people are experiencing in Afghanistan, Iraq, Syria, Palestine etc but relatively speaking it was very painful.
  2. Hello, I want to name my son but am unsure of the English spelling. Is it Jibreel, Jibrayeel, Jibrayil, Jibraeel? I have read many many spellings and have heard many different pronunciations. Is there a source where I can look to for formal and concrete information? Thank you peace.
  3. I deeply thank all of you who have contributed to this matter. For some, this may simply be another internet and religious thread but for me this is my life. These decisions I make will ultimately guide my path in life. I have told her that I would not FORCE her to 'convert' to Islam because I'd rather her be honest and upfront about her thoughts and stance then be misguided by her. I know of Muslim couples where the wife wore the hijab upon marriage only to please her husband and in the very short run, divorce and separation became a reality. This doesn't mean that I wouldn't want her to become a Muslim because that would make me beyond joyful - I feel this joy when people I don't even know find their way to Islam so if a person I really cared for improved their life by doing this I would be very happy. I think I should find ways of introducing her to more formal teachings. We constantly talk about Islam because she initiates interest, I play tapes about Islam, I listen to Islamic-related songs when with her. It's a double edged sword I am aware - in one sense she could think she is really converting only to leave Islam years from now or even months but then again she could claim she will respect me and our children's rights to Islam and then change as they grow and more issues surrounding teenage-hood arise. Maryam makes a great point about role modelling. Very hard to expect my daughters to really want to be Muslim girls when their mother is not. I don't want to just marry a Muslim girl for the sake of things looking good on paper because I know a lot of people who identify themselves as followers of Islam but have dirty hearts. Some people who say they have no faith what so ever have been the most beautiful people. I wish she was born a Muslim. I wish she was a Muslim. But she wasn't and she isn't so what I do from now on will be life-changing.
  4. She is learning basic things to say as a part of her daily life like saying Asalamu'Alaikum and Alhamdulilah and God-willing. At this stage she says she would not convert and basically this is from her lack of understanding of Islam and I guess what a huge decision it is for her. Everyday she asks me questions about Islam and wants to know how to behave according to Islamic values and traditions. I don't think it's fair to expect someone to convert suddenly but we are going on this journey together and she makes the effort to constantly ask about things rather then me shoving it down her throat. But I see your points. Thank you for your advice :)
  5. Hello everyone I know this question has probably been done to death and I have looked through previous threads however I still have to ask so that I'm given the opportunity to be answered to given my own situation and unique needs. I've been getting close to a woman who is a non-Muslim and is Catholic. She is not a strong practising Catholic however her family particularly older generations are quite modest and respectful people. I have met her family and they respect and adore me for who I am - a Muslim man whose culture and traditions and in some cases, every day living differs quite drastically to theirs. I ALWAYS told myself and others that I would marry a Muslim woman who knew of and loved our Holy Prophet peace be upon him and his pure family. We met and since then I can't really imagine just ignoring her because she's not a Muslim. We've discussed marriage and children and she undeniably submits to the necessity of raising our children to be Muslims - having Muslim names, no church, no christian names etc. She has talked to her parents and they fully respect that. I do know however that people can change and considering she is not a Muslim and in a country such as Australia where women have the majority right and power over how their children are raised, I know things can get very troublesome. Before this girl, I was interested in marrying a Sunni Muslim woman and let me tell you, the dilemmas I face now are NOTHING compared to with her. Her father HATED Shia Muslims and always told her daughter that he would never accept one into the family. Long story short we didn't work out because of those differences and a whole bunch of other things which I won't get in to. I know brothers and sisters here will advise me to not marry this non-Muslim because of complications and potential complications but I do know of some men who married Non-Muslim women and it worked out so good because those women had the mind-set and character to completely respect Islam otherwise they would have never married a Muslim in the first place. Please advise a young brother.
  6. After advice from many people and a lot of research done myself, I am quite content with the thought of moving to the St George area in Sydney. My question is now more focused than it was before, what suburbs in the St George area are the best in terms of safety, shopping etc. I have been looking thoroughly at suburbs such as Kogarah, Arncliffe, Rockdale, Hurstville... I'm guessing that the more expensive areas such as Kogarah Bay might be less crime affected? Or maybe not. I keep mentioning the issues of security and schooling and things like that because I'm well aware that although a certain suburb may have a lot of Muslims, it doesnt mean it's a good place to live. A lot of our Muslim brothers and sisters are great people but from some places I have lived, Ive learnt that an overflow in young numbers with poor schooling = not so good area. Muslim or not Muslim. That's why I'm willing to budget very strictly to afford higher rent.
  7. Just wondering if there are any Afghan Shias here =} And if so, where abouts in NSW do you live? Peace.
  8. Salam. I noticed the Afghan Relief Fund in your signature (I know, great eyesite lol), but was wondering if you were Afghan yourself?

  9. There are 'Sunni' mosques that openly forbid the way Shia's pray. I have an influence of both Shia and Sunni and through the majority of my experiences, these 'Sunnis' are much more intolerant of others. I dislike even calling intolerant people Sunnis because if any one were to follow the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him), then there would be absolutely no intolerance of any person aslong as they were respectful and decent themselves.
  10. Thanks a lot guys! I have been looking at apartments all over including east, north and west of Sydney and I'm quite taken back by how expensive it is to rent. I'm only in my early 20s but am a very good spender and insh'Allah will manage while I'm still single. I have taken the advice and have been looking in areas such as St George. Am I correct in saying that a decent two bedroom apartment/unit would be roughly $350 rent/week?
  11. Good evening all. Soon I will be leaving Southern NSW to begin working in Sydney (most probably). My company has given the option of declaring several areas where I'd like to work at so I was wondering, what areas feature Shia Muslims more heavily? I am aware the St George area has a lot of Muslims but any where else? Also, keep in mind that I'd love an area to begin a family so even though there may be Muslims in the area, if there is a high crime rate/low education level, please let me know. Also, a 'Shia Mosque' would be lovley :) I trust your advice.
  12. Asalam Alaikum every one. My question is regarding the value Sunnis place on the sacrifices and examples provided by the Ahlubayt. I have many Sunni friends, hardly any Shia friends, and it's really disappointing to see them act shocked when I mention that some thing like Muharram is approaching. They get very negative and it's almost as if they don't know what they're being critical of but the only thing that they've heard is that it's a 'Shia thing to do'. Why don't all schools of thought teach the great lessons Imam Ali and his bloodline demonstrated because they were all directly linked to the survival of Islam and Muslims. I just don't get it. If I ask my Sunni friends about Imam Ali, Hassan, Hussain etc, they probably wouldn't really know who they were or more importantly, what they meant to Islam. When we learn about the Ahlubayt, we're not learning about individuals, we're learning about the greatest lessons, advice and actions a human can carry out in the name of Allah. They were the ultimate epitome of what Allah wants from a Muslim. I get so upset thinking about how Shias are completely attacked all over the world for their views and beliefs. I am 100% certain that any one who talks ill of Shias would not even know what they believe in and I hate even saying 'Shia' because it's Muslim. You're either Muslim or not. To think that a significant portion of the world and even Muslims, follow the behaviour of Yazid rather than Hussain is just, well it's an undescribable disappointment. And before any one jumps on me and says, 'oh look you're using Imam Hussain as the ultimate example rather than the Holy Prophet', no... I'm stating that because it was he, Imam Hussain, who led the most historical event of evil against good on the day of Ashura.
  13. I'm upset to hear your plights. One of the main reasons why I love Australia regardless of what people say in terms of it being western and haram, is the fact that I can be Shia and even though there are Sunnis who will try and give Shias hard time, the majority of human beings living here have good and basic human rights. Unfortunately in other 'Muslim' countries, the true believers of Islam are given a hard time and it's just a hardcore thing that it has been instilled within the whole countries structure. Like you mentioned, schools, social gatherings, government, politics, attitudes. Bottom line, a true Muslim would not give a hard time to ANY human being regardless of their religious views aslong as they are not causing harm to others or creating hurt in a negative way. I'm glad you're finding a better life now and I pray that Shias and any one who is being discriminated against finds a better life, preferably before meeting death :)
  14. Funny you say that. At the start of this year I remember talking to a group of people which included a few of my friends. A girl asked me whether I was Shia or Sunni and I replied and she literally gasped. Just like, "ahhhh" and then took a big gulp lol. I said why is your reaction like that? She just said oh I didn't know I thought you were Sunni and that she never expected it. She was pretty much acting like I'd just come out of the closet or some thing haha. But any way, we got to talking religion and it just shocked her to know that she knew nothing at all about Sunnah and Shia and why she even calls herself a Sunni. For all she knows she could of been going around telling people she was a cow because she didn't know the basics of it. I let her know of the differences and it bothers me how she and other Sunnis don't like to hear anything coming out of my mouth. In the back of their heads they know what I'm saying makes sense but they have been taught particular things and refuse to hear any different. It's a generation thing. Father teachers children, children have kids, they teach the same to their offspring. I think we have a Shia Masjid but I'm yet to go. The issue is that 100% of my friends are Sunni so it's not that often that I hear of any Shia activities within Sydney.
  15. Have any of you come accross situations where you are treated negatively just because you are Shia? I've grown up with ALL Sunni brothers but this whole Shia/Sunni thing only became an issue when we hit the ages of 17/18. I remember about a year and a half ago we were all having lunch and we were all talking about the Iranian government and one of my best friends said, don't worry no body likes the Shia. I just remember my heart sinking because we were all such good friends and I'm quite certain he didn't even know I was Shia but still, to hear such a thing... In terms of social aspects, not to sound arrogant or over confident but I am a quite attractive person but I know of women and girls who have paid a lot of attention to me, even mothers who saw me a potential husband for their daughters, spit in disgust after hearing that I'm Shia. There have been many many examples but I won't go into detail. Even going to the local Mosque, they preach anti-Shia sentiment. Thank God it's only Australia and not overseas where the Shia are being massacred so I even feel guilty mentioning my petty problems but the main objective here is for those who wish to vent and express their unfortunate experiences. Experiences resulting from being the true followers of Islam.
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