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  1. I was in love with a girl and she loved me very much, we decided to get married and as a good children of our parents we decided to go through with the traditional way of "RISHTA" in Subcontinental style. But the girls father took a ISTIKHARA without even meeting me or without even talking me personally. He could have talked to me on phone but he did not. There was not even a single reason for him to do ISTIKHARA. The requirements for ISTIKHARA as it has been clearly stated in TAUZEEH-UL-MASAEL that when a person is very confused about a situation after so much of analysis, thinking, taking advices and suggestions from others, then one can do ISTIKHARA. But unfortunately these so called parents, people who are not fulfilling Prophets way of life, are putting not only their children's life on stake but the coming generations. Because if these so called parents insist and pressurize their children to get married with whomever they want, then the marriage itself is in a extremely doubtful position. This is happening almost every where in Pakistan, USA, Canada and such populations. These people are relying on ISTIKHARA more than their own judgement AQL and MASHWARA WITH OTHERS. Thats not the message of Prophet aur Imams that keep doing istikhara for each and everything in your life. Do the deep planning and think before whatever you do. There are somethings which are beyond the control but there are something which are under human control so why not use our knowledge and proper consultation right before we do anything. Infact doing istikhara is also a human decision which has been taken by using less knowledge. Anyway her parents has destroyed the lives of her and mine. They did not let us marry even though Prophet and Imams has continuously allowed each and every single person to marry with their choice. You can read the HADITH AND SAYINGS in so many books. In subcontinent, I believe that parents has, illogically and by pressure, destroyed their own children's confidence and lives. They think that they are the masters of their children in every important matter of their life, which is not true if one would study the life of Prophet. Infact parents are the one who truly understand their children's wishes and gladly try their best to help them out to solve any kind of issue. Good parents never make hasty decisions and they calmly go through with the issue and try to find the solution for it by giving their children all the confidence they need. My point is that her father should have talked to me and should have asked each and every detail which he needed in order to make the best decision. If he thought that there must be a thing, which should be changed in me or in general, he could have consulted with me. But again unfortunately he did not even talk to me. SHAME ON SUCH SHIA SYED PARENTS. THEY DON'T DESERVE TO BE CALLED EVEN HUMANS BECAUSE EVEN ANIMALS UNDERSTAND THEIR CHILDREN WISHES. WASALAM
  2. I was in love with a girl and she loved me very much, we decided to get married and as a good children of our parents we decided to go through with the traditional way of "RISHTA" in Subcontinental style. But the girls father took a ISTIKHARA without even meeting me or without even talking me personally. He could have talked to me on phone but he did not. There was not even a single reason for him to do ISTIKHARA. The requirements for ISTIKHARA as it has been clearly stated in TAUZEEH-UL-MASAEL that when a person is very confused about a situation after so much of analysis, thinking, taking advices and suggestions from others, then one can do ISTIKHARA. But unfortunately these so called parents, people who are not fulfilling Prophets way of life, are putting not only their children's life on stake but the coming generations. Because if these so called parents insist and pressurize their children to get married with whomever they want, then the marriage itself is in a extremely doubtful position. This is happening almost every where in Pakistan, USA, Canada and such populations. These people are relying on ISTIKHARA more than their own judgement AQL and MASHWARA WITH OTHERS. Thats not the message of Prophet aur Imams that keep doing istikhara for each and everything in your life. Do the deep planning and think before whatever you do. There are somethings which are beyond the control but there are something which are under human control so why not use our knowledge and proper consultation right before we do anything. Infact doing istikhara is also a human decision which has been taken by using less knowledge. Anyway her parents has destroyed the lives of her and mine. They did not let us marry even though Prophet and Imams has continuously allowed each and every single person to marry with their choice. You can read the HADITH AND SAYINGS in so many books. In subcontinent, I believe that parents has, illogically and by pressure, destroyed their own children's confidence and lives. They think that they are the masters of their children in every important matter of their life, which is not true if one would study the life of Prophet. Infact parents are the one who truly understand their children's wishes and gladly try their best to help them out to solve any kind of issue. Good parents never make hasty decisions and they calmly go through with the issue and try to find the solution for it by giving their children all the confidence they need. My point is that her father should have talked to me and should have asked each and every detail which he needed in order to make the best decision. If he thought that there must be a thing, which should be changed in me or in general, he could have consulted with me. But again unfortunately he did not even talk to me. SHAME ON SUCH SHIA SYED PARENTS. THEY DON'T DESERVE TO BE CALLED EVEN HUMANS BECAUSE EVEN ANIMALS UNDERSTAND THEIR CHILDREN WISHES. WASALAM Girls father was very materialistic, he wanted a rich husband for her daughter. The only way he communicated with me was through email and through email you cannot understand everything of course. But he refused to talk to me either on phone or personally. He is so called shia syed muslim. I ask that what would have he done, if Imam-e-Zamana would have been here? Would he have done the same to me? Istikhara is not a logical answer to refuse. Beacause why istikhara when we are in love? What would you call such parents?
  3. I was in love with a girl and she loved me very much, we decided to get married and as a good children of our parents we decided to go through with the traditional way of "RISHTA" in Subcontinental style. But the girls father took a ISTIKHARA without even meeting me or without even talking me personally. He could have talked to me on phone but he did not. There was not even a single reason for him to do ISTIKHARA. The requirements for ISTIKHARA as it has been clearly stated in TAUZEEH-UL-MASAEL that when a person is very confused about a situation after so much of analysis, thinking, taking advices and suggestions from others, then one can do ISTIKHARA. But unfortunately these so called parents, people who are not fulfilling Prophets way of life, are putting not only their children's life on stake but the coming generations. Because if these so called parents insist and pressurize their children to get married with whomever they want, then the marriage itself is in a extremely doubtful position. This is happening almost every where in Pakistan, USA, Canada and such populations. These people are relying on ISTIKHARA more than their own judgement AQL and MASHWARA WITH OTHERS. Thats not the message of Prophet aur Imams that keep doing istikhara for each and everything in your life. Do the deep planning and think before whatever you do. There are somethings which are beyond the control but there are something which are under human control so why not use our knowledge and proper consultation right before we do anything. Infact doing istikhara is also a human decision which has been taken by using less knowledge. Anyway her parents has destroyed the lives of her and mine. They did not let us marry even though Prophet and Imams has continuously allowed each and every single person to marry with their choice. You can read the HADITH AND SAYINGS in so many books. In subcontinent, I believe that parents has, illogically and by pressure, destroyed their own children's confidence and lives. They think that they are the masters of their children in every important matter of their life, which is not true if one would study the life of Prophet. Infact parents are the one who truly understand their children's wishes and gladly try their best to help them out to solve any kind of issue. Good parents never make hasty decisions and they calmly go through with the issue and try to find the solution for it by giving their children all the confidence they need. My point is that her father should have talked to me and should have asked each and every detail which he needed in order to make the best decision. If he thought that there must be a thing, which should be changed in me or in general, he could have consulted with me. But again unfortunately he did not even talk to me. SHAME ON SUCH SHIA SYED PARENTS. THEY DON'T DESERVE TO BE CALLED EVEN HUMANS BECAUSE EVEN ANIMALS UNDERSTAND THEIR CHILDREN WISHES. WASALAM
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