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  1. Medicine has its time and place of course, alhamdulillah for all of the research and technology and breakthroughs etc. However it's completely overused and over relied on. We don't implement the advice from the Ahlul Bayt regarding maintaining good health. Imam Ali said taking salt before and after meals prevents 70 diseases. Washing hands. Only eating when hungry. Filling belly with 1/3 food, 1/3 water, and 1/3 air. The hadiths are really endless. Plus using Allah's names for healing... There's just such a wealth of unused knowledge out there. 

  2. 34 minutes ago, AkhiraisReal said:

    anyone else that has something to add regarding vaccines, and whether we should take them or not.

    Haven't read the whole topic but sure I'll add that many vaccines, at least in the US, still contain high levels of Mercury, aluminum, and formaldehyde which are neurotoxins. Plus there is no way to know how these different ingredients act together when compounded over time, especially in the small delicate bodies of children. Avoid multivaccines where they combine them to save time and cut down on visits. However sometimes the benefits outweigh the harm, so you have to look at each vaccine individually and for each child. Many of the vaccines on the almost mandatory schedule are really not necessary for most people. 

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    What is scruffy hospitality?

    On his blog, Father Jack defines scruffy hospitality this way:

    Scruffy hospitality means you’re not waiting for everything in your house to be in order before you host and serve friends in your home. Scruffy hospitality means you hunger more for good conversation and serving a simple meal of what you have, not what you don’t have. Scruffy hospitality means you’re more interested in quality conversation than the impression your home or lawn makes. If we only share meals with friends when we’re excellent, we aren’t truly sharing life together.

    He encourages us not to allow an unfinished to-do list to stop us from opening our homes to friends and family.

    I agree, but here's the problem. It's hard to let go of the belief that our homes need to be picture-perfect — or maybe I should say "Pinterest-perfect" — before we can welcome guests over. But the idea that we must make our home look un-lived in before having people over stops so many of us from sharing life together.


    Read this article some months ago and it helped me a bit, but I still dread people coming over if I know they are a spotless kind of person. I don't want them to feel uncomfortable in my "stuff."

  4. In case you all don't know: He had his court hearing yesterday, Monday. His lawyer made the case that he needs urgent medical treatment outside of Nigeria because Nigeria does not have the equipment to treat him, and gave evidence of his grave condition. The government lawyer tried to make the case that he can be treated in Nigeria and that they are afraid he wouldn't come back if they let him go. 

    The Court decision is delayed for 7 more days. 

    I have no words. Down with this stupid evil Nigerian government and all of their friends. 

  5. If I didn't know that there was a divine command and wisdom behind it, I probably wouldn't have done it with my son (because of believing the propaganda). It's a permanent alteration that he has no say in and he's a baby who I would never want to cause such pain to. The screams that night when I was changing his bloody gauze put me in tears. 

    But to be honest it healed a lot faster than I thought it would and it really was not traumatising for him, moreso for me than for him. 

  6. 3 hours ago, Ali~J said:

    If women dressed up  to attract men in all situations and instances and then why is it that they still dress and potray themselves in the same way even if they're in a fulfilled relationship? 

    I think there is a difference in a desire to display ones beauty and dressing to attract men. Most women have an inmate desire to look and feel beautiful, even if what she considers beautiful does not necessarily coincide with what men find attractive. Otherwise more women would be dressing in slutty clothes, because they know that's what makes men look. Only some do, the ones who are desperate for male validation and attention, but more women dress in something they think makes them look beautiful, not slutty. 

    Little girls (not all of course) get excited when they have a pretty new dress to wear and can't wait to put it on and show everyone. That's not because they think it will attract boys, but because it makes them feel beautiful. By the way I've never seen that kind of excitement in a little boy over clothes. 

  7. My mom walked with me to the YMCA to wait with me for the school bus to come pick me up. I think it was the first day of school, my first ever, I was going to kindergarten. When the bus came I got on and sat in my seat and looked out the window. I saw her down below and as the bus pulled off I waved goodbye with tears streaming down my face. 

    She was looking back and laughing. I was confused and heartbroken.

    When I got home I asked her why she was laughing and she told me she thought that I was laughing too, not crying. I was a little skeptical lol but oh well. 

    All the memories are flooding back now, shall I go on? :P

  8. 4 hours ago, Propaganda_of_the_Deed said:

    When in an attempt to give the now disbanded ShiaChat Lebanese troll gang a little taste of their own medicine, I made a thread on my visit to Lebanon and talked about my experiences, namely the accent and the cuisine, which got a few triggered, defensive replies. Suffice to say the thread unfortunately is either deleted or hidden.


    I think I remember that gang. Made me think some very ugly generalizations about Lebanese people, since I didn't know any in real life. :threatenlumber:

    They've since been disproven though. 

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    I have not been through what you have so I can only sympathize. But bad actions like that always eventually come to light, seems like expiditing it by spying only causes more problems. And instead of there being an innocent victim in it, no one is innocent. But again, I can't speak from experience, and don't know how I would feel in your and OPs situations. 

  10. "O you who have faith!Avoid much suspicion.Indeed some suspicions are sins.And do not spy onor backbite one another.Will any of you loveto eat the flesh of his dead brother?You would hate it.And be wary of Allah;indeed Allah is all-clement, all-merciful." 49:12

    You both have problems, maybe seek mediation or counseling so you both can stop your habits and form a better bond and marriage. 

  11. Here is a letter that you can copy and send to the Nigerian authorities in Washington DC and New York City 
    (By) Muslim Congress
    Consulate General of Nigeria
    828 Second Avenue, New York, NY 10017 
    Tel:(212) 808-0301
    Embassy of the Federal Republic of Nigeria
    3519 International Court, NW
    Washington, DC 20008
    Tel: (202) 800 7201 (Ext.113)
    Email: info@nigeriaembassyusa.org

    Embassy Staff in NY

    Ambassador Sylvanus Adiewere Nsofor
    Head of Mission
    Email: ambassadornsofor@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Amb. Hassan M. Hassan
    Deputy Head of Mission
    Email: hhassan@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mr.. Y. S. Suleiman
    Minister/Head (Economic/Trade & Investment)
    Email: ssuleiman@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mr.. A. J. Yerima
    Minister/Head (Consular)
    Ext. 101
    Email: ajyerima@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mr.. M. O. Abam
    Minister/Head (Political)
    Ext. 303
    Email: abam@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mr.. G. Y. Hamza
    Minister (Political)
    Ext. 305
    Email: gyhamza@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Ms. Jane Adams
    Minister (Economic, Trade and Investment)
    Ext. 307
    Email: jadam@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mr.. Suleiman M.  Usman
    Senior Counselor (Head of Chancery)
    Ext: 202
    Email: susman@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mrs. Fatima Elabor Ojiaku 
    First Secretary I (Political)
    Ext. 114
    Email: ojiakufatima@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mr.. A. Johnson Ogbole 
    First Secretary II (Economic, Trade and Investment)
    Ext. 317
    Email: jogbole@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mrs. Abimbola Ojo
    Second Secretary (Consular)
    Ext. 306
    Email: abojo@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mr.. Binga. D. Nungamiya
    Second Secretary (Political and Protocol)
    Ext. 314
    Email: dbinga@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mr.. Ogunsola Joseph Oladapo
    Finance Attaché
    Ext. 201
    Email: joseph@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mrs. Beatrice Ayokhai
    Admin Attaché(Office of the Ambassador)
    Ext. 308
    Email: bayokhai@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    Mrs. Alice. N.Y. Dadu
    Admin Attaché (Registry)
    Ext. 105
    Email: adadu@nigeriaembassyusa.org
    I am contacting you to express my deepest concern in regards to the illegal detention of Sheikh Ibraheem Zakzaky by your government. As you are aware Sheikh Zakzaky and his wife had been exonerated from any violation of the law by the federal court three years ago. Yet they continue to languish in a prison suffering and in need of urgent medical care. 
    You and your government are under moral and legal obligation to ensure their health and safety. Should they succumb to their injuries and the poison that is slowly draining Sheikh Zakzaky's life, who should be held responsible?
    I together with my community and others across the nation will continue to raise our voice towards this colossal injustice perpetrated against a man who has brought peace and unity to countless Nigerians. We will protest, hold vigils, use social media to highlight this criminal behavior, until justice is served. 
    I am counting to hear from you at the earliest.

  12. Were you with others? Maybe they are worried about your safety as a young Muslim woman by herself. Were you spending money they gave you? Maybe they just want to keep tabs on how you are managing expenses? Of course you know better the situation but if you put their mind at ease about whatever they are worried about, maybe they will grant more freedom. 

  13. Thank you, this is so important and enlightening. May Allah reward you. 

    How do we distinguish which commands/wishes are to be obeyed and which are not? You say it is based on culture but sometimes a parents wish is not based on culture but on parents' whims. Should we obey whims so that they are happy? Or should we only obey things that have an Islamic basis? 

    I guess what I'm asking is, the mubah things you mentioned, can they become wajib or mustahab if parents wish it? For example, if I want to study Japanese, but my parents want me to study Spanish because it's more practical in America. 

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