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Everything posted by ireallywannaknow

  1. That women are talkative and men are not. Sometimes true, not always.
  2. The first thing that came to my mind was something that I did some years ago and I felt like, in my own words at the time "it was the most shameful thing I'd ever done." I disagree now, it turned out to be not that bad but at the time I was shooketh. What happened was I was trying to make an art project for my students to sell at the school fair coming up. And I bought some liquid gold leaf paint for them to use even though it had warning about it being toxic, I dismissed it because I really wanted to use that paint and thought it was just an exaggerated warning. So the next day I did the project with the kids and when the paint started eating through the styrofoam cups I poured it into and the fumes filled the room and the paint that got on one of the kids hands wouldn't wash off no matter what, I panicked and realized what a horrible thing I had just done. Put the health of other peoples small kids entrusted to me in danger. I felt really bad and vowed to never touch that paint again. However I told some family members and they assured me it wasn't as bad as I thought, and that the paint didn't damage them. And when I went back to work the next day all the kids were fine and happy and I could breathe easy again. But I knew to be very careful from then on out especially with other people's children.
  3. Yum. I used to love what we called hoagie night when I was growing up. I thought the third oldest was like 6?
  4. Well actually I'm pretty happy with myself when I'm alone. When I'm around others, that's when the discomfort kicks in.
  5. No... I envy those who do. I constantly battle my own mind that tells me I'm not good enough in any department. But it just makes me realize that everything good that we have is a blessing from Allah. Even a sound mind. So while others have a lot of external tests and challenges, mine are primarily internal. I'm not completely crazy though lol, only like 15%.
  6. My comment was less about the woman and more about the man not doing his wajib while the wife is now in that role. I am glad he is taking care of his child and not leaving it up to strangers, but my point is... just because we men or women CAN do something, doesn't mean we should. It raises the question of the natural order of things. Do you believe that there is a natural order of things? That everything in the universe has perfect order and balance? Think about science and the remarkable ways Allah has created everything to work together harmoniously. Do you believe that Islam and Allah's commandments in the Qur'an are in line with that perfect balance and order? Do you think it was arbitrary that Allah commanded men to provide for their families and be leaders? Do you think that He should have said men CAN provide, but it's really up to the couple and if they have a different arrangement then that's good too? Do you think that Allah created men and women in such a way that their bodies and brains are in line with the system that He laid out for us? Please answer these questions I'd like to know your thoughts on these points.
  7. I've never been good at planning ahead but I was inspired by notme planning all her dinners for the whole month and tried it for October. Boy has it changed my life! Thank you. It has made shopping and cooking so much easier and was not as intimidating as I imagined. Tonight on the menu was salmon, rice, and mixed veggies. But today was a crazy day and we were out so we ate at Moe's Southwest grill which is our go to place and I had my usual which is the loaded nachos. Was divine as always.
  8. This was such a sweet thread. I didn't know Reza and baradar Jackson were such close friends, if so, @Reza should tell us what happened to baradar Jackson. Unfortunately I don't know anyone on the forum well enough to dedicate a post to them. But I do secretly love Shia farm girl. We have never spoken but it's okay, I prefer to admire people from a distance.
  9. What are your thoughts on the New Zealand Prime minister Jacinda Ardern running the country while her husband is a stay at home dad to their infant baby? Is this the direction that things should go?
  10. Well... Bigger things like purifying our souls, but not bigger things like working and just for the heck of it. Working in and of itself for a woman is not honorable (nor dishonorable). However there is a Hadith, I don't know how to find it, but it says that the first thing a woman will be asked about when she dies is how happy her husband was with her. Not how advanced she got in her career. While a woman is single and has nothing to better to do, I agree with you she should use her time wisely to study, work, travel, or whatever will fulfill her. It's great to help each other and that's what Imam Ali (عليه السلام) demonstrated. However in all systems, it is more efficient to have division of labor, a domain that each specializes in. That produces the best results for the whole family.
  11. Thanks, sometimes it is difficult to take this kind of advice with humility. But making a home and taking care of the family is an honorable thing. Someone has to make the house into a home with love and devotion. The home is the building block of the society so it should be more than just a bed and breakfast to lay ones head and eat a meal. If she can find a good man, it is a good idea. Being provided for can help ease her mind and get herself on her feet. However she has to be very careful not to marry an abusive man again.
  12. There is a good series by sheikh Jaffer H Jaffer about pardoning. It is very nice if you want to give it a listen, just type it into YouTube. The main gist though I think is to forgive but don't forget.
  13. No one told me how much being beaten up motherhood entails. Scratching, biting, punching, slapping, hair pulling, earring pulling, nose and lip grabbing, eye gouging, kicking... All day errday.
  14. Arbaeen Walk is a 360° audiovisual experience about the largest peaceful gathering in the world. Requirements: YouTube app Headphones or earbuds Use your hand to swipe around the 360 environments
  15. Poetry is about expressing your emotion through words, which you have done for yourself. Thanks for sharing. Ignore the haters.
  16. Without a contract you are always on unstable ground. One small argument and the partner could just walk out. Without a contract, you are always available to others. Man or woman, affairs are fine because you are not bound by anything. Women are hardwired to want security. Without a contract there would be disorder in society.
  17. Article sounds desperate. Would be interesting to know more about Rusuls background, why she was alone and not able to go to school in the first place.
  18. Congratulations and May Allah continue to guide us and keep us on the straight path. Salawat Have any ideas about how to spread Shia Islam to those countries you mentioned?
  19. You're right that a "test" is not given to a child. What I meant was unfavorable circumstances such as a child being born into an abusive household. It is out of their control and sad and unfair, yet it still happens. We are all born with some cards stacked against us but all children must grow up (if they die first then they die sinless) and thats when the 'test' part kicks in, it is about how we deal with the hand we were given in life and still manage to be good people and worship Allah. Whether that hand includes an abusive childhood, genetic disorder, poverty, etc. Each of us is given a unique capacity based on our circumstances and abilities to reach our max spiritual level, and the goal is to get as close to that as we can in our lives despite what we have going against us. Oh good May Allah make things clear for you. Okay, watch all the other videos on the channel too, it's one of the best channels on YouTube in my opinion
  20. Physical disability is one kind of circumstantial test a person is born with, why are you singling that out as being unfair? There are all kinds of tests in this world. Having a disorder is a hard test for that person, but at the same time maybe they know no other life and are satisfied with being themself. If they do have more mental capability, they still have to make decisions within that capability to do good or bad, despite their circumstances, and will be judged accordingly. Allah knows what that person endures and is All-Merciful in his judgement. I really like this channel. One thing that I find interesting is that for the most part, the people with the seemingly most challenging disorders are the most grateful to Allah and the most at peace with themselves. Watch this girl and see that her attitude and outlook on life is her choice, and she chooses to love herself.
  21. Welcome, there is a center in Durham (IABAT) but I know that is far from Wilmington, about 2 hours.
  22. In regards to finding a spouse: Imam Ali (‘a) said: Do not look at much they pray and fast, how many times they have been to Hajj and their acts of kindness and their murmuring during night (Salat al-Layl)! Look at their truthfulness and trustworthiness. Imam al-SÁdiq (‘a): ‘Do not be fooled by how much they pray and fast. Verily a man may become so accustomed to Salat and fasting that if he abandons them, he feels strange. Rather you should test them in regard to truthfulness and returning trusts.
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