ireallywannaknow

The question is bizarre ie would x religion marry y ethnicity? Those are two totally different and unrelated categories.

Is it possible that you are actually closer to God now than you were when you were doing all of the more typical amaal? I understand what you mean by not feeling that spiritual connection, I struggle with that too with my chaotic situation at the moment. But from what I understand, the status of someone like you who is in the trenches caring for others is very possibly way higher than someone who is able to worship all day and night in the more typical sense.

That's correct. As long as the marriage was consummated the woman's daughter will be mahram to the woman's husband.

@Abu Hadi Would u like people to share the link around?

I have seen several who seem to have this outlook. But I can't seem to figure out *why*. Is there something I'm missing, because to me it seems pretty clear that Islam is there to guide in every aspect of lives, particularly contemporary politics. And as a scholar it's an important role to help guide the laymen through interpreting what's going on in the world through an Islamic lens.

Hard to answer as a woman because women are a little less visual than men. Other things can sort of compensate such as great character, intelligence, humor etc. But having said that, even for a woman, if there is an unexplainable 'ick' factor, there's no getting over that. For men though I think those aforementioned qualities are are on par with attraction and cannot be replaced by attraction. The situation sounds very unfortunate and I do think that sometimes attractiveness is not emphasized enough in marriage conversations. It's definitely an important part of marriage. Not really sure what OP should do. There was a video I saw once where the guy was talking about how when he traveled to an extremely conservative country where all the women were covered in niqab+abaya, and he was there for awhile so basically didn't see any women for a period of time, his level of attraction to women in general skyrocketed. When he got back home to his western country, every little thing about any woman was extremely arousing. I'm not accusing you OP but maybe by lowering your gaze more and being more careful about how much women you see on a daily basis can have a positive impact on your attraction to your wife? Of course I know this is extremely hard as women walk around practically naked these days, especially with the warmer weather, and it's almost impossible for a man to live his life normally while also not interacting with women who are dressed to allure men :/ Edit: also I'd like to add that I am more than likely not really my husband's "type." He's never said that directly but I can guess what his type is based on little comments and it's different than me. Despite that, we have a good marriage and have been married 10 years. He is very careful about his gaze and looking at women. That could have to do with it. And one last thing, you could have a talk with your wife about anything she can do to increase her appeal. Sometimes Muslim women are very shy and it takes time and coaxing to bring out their non shy side that is supposed to be with the husband. Maybe certain outfits, behavior, makeup, or hairstyles can have a positive effect... worth looking into.

We are in a time where the signs are so so clear. Right vs wrong. Bad vs good. Follow the signs you see. If something smells fishy, it's probably a fish... Or something wise like that... I don't know, but you know what I mean.

Wa alaikum Salam. It sounds like youre saying your family used to be more normal and function better in society but they are changing for the worse, is that the case?

@Ashvazdanghe thank you brother!!

Thank you! We believe that scaled fish and shrimp are fine to eat. However, my worry is that in a restaurant those fish options are cross contaminated with non zabihah chicken, for example they are fried in the same vessel possibly. I really wish my city had more vegetarian restaurant options, that's something they are really lacking :/

Is it okay to eat fish from otherwise non halal restaurants? I don't know what goes on in the kitchen so I don't know what kind of cross contamination may happen but I imagine there would def be some... Are we supposed to avoid these types of places, ask/investigate into the matter until we have yaqeen that everything is halal, or is it a don't ask don't tell situation? To add more details I live in a smallish city with no halal restaurants, we have to travel about an hour to get to halal restaurants and meat stores. Sometimes it is nice to have other options besides cooking at home especially since I have newborn twins and well, some nights dinner just doesn't get made lol.

Sounds like it's talking about if the sweat actually drips, so your whole body would not be najis because your underwear is holding the sweat in one area.

Salam, welcome. For exploring different topics I would recommend al-islam.org and wikishia.net

What is your belief system now then?

Wa alaikum salam, Yes there is a community there. Sheikh Muhammad Hussain of Islamic Pulse, he used to do a Quran tafseer series, is from that community.