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wonderer

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    wonderer got a reaction from Hameedeh in Degrees of Fasting   
    thnx! good post!
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    wonderer got a reaction from tafsir786 in Shia Baby Girl Names   
    ESRA!!! >>>>>BEST SHIA NAME EVER!! lool :P
    Kawthar
    Batool
    Maryam
    Aya or Ayat
    Eman
    Amal
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    wonderer got a reaction from Mansur Bakhtiari in A Green Islam   
    in color therapy the color you like or use a lot in your life is a reflection of your personality.. each color has special characteristic
    green refers to a balanced, harmonious, peaceful, sensitive, stable, generous, loyal, self-accepting, forgiving, compassionate personality :)
    maybe that's why Imam Ali liked it! it fits a lot with his personality :)
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    wonderer got a reaction from I AM ALI in Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]   
    LOL! sunday school is IMPORTANT! esp if am teaching :D
    I'm thinking if I should go 2 sleep or waste more time on SC and FB :P
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    wonderer got a reaction from Hameedeh in Allah's Creation   
    cool pix.. thnx 4 sharing  
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    wonderer got a reaction from Hameedeh in Oatmeal!   
    I just use the quaker oats and follow instructions on the box, and it's good
    then add some bananas, honey and cinnamon >> power breakfast :D
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    wonderer got a reaction from AhlulBayt_313 in Oatmeal!   
    I just use the quaker oats and follow instructions on the box, and it's good
    then add some bananas, honey and cinnamon >> power breakfast :D
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    wonderer got a reaction from Hameedeh in How To Become A Muslim   
    that looks great! Thank you :) 
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    wonderer got a reaction from notme in Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]   
    wow this thread is still going! :D 
     
    thought: I need to leave the house at some point today 
     
    another thought: I need to stop being angry at some people meh life 
     
    last thought: my tea got cold and I think I need to drink it at some point too
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    wonderer got a reaction from dragonfly in Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]   
    wow this thread is still going! :D 
     
    thought: I need to leave the house at some point today 
     
    another thought: I need to stop being angry at some people meh life 
     
    last thought: my tea got cold and I think I need to drink it at some point too
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    wonderer got a reaction from reisiger in Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]   
    wow this thread is still going! :D 
     
    thought: I need to leave the house at some point today 
     
    another thought: I need to stop being angry at some people meh life 
     
    last thought: my tea got cold and I think I need to drink it at some point too
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    wonderer reacted to Abu Hadi in Mutah On Social Media   
    I'm 99% sure this is all fake, anti -Shia propaganda. So wouldn't worry about it   
    She says she takes 300 BP for dowry, first of all that is laughable. That's about $200 USD per month
    (sorry about $125 since she is supposedly waiting 3 months, longer than the iddah for mutah, so pious, MashahAllah)
    for the 'arrangement'. For a prostitute, they would laugh at that, because most make more than that in one night. 
    They would not take that money and then wait. Even if they did, what guy in his right mind would 'take her word for it'
     
    Second, iddah for mutah is two months (two monthly cycles), not three. 
    You would think someone who does this sort of arrangement for a living (haha) would know that. Loooool
     
    Another amoung many instances of fabrications by anti-shia propagandists. 
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    wonderer reacted to Hameedeh in Should I Say Yes And Move?   
    Hawza students are not studying 365 days a year. They take breaks and travel to other cities, go to ziyarat. If you marry him and move to Qum, you won't be cut off from your family. You will have a phone and email. Your husband will also want to go back to Europe for a visit, just like you would want to do.
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    wonderer reacted to Zahra1 in How To Become A Muslim   
    Alsalam alikum,
     
    Here is a good shia site in Italian:
     
    http://islamshia.org/
     
    They are still translating more articles and books into Italian, as I know.
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    wonderer reacted to ~ThePond~ in Saudi Arabians   
    Salaam Alaikum. My husband is from Qatif, SA (one of the cities with the largest Shiite populations).  His family is very open-minded regarding marriage, and one of his brothers married a woman from Iran.  Their only concern is whether or not their child will be close to them, and see this as transcending race/ethnicity.  I am a Shia convert from America, and his family has no problem with our marriage, and only hopes we can one day come back to SA or Bahrain, Inshallah :)
     
    He has many cousins married to Americans and Europeans, most of them coverts, while they are not all Shiite converts, however.  It really depends upon the family, but some Saudi Shiite families may be very much expecting a Shiite partner for their child, and do to the situation in SA for them, they may see this is as highly important; it is very difficult to be Shiite in SA, and they have a good sense of pride in their faith, which may cause them to be a little choosy when it comes to their child's partner.  However, in other regions along the East coast of SA, Shiites and Sunnis interact together, and have friendly relations. It really depends upon the family, but I see sometimes we forget we are all Muslim and one Ummah, so we should not discriminate as long as one partner is not pushing their beliefs upon the spouse.
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    wonderer got a reaction from Hameedeh in How To Become A Muslim   
    That looks handy! Thank you sister :) 
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    wonderer got a reaction from Khalilallah in How To Become A Muslim   
    That looks handy! Thank you sister :) 
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    wonderer reacted to Hameedeh in How To Become A Muslim   
    There is a book called Seeking the Straight Path: Reflections of a New Muslim that gives one woman's story about becoming Muslim.The last chapter, Appendix: If You Decide To Convert, is short if the person knows about Islam already.
    http://www.al-islam.org/seeking-straight-path-reflections-new-muslim-diana-beatty

     
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    wonderer reacted to Ali Musaaa :) in Alcohol & Marriage   
    (salam)
     
    Does he know alcohol is prohibited? This could be something his wife could discuss with him (though I have a feeling she already has?).
     
    This is one reason why Muslim girls should not get involved with converts until several years after theyre conversion. I can't really say I'm suprised at the situation. All that can be done now is to work on the brother slowly. We shouldn't treat him like a criminal either, but he needs to know this is something not permitted (don't tell him it invalids his prayers and fasting for 40 days - that'd could freak him out and make him apostatise).
     
    Many people try to argue that a single beer every now and then won't hurt anyone. While this may be true for the most part, Islam doesnt give anyone special privileges. It's a potential danger to society as a whole with spiritual and deadly consequences. The same beer he drinks casually might not hurt anyone around him, but Tom, Richard, or Harry who gets in his car after a long night out, goes driving and hits a car with a family sitting in there, leaving them dead.
     
    It's a danger, so no one is allowed. As I said, Islam doesnt give people specicial privilages because you think you're fine by drinking it. 
     
    Also, the social aspect of it as well needs to be addressed as well. As the Prophet eloquently put it: A man is on the religion of his friends. Our environment has a significant impact on our own character and behaviour. Drinking socially means he does it with his friends, which he needs to stop seeing in that environment if he is ever going to stop. 
     
    Firstly speak to him about him reducing his intake, with the intention of one day giving it up. Everyone is different and some people can drop a habit like a hot pan, others it takes a while.
     
    Even some of the Prophet's Freinds drank alcohol after the final prohibition. We all make mistakes, sometimes it just takes time to overturn them. And everyone can do this with reliance and trust in Allah.
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    wonderer reacted to Ruq in Alcohol & Marriage   
    Salam Wond, great to see you back!
     
    Im wondering why he is so attached to drinking alcohol. If he's self-medicating then there is a larger issue that needs to be addressed. She cant force him to address that of course, so then it would come down to what she feels she can live with. If he's not even expressing the desire to stop drinking then its not wise to commit to a marriage on the condition that he stop at some point..
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    wonderer reacted to Bakir in Alcohol & Marriage   
    Well I guess it depends on many factors. It is up to the woman to evaluate their condition and see if it is worth the efforts. Each one is free to do whatever he/she wants. If the guy isn't going to keep his compromise, it is up to him. She's free to look after herself and leave him if she doesn't think it is worth the effort to keep their marriage. She must understand he may not change, and that he is free to do whatever he wants.
     
    Recently a friend of mine had to divorce because of that same reason, and they are not muslims. Some people (like myself, even before accepting Islam) can't even relate with people that drinks, let alone being married to them.
     
    But it is again important to be just and respect individual freedom. If the person you are married to isn't up to do a sacrifice for love, then that person may not worth it. I know some people don't think too much about love in a marriage, but for me, life is love, love and love. And if something as beautiful as marriage isn't about love and sacrifice, then it is pretty saddening. But nobody can judge that person for making use of his freedom. It is up to the girl after all. I'd personally have a talk with the man, and if change is not possible, then divorce may be an option if she can't live with that nor have the patience to bear all the process until he gives up alcohol.
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    wonderer reacted to alina92 in Alcohol & Marriage   
    I think it would be wise to consider why the gentleman converted in the first place. If he only converted in order to marry the woman, it is possible that he was not serious about the conversion and only did so to placate the woman and/or her family. If this is the case, I think the couple may face problems in the future. If he converted prior to meeting her and it was relatively recently, it is possible that he is still adjusting. He may need time and support to stop drinking, as Ali Musaa stated above, and the wife should consider whether or not she has the ability and patience to help him adjust.
     
    I'm sorry but this statement bothers me:
     
     
    "What is a "traditional Moslem?" If one does not care about one's religion, does not practice it, and knowingly and without regard engages in behaviours that are clearly prohibited in Islam, one can hardly be called Muslim. Islam is not some hereditary trait or "tradition" which is automatically passed down from parents to children and requires no further effort. 
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    wonderer reacted to Ali Musaaa :) in Alcohol & Marriage   
    Please keep in mind the Prophet brought Islam over a period of 23 years. Slowly he changed the society and culture. Not bang, over night, everything must be followed or you roast in hell.
     
    Sometimes its very difficult for converts to give up certain practices. Give them time, good companion, and assist them. They are learning and its a process. Don't be hard on him.
     
    As a convert myself, and having seen my own friends who go through this process of conversion as well, I personally think it's better refrain from marriage until they have at least had 2-3 years of living as a Muslim. They need time to think and develop, and adapt to a new cultural, religious worldview and practices, and these things take time and patience. They are forming a new identity and have most likely a lot going on in their day to day life as well.
     
    If the brother has recently converted, I would suggest speaking with him. Try and discuss with him our position on alcohol and slowly he may come to give it up, insha'Allah.
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    wonderer got a reaction from Hameedeh in Tea   
    heheheh, for the morning I have darjeeling 2nd flush from good and proper 
    During the day, it will be green tea
    and for evening, white tea with peach or just mint :)
    nom nom mashallah lol
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    wonderer got a reaction from azy in Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]   
    ^ LOL right :P
    I'm thinking of the things I'll teach in the sunday school next semester.. yah I know it's 2 far away.. but can't stop planning for lessons lol
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