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  1. I had the honor of meeting Sayyed Mehdi Modarressi yesterday and I was so taken back by the personality of this man....his lectures are outstanding and his vast knowledge of Islam just gushes out through every word he speaks. I know there are a lot of great speakers out there but this Sayyed really is on a whole other level than the other mainstream speakers. The man is so soft-hearted he takes the time to meet everyone and address everyone's questions and concerns...I can only imagine what the Prophet (sawa) or the Imams (as) were like. Just looking at the man makes you feel more religious.
  2. You guys are right I want to apologize for making that statement...I said it out of anger and not reasoning....whoever was offended please forgive me.
  3. Everyone needs to relax....I didn't start this thread for people to take anything personally or get offended...everyone has their taste and no one has the right to say that one person's views are inferior to another...I simply stated that from my experience in the West one needs to be careful what kind of girls they are dealing with.....
  4. Well brother i think you misunderstood me....not all girls are after money...but many are and so we must be careful!!!

  5. love ur post..thanks so much..all girls r after money nothing else..oh we r poor..!

  6. Yeah the best wives are either the converts or ones who have lived in hardship abroad in my opinion...as for the ones who grew up in the West your looking at all sorts of complications...over 90% want dunya but there is that other rare 10% who actually want to get married for the sake of reviving the sunnah...but yeah I laugh when these girls use the excuse that they want to finish school first...they would rather go through all the temptations of college life alone rather than have a husband while going to school...it really is absurd in my opinion.
  7. Another question from a guy....regarding the age group of 18-22ish what are girls looking for in terms of marriage? Are they more worried about finding that handsome devil to show off to their friends? Are they looking for that rich dude to take care of them and buy them whatever they want? It seems like nowadays all they care about is finishing school....a lot of girls keep using that excuse that they are too busy with school and future goals to get married early...don't they realize that nobody will want them after like age 25. So whats the story here ladies let me know...and don't tell me it depends how religious the girl is...my brother married a quiet 18 year old from back home and when he brought here to the US within months she did a complete 360 and this is a girl which we all were amazed by her humility and religion....
  8. http://chattahbox.com/us/2010/12/20/mondays-lunar-eclipse-set-to-thrill-countless-fans/
  9. I can't believe what Iam hearing...the Qur'an is very clear that muslims should not adopt the ways of the monks: "[57:27] Then, in their wake, We followed them up with (others of) Our apostles: We sent after them Jesus the son of Mary, and bestowed on him the Gospel; and We ordained in the hearts of those who followed him Compassion and Mercy. But the Monasticism which they invented for themselves, We did not prescribe for them: (We commanded) only the seeking for the Good Pleasure of Allah. but that they did not foster as they should have done. Yet We bestowed, on those among them who believed, their (due) reward, but many of them are rebellious transgressors. " Don't you see what is happening around the world with the numerous priests who are sexually abusing children as a result of sexual repression.....no matter what you do you will never kill sexual desires and you are not supposed to as it is a blessing from Allah.
  10. dude did you not read anything i wrote right above you...seriously i think people these days have forgotten how to read.
  11. I dont need help finding a sister...mashallah there are plenty of them at the masjid....for example the other day as i was walking out of the masjid one caught my eye....i cant just go grab the shiekh and tell him to come and talk to this girl for me....these split second moments need an approach
  12. All the brothers thus far had some good advice HOWEVER this advice will only help temporarily it is not meant for a long term fix because eventually the body will react...trust me I have tried it and had good results suppressing my desires for a while but eventually all that sexual suppression will have a negative toll on the body and even the slightest glance at an attractive women will bring all your hard work to a crumble...trust me guys when I tell you there is no fix for this solution but to be with the opposite sex (mutah or permanent marriage) there is no other way....don't get me wrong fasting helps but it is not meant as a long term thing...it is just something to get you by until you find someone...any guy that tells you he keeps his glance down all day everyday and never gets tempted is a liar.....in the same way you can't fight hunger for a certain period of time, you also cannot fight your sexual needs for a certain period of time and will eventually need an outlet....if that outlet is not given, then the majority of the time it will lead to haram behaviour and I think all of you know which act iam speaking about.
  13. Sister I came here to ask a legitimate question and one that will have a big impact in my life...why do you reply with such negativity?
  14. Salams sisters, I'll get right to the point...Iam at the point in my life (early twenties) where I would like to get married...Al-hamdulillah I am financially well off and do not have any doubts that I would struggle to raise a family. I see many potential girls at the masjid but I never get the courage to approach any of them...everytime i walk out of the masjid I kick myself at not taking the approach because there are a lot of great girls...I don't have any close female readily available to bring to the masjid to help me out so it has to be all on me...Iam starting to just give up because I feel will like i will never get the courage to approach any girl...ive been through some tough obstacles in my life but it seems like approaching a stranger tops the list for me...what am I supposed to do?
  15. wow i didnt know my post would have made this much controversey....lol....i really just wanted some advice on how to express the mutah contract in a clear way.....I am not out to cheat any girls...Iam just trying to use my only option of marriage right now under my circumstances....I wish I didnt have to do mutah to be honest but you just can't fight your innate need for the opposite sex...it is how Allah created human beings...Iam just trying to fulfill my God-given right...if you want to call me a pervert go ahead...
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