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This does not causal to whether father loves the kids or not.Have you ever seen how children become the only causality of divorce. Either go without one parent or end up guests at both of their places.I said more then I should have.

I would recommend you listen to words of your parents carefully.When we are usually all we can think of is future that is usually too idealistic and your parents have seen this themselves.I would not outright throw their suggestions just because they told you to do it. Try to convince them and let them do the same with rational arguments then see with a clear mind what is the right path for you.

Don't you think pulling the gun is worth it.I seen people put up with more.No one will love your children like their father.Please do keep that in mind before you take any decision.

This is the book I believe will serve you best.Part of 7 volume set that has yet to be translated completely. https://www.al-islam.org/imam-ali-ass-book-government-muhammadi-reyshahri

If you go to Majilis do a dua preferably when you are crying over Imam Hussain (عليه السلام). inshallah Allah will ease your burdens.

Hussain (عليه السلام). has a cure for all maladies.Just go with open mind and heart.Talk your heart out to the Imam Inshallah you will soon find yourself in a better place spiritually.

What I can't get why do people put them in position where they are at mercy of lunatics.I speak from my own experience despite being a male child I was suppose to report to what friends I hanged out and my dad took the time to ask me what we did. I think what saved me from drugs and cigarettes was probably that I was encouraged to pursue outdoor activities with my family in my case I bonded with dad over love of outdoors and hunting.I pray that I am able to bond with kids over something meaningful.

My take on this is the following.Imaginig how would you feel for the loss of your kin and then think how the Imam (عليه السلام). felt that works for me all the time.

I would tell what Imam Ali (عليه السلام). told his companions after battle of Jamal when one of then asked I wish my brother was here with us.Imam Ali (عليه السلام). says in sermon 12 that did your brother hold me as his friend and the reply was affirmative so Imam Ali said then he is with us not only that people who yet to be born are also with us. If you love the Ahylul Bayat (عليه السلام). you are with them and they don't forget the ones who claim to love them.

This too shall pass.Everyone feels down the dump some times.Just hang in there .

A momin so kind hearted that people tend to take him for a fool.I repeat that when I get taken advantage of.Though you should not fall for same person twice but my dear friend if you choose to follow the Ahylul Bayat (عليه السلام). you can not simply ignore someone who has hurt you in the past.You are likely to help them because the Ahylul Bayat have done so with their worst enemies.Did you know Marwan left his family with Imam Zain ul Abideen (عليه السلام). when people of Medina rose up in revolt against Banu Ummaya.After what he done stopped Imam Hasan (عليه السلام). burial and want the governor to kill Imam Hussain (عليه السلام). Just pray that Allah accepts your good deeds.

Don't worry.I am guy I went through this phase as well.I can tell you what helped 1.Keep praying 2.Do not stop looking 3.May be if you could consider expanding the applicant pool people whom you have not included 4.Do not think Allah mercy does not encompass you 5.Ziarat Ashura for 40 days

I find it hard to believe, considering that even in Pakistan you can hardly go on doing the stuff you mentioned without repurcations, how do women live with that there in West. As others have mentioned we have other standards than Allah told us.Unfortunately that along with the temptations we have around us we are left with not worthy family system.I know of people who married their daughter's in higher social circles and the poor thing was divorced within a year with a child.

I know that Imam Bargha in Houston was offering interest free loans.I was informed who used to go there.

Cutting off links with your family will hold back your duas.Please do the bare minimum otherwise I fear your prayers will not be answered.Those who cut off relations are disliked by the Allah and Ahylul Bayat (عليه السلام). hopefully more knowledgeable would be able to comment what is the bare minimum in Sulh e Rahm.