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  1. Ahsant. Very well said. Essentially, that is as on point and as close to the bare truth as anyone will ever get with you, brother Khalilallah. Also, I feel that women need to take heed as well. There is plenty of staying halal that is just as much our responsibility, and each one of those factors as mentioned by brother dragonxx apply to us in much similar a fashion.
  2. Or even Sayed Ammar — actually, I have seen almost every age bracket of women cry when he gets up on stage. Or for that matter, Khalil Jaffer, Sayed Mahdi Modaressi, Sheikh al-Hilli, Hasanain Rajabali, etc. A most desirable trait is a combination of their love for God, their understanding of His essence, and most importantly, the conviction with which they stand by and are able to speak to these beliefs. I believe this applies just as well to men who are not scholars or speakers, and of varying physical appearances. Something else I'd like to add to this is with respect to the evolu
  3. great posts sahar!! keep it up

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      JazakAllah khair, my dear sister. It is all His grace, alhamdolillah. I only hope I can do justice to whatever truth I have come to learn so far.

  4. Thank you for the kind words of advice. May Allah keep you in His protection, brother Wasil. And in His grace, may you continue to find ease and strength. Sending your way many du'as. All you need to remember is that Allah's love and mercy far far surpasses anything His creation could ever be capable of, as is evident in this passage from Hadith al-Qudsi, 'I am as My servant thinks of Me: I am with him; if he mentions Me silently, I shall mention him likewise, and if He mentions My Name before a crowd of people, I shall mention him before a better crowd; if he gets closer to Me as much as a
  5. Ahsant. Very well said, brother. As well, I'd like to just add to the point in bold — both men and women really need to be honest with themselves with respect to physical desire, when getting to know a prospective spouse. No amount of piety can undo the harm that is a result of the lack of sexual satisfaction in marriage. There is absolutely no justifiable reason to hold oneself to any (spiritual) standard, by silencing basic needs that quite simply beg to differ. You are doing no one any favours by being polite now, and making the significant other suffer later. If you are old enough to
  6. SubhanAllah, may Allah bless you for sharing. Interesting (although, not surprising) how just looking at the pictures of our blessed leaders can bring one so much comfort.
  7. Alaykum salaam. I came across this explanation of the ruku' by Imam Ja'far al-Sadiq in Lantern of the Path (s. 11, p. 52), and thought I'd share. The bondsman (abid) of Allah does not truly bow (in ruku') but that Allah adorns him with the light of His radiance, shades him in the shade of His greatness and clothes him in the garment of His purity. Bowing is first and prostration (sujud) is second: there is courtesy in bowing, and in prostration nearness to Allah. Whoever is not good in the courtesy is not fit for nearness; therefore bow with the ruku' of one who is humble to Allah, abased
  8. Ahsant. Beautiful beautiful advice. I'd like to add to this something, bits of which I wrote to a sister in distress in another thread here. Grown men are very different from boys that are just much older, in that they have a clear understanding of what their expectation is from a life partner, what they wish to accomplish in the long term, and of course, what there is absolutely no room for in their prospective family. Their approach to everything comes from a concrete life plan — whether that plan is for this life, the Hereafter, or for both. I feel that women need to consciously det
  9. Ahsant, brothers. Very well said. As well, I'd like to add to this the following saying by Imam Ja'far al-Sadiq as quoted in al-Kafi, 'A believer is a brother to another believer like one body in that when one part of it suffers, the pain is found all over the body, for their souls are from the Spirit of Allah. The soul of a believer has a stronger bond to the Spirit of Allah than the bond of the sun rays to the sun.'
  10. Yes, I have heard there is one located in Windsor. Of course, my sister. I will be happy to hear from you, inshaAllah.
  11. Peace be with you, dear sister Anisa. I think it is highly commendable that you have acknowledged the presence of anorexia, and are seeking treatment. Really, that one refuses to be in denial of whatever struggle may be holding them captive is a most important step towards healing. Perhaps looking into its beginning in your life might shed some more light on how to move forward. Healing is a process. Some days are good, others extremely bad. I don't think there is a formula. At least not one that I have come to a conclusion on. I have been struggling with body image issues most of my adoles
  12. No, brother. My query was directed at 'notme,' and was concerning a few posts of the same nature, the last of which was the one I quoted originally. Alaykum salaam, brother. Yes, that is exactly the kind of person I meant with respect to being self-centered. I agree, but I also think that there are many societies, which encourage such injustice. I am confident that this doesn't apply to the predominant culture among adult males in our communities in North America, but there is still a huge immigrant population that would address this issue with genuine nonchalance. This also brings
  13. Salam alaykum, I am looking for information on the Hawza (for sisters) in Mashhad, and would really appreciate any direction, contact, or blog that can be provided in this regard. JazakAllah khair.
  14. Salam alaykum, I am genuinely curious about this very ideal picture that you have been painting of self-respecting, adult men. Have you never come across a self-centered, self-obsessed and indifferent man who could care very little about the comforts of his wife (and any children)? Who could buy himself two, even three winter and fall coats, yet cringe at the wife wishing for one herself that was at least warm enough? Who could invest plenty in hobby equipment, but play the savings card when it was the wife who needed something that would take a while in yielding return? Who could sleep aftern
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