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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from Ali.Isa in Soul in body   
    Hmm, that's quite an interesting theory. I wonder how the spirit could be contained to a living body if it is outside and not within. Perhaps some sort of force that attracts the two and keeps them together until the interaction is broken upon death? 

    I've also often wondered about the soul and the body. It would be wonderful if there were any ahadith that specifically addressed this. Unfortunately though, I've never come across any but if anyone else has - please do share. 
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from ShiaMan14 in How should believers live in the West?   
    Sounds like all western universities to me.. 
    Muslim universities only exist in Muslim countries and, most often than not, the degrees you obtain from them are not accepted in western countries (where most of us reside). So it would be pointless to attend a Muslim university. 
    These exist? Completely agree your entire post shiaman! I too don't understand why we expect the west to alter their culture to accomodate ours. 
    Exactly! And contrary to popular belief, people actually respect your beliefs when you set them out clearly. Most people genuinely couldn't care less about whether or not you prayed 5 times a day and didnt drink alcohol. I don't see why we can't mix with non-muslims and still avoid haram - so long as you don't have a weak personality and do not easily assimilate to social norms, you should be fine. 
     
    In response to the OP, I think the only way to really deal with the situation at hand (or future situations as it seems this one may have already passed) is to explain why we refuse to mix at swimming centres and other similar conventions. If it's laid out clearly and in such a way where you show that you in no way expect others to abide by your own inhibitions, then people should generally be receptive. I mean, if they're going to throw a tantrum and hate you for deciding to act on your beliefs (and risk being labelled as culturally regressive) then just ignore them and move on with life. Not like there's much else that can be done. 
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from Brained in Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]   
    Why not both? Lol, can't sleep early but need to be up early. So I'm pretty much just a zombie. Also, exams suck, I have one on tuesday  
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from saeid tavakoli in Soul in body   
    ^ Both very interesting theories - ones I've never come across actually. The body being within the soul is particularly fascinating. Please do send the hadiths - even if they are in Arabic!  
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from Golden-crowned in Issues on blindly following maraji' and khums   
    Unfortunately, many men do not think of it as an insult. It's as if it's perfectly normal to go around and claim that women are mentally less superior because they're "emotionally" superior - and even then, we're portrayed as only having an abundance of what are generally considered weak emotions, whereas men of course have "stronger" emotions. 
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    yafatimaalzahra reacted to Golden-crowned in Issues on blindly following maraji' and khums   
    only weak men insult women like this. they do it when they are not able to prove their words, that is why this guy brought such an irrelevant matter to discussion. 
     
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from Golden-crowned in Issues on blindly following maraji' and khums   
    I'm not sure if you're purposefully trying to be insulting or if it's just difficult for you to articulate what you mean. I'm going to assume it's the latter. Regardless, the way you repeatedly keep mentioning womens "greater emotions" is demeaning. For example when you say "I don't think it appropriate to discuss with you because you seem much emotionally driven girlbecause emotions brings haste and haste brings destruction" you are suggesting that I, a person you have never met before or spoken to, am an emotionally driven girl. I take this to mean that you assume all girls are inherently emotionally driven (which you've just proven with your last response). You are literally grouping half of the worlds population, if not more, into one really narrow stereotype. And to top it all off you suggest that because of my being "emotionally driven" I am incapable of understanding various things - first with apparently being too emotionally driven to understand why maraji' lie (I never said they lied, but ok) and then by claiming that I, as a woman, don't understand how "women's love contains more emotions than men". I don't refute that last claim either because I only have my perspective as a woman to judge from and unless you've been both a woman and a man I don't really think you have much say in that either - unless there's some sort of unbiased study that supports this theory. 
    All that being said, I have maintained an unwavering expression and steady heart rate throughout the entirety of our discussion and have literally been emotionally idle throughout the whole time. So, your claim of me being emotionally driven because of my gender, is simply ignorant and wrong. Also, this long response to you about your distinct choice of words in regards to women was not constructed because I am mad or annoyed, quite the contrary - I have yet to feel any distinct "emotion" to suggest to me that I am more than simply content. But, I like to be pretty technical when I am trying to discuss something and I would prefer others do the same in order to avoid any confusion. 
    Alas, since the main topic of our discussion is maraji' and not womens rights, I think we should let it go and move on with the discussion. 
     
    What exactly gives you the impression that I am ok with abusing or name-calling the Sunni leaders? I simply used my disagreement with the maraji' to PRAISE the enemies of Ahlulbayt(as) as an example - I did not state that I would prefer they cursed them - to show that I can disagree with the actions of a marji' and still consider their rulings because the personal aqeedah of a marji' should not affect their ability to issues fatwas. This whole thing about curing the enemies of Ahlulbayt(as) is completely off topic and should probably be discussed elsewhere. 
     
    What? What government are you thinking of that actually manages zakat? 
     
    Oh, the irony. And I assume you are with the maraji' and you know all about how they're doing what they can to remove poverty?
     
    Why do you keep claiming that helping the poor is the government's duty? Who's to say that it is only the governments duty? The money that is paid as khums to the maraji' is supposed to be spent on various things, as Aftahb kindly pointed out with the ruling of Syed Sistani. See below: 
    "Khums, in brief, means paying one-fifth of the surplus of one's income after taking away the expenses of the person and his dependants. It consists of two equal parts: one being the share of the Imam, meaning that this part goes for constructing masjids, Islamic seminaries, Islamic schools, libraries, hospitals or clinics, orphanages, printing of the Noble Quran, hadith books, Islamic books and lectures, and others things which will benefit, defend, or propagate Islam. The second part is the portion for the poor sayyids (descendants of the Prophet), since they are banned from receiving zakat (charity)."
    Helping those in need is actually one thing that we can, or should, expect our khums money to be spent on. I don't see any of that happening in todays world, even though there's a dire need for such things in the middle east. If I am to pay my khums directly to a marji', I have a right to expect that money to go towards benefiting, defending or propagating Islam. If I do not see that happening and hence do not trust the maraji' to manage khums accordingly, then I will not pay them directly because I don't have to. 
    Also, as someone who lives in the West, I'm pretty sure I have little say in which governments rule third world countries lol. 
     
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from Golden-crowned in Issues on blindly following maraji' and khums   
    So as to stop hijacking the previous thread on which marji' you follow, I've started this one. The following arguments were made: 
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
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    yafatimaalzahra reacted to Servidor in Shiachat Memes! [OFFICIAL THREAD]   
    Even if you know you haven't done anything wrong...
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    yafatimaalzahra reacted to zainabamy in Shiachat Memes! [OFFICIAL THREAD]   
    When another person that says that Muslims are terrorists. 
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    yafatimaalzahra reacted to Chaotic Muslem in Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]   
    why are you puking on me just because I'm dressing differently ?
    rude
     
    This is almost the hipster hijab i was talking about, more or less. Wider pants though. and longer sleeves.

     
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from Godslave in Which Marja Do You Follow?   
    I follow Sheikh Wahid Khorasani. 
    And then what? How much of the millions (if not billions) of dollars that are being sent to maraji' are actually being spent on those who need it? Where exactly is all of that money going? I'd rather go out and pay sadaqa directly to the poor, or those in need, than to send it to an Islamic scholar that likely does not even manage incoming donations directly. Also, money is not the only way to prove your loyalty to someone/something.
    A marji' is "followed" for islamic rulings - he is literally there to research any ambiguous islamic rulings that cannot be determined from the Quran or well-known ahadith and require further research. I can follow a marji' and still choose not to like his aqeeda, or him personally. A marji' is still human (albeit a well-learned human that has spent years researching ahadith) that is capable of making mistakes. People really need to stop putting them on so high a pedestal that they cannot be questioned or doubted. Or, in this case, you need to stop assuming that we have an obligation to pay our marji' just because we decided their opinion was most agreeable.  
    "Real followers do so much in practice. Also there are many other things, which i cannot discuss." 
    Real followers of whom? The Imams or the maraji'?
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from Ali Hamieh in Handshake with many girls-non mahram.Coming Soon   
    ^ If someone has a problem with entering a sauna naked, you gonna ask them why they chose to come to your country too? I wouldn't be surprised if you weren't even ethnically Swedish - most people I've met in Sweden are actually open-minded and respectful of others' beliefs but maybe I just haven't had the rotten luck of meeting someone as tolerant as you . 
    As for the OPs dilemma, I'd say just blatantly - but respectfully - refuse on the day and move on with your life. Yeah, it'll be awkward for a minute or so but people will get over it and you most likely won't have to re-experience the situation with any other na-mahram present because your beliefs would be made known. I've had to turn town hand-shakes quite a lot and have gotten used to it so I usually don't even feel awkward about it anymore.
    To those suggesting to just shake the persons hand as you personally do not believe it necessary to avoid, maybe you should turn it down a notch. Touching a non-mahram is haram. Shaking hands with a non-mahram, for whatever reason, is not an exception to the rule. Go ahead and do whatever you want to do but maybe refrain from encouraging someone, who clearly sees the situation as black and white, to do what is clearly haram.
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from MOHAMMAD MOHD in Handshake with many girls-non mahram.Coming Soon   
    ^ If someone has a problem with entering a sauna naked, you gonna ask them why they chose to come to your country too? I wouldn't be surprised if you weren't even ethnically Swedish - most people I've met in Sweden are actually open-minded and respectful of others' beliefs but maybe I just haven't had the rotten luck of meeting someone as tolerant as you . 
    As for the OPs dilemma, I'd say just blatantly - but respectfully - refuse on the day and move on with your life. Yeah, it'll be awkward for a minute or so but people will get over it and you most likely won't have to re-experience the situation with any other na-mahram present because your beliefs would be made known. I've had to turn town hand-shakes quite a lot and have gotten used to it so I usually don't even feel awkward about it anymore.
    To those suggesting to just shake the persons hand as you personally do not believe it necessary to avoid, maybe you should turn it down a notch. Touching a non-mahram is haram. Shaking hands with a non-mahram, for whatever reason, is not an exception to the rule. Go ahead and do whatever you want to do but maybe refrain from encouraging someone, who clearly sees the situation as black and white, to do what is clearly haram.
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    yafatimaalzahra reacted to Golden-crowned in Which Marja Do You Follow?   
    Good one . 
    +1
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from Golden-crowned in Which Marja Do You Follow?   
    I follow Sheikh Wahid Khorasani. 
    And then what? How much of the millions (if not billions) of dollars that are being sent to maraji' are actually being spent on those who need it? Where exactly is all of that money going? I'd rather go out and pay sadaqa directly to the poor, or those in need, than to send it to an Islamic scholar that likely does not even manage incoming donations directly. Also, money is not the only way to prove your loyalty to someone/something.
    A marji' is "followed" for islamic rulings - he is literally there to research any ambiguous islamic rulings that cannot be determined from the Quran or well-known ahadith and require further research. I can follow a marji' and still choose not to like his aqeeda, or him personally. A marji' is still human (albeit a well-learned human that has spent years researching ahadith) that is capable of making mistakes. People really need to stop putting them on so high a pedestal that they cannot be questioned or doubted. Or, in this case, you need to stop assuming that we have an obligation to pay our marji' just because we decided their opinion was most agreeable.  
    "Real followers do so much in practice. Also there are many other things, which i cannot discuss." 
    Real followers of whom? The Imams or the maraji'?
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    yafatimaalzahra got a reaction from baradar_jackson in Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]   
    Lol, savage!
    Back in high school (I went to a Sunni high school), they would say (ra) after everyones name - even people that are inconsequential to history would be referred to *Hazrat inconsequential persons name (ra)*. Imam Ali (as) was of course only ever referred to as Ali, like he was just the neighbours cousins friends nephews nannys' brother. 
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