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  1. Human perfection is linked with Tauheed, the more perfect the grasp of and action within Tauheed, the more perfect the person..
  2. Do you believe that you can reach human perfection? if yes, then you will upon reflection realise that Prophets((عليه السلام)) and Imam((عليه السلام)) reached their levels of perfection which is why they can be examples to us ordinary people..
  3. Whether the zuhoor of Imam(عجّل الله تعالى فرجه الشريف) is close or still has a little time, we should always believe it is extremely close, this way we should stay motivated to strive to prepare, and if we perish in a tragedy before the zuhoor, at least we would have died striving. May Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) give us all the tawfeeq to become sincere followers.
  4. Are those who did the actual killing at Karbala the only ones guilty of the murder of Imam Hussain((عليه السلام)) and the Shu'ada? Even those who didn't participate and let it happen are guilty, even those who are pleased that it happened after the event have associated guilt... If you have any doubt about the US military's action's whatsoever then it's not for you.
  5. I can't accept an apology that wasn't necessary, we are good Never would I suggest that your situation can be easily fixed or belittle it, sometimes with only words on a screen, the real crux of what you intend may not manifest. Let me share this, I remember sitting directly in front of Sayyid Seestani many years ago, at that time my personal situation with my father which was extremely bad was briefly explained to His Eminence, his advice to me on that day was 'be good to your parents'. Not going to lie, I wasn't really pleased with my Marja's direct advice to me on that day, however there is so much more in just those words which I learnt with time. With Dua's.
  6. Wa Alaykum Assalaam, 'Guest Concerned brother', Hope you find peace and a way forward.
  7. Assalaamun Alaykum, It's completely understandable that you are feeling extremely hurt based on what you've shared, yet you still come across as very patient. The reason I said about you not using a negative label is because it will only create a greater distance between your hearts, if you continue doing your part to try to keep every avenue open to have a good relationship with your mother, who knows what blessings Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) may gift you because of your patience. You can write to Sayyid Seestani's office here, Insha'Allah the correct words will come to help resolve this once and for all. Imam Ali Foundation - London (najaf.org) Something else that you could consider doing is some voluntary work, this will get you out of the house and active and via that work Insha'Allah an avenue may open up for a paid position.
  8. Dave, That's great,, so let's agree that all good and every good that we do is from Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), by Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), because of Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), it is the evil that we do that is us. The fact that we can do evil means we have the will to do either. If our will like our muscles is made strong for what's right we will get stronger and better and Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will be with us more and more. It is this for which we have to strive and it's our individual responsibility to achieve.
  9. Hi Dave, Yes you are right and maybe not right at the same time. We Muslims believe : لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِٱللَّٰهِ‎ - lā ḥawla wa-lā quwwata illā bi-llāh, you know the meaning of this by now. Please ponder this and let us know if you believe there is any other power save GOD/Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) ?
  10. Assalaamun Alaykum Brother, Maybe it's better not to think of your mother as a narcissist or any other negative label, best to call her what she is , 'Mum', 'Umm', 'Ammi' whichever word you would usually use. Maybe you remind your mum of your father? maybe the resentment is towards him but you are the one getting it as you are there. Whatever the reasons may be do speak with her gently and involve elders or Ulema, people who are Just believers and can truly help. If you can't do any of that maybe write to your Marja's office, arrange to speak to one of the representatives, but whoever you speak to please don't present your Mother as anything, just provide the facts without emotional bias and Insha'Allah for your sabr, Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will create a better relationship for you both going forward.
  11. From previous experiences when dealing with marriage related issues, many a time something like this situation is the path that is the guidance. If this Brother is sincere in his love for our Iraqi sister, maybe it will Insha'Allah turn into the love of Ahlul-Bayt((عليه السلام)) and together they will achieve the ultimate joy of connecting with Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) together.
  12. Assalaamun Alaykum sister, Are you okay to say which country this Sunni brother is from? Also being together with him as you know is not right so you must make this right immediately, even if you are just sitting chatting with each this is still not right. If you do Istghfaar (both of you), then Insha'Allah Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will open a halal way forward for you.
  13. Assalaamun Alaykum Sister, Sadly the world as it is now means that seeing things that 'excite' is very easy, so even in an environment where all the women are wearing hijab, us men still need to keep ourselves in check, sadly many fall foul and act in an evil way such as 'groping' as was mentioned above. This however doesn't mean hijab doesn't function as it should, it just proves how powerful the worldwide Dajjal system is, (May Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) help us all). The hair has many reasons for being covered, without doubt men find hair attractive, however let's say that a lady is attracted to a man, one of the things that a lady does is touch her hair, in fact women may ruffle their hair a lot when attracted to a man as this releases pheromones. In a nutshell, hijab protects men as long as we strive to stick to our version of hijab and it also protects women from displaying their feelings to us men.
  14. Office of Ayatollah Sayyid Fadhel Hosseini Milani (almilani.com)
  15. Generations ago before technology, all people dealt with was what happened in their villages/towns and within their families and when on occasion people came with news from other areas. In 2021 the bits of information that we are all dealing with every day is millions and no doubt has affected all of us in some way. A good way forward is to try to keep your energy for yourself, the more we allow others to affect us the more energy we give away which leaves us weaker and more vulnerable. A lot easier said than done, but we need to stay focussed on our own path and deal with the bumps that come from others, just like in a car when we get to a bump we need to slow down, take stock and then move forward again. May Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) make it easier for everyone.
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