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khuram

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    khuram got a reaction from habib e najjaar in Is Falling In Love Allowed In Islam?   
    In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
    All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
    Islam teaches us to be truthful and realistic. Usually, we love for the sake of Allah and we hate for the sake of Allah. Islam teaches us that a male and female can build up a good relationship founded on marriage.
    We do not say love is halal or haram because it is a feeling. Maybe it is not under control. You can judge what is under control. But people who fall in love are in many episodes away from the cleansed and pure atmosphere.
    Marriages that are usually good and lasting marriages are those that start at the least affection. That affection grows after marriage and maybe it will grow until the couples continue their companionship at the Jannah.
    If you have any affection towards a person, you should ask yourself: why do you like that person? If you have good Islamic, reasonable justification, then you need not tell that person of what you feel. However, you can make a serious plan to make him ask for your hand. If you want to know the meaning of fitna, a great part of it is what people nowadays call love or romance.
    If we are speaking about the emotion which we call "love" then we are simply speaking of a feeling. What we feel toward a particular person is not of great importance, until our feeling is expressed in a particular action. Now if that action is permissible, then well and good. If it is forbidden, then we have incurred something that Allah does not approve of. If it is love between a man and a woman, the emotion itself is not the subject of questioning on the Day of Judgment. If you feel you love someone, then you cannot control your feeling. If that love prompts you to try to see that person in secret and to give expression to your feelings in actions permissible only within the bond of marriage then what you are doing is forbidden.
    In Islam, it is not a sin if you feel a special affinity or inclination towards a certain individual since human beings have no control on such natural inclinations. We are, however, definitely responsible and accountable if we get carried away by such feelings and take specific actions or steps that might be deemed as haram (forbidden).
    As far as male and female interaction is concerned, Islam dictates strict rules: It forbids all forms of ‘dating’ and isolating oneself with a member of the opposite sex, as well indiscriminate mingling and mixing.
    If, however, one does none of the above, and all that he or she wants is to seriously consider marrying someone, such a thing itself is not considered haram. In fact, Islam encourages us to marry persons for whom we have special feelings and affinity. Thus, Islam recommends that potential marriage partners see one another before proposing marriage. Explaining the reason for such a recommendation, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “That would enhance/foster the bonding.”
    This permission notwithstanding, we are advised against getting carried away by merely the outward appearances of a person; these may be quite misleading. Marriage is a life-long partnership and a person’s real worth is determined not by his or her physical looks, but more so by the inner person or character. Hence, after having mentioned that people ordinarily look for beauty, wealth and family in a marriage partner, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) advised us to consider primarily “the religious or character factor” over and above all other considerations.
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    khuram got a reaction from Gotham in Yeh to kahiyay kay tabbara hai ibbadat warna   
    tabbara gar Aaimma ki tarha ho to IBadat hay
    or agar dilazari ki khatir hoto Shararat hay
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    khuram got a reaction from talib e ilm in Yeh to kahiyay kay tabbara hai ibbadat warna   
    tabbara gar Aaimma ki tarha ho to IBadat hay
    or agar dilazari ki khatir hoto Shararat hay
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    khuram got a reaction from Hameedeh in Muharram wallpapers   
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    khuram got a reaction from Hameedeh in Deewan E Khuram   
    i can not say or explain
    the feelings n the pain
    just look in my eyes
    these are ready to rain


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    khuram got a reaction from Hameedeh in Deewan E Khuram   
    you dont let me sleep but i can
    close my eyes for ever
    cant live nor die without you
    in here n heaven want to be together

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    khuram got a reaction from Hameedeh in Friendship   
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    khuram got a reaction from Aqua in Sisters   
    If you live in an Islamic family environment , a sister is a blessing and symbol of love and care. Elder sis looks after you when you are a child, she always pray for you, helps you, assists you, sometime does your assignments, press (iron) your cloth and she always prefer you on herself. (Traditionally) She finds a suitable girl (rishta) for you :wub: and when you are away or she is married; she always calls you at least once or twice in a week even if you dont.
    How unfortunate are those parents who don’t have a daughter and how unfortunate are the guys who don’t have loving sister/sisters.

    But do we really do the same with her/them?



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    khuram got a reaction from ThE-Samz in Poll - Ramadhan Cooking Competition   
    non of the above, baghair khaey k say bata saktay hain bhala , may to usko vote donga jo paka kar khelaeay ga.
    ^ its in urdu, dont ask me to translate.
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    khuram got a reaction from Hasan0404 in A pakistani wife   
    zist ki talkh haqiqat ko nibhana hai mujhe
    job se aa k abhi khana pakana hai mujhe
    merey sartaj se baasi nahii khaya jata
    garm roti bhi isi waqt pakana hai mujhe
    mujhko bacho'n ko lana hai sitter k ghar se
    saaf suthra inhe nehla k banana hai mujhe
    baap k unko to tv se hii fursat kab hai
    khana khilwa k phir homework karwana hai mujhe
    tarbiat unki karoo'n ye bhi tau hai farz mera
    kalma sun'na hai sipara bhi parhana hai mujhe
    loria'n de k sulaoo'n ye kaha'n unke naseeb
    unko bistar pe akeley hii litana hai mujhe
    phir safaie mai karoongi mai karoongi dusting
    landri karna hai aur mop lagana hai mujhe
    istri mai na karoongi tau karega phir kaun?
    istri ghar ki hoon iss ghar ko sajana hai mujhe
    roz k kaam mujhe khud hii chukane hongey
    aaye week end tau sauda bhi tau lana hai mujhe
    hai faqat kasur mera ye k mai aik biwi hoo'n
    aur shohar ka bhi harr naaz utthana hai mujhe
    raat aadhi hui aur kaam merey baqi hain
    aur subha utth k abhi job pe jana hai mujhe
    janey kab samjhengey ye unn ko bataoo'n kaisey
    aa k Maghrib mai bhi Mashriq ko nibhana hai mujhe


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    khuram got a reaction from Aftahb in Sisters   
    If you live in an Islamic family environment , a sister is a blessing and symbol of love and care. Elder sis looks after you when you are a child, she always pray for you, helps you, assists you, sometime does your assignments, press (iron) your cloth and she always prefer you on herself. (Traditionally) She finds a suitable girl (rishta) for you :wub: and when you are away or she is married; she always calls you at least once or twice in a week even if you dont.
    How unfortunate are those parents who don’t have a daughter and how unfortunate are the guys who don’t have loving sister/sisters.

    But do we really do the same with her/them?



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    khuram reacted to shiasoldier786 in How Should A Muslim Woman Propose To A Male   
    Ask your mum or some aunty to get you arranged marriage :P
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    khuram reacted to Noah- in Ban on Hussaini procession protested   
    Ban on Hussaini procession in Held Kashmir protested
    By: Nizam Hussain
    HELD SRINAGAR, Held Kashmir: Hundreds of Shia Muslims in the Indian-Held Kashmir staged a protest against the years-long ban on Muharram procession here on Monday Dec 21 under the banner of Anjuman- Sharai Shian.
    The protest rally passed through Lal Chowk and converged at Pratap Park as the protestors carried placards reading ' We want religious freedom.'
    Murtuza Hussian Abbasi, leader of Anjuman- Sharai- Shian said that they were asking for their religious freedom.
    "We are protesting against the ban imposed by the government for the last 20 years on 8th and 10th day of Muharram (the first month of the Islamic calendar). We demand that the government removes the unjustified restrictions and give us a sense of religious freedom," said Abbasi.
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    khuram reacted to baradar_jackson in Deep South calls in Iran to cure its health blues   
    That depends on your definition of tolerance.
    Secular governments are very "faith tolerant" ... so long as that faith serves as a pacifier or a legitimator of their power. But if a faith steps out of its bounds (as set by the secular government) then it will not be tolerated.
    The argument that secular governments are tolerant of religions simply because they encourage religious groups to have their subjects pacified with mundane rituals is akin to saying Israel is a champion of the rights of Arabs because it is one of the few countries in the Middle East in which they can vote. Saying this ignores the fact that for an Arab, accepting Israeli citizenship is an acceptance of slavery. It also ignores the fact that none of the candidates in an Israeli election can possibly seek to serve the interests of Arabs.
    Muslims in secular countries can pray all they want, but can they ever (formally) demand anything or try to espouse their point of view? No. There are hardly any Muslim statesmen in the US, and those who do exist are very low-level. Even those low-level politicians cannot reach the position they have reached without completely eliminating anything Islamic from their image and rhetoric.
    So I think the whole "freedom of religion" thing is an illusion, because it is limited to practice. The PRACTICE of religion is a freedom which can be had regardless of the nature of government, because it is something which cannot be controlled.
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    khuram reacted in Deep South calls in Iran to cure its health blues   
    Absolutely. The "West" does not = United States.
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    khuram reacted in Deep South calls in Iran to cure its health blues   
    No one is writing them off, this entire thread is about people in the United States who are negatively impacted by a poor health care system. My point was that the United States is only one country and that there are a lot of European countries with great health care systems (certainly better than the mess going on in Detroit) so we should not look exclusively towards the United States as the "West," because that would be writing off those countries. And who said America is the only county with corruption? There are a lot of countries with corrupt governments but since this particular thread happened to be about, well.. America and health care in America.. I though it would be appropriate to mention the current, blatant government corruption in the United States regarding that issue.
    As for the nonsense "bone to pick :huh: " comment.. I think what I stated was pretty obvious and reasonable and didn't carry that type of implication at all.
    I completely disagree with that. Secularism is absolutely a tool for faith-tolerance and that manifests itself pretty clearly. There is no doubt that theocratic countries are very faith tolerant.. so long as its their faith. Even hate in secular countries is propagated by faith based groups (evangelical Christans, etc) who want to shove their religion down the collective throat of society. The idea that secular countries= no religion allowed is completely oblivious to the reality of people all over Europe and in the United States who are free to practice their religion provided they do not harm others.
    Its not the only issue (I didn't say it was :unsure: ) but is an issue. A corrupt government is steadily growing and this growth makes it less capable (or willing) of serving the interests of the people and more willing to sell itself out to corporations (something that has become painfully obvious as this disastrous health care bill emerges). No one is taking away the legitimacy of social issues in the United States, but you can't possibly not see the correlation between big government in the hands of the corporations and poor health care bills that serve the corporations rather than those people in Detroit. In my opinion (and its just an opinion) big, sell out government infrastructure that is centralized and detached from the people and their needs is the root of a lot of the issues in the United States when it comes to health care.. and we were only talking about health care mind you.
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    khuram reacted in Deep South calls in Iran to cure its health blues   
    America's health care system is not the "West." Many secular European countries are doing excellently in terms of health care (better than Iran) while America is struggling to win its war against big government corporations and a corrupt political system. The solution is therefore not uniquely Islamic in nature but one that can be implemented (and is implemented) in countries that are secular.
    The issue in America is big, corrupt government. Just a few days ago Obama shot down a bill (of course when it comes to health care reform he claims he is powerless) that would import medicine from Canada at cheaper rates. He opposed this bill because while it would be immensely beneficial in the long run for the American people, it would handicap the corporations that now essentially own him.
    Mississippi is suffering pretty badly right now, but even they aren't delusional enough to accept the IRI's "coherent" social model.
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    khuram reacted to Nevermind in What Would U Do To Ur Sister...   
    Nothing
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    khuram reacted to Gypsy in Signs of a wet dream   
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    khuram reacted to Shia & Proud in Signs of a wet dream   
    Content of the dream doesn't make a difference. If you wake up and you have ejeculated in your sleep, trust me, you will know that you have. If there is no stain/wetness then nothing has happened, so relax and carry on with your day.
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    khuram reacted to shiaboii in So Umrao Jaan Was A Shia   
    hahaha.. i wish!! lol
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    khuram reacted to SHAUZEB in Apne Peghaam Ashaar Ki Soorat Rawana Kijiye...   
    daghe sajood agar teri peshani pe hae to kia
    koi asia sajda bhi kr k zameen pe nishan rahe




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    khuram reacted in Switzerland votes on Muslim minaret ban   
    You said
    Unless being Muslim in Switzerland takes away your citizenship, they are citizens of that country as well.
    Your statements show a profound lack of knowledge about their government.. I used the bill of rights because I am American, but they have a bill of rights that also prevents religious discrimination. :unsure:
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    khuram reacted in Switzerland votes on Muslim minaret ban   
    Religion does not define citizenship. Unless being non Muslim is a prerequisite for citizenship in Switzerland, your statement is ridiculous.
    I am a Muslim American who was born and raised in the United States and when someone tries to take away my rights as a citizen of the United States I will not stand for it, nor will I stand for someone describing me as "the other" group in "their country."
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    khuram reacted in Switzerland votes on Muslim minaret ban   
    If Saudi Arabia has passed a law forbidding MacDonalds near the haram (something I was unaware of) that does not make it legitimate for Switzerland (a country that is not theocratic or abusive) to forbid Muslims from having a minaret on their mesjid that harms no one? Maybe I am not understanding the analogy? The only similarity I see is
    Crazy extremist Muslims are scared of KFC..
    Crazy fundementalist Christians are scared of minarets?
    Sane, rational people call out the crazies and tell them that their points are not valid or acceptable and have no basis no matter what religion they are attempting to suppress.
    It isn't about religion here..If you hear about the government forbidding a cross on a church you will get complaints from me because I believe that the government should stay out of our mosques and churches unless we infringe on the rights of others, which was not the case here.
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