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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Anti-Consumer in Amnesty International.............Human rights....   
    1)A University of Illinois professor of international law, Francis Boyle, who was a member of the board of Amnesty International USA at the end of the 1980s/early 1990s, claims that Amnesty International USA acted in ways closely related to United States and United Kingdom foreign policy interests. He stated that Amnesty, along with other human rights organisations in the US, failed to sufficiently criticise the Sabra and Shatila Massacre in Lebanon.Boyle stated his suspicion that the International Secretariat of Amnesty International, based geographically in London, UK, was also subject to this bias. He attributes the alleged links between Amnesty International and US and UK foreign policy interests to the relatively large financial contribution of Amnesty International USA to AI's international budget, which he estimated at 20%.
    2)Critics have also pointed out that AI had a role propagating disinformation in a press release before the 1991 Gulf War, in which it claimed that Iraqi soldiers were responsible for the deaths of "scores of civilians, including newborn babies, who died as a direct result of their forced removal from life-support machines."It later transpired that this claim was a propaganda hoax, and AI's press release was used in the opening salvo of this propaganda campaign – U.S. President George H. W. Bush showed AI's press release on a prime time interview. Prof. Francis Boyle, an AI USA director at the time, gives a detailed insider account of the way the AI press release was handled.[11] The normal process of double-checking and consultation was short-circuited in a rush to issue the press release. In an April 1991 statement, AI said that although its team was shown alleged mass graves of babies, it was not established how they had died and the team found no reliable evidence that Iraqi forces had caused the deaths of babies by removing them or ordering their removal from incubators
    3)Human Rights Watch's work in Venezuela became the subject of controversy in late 2008. In September 2008, Venezuela expelled two HRW staff accused of anti-state activities[25] Foreign Minister Nicolas Maduro said "These groups, dressed up as human rights defenders, are financed by the United States. They are aligned with a policy of attacking countries that are building new economic models. On December 17 2008 an open letter was sent to the HRW Board of Directors in response to an HRW report, entitled, A Decade Under Chávez: Political Intolerance and Lost Opportunities for Advancing Human Rights in Venezuela.118 scholars from Argentina, Australia, Brazil, México, the United States, the U.K., Venezuela, and other countries openly criticized HRW for a perceived bias against the government of Venezuela. The open letter criticized the report by stating that it "does not meet even the most minimal standards of scholarship, impartiality, accuracy, or credibility."[28] The letter also criticizes the lead author of the report, Jose Miguel Vivanco, for his "political agenda", and calls Mr. Vivanco to discuss or debate his claims in "any public forum of his choosing"[5]. Hugh O'Shaughnessy has accused HRW (on the Newstatesmen web site) of using false and misleading information, and has said the report was "put together with the sort of know-nothing Washington bias...". Kenneth Roth, director of Human Rights Watch responded, claiming the letter misrepresents "both the substance and the source material of the report." .Tom Porteoushas Human Rights Watch's London director (on the Newstatesmen web site) counters claim of bias and says that "...not only fails to provide any evidence for these allegations" and that "...more seriously he misrepresents HRW's positions in his apparent determination to undermine our well earned international reputation for accuracy and impartiality."
    How i can send you my own evidences??by scanning their leaflets and upload them??I would do if i hadnt use them for my bathroom..copyright novel(you must not be ironic,its not politically correct,you dont respect my human rights...hahaha) was only the first part of my repply,as for the first topic it was more general because i thought that there are no people here supporting Amnesty,HRW or in the worst case working for them and that everyone here has the critical spirit to realize their role(Humanism Merchants),also i had to send you what they say themselves,their own members that share the same superficial ideology with them,read please my whole second post,-especially what the world bank says about ngo's-Hajj 2003 is correct,they do freely their dirty job just because they do far more critisism to non western allies..But why you avoid to explain me the "deep" inner meaning of human rights notion??because they are just a meteor semantic?i want an answer from a supporter, how a man made subjectivity can be an objective reality??and why human life is political matter?and who and when and why created human rights?we must have institutions for the obvious things??We dont want human rights dear humanist...we need Human Beeings
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Anti-Consumer in Amnesty International.............Human rights....   
    Amnesty International accuse Iran over Human Rights violations..One more time this NGO shows its dark face,Amnesty was the one supported Israelis "rights" to settlements in west bank,the one who coincides Hamas with the zionist regime over war crimes and many more..Before starting a conversation about what exactly is "human rights",All westerns must consider first the deads of their wars-nowadays at least,the thousands of immigrants who after their wars lost their lives trying to pass in the fortress Europe,Minaret Banning,Hijab Banning,the starving in the third world as consequence of the global capitalism overexploitation of Africa and South America,the banning of critisism against zionist state as anti-semitism,the military coups and fake revolutions organized or fostered by the west to overthrow resistance or simply antiamerican regimes(Chile,Honduras,Venezuela,Iran,Moldova,Ukraine,and many many more...)The fact that all these childish NGO's do unilateral critisism on Sudan,Iran,China and much less in Saudia,Egypt and other US friendly countries..But what is this new religion suddenly appeared or not exactly new..but a real backward to 1789 days?a post modern phenomenon?a superficial uprising in societies with lack of values so they make the human life political itself?After the Bourgeois revolutions the new rich class of slave traders,merchants,moneylenders and colonialist slayers invented human rights to protect themselves from the opressed,they also adopted the abstract notion of progress(which in reality is only development and infrastractures and not spiritual evolution of the human beeings and societies)that history goes forward and the western establishment is the destiny of humanity,but in reality western world had never civilization and human rights was the best trick that keeps alive the bubble gum we call west(not in reversed huntigtons terms of course..but in our difference),a way to hide its savaged nature from the very begining,Europe before middle ages was a place of savaged tribes destroying everything in their passage they formed their first societies under catholic establishment,their inner violent and savaged charachter revealed in the destruction of any gnosis,when they received the arabic,persian and ancient greek gnosis from Islamic Civilization they hurried up to make arts and the violence became external(crusades,colonialism,arab and jewish expulsions) and very very internal,they started to built clinics where they made experiments to the mental ill people and exclude the different from their societies-in opposition with the other civilizations who were naturally tolerant,then they started to destroy all of their old values and make new from zero,they do it every time,Nazism was just a small reveal of western insticts awake..Human rights is their subjective reality for these ages,a substitute of things natural to other civilizations(friendship,love,hospitality-western has only institutions no real feelings)a system contrary to the human nature..a new Fascism but much worse,the best way to justify the new violence in iraq,afghanistan,Lebanon,Palestine,they fullfil their thirst for blood and flesh through their splatter movies,their sexual "liberty"(flesh consuming),video games and criminality,in their suicides and in the fact thet 13years old children slay the students of their clasrooms..This civilization is a wrong..why why must adopt any of its notions??
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from shiasoldier786 in is making your eyebrows haram?   
    ^ if you feel like your eyebrows look decent enough that you look presentable with only trimmed eyebrows then that is very lucky for you, no pain to look nice, but for many eastern sisters that are naturally hairy, they also have huge eyebrows, and trimming them make them look even uglier, because they are just huge thick lines across their foreheads.
    Helga anybody?
    I don't understand what that has to do with the deodorant quote you chose though?
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Haji 2003 in am not sure if i can marry...plz help!   
    ^ because there are tons of sayeds and non sayeds out there that have no idea they are because they were born into atheist, Hindu, etc families. just because she is a sayeda doesn't mean she is Muslim, and the first ruling you quoted encompasses the sayed/non-sayed issue, however the second doesn't.
    She is a kafira because she doesn't believe that the prophet is the last prophet. Therefore you can't marry her because she is neither Muslim nor from ahlul kitab.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Nimra in Bashed for being too picky   
    I'm going to put in my two cents here because i am noticing a pattern that i am not liking. Is it perfectly okay for somebody to choose to be with somebody who hasn't had a relationship or sexual intercourse before? Ofcourse it is, people can choose to do whatever they want and think whatever they want, HOWEVER, people are trying to justify this choice by degrading people that do not fall into the category.
    Using words, labels, and tones that make people who have had relationships or had sex seem like the worst kind of people, completely forgetting that islamically, a girl who has had 5 mutahs before a permanent marriage can still be more religious and mo2mena than a virgin girl, and a man who has had 1000 similarly can be more religious than many. I know that nobody logically believes this to be false, but apparently emotionally wise many of you do not see this.
    A female in this situation has done absolutely nothing wrong, she is still pure, has not erred or sinned against Allah swt and is not LESS than a girl who is still a virgin in ANY way.
    Now as for some peoples theories that a man who has had sexual partners, even one, will judge their new wife according to previously set standards, etc, im sure there are some men who will fall into this category but sex isn't something that can really be very comparable. A man might have been with a woman with a certain quality that he liked, but that doesn't mean when he is with his current wife he will be dissatisfied and go and look for another woman with the quality that is missing. Even amongst two virgins they may not be satisfying each other and so they need to communicate what they want and fix themselves so they can have a very healthy and good experience in that area of their married life.
    If a man is good in so many aspects, even so that a girl would agree to marry him, chances are he will also be the nice sweet guy in the bedroom that is helpful and communicative as to what he wants, not ditch her and go look for a girl to satisfy his desires.
    Also, if a man had a mutah with only one female and he was emotionally involved with her as well, once time passes, and he finds a wife whom he also loves, he creates an entirely new relationship and life with this female and is not thinking about any other female when with her, because she is his love and he wouldn't be satisfied with anybody else.
    And finally, i know of several women who married men who had previously been in mutahs with other women and they have advised other sisters that this is a very good thing to have in a husband and they are glad that they fell into such a situation because they were inexperienced, the first time for a female can be very difficult, and its good to have a man who knows what he is doing so that minimal discomfort is present, plus that area of life is better for the female as the man knows what he is doing.
    I hope my post wasn't too erm.. inappropriate :unsure: i tried to use as appropriate language as i could to get across the ideas that i wanted to.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Last Chance in is making your eyebrows haram?   
    The other reply to your post was a very good explanation but i want to give you another one using a different example.
    That is: to use deodorant.
    People use deodorant to remove the ugly smell, in the process yes they now smell decent so you can say they were trying to make themselves more attractive, but the intention was not to make themselves attractive, but to neutralize themselves into not smelling bad, just smelling normal.
    To add perfume however would be making yourself smell better.
    Now for eyebrows, a girl that has huge bushy eyebrows and plucks them into a nice shape is like adding deodorant, but one that arches them and does god knows what with them to the point where they are very eye catching has added perfume.
    That is the difference between removing ugliness and trying to attract.
    Many sunnis believe that using deodorant isn't allowed either, going by the same reasoning you were using in reply to me. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Haji 2003 in Husband is in touch with ex-GF thru internet   
    I think the key issue is the password protected email. I come from a Pakistani background and married within the family and my wife also password protects her emails (mine aren't). But I put up with that, because I understand that there are various family political issues that she wants to keep secret.
    But for anyone else, I think password protection should not be acceptable - what's there to hide?
    Hmmm. Spot the married Sis and the (likely) unmarried one.
    Sis Zareen, is referring to what is known as THE SILENT TREATMENT, this is a well known device used by married women (irrespective of culture). Men, being simple souls, usually give in after about 5 minutes, with the question, "OK what's wrong?". Depending on the seriousness of the situation the wife will continue to hold out. Infidelity may mean it goes on for a few days (I've never done anything so bad, do don't know).
    Once the silent treatment phase is over, the lady in question may still be very angry and may not express herself clearly, here's a translation of what women say when they are angry and what they really mean:
    Yes = No
    No = Yes
    Maybe = No
    We need = I want
    I'm sorry = you'll be sorry
    We need to talk = I need to complain
    Sure go ahead = I don't want you to
    Do what you want = you'll pay for this later
    I'm not upset = of course I'm upset, you moron!
    Are you listening to me? = Too late, you're dead
    You have to learn to communicate = Just agree with me
    It's your decision = the correct decision should be obvious by now
    My reputation is likely to go negative...
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Marbles in What should one do to hasten Mahdi's return?   
    To the OP: the two people that have been arguing in this thread i advise for you to ignore them. Both don't know what they are talking about :)
    For everybody that wants to make a claim in this thread, make sure you have evidence to support it, and not just hearsay or your OWN justifications for why something is going to occur.
    Maybe the OP should google literature on the imam (as), i'm sure you can find TONS online. I'm currently reading a book in arabic titled "al imam al mahdi wal yawm al maw3oud" by shaikh khalel rizk. That translates to "The imam Mahdi (as) and the promised day". It talks about the history leading up to his birth, his life time, afterwords, and nowadays what is expected of us. Anyhow there are many such book, try a search on www.al-islam.org you will probably find something.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to smhali in Husband is in touch with ex-GF thru internet   
    First of all tell me you are from Pakistan if you are ,then you plz not loss your home and return to your husband house I think you take first Divorce ,if so,there is a wider option to return sister,Many girls, in our part of the world, have this preconceived notion about marriage being a bed of roses. They think of their husbands as heroes out of a Bollywood flick - friendly, loving and romantic. Get a grip! Real life is not like that at all. Before you plunge into matrimony headlong, with stars in your eyes, look around you, talk to married friends and cousins and assess the realities of life. You will be able to endure the harshness much better and would live a happy life. Whatever the case may be, remember that your sis here is always there to listen to your woes and solve your problems.
    I think you expected a lot from just one relationship. There seems to be nothing terribly wrong with your husband. Believe me, all men are like that. They bridle their feelings and refrain from expressing them too often.could you plz tell me about relationship with your parents and siblings either, another question arouse when you know a little about your husband had affair with a girl why don’t you tell firt to your mother-in-law and other ,In order to nurture a relationship, you have to accept the other person with all his faults. You cannot change one to your own liking. The first and foremost rule after getting married is not to expect too much from the husband mean husbands are not like Bollywood heroes. They are real men who are quite different from the ones we see onscreen.. Keep your ego aside and work again on your relationship.
    Count his good points. Can you tell me that he helps you in household chores, If he is helping you, consider it a blessing,
    Sister , I am not defending him in any way. I am just trying to show you the other side of the coin - the shinier one! Plz remember his good side. Every one has faults. Your husband has them and you might have some as well. You have to ignore the little hurdles to lead a blissful life. Also, make friends and widen your social circle. It will help a lot.
    hussain naqvi
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to shoelace in Sex Slavery in India   
    sorry for my ignorance but i dont get what India shud learn from west?
    how a father rapes his daughter and how brother and sister spent night together?
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Bonafide Hustler in Iran: Ayatollah Saanei Slams Government Policies   
    This is one Ayatollah Iran could DEFINITELY DO WITH!
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Last Chance in is making your eyebrows haram?   
    If it is done with the intention of removing ugliness, and not with the intention of attracting males attention or done in a way where it is very eye catching then it is fine. I paraphrased the fatwas. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Doctor_Naqvi in Husband is in touch with ex-GF thru internet   
    Hold-on.Wat kinda trash you're talking about?Just look at Ur way of addressing a girl,sleaze.Wat's Ur soul purpose of telling everyone that you're so tempting,charming and bla,bla,bla?This is pretty un-Islamic.This thread has nothing to do with a women's maverick beauty.This forum is visited by many brothers so why are ya telling them about Ur potential appeal?This is deemed to be a pretty serious issue so why are ya arguing contumaciously? Who are ya to award any-one with such a contumelious title? Do ya know Wat Maidenliness is all about? If you're a female than she's not Ur babe,she's Ur sis.Ya does sound like a lesbian or may be you're pretending to be a girl. Anyways,whoever you're,ya seriously need to work on Ur mode of articulation.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Marbles in Speech from NY senator   
    La Hawla wala Quwata ela billah al 3ali al 3athem. Allahuma 3ajil farajak ya imam al zaman.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Marbles in Stupid Lebanese   
    </3 your topic name has broken my heart.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Mehvish in Husband is in touch with ex-GF thru internet   
    Why is everyone so quick to warn the female in this situation? The husband made the decision to keep in touch as well.
    And I am a sister. She is totally a babe to me. All girls are babes! We're sexy, smart and amazing in our own separate ways. I'm not a lesbian though if thats what you're implying :Hijabi:
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Doctor_Naqvi in Stupid Lebanese   
    </3 your topic name has broken my heart.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to TheHealer in Speech from NY senator   
    Gay marriage is totally prohibited in Islam as well as in all the divine religions. Gay marriage is an atrocious and obscene act which belongs to unsound nature. Islam teaches that believers should neither do the obscene acts nor in any way indulge in their propagation. Allah says, "Those who love (to see) obscenity published broadcast among the Believers will have a grievous Penalty in this life and in the Hereafter: Allah knows, and you know not." (An-Nur: 19)
    In the very beginning, I would like to draw your attention to the fact that this act is an ugly sin which Allah forbids in all religions, even in the most primitive ones. It is against the ordinances of Allah and against the law of nature. I wonder how in this age of advanced knowledge, science, technology, we allow such things to take place in our human society, how someone allows or gives a legal sanction to such a widespread act that poses a threat to the whole human race and destroys our fabric of society like cancer.
    Emphatically, Islam forbids homosexuality and lesbianism and regard them as a violation of the commands of Allah.
    In both the Old and the New Testaments, all Prophets of God forbid such evil activities and punish severely those who practice them.
    Allah tells us in the Qur’an that He created everything in pairs. Referring to this, Allah Almighty says, “And all things We have created by pairs, that haply ye may reflect” (Az-Zariyat: 49). For sure, the pairs referred to in the above verse are of different kinds, not of the same kind.
    Marriage is universally known to be between a man and a woman, not between a man and a man or between a woman and a woman. Marriage in Islam, as in all divine religions, does not mean sexual enjoyment only but also the establishment of a family on hygienic and safe foundations.
    Its so sorry to hear about the enactment of such a law that is given to a few people who stand in a marginal place in our society to present a phenomenon.
    I feel that Allah will never let such an act go without punishment. We have an example of the people of Lut who were deeply involved in such immoral acts and were destroyed by Allah.
    I, personally, feel that this is one of the deadly germs that are injected in the vein of modern civilization, which some of the westerners feel proud of. Human rights should not be extended to include human destruction or threats to our life on this planet. It is hoped that the legislators who enacted such a law will think twice about it and consider its consequences on our human race and to try to repeal this law and put things right.

    The rule goes that opposites attract and that Allah the Almighty created man and woman to propagate the human species. For one to be sexually attracted to someone of the same sex is a deviation from this rule. This is why Allah says in the Holy Qur’an in reference to the People of Lut (Lot), who were indulging in homosexual acts at the time, “ Of all the creatures in the world, will ye approach males, And leave those whom Allah has created for you to be your mates? Nay, ye are a people transgressing (all limits)!” (26: 165-166). Allah thus considers such doings to be a transgression.

    Elsewhere in the Qur’an, Allah describes homosexuality as ignorance: “Would ye really approach men in your lusts rather than women? Nay, ye are a people (grossly) ignorant!” (27: 55).

    Yet elsewhere we read, “For ye practise your lusts on men in preference to women : ye are indeed a people transgressing beyond bounds.” (7:81). “And we rained down on them a shower (of brimstone): Then see what was the end of those who indulged in sin and crime!” (7: 84). “He said: "O my Lord! help Thou me against people who do mischief!"” (29: 30).

    The People of Lut in the Qur’an are thus depicted with all kinds of corruption and sin: transgression, ignorance, sin and crime, and mischief. Again, describing the People of Lut, Allah says, “Verily, by thy life (O Prophet), in their wild intoxication, they wander in distraction, to and fro.” (15: 72). Their actions are described as a wild intoxication, which can be, by no means, an explanation of something one is naturally born with

    As for the claims of some that homosexuality is a normal disposition in some people,

    This sin was not described before the People of Lut. The Qur’an says, “And (remember) Lut: behold, he said to his people: "Ye do commit lewdness, such as no people in Creation (ever) committed before you.” (29: 28).

    The testimony of Allah cites that the People of Lut were the first people to contrive this vice. The world had been free of such a grave sin since the beginning of time. Their prophet (Lut) was sent to warn them of the consequences of their sinful behavior,[i WONDER WHAT PEOPLE LIKE BONAFIDE HUSTLER AND MEHWISH WOULD HAVE SAID TO THE PROPHET LUT, LET THEM HAVE THEIR RIGHTS ? Hah] and the result was severe punishment to purify the world from them, “When Our Decree issued, We turned (the cities) upside down, and rained down on them brimstones hard as baked clay, spread, layer on layer,- Marked as from thy Lord: Nor are they ever far from those who do wrong!” (11: 82, 83).

    All divine messages spoke of the People of Lut and denounced their ill-doings. The West, however, wishes to turn homosexuality into something acceptable by society. Not only that, but laws and regulations are being construed to legalize this sin and many of the issues surrounding it.

    Personally, I consider a homosexual to be as a drug abuser, one who requires treatment. Does anyone in their right mind consider drug abuse something one is born with? This is not a genetic anomaly, it is something one acquires. It is a disease that needs a cure.

    “And to Lut, too, We gave Judgment and Knowledge, and We saved him from the town which practised abominations: truly they were a people given to Evil, a rebellious people.” (21: 74)

    Surely The Lord of Glory, did not say a liberal people.........................

    Wasallam and may the curse of Allah[sWT] be on the rebellious people.

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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Bonafide Hustler in Speech from NY senator   
    Yea but America isnt governed by sharia law, just as there is no compulsion in religion and you cannot force people to become muslim against their will, non muslims willing to lead a gay lifestyle is none of our business.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Al-Mufeed in Speech from NY senator   
    Homosexuality is a sin punishable by death in Islamic Law. We have 0 tolerance towards homosexual behavior in Islam. Promoting Gay Marriage is an invitation to spread filth and fasad through society (more so than is already there).
    I suggest the two other posters in this thread examine their beliefs more carefully.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Mehvish in Speech from NY senator   
    I think everyone should support the legislation. Legalization of gay marriage certainly does not affect the practice of religion at all, nor does it impede in any way on the lifestyles of other people who are against it. As the woman says, just because its legal, it still does not stop religious institutions from preaching against it. While at the same time, if you wish to be gay, you have the freedom to make that personal choice. I think it is possible to be Muslim and support this legislation, because doing so in turn also supports the freedom to make your own choices, choose your religion, and the right to live however you wish to live without of course, impeding on other people`s lifestyles so that they themselves can do the same.
    Bonafide Hustler, you should be proud to be Canadian :D Yeah, all those aboriginals are problem, and Quebecers are totally spoiled brats, but at least the Canadian government recognizes the rights of their citizens. In the US, half the states do not even recognize same-sex unions (or the freedom to even have a same-sex partnership). Gay marriage has a long, long way to go in America. Seems like we're just waiting for all the old politicians to die :)
    And yes, the legislation in NY got slapped down 38-24.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to sukaina_08 in Husband is in touch with ex-GF thru internet   
    First, I'm so sorry to hear that you are in this situation. It must be very frustrating and heartbreak... this type of situation can definitely can have a huge impact on your self-esteem and self-worth.
    Second, do NOT email the other woman. All that would do is give her the satisfaction that she has successfully diverted your husband's attention away from you. If she is really interested in him, this is exactly the kind of power she wants! Ignoring her is the best way. Plus, she's not the one to blame for your relationship issues - your husband is. He is the one who is continuing to allow her to interact with him in an inappropriate way. If they are just friends, he should be firm and clear about the boundaries, and reinforce them. Since he is not reinforcing the 'friend' boundaries, clearly he is ok with the way she is acting, and it sounds like he is even reciprocating it.
    Third, I do not recommend just packing up and leaving him suddenly, without warning. Communication is very important, and is it the most fair way of handling any relationship issue. You need to have a discussion with him. Tell him that his behavior is inappropriate for any married couple, and even more so for a Muslim man (married or unmarried!). Not only does the inappropriate behavior with the other woman have to stop, but the relationship with her must be cut as well. If he does not do this, you WILL leave (not only for your sake, but for your children's sake too, as they need to have a good, practicing role model for a father). Make sure knows what the consequences are, and that you are serious about them. You don't need to yell or be upset or have an angry tone with him. Just calmly sit down and make everything clear.
    Fourth, you need to have a clear plan in place IF he does continue to contact that woman. Make sure you know where you will go, who can help you move out, who will support you and your children temporarily (like family members or something), etc. When considering all this, you should also start looking for jobs in that area so you will have an idea of what is available and how best to prepare for interviews if you need to find a job quickly.
    Fifth, you need to decide whether you will leave permanently, or if you will be open to coming back IF he promises to change and fulfill his obligations to the family. Don't count on him being open to changing, but make sure you've thought about that in case he does start asking you to come back and promising to change, etc. What will you say, how will you react, will you come back immediately, or will you make him spend time proving his sincerity to you, etc.
    Finally, is there anyone close to him that might be able to talk with him (before it gets to the point of you leaving)? Like a brother, a family member, close friend, etc? Sometimes having someone else who is not emotionally involved sit down and talk with them can help them open their eyes and see the reality of their actions. If not, is there an imam or sheikh or someone who might be able to help?
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from YaHossain in WHY CANT SHIAS AND SUNNIS GET MARRIED ?   
    Killing the daughter of the prophet and stealing the caliphate are stupid things now eh? :)
    Because people should marry those who are good for their iman, will help raise religious children, and they can grow religiously together. Sunnis and Shias are on completely different wave lengths when it comes to religion, the division between parents will have a huge impact on the children from these marriages, and several other reasons.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to guest 34193 in Bashed for being too picky   
    Because men and women are not the same. The woman submits herself to her husband, the husband however does not submit to his wife. By her having had no relations with anyone but him is like a further cementing of this. The virginity will likely be gone very quickly, but the fact that she has given herself to him, and only him, will remain.
    (Expecting to possibly burn a few of those reputation points on the above statement...)
  25. Disagree
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from forte in An American tv presenter makes fun of Mutah   
    There are manyyy factual mistakes, not just some. It even says mutah can be practiced from an hour to a year as the limit, when it can be practiced as long as the people agree as long as it is realistic of the common age people die in the region. For example: a 30 year old can do one for 40 years if people normally die at 70 in his country, but he can't do it for 100 or something of the like because that is unrealistic and probably won't happen.
    Also, as i said before i lived in the dahyeh for a while this summer and people that read articles like this think that everybody in it is in hizbullah and they are some giant cult running things. Yes there are a lot of people in it but there are also A LOT of people who aren't, and mutah is common amongst ALL the shia there, not just the ones that are in hizbullah.
    Mutah with prostitutes is not allowed under many marjas rulings, and hizbullah can't and wouldn't tell people they can do that too because they say so. In fact, hizbullah doesn't tell their followers to do anything of that nature, yes if they want to do mutah they can because its islamically acceptable, but hizbullah doesn't go around finding girls for people and encouraging them to engage in mutah. Honestly they have more important things to worry about :rolleyes:
    Anyway i never got through the article because its all BS, and made with the purpose of further making hizbullah look like some form of weird cult running lebanon to make people hate it.
    Keep in mind that however long there are girls willing to do mutah, there will be guys who do it with them, and i don't see women stopping what Allah swt has allowed for them, so this will go on for probably a long time. :)
    I posted this in another thread. They are liars and making things up. :)
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