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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Laraib in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Hello, that would be me :)
    Took a long time to get to this stage, from being completely opposed to the idea of sharing my husband, wanting him to be completely mine, to accepting that when i am not there there is no problem in satisfying his desires. Actually i encourage it.
    If that makes me some weird freakish female then so be it :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from forte in Salman Rushdie   
    Nice, splitting my post into two, LOL.
    I only have one thing to comment about, and its the bolded part. I think it's hilariousss that you claim that to be a characteristic of my posts when i find that YOU are the one that always does that. (Thread about iraqi youtube video comes to mind here).
    =)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Calm in Life before and after marriage   
    Not always. In a good marital relationship, the happy or advantages outcome is worth all the responsibilities that come along with marriage. There is not one answer to your question because it depends on more than one factor. It depends on the person's priorities in life , on how much can they handle responsibilities in return of advantages , and on the relationship in that marriage. Some people cannot handle responsibilities and thus they might prefer not to commit to it or if they commit to it they feel overwhelmed . Other people cannot share their life with someone else, they find it difficult to share their personal life and to become a half with another person they rather stay a whole in one person and thus marriage might not be 100% suitable to them. A large group of people want companionship, want to share their life with a loving person, want and long for a successful marriage and thus they don't mind the responsibilities and some sacrifices.
    If you ask me personally, I always say "A successful/happy marital life is much better than a successful/happy single life. A normal marital life is better than a normal single life. A bad/unhappy/dysfunctional marital life is worse than any sort of single life" .
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Shia & Proud in Salman Rushdie   
    Nice, splitting my post into two, LOL.
    I only have one thing to comment about, and its the bolded part. I think it's hilariousss that you claim that to be a characteristic of my posts when i find that YOU are the one that always does that. (Thread about iraqi youtube video comes to mind here).
    =)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from forte in Salman Rushdie   
    Nice reply. Here's mine. I used to feel the same way about you (what you said in your first paragraph), in that i treated you with respect even though i disagree with literally 19/20 of the posts you make on every topic possible on this board, but in my opinion you are starting to go too far to just sit by and let you say whatever u want about whomever you want as if you have the authority or knowledge to act the way you do.
    I couldn't care less whether people on this board think im intelligent or not, they aren't going to vouch for me on qiyamat nor will their opinions of me get me anywhere in this life.
    I usually ignore your posts instead of posting replies to them like i have done in this thread, but from now on i'm going to reply to them, because this site has gone on long enough with people like you and your little circle of friends posting on topics belittling people that still have an ounce of spirituality and love for shiasm and acting as if their beliefs are backward, outdated, and stupid.
    Anyway now that you know my opinion, i will let this thread go on about the actual topic at hand.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from forte in Salman Rushdie   
    Sorry, in response to you and shia & proud let me fix what i said in my post, i meant "nobody who deserves to be taken seriously cares about your opinion, and if they do then hopefully after reading your posts they will stop."
    :)
    Maybe when you start having respect for great scholars or even ordinary people, having respect AT ALL, people will start respecting you, (those that don't act like immature teenagers that is.)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Laraib in Muta Is Recommended?   
    ^ Let me tell you something. A man has a lot more important things to worry about a lot of the time than satisfying his already satisfied desires. In the case where the man is never satisfied and he needs to have mutah every time he is out of the house (everyday?) then that becomes difficult for him because the number of females out there that are also looking for mutah is limited.. and even if there is a lot of females, how is one to find them? The process of finding a female who is willing to engage in mutah is very difficult and time consuming, so if he is out looking for different types of sex partners so that he can have "variety" then he is most probably, IF he finds one girl, going to have to constantly engage with mutah with only her as well, which won't really be helpful for what he wants.
    Now as for my husband personally, he is the type of man that finds it extremely difficult to get attracted to/engage in intercourse with a women whom he doesn't have love/admiration/respect for, so he says he would rather just wait for me to be with him rather than engage in mutah, HOWEVER he has my full permission and encouragement to go out and engage in it, as much as he wants, if he feels like he needs it and can't abstain anymore.
    In the case where i am with him and he still wants to do mutah, obviously i would let him he if wanted to, but my husband and i have a very open, honest, trusting and loving relationship, that is why we can talk about and agree on these things to begin with, so if in this situation he wanted it we would first sit down and have a conversation about what the reasons are for him desiring to engage in it to begin with, is it something that is lacking in our own relationship that we can work on/fix? Talking and coming down to the bottom of the desire will either bring us to a solution to the problem with us or an agreement that he should engage in it in order for the problem to go away.
    Anyway the best way to live a happy life is to accept Allah swt's laws psychologically, not just using your tongue, convince yourself that this is halal for a reason, you don't want to be like aisha who got upset when the prophet wanted to marry again, but like his other wonderful wives who went looking for a wife for him.
    It is VERY difficult erasing the already embedded mindset that society forces you to believe, polygamy is bad, your husband should love only you and care for only you, he is only allowed to remarry if there is a very good reason, etc. But when you tell yourself you want to better yourself and come to terms with Allah swts laws it honestly completely sets your free, makes you feel better about yourself and make your relationship all the more stronger.
    Instead of making a fight with your husband and being angry and threatening divorce, pouting etc, why don't you sit down and have an honest talk with him about why he is doing what he is doing, what he hopes to get out of it, what he feels is missing in your relationship, etc. This might fix many problems in your relationship and bring you closer together, trust me you wont regret it.
    And finally lol, if my mother or any other close female relatives of mine saw that this is my opinion they would go crazy :D lol cuz they are still all about "womens rights" "your husband is scum if he marrys another" etc.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Bonafide Hustler in Salman Rushdie   
    Nice reply. Here's mine. I used to feel the same way about you (what you said in your first paragraph), in that i treated you with respect even though i disagree with literally 19/20 of the posts you make on every topic possible on this board, but in my opinion you are starting to go too far to just sit by and let you say whatever u want about whomever you want as if you have the authority or knowledge to act the way you do.
    I couldn't care less whether people on this board think im intelligent or not, they aren't going to vouch for me on qiyamat nor will their opinions of me get me anywhere in this life.
    I usually ignore your posts instead of posting replies to them like i have done in this thread, but from now on i'm going to reply to them, because this site has gone on long enough with people like you and your little circle of friends posting on topics belittling people that still have an ounce of spirituality and love for shiasm and acting as if their beliefs are backward, outdated, and stupid.
    Anyway now that you know my opinion, i will let this thread go on about the actual topic at hand.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Bonafide Hustler in Salman Rushdie   
    Nice, splitting my post into two, LOL.
    I only have one thing to comment about, and its the bolded part. I think it's hilariousss that you claim that to be a characteristic of my posts when i find that YOU are the one that always does that. (Thread about iraqi youtube video comes to mind here).
    =)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Mehvish in Salman Rushdie   
    Nice, splitting my post into two, LOL.
    I only have one thing to comment about, and its the bolded part. I think it's hilariousss that you claim that to be a characteristic of my posts when i find that YOU are the one that always does that. (Thread about iraqi youtube video comes to mind here).
    =)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Mehvish in Salman Rushdie   
    Nice reply. Here's mine. I used to feel the same way about you (what you said in your first paragraph), in that i treated you with respect even though i disagree with literally 19/20 of the posts you make on every topic possible on this board, but in my opinion you are starting to go too far to just sit by and let you say whatever u want about whomever you want as if you have the authority or knowledge to act the way you do.
    I couldn't care less whether people on this board think im intelligent or not, they aren't going to vouch for me on qiyamat nor will their opinions of me get me anywhere in this life.
    I usually ignore your posts instead of posting replies to them like i have done in this thread, but from now on i'm going to reply to them, because this site has gone on long enough with people like you and your little circle of friends posting on topics belittling people that still have an ounce of spirituality and love for shiasm and acting as if their beliefs are backward, outdated, and stupid.
    Anyway now that you know my opinion, i will let this thread go on about the actual topic at hand.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to shiasoldier786 in Salman Rushdie   
    Exactly
    Unfortunately Br Shabbir, teenagers on this website think that they are smarter than marjaas, who have dedicated their whole lives to islamic studies.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to A follower in Salman Rushdie   
    Here is a scenario, imagine you are a marja and a question is posed to you which you know will not go down with the public given the answer that Islam prescribes, what do you do?
    A- Brush it under the carpet and do not fulfil your duty of providing an answer of religious ruling.
    B- Fulfil your duty and answer the question regardless of the aftermath it may bring
    C- Give a diplomatic answer which is neither here or there.
    FYI, Imam Khomeini did not spoon feed it to the them via a death fatwa, people already knew that the book is not something we agree with however given the blasphemy contained within what is the duty of the Jurist in that regard and also in the aspect of apostasy, that is the answer which Imam Khomeini gave.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from sayedzeeshan in Salman Rushdie   
    ^ Too bad nobody cares about your opinion nor will it change the ruling. Actually it isn't too bad, its very good. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Bonafide Hustler in Salman Rushdie   
    ^ Too bad nobody cares about your opinion nor will it change the ruling. Actually it isn't too bad, its very good. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from shiasoldier786 in Salman Rushdie   
    ^ Too bad nobody cares about your opinion nor will it change the ruling. Actually it isn't too bad, its very good. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Shia & Proud in Salman Rushdie   
    ^ Too bad nobody cares about your opinion nor will it change the ruling. Actually it isn't too bad, its very good. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Haji 2003 in Salman Rushdie   
    ^ Too bad nobody cares about your opinion nor will it change the ruling. Actually it isn't too bad, its very good. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Last Chance in Salman Rushdie   
    ^ Too bad nobody cares about your opinion nor will it change the ruling. Actually it isn't too bad, its very good. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Doctor_Naqvi in Salman Rushdie   
    ^ Too bad nobody cares about your opinion nor will it change the ruling. Actually it isn't too bad, its very good. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Khamanei_Rahbar in KHUMAYNIS COFFIN   
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    WHAT HAPPENED?!?!?
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Doctor_Naqvi in KHUMAYNIS COFFIN   
    You're sick,man.Why are ya spouting garbage our here?You're disgracing eminent Scholars of Islam.At first,ya were disgracing Ayatollah Sistani and now you're showing Ur concerns regarding Imam Khomeni.Stop posting anti-Iranian stuff over here.Use Ur brain and remove this pic right now otherwise I'll report it to the Mods.I wonder,why there are so many drunkards up-here?Come to Ur senses.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to shiasoldier786 in sistani   
    How on Gods earth does going to the UK for medical purposes make one sell out to the USA. Do not associate the name of Imam Khamenai (HA) with your views.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to shiasoldier786 in sistani   
    and you should say Ayatollah Sistani (HA) not just call him by his name.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to guest 34193 in Muslim youth and Homosexuality   
    So based on what you sense of some guy's inconsistency from an internet forum you'd throw out a sahih hadith from your religion? And all the many others that affirm some form of capital punishment for this offense?
    As to my saying I don't advocate carrying out this verdict here that's me trying to be careful for the people reading this. The application of the hudud in general require the fulfillment of their proper conditions in being carried out that we, living in a country not ruled by Shari`a law, do not have. So, I want to be cautious that folks don't get the wrong idea from what I'm posting here that they aught to take the law in their own hands and go beat the crud out of some local queers. As to the law itself, it's pretty much undeniable if you have the least care about being honest to your religion. Or would you prefer to just ignore any objectivity to the evidence at hand and make up our own rules instead?
    We need only read this and the many other hadiths that lay out what Islam prescribes for the offense of lawat. It isn't really abstract and obtuse here, no matter how much you might like to obscure it.
    You can verfiy in Majlsi yourself if you like, but yes he lists it as sahih. Even if you ignore this one, you still have the multitude of others hadiths from our Imams (as), with different chains attached, that teach us the hudud for this crime. And of course you have what Allah tells us in His book about the people of Lut (as) and what happened to them.
    ?
    You can think whatever you like of me, but it's completely irrelevant to the issue at hand. As is the fact that the kuffar around you have become openly accepting of something Allah hates (even according to their own religion). Fact is, your religion prescribes this punishment for those who commit this offense. Now it's your choice to deal with that. It's not necessary to be able to carry out the full scope of the Law in order to learn a lesson from it. In this case, it's a crime for which a person may be executed, hence, we should understand from that there's no room for us to be softening up on it in terms of our own personal perspectives as to its gravity and consequences.
    See let me tell you something about myself in this regard. After I converted to Islam, this was one of the hardest issues I had to deal with. I don't mean the punishment for this, at that point I didn't really know about it, I mean the fact that this is even considered a sin. Not because of my own proclivities, but because my background was one that was very open and accepting of the gay lifestyle. My mother had a number of close male friends who were gay so I was exposed to it a fair bit, and add to that my own (at that time) more radical, leftist tendencies, and I was one who would strenuously (before it became the popular thing to do) argue for the acceptance of this. Come to Islam though, and I find it being strongly condemned. So, I had to make a choice. Do I believe in this religion or not? And if I do, then I have to actually accept that God knows way better than I do. Once He and His Messenger (pbuh) decree a law, I am nobody to object to it. And if I find myself with any disagreement in my heart about it, it's me who needs to change, not the Law as I am not the lawgiver. Fast forward now a decade and a half later and I don't have any issue with this law. Reason being was that once I put aside my own prejudices on the matter, accepted the authority of the religion's laws over us, and actually researched this issue, I came to realize that actually yes, this is a very serious crime that needs to be dealt with in a serious manner.
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