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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from seyed.ali in Qasr prayers when ill?   
    ^ listen. My passion is psychology and i read people really well. I am not stupid or ignorant, i can easily tell the difference between somebody who is asking questions because they genuinely want to know the answer, and between someone who keeps questioning things for the sake of it, to create argument, not to benefit.
    You can ask 1000 questions and be ignorant, and never ask any and be extremely intelligent. I don't know why i even reply to your posts, you always reply to me as if you are so innocent and just want to learn more about the religion and as if i am misjudging you, whereas every single one of your other posts has an entirely different tone.
    I honestly don't know why i bother. People will get bored of answering questions which you never accept sooner or later.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from seyed.ali in Qasr prayers when ill?   
    Oh my God. He's getting seriously annoying now, i can't stand to read any of his posts. He reminds me of an old member servidor.
    If you get up to pray when you are so sick, Allah swt will probably give you more hasanat and rewards than regularly praying with concentration. Why? Because you are basically telling him "this is difficult for me but you are so great and i love you so much that i will do my best to continue to do my daily worship of you and try my best to concentrate."
    I am willing to bet that 8/10 of your regular prayers are done with minimal to no concentration on the meaning behind it. But when it comes to being sick suddenly you have excuses about no being able to concentrate.
    I have in the past missed prayers because i was sick, so i am not saying i am immune to the pain of sickness and the difficulty of getting up to pray when you are ill in bed, HOWEVER this does not mean that i was right, and all that i said before still applies.
    If you are so ill that if you stand up you are so dizzy you need to sit back down or lay down again then fine, redo your prayers, but if you have 5 min of prayer strength in you, then get up and use up all of your energy and then collapse back on your bed afterward.
    Stop trying to change Gods law in order to fit what you want it to be. Your tiny limited mind is not more logical and knowledgeable than that of the prophet (SAWW).
    Geez.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Doctor_Naqvi in KHUMAYNIS COFFIN   
    Astaghfurallah al 3ali al 3athem.
    Allahuma 3ajel farajak ya imam al 3asr wal zaman.
    I just wish to ask those people posting in the thread that the OP posted, if Ahlulbayte (as) were to read the words that they are using and see the slander toward learned and devoted scholars (even if they think they AREN'T learned and devoted scholars, to just ordinary people!) what would they think? Would they be happy with the way they are talking? Would they be happy with their akhlaq?
    People need to wake up. They think that having love for Ahlulbayte (as) is enough, but they are SO wrong. If they truly loved them they would act like them, emulate them, not belittle their reputation by claiming to be their followers buy acting like kaffirs.
    May Allah swt guide us all to the straight path.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Abu 3antar in am i allowed 2 marry a syed   
    yes. end of discussion.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from lalala123 in A Pious Sunni Vs. Carefree Shia   
    Salam
    ^That is very kind of you brother, saving a shia rose from marrying somebody who loves the killers of the prophet and his family members.
    Wasalam =)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Marbles in Muta Is Recommended?   
    You raise very good and intelligent points. All that you have stated is true, and it is a complicated situation that occurred that caused for such a drastic change, even i think it is a weird situation that brought us to this place, but to answer your question that you asked me at the end, the answer is both.
    If he wasn't interested at all in doing a mutah now (as he was just a few weeks ago, when i was trying to encourage him to do it) then the answer would be my needs, and it would be very unhealthy for him to do it against his will just to please me, and many other problems. But he WANTS to do it now, it isn't me pressuring at all or forcing or playing with his mind, so no harm inshallah will be done.
    As for him growing emotionally attached to her, i can understand why you would think this might happen because it is natural for it to, but i have very good reason to know that it wont, and we have already discussed and went over all potential problems that might arise from this, before making the decision that it really is going to happen and he should go ahead with it.
    I really appreciate you disagreeing respectfully and questioning my logic rather than attacking it, as ive grown used to seeing on the site, it was really nice of you. :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Mehvish in Muta Is Recommended?   
    I don't recall ever saying how long ive been in the relationship for, and even if i was 16, maybe i got engaged when i was 12, maybe im 18 and got engaged at 14, you shouldn't have any idea how long ive been in this relationship for, but you do.
    Are you going to tell the board who you really are yet, or are you going to carry on pretending? :)
  8. Disagree
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Mehvish in Muta Is Recommended?   
    You raise very good and intelligent points. All that you have stated is true, and it is a complicated situation that occurred that caused for such a drastic change, even i think it is a weird situation that brought us to this place, but to answer your question that you asked me at the end, the answer is both.
    If he wasn't interested at all in doing a mutah now (as he was just a few weeks ago, when i was trying to encourage him to do it) then the answer would be my needs, and it would be very unhealthy for him to do it against his will just to please me, and many other problems. But he WANTS to do it now, it isn't me pressuring at all or forcing or playing with his mind, so no harm inshallah will be done.
    As for him growing emotionally attached to her, i can understand why you would think this might happen because it is natural for it to, but i have very good reason to know that it wont, and we have already discussed and went over all potential problems that might arise from this, before making the decision that it really is going to happen and he should go ahead with it.
    I really appreciate you disagreeing respectfully and questioning my logic rather than attacking it, as ive grown used to seeing on the site, it was really nice of you. :)
  9. Disagree
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Aafreen in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Not that you would be married to a guy, since you are one, but since you are continuing to pretend, you have been in a polygamous relationship, so you can better advise the young sisters on how it is? My life circumstances have changed since i wrote that post. My husband is in the process of engaging in mutah, he has found and is speaking to the girl, and we are only waiting for her approval. I have encouraged him to do this and gradually he became more accepting of it because it is a sunnah of ahlulbayte (as) and will better keep his desires at bay if he is fulfilling them in my absence, rather than getting urges to fulfill them another way.
    And since you want to get into psychology rather than solely what Islam preaches, it makes more sense for a girl to be jealous and protective of her husband/fiance in the early stages of marriage when the honeymoon period is still occurring, more than years later when they have fallen into a routine and don't express their love and affection as often as they used to. A female that is opposed to sharing her husband and polygamy will have an equal hatred for it and opposition toward it in both early and later stages of marriage, similarly a female who is accepting of it will too.
    What is halal in all situations will remain that way whether the culture has brainwashed people into being against the concept or not.
    Now i just want to make one more point. I am disappointed in myself for even replying to you in this thread because i told myself i wouldn't reply again, but here it is, for those that are acting as if i am telling sisters to let their husband go out and marry as many women as they want and sleep around 24/7 and that this is a normal part of life, you CLEARLY have not read my post correctly.
    My post is a reflection of what is correct, it is an example of a mixture between Islamic teachings and modern day life. Those who are unable to see that have begun, to begin with, reading the post with a closed mind that is only allowing them to take from it what they expect to, not what is actually there.
    People always say: i agree with polygamy, i cant be against it, its an Islamic practice, i just personally wouldn't like to be involved in one. But then when you see somebody that is involved in one or wants to be you start to attack them and try to convince them that they are immature, don't know what they are doing, lost, inexperienced, and will have lots of problems in life because of it.
    I KNOW that i won't have lots of problems in life because i am living by Islamic principles, and those of you who don't agree with practicing it will probably have a good life as well, but i can't guarantee that you will have a good akhira, because you are verbally going against what Allah swt has made halal and degrading it, and degrading those who choose to live by it, and that certainly will not make Allah swt happy with you.
    The majority of shiachat today is so far from the Islamic lifestyle that they have begun to view their way of life as the optimal, and the islamic as the not so good. I pray for these people to see the light, insha'Allah i am trying to do my duty to wake them up, but apparently they don't wish to be, judging by the rep points on my posts and those that agree with me.
    The reappearance of our imam is soon insha'Allah.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Maryaam in Muta Is Recommended?   
    You raise very good and intelligent points. All that you have stated is true, and it is a complicated situation that occurred that caused for such a drastic change, even i think it is a weird situation that brought us to this place, but to answer your question that you asked me at the end, the answer is both.
    If he wasn't interested at all in doing a mutah now (as he was just a few weeks ago, when i was trying to encourage him to do it) then the answer would be my needs, and it would be very unhealthy for him to do it against his will just to please me, and many other problems. But he WANTS to do it now, it isn't me pressuring at all or forcing or playing with his mind, so no harm inshallah will be done.
    As for him growing emotionally attached to her, i can understand why you would think this might happen because it is natural for it to, but i have very good reason to know that it wont, and we have already discussed and went over all potential problems that might arise from this, before making the decision that it really is going to happen and he should go ahead with it.
    I really appreciate you disagreeing respectfully and questioning my logic rather than attacking it, as ive grown used to seeing on the site, it was really nice of you. :)
  11. Like
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Doctor_Naqvi in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Not that you would be married to a guy, since you are one, but since you are continuing to pretend, you have been in a polygamous relationship, so you can better advise the young sisters on how it is? My life circumstances have changed since i wrote that post. My husband is in the process of engaging in mutah, he has found and is speaking to the girl, and we are only waiting for her approval. I have encouraged him to do this and gradually he became more accepting of it because it is a sunnah of ahlulbayte (as) and will better keep his desires at bay if he is fulfilling them in my absence, rather than getting urges to fulfill them another way.
    And since you want to get into psychology rather than solely what Islam preaches, it makes more sense for a girl to be jealous and protective of her husband/fiance in the early stages of marriage when the honeymoon period is still occurring, more than years later when they have fallen into a routine and don't express their love and affection as often as they used to. A female that is opposed to sharing her husband and polygamy will have an equal hatred for it and opposition toward it in both early and later stages of marriage, similarly a female who is accepting of it will too.
    What is halal in all situations will remain that way whether the culture has brainwashed people into being against the concept or not.
    Now i just want to make one more point. I am disappointed in myself for even replying to you in this thread because i told myself i wouldn't reply again, but here it is, for those that are acting as if i am telling sisters to let their husband go out and marry as many women as they want and sleep around 24/7 and that this is a normal part of life, you CLEARLY have not read my post correctly.
    My post is a reflection of what is correct, it is an example of a mixture between Islamic teachings and modern day life. Those who are unable to see that have begun, to begin with, reading the post with a closed mind that is only allowing them to take from it what they expect to, not what is actually there.
    People always say: i agree with polygamy, i cant be against it, its an Islamic practice, i just personally wouldn't like to be involved in one. But then when you see somebody that is involved in one or wants to be you start to attack them and try to convince them that they are immature, don't know what they are doing, lost, inexperienced, and will have lots of problems in life because of it.
    I KNOW that i won't have lots of problems in life because i am living by Islamic principles, and those of you who don't agree with practicing it will probably have a good life as well, but i can't guarantee that you will have a good akhira, because you are verbally going against what Allah swt has made halal and degrading it, and degrading those who choose to live by it, and that certainly will not make Allah swt happy with you.
    The majority of shiachat today is so far from the Islamic lifestyle that they have begun to view their way of life as the optimal, and the islamic as the not so good. I pray for these people to see the light, insha'Allah i am trying to do my duty to wake them up, but apparently they don't wish to be, judging by the rep points on my posts and those that agree with me.
    The reappearance of our imam is soon insha'Allah.
  12. Like
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Ali Abdul-Hussain in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Not that you would be married to a guy, since you are one, but since you are continuing to pretend, you have been in a polygamous relationship, so you can better advise the young sisters on how it is? My life circumstances have changed since i wrote that post. My husband is in the process of engaging in mutah, he has found and is speaking to the girl, and we are only waiting for her approval. I have encouraged him to do this and gradually he became more accepting of it because it is a sunnah of ahlulbayte (as) and will better keep his desires at bay if he is fulfilling them in my absence, rather than getting urges to fulfill them another way.
    And since you want to get into psychology rather than solely what Islam preaches, it makes more sense for a girl to be jealous and protective of her husband/fiance in the early stages of marriage when the honeymoon period is still occurring, more than years later when they have fallen into a routine and don't express their love and affection as often as they used to. A female that is opposed to sharing her husband and polygamy will have an equal hatred for it and opposition toward it in both early and later stages of marriage, similarly a female who is accepting of it will too.
    What is halal in all situations will remain that way whether the culture has brainwashed people into being against the concept or not.
    Now i just want to make one more point. I am disappointed in myself for even replying to you in this thread because i told myself i wouldn't reply again, but here it is, for those that are acting as if i am telling sisters to let their husband go out and marry as many women as they want and sleep around 24/7 and that this is a normal part of life, you CLEARLY have not read my post correctly.
    My post is a reflection of what is correct, it is an example of a mixture between Islamic teachings and modern day life. Those who are unable to see that have begun, to begin with, reading the post with a closed mind that is only allowing them to take from it what they expect to, not what is actually there.
    People always say: i agree with polygamy, i cant be against it, its an Islamic practice, i just personally wouldn't like to be involved in one. But then when you see somebody that is involved in one or wants to be you start to attack them and try to convince them that they are immature, don't know what they are doing, lost, inexperienced, and will have lots of problems in life because of it.
    I KNOW that i won't have lots of problems in life because i am living by Islamic principles, and those of you who don't agree with practicing it will probably have a good life as well, but i can't guarantee that you will have a good akhira, because you are verbally going against what Allah swt has made halal and degrading it, and degrading those who choose to live by it, and that certainly will not make Allah swt happy with you.
    The majority of shiachat today is so far from the Islamic lifestyle that they have begun to view their way of life as the optimal, and the islamic as the not so good. I pray for these people to see the light, insha'Allah i am trying to do my duty to wake them up, but apparently they don't wish to be, judging by the rep points on my posts and those that agree with me.
    The reappearance of our imam is soon insha'Allah.
  13. Like
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Laraib in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Not that you would be married to a guy, since you are one, but since you are continuing to pretend, you have been in a polygamous relationship, so you can better advise the young sisters on how it is? My life circumstances have changed since i wrote that post. My husband is in the process of engaging in mutah, he has found and is speaking to the girl, and we are only waiting for her approval. I have encouraged him to do this and gradually he became more accepting of it because it is a sunnah of ahlulbayte (as) and will better keep his desires at bay if he is fulfilling them in my absence, rather than getting urges to fulfill them another way.
    And since you want to get into psychology rather than solely what Islam preaches, it makes more sense for a girl to be jealous and protective of her husband/fiance in the early stages of marriage when the honeymoon period is still occurring, more than years later when they have fallen into a routine and don't express their love and affection as often as they used to. A female that is opposed to sharing her husband and polygamy will have an equal hatred for it and opposition toward it in both early and later stages of marriage, similarly a female who is accepting of it will too.
    What is halal in all situations will remain that way whether the culture has brainwashed people into being against the concept or not.
    Now i just want to make one more point. I am disappointed in myself for even replying to you in this thread because i told myself i wouldn't reply again, but here it is, for those that are acting as if i am telling sisters to let their husband go out and marry as many women as they want and sleep around 24/7 and that this is a normal part of life, you CLEARLY have not read my post correctly.
    My post is a reflection of what is correct, it is an example of a mixture between Islamic teachings and modern day life. Those who are unable to see that have begun, to begin with, reading the post with a closed mind that is only allowing them to take from it what they expect to, not what is actually there.
    People always say: i agree with polygamy, i cant be against it, its an Islamic practice, i just personally wouldn't like to be involved in one. But then when you see somebody that is involved in one or wants to be you start to attack them and try to convince them that they are immature, don't know what they are doing, lost, inexperienced, and will have lots of problems in life because of it.
    I KNOW that i won't have lots of problems in life because i am living by Islamic principles, and those of you who don't agree with practicing it will probably have a good life as well, but i can't guarantee that you will have a good akhira, because you are verbally going against what Allah swt has made halal and degrading it, and degrading those who choose to live by it, and that certainly will not make Allah swt happy with you.
    The majority of shiachat today is so far from the Islamic lifestyle that they have begun to view their way of life as the optimal, and the islamic as the not so good. I pray for these people to see the light, insha'Allah i am trying to do my duty to wake them up, but apparently they don't wish to be, judging by the rep points on my posts and those that agree with me.
    The reappearance of our imam is soon insha'Allah.
  14. Like
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Laraib in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Didn't bother to read your entire post.
    Just want everybody here to know that whoever thinks im speaking in theoretical terms, im not, im experiencing it RIGHT NOW.
    Feel like asking my husband to register just so you all can see that its reality, but i don't think i care enough. I made the points i wanted to, whoever wants to benefit from it, great, whoever doesn't, hopefully hasn't lost anything.
  15. Disagree
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Maryaam in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Not that you would be married to a guy, since you are one, but since you are continuing to pretend, you have been in a polygamous relationship, so you can better advise the young sisters on how it is? My life circumstances have changed since i wrote that post. My husband is in the process of engaging in mutah, he has found and is speaking to the girl, and we are only waiting for her approval. I have encouraged him to do this and gradually he became more accepting of it because it is a sunnah of ahlulbayte (as) and will better keep his desires at bay if he is fulfilling them in my absence, rather than getting urges to fulfill them another way.
    And since you want to get into psychology rather than solely what Islam preaches, it makes more sense for a girl to be jealous and protective of her husband/fiance in the early stages of marriage when the honeymoon period is still occurring, more than years later when they have fallen into a routine and don't express their love and affection as often as they used to. A female that is opposed to sharing her husband and polygamy will have an equal hatred for it and opposition toward it in both early and later stages of marriage, similarly a female who is accepting of it will too.
    What is halal in all situations will remain that way whether the culture has brainwashed people into being against the concept or not.
    Now i just want to make one more point. I am disappointed in myself for even replying to you in this thread because i told myself i wouldn't reply again, but here it is, for those that are acting as if i am telling sisters to let their husband go out and marry as many women as they want and sleep around 24/7 and that this is a normal part of life, you CLEARLY have not read my post correctly.
    My post is a reflection of what is correct, it is an example of a mixture between Islamic teachings and modern day life. Those who are unable to see that have begun, to begin with, reading the post with a closed mind that is only allowing them to take from it what they expect to, not what is actually there.
    People always say: i agree with polygamy, i cant be against it, its an Islamic practice, i just personally wouldn't like to be involved in one. But then when you see somebody that is involved in one or wants to be you start to attack them and try to convince them that they are immature, don't know what they are doing, lost, inexperienced, and will have lots of problems in life because of it.
    I KNOW that i won't have lots of problems in life because i am living by Islamic principles, and those of you who don't agree with practicing it will probably have a good life as well, but i can't guarantee that you will have a good akhira, because you are verbally going against what Allah swt has made halal and degrading it, and degrading those who choose to live by it, and that certainly will not make Allah swt happy with you.
    The majority of shiachat today is so far from the Islamic lifestyle that they have begun to view their way of life as the optimal, and the islamic as the not so good. I pray for these people to see the light, insha'Allah i am trying to do my duty to wake them up, but apparently they don't wish to be, judging by the rep points on my posts and those that agree with me.
    The reappearance of our imam is soon insha'Allah.
  16. Like
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Laraib in Muta Is Recommended?   
    ^ Let me tell you something. A man has a lot more important things to worry about a lot of the time than satisfying his already satisfied desires. In the case where the man is never satisfied and he needs to have mutah every time he is out of the house (everyday?) then that becomes difficult for him because the number of females out there that are also looking for mutah is limited.. and even if there is a lot of females, how is one to find them? The process of finding a female who is willing to engage in mutah is very difficult and time consuming, so if he is out looking for different types of sex partners so that he can have "variety" then he is most probably, IF he finds one girl, going to have to constantly engage with mutah with only her as well, which won't really be helpful for what he wants.
    Now as for my husband personally, he is the type of man that finds it extremely difficult to get attracted to/engage in intercourse with a women whom he doesn't have love/admiration/respect for, so he says he would rather just wait for me to be with him rather than engage in mutah, HOWEVER he has my full permission and encouragement to go out and engage in it, as much as he wants, if he feels like he needs it and can't abstain anymore.
    In the case where i am with him and he still wants to do mutah, obviously i would let him he if wanted to, but my husband and i have a very open, honest, trusting and loving relationship, that is why we can talk about and agree on these things to begin with, so if in this situation he wanted it we would first sit down and have a conversation about what the reasons are for him desiring to engage in it to begin with, is it something that is lacking in our own relationship that we can work on/fix? Talking and coming down to the bottom of the desire will either bring us to a solution to the problem with us or an agreement that he should engage in it in order for the problem to go away.
    Anyway the best way to live a happy life is to accept Allah swt's laws psychologically, not just using your tongue, convince yourself that this is halal for a reason, you don't want to be like aisha who got upset when the prophet wanted to marry again, but like his other wonderful wives who went looking for a wife for him.
    It is VERY difficult erasing the already embedded mindset that society forces you to believe, polygamy is bad, your husband should love only you and care for only you, he is only allowed to remarry if there is a very good reason, etc. But when you tell yourself you want to better yourself and come to terms with Allah swts laws it honestly completely sets your free, makes you feel better about yourself and make your relationship all the more stronger.
    Instead of making a fight with your husband and being angry and threatening divorce, pouting etc, why don't you sit down and have an honest talk with him about why he is doing what he is doing, what he hopes to get out of it, what he feels is missing in your relationship, etc. This might fix many problems in your relationship and bring you closer together, trust me you wont regret it.
    And finally lol, if my mother or any other close female relatives of mine saw that this is my opinion they would go crazy :D lol cuz they are still all about "womens rights" "your husband is scum if he marrys another" etc.
  17. Like
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Laraib in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Hello, that would be me :)
    Took a long time to get to this stage, from being completely opposed to the idea of sharing my husband, wanting him to be completely mine, to accepting that when i am not there there is no problem in satisfying his desires. Actually i encourage it.
    If that makes me some weird freakish female then so be it :)
  18. Disagree
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Bonafide Hustler in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Not that you would be married to a guy, since you are one, but since you are continuing to pretend, you have been in a polygamous relationship, so you can better advise the young sisters on how it is? My life circumstances have changed since i wrote that post. My husband is in the process of engaging in mutah, he has found and is speaking to the girl, and we are only waiting for her approval. I have encouraged him to do this and gradually he became more accepting of it because it is a sunnah of ahlulbayte (as) and will better keep his desires at bay if he is fulfilling them in my absence, rather than getting urges to fulfill them another way.
    And since you want to get into psychology rather than solely what Islam preaches, it makes more sense for a girl to be jealous and protective of her husband/fiance in the early stages of marriage when the honeymoon period is still occurring, more than years later when they have fallen into a routine and don't express their love and affection as often as they used to. A female that is opposed to sharing her husband and polygamy will have an equal hatred for it and opposition toward it in both early and later stages of marriage, similarly a female who is accepting of it will too.
    What is halal in all situations will remain that way whether the culture has brainwashed people into being against the concept or not.
    Now i just want to make one more point. I am disappointed in myself for even replying to you in this thread because i told myself i wouldn't reply again, but here it is, for those that are acting as if i am telling sisters to let their husband go out and marry as many women as they want and sleep around 24/7 and that this is a normal part of life, you CLEARLY have not read my post correctly.
    My post is a reflection of what is correct, it is an example of a mixture between Islamic teachings and modern day life. Those who are unable to see that have begun, to begin with, reading the post with a closed mind that is only allowing them to take from it what they expect to, not what is actually there.
    People always say: i agree with polygamy, i cant be against it, its an Islamic practice, i just personally wouldn't like to be involved in one. But then when you see somebody that is involved in one or wants to be you start to attack them and try to convince them that they are immature, don't know what they are doing, lost, inexperienced, and will have lots of problems in life because of it.
    I KNOW that i won't have lots of problems in life because i am living by Islamic principles, and those of you who don't agree with practicing it will probably have a good life as well, but i can't guarantee that you will have a good akhira, because you are verbally going against what Allah swt has made halal and degrading it, and degrading those who choose to live by it, and that certainly will not make Allah swt happy with you.
    The majority of shiachat today is so far from the Islamic lifestyle that they have begun to view their way of life as the optimal, and the islamic as the not so good. I pray for these people to see the light, insha'Allah i am trying to do my duty to wake them up, but apparently they don't wish to be, judging by the rep points on my posts and those that agree with me.
    The reappearance of our imam is soon insha'Allah.
  19. Disagree
    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Mehvish in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Not that you would be married to a guy, since you are one, but since you are continuing to pretend, you have been in a polygamous relationship, so you can better advise the young sisters on how it is? My life circumstances have changed since i wrote that post. My husband is in the process of engaging in mutah, he has found and is speaking to the girl, and we are only waiting for her approval. I have encouraged him to do this and gradually he became more accepting of it because it is a sunnah of ahlulbayte (as) and will better keep his desires at bay if he is fulfilling them in my absence, rather than getting urges to fulfill them another way.
    And since you want to get into psychology rather than solely what Islam preaches, it makes more sense for a girl to be jealous and protective of her husband/fiance in the early stages of marriage when the honeymoon period is still occurring, more than years later when they have fallen into a routine and don't express their love and affection as often as they used to. A female that is opposed to sharing her husband and polygamy will have an equal hatred for it and opposition toward it in both early and later stages of marriage, similarly a female who is accepting of it will too.
    What is halal in all situations will remain that way whether the culture has brainwashed people into being against the concept or not.
    Now i just want to make one more point. I am disappointed in myself for even replying to you in this thread because i told myself i wouldn't reply again, but here it is, for those that are acting as if i am telling sisters to let their husband go out and marry as many women as they want and sleep around 24/7 and that this is a normal part of life, you CLEARLY have not read my post correctly.
    My post is a reflection of what is correct, it is an example of a mixture between Islamic teachings and modern day life. Those who are unable to see that have begun, to begin with, reading the post with a closed mind that is only allowing them to take from it what they expect to, not what is actually there.
    People always say: i agree with polygamy, i cant be against it, its an Islamic practice, i just personally wouldn't like to be involved in one. But then when you see somebody that is involved in one or wants to be you start to attack them and try to convince them that they are immature, don't know what they are doing, lost, inexperienced, and will have lots of problems in life because of it.
    I KNOW that i won't have lots of problems in life because i am living by Islamic principles, and those of you who don't agree with practicing it will probably have a good life as well, but i can't guarantee that you will have a good akhira, because you are verbally going against what Allah swt has made halal and degrading it, and degrading those who choose to live by it, and that certainly will not make Allah swt happy with you.
    The majority of shiachat today is so far from the Islamic lifestyle that they have begun to view their way of life as the optimal, and the islamic as the not so good. I pray for these people to see the light, insha'Allah i am trying to do my duty to wake them up, but apparently they don't wish to be, judging by the rep points on my posts and those that agree with me.
    The reappearance of our imam is soon insha'Allah.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul reacted to Maryaam in Bad Situation with Younger Brother   
    From what I can tell from your post:
    I would not say anything to your parents before you let your brother know...and even then it is up to him to choose to tell them as he is an adult and will make his own decisions. I also would not try t to coherce him into telling them - what is the point? Having the family "keep a better eye" on him will not change things at this point and may make it worse if he is rebelling. It will also upset your parents terribly. I dont think it would be constructive.
    I would tell him that you know - but try very hard not to verbally or non-verbally judge or condemn him or say how disappointed you are or enforce that he has let the family down. He has probably covered all these areas himself and knows how you feel anyway - let him have what is left of his dignity (and this may be as an obnoxious <bleep> at first. Just listen if he wants to talk to you and let him know that you are available. Dont bring it up again - so he knows he can talk to you about other things safely. If he can come to trust that you still love and support him he may find solace and strength to help you guide him on a better path. This could be a great opportunity if you play it right and are not intrusive. He may come to drop the act and be real with you - be patient, this could take time.
    I think this is the best way as people ususually only follow the advice they request .
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Shay in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Hello, that would be me :)
    Took a long time to get to this stage, from being completely opposed to the idea of sharing my husband, wanting him to be completely mine, to accepting that when i am not there there is no problem in satisfying his desires. Actually i encourage it.
    If that makes me some weird freakish female then so be it :)
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Shay in Muta Is Recommended?   
    ^ Let me tell you something. A man has a lot more important things to worry about a lot of the time than satisfying his already satisfied desires. In the case where the man is never satisfied and he needs to have mutah every time he is out of the house (everyday?) then that becomes difficult for him because the number of females out there that are also looking for mutah is limited.. and even if there is a lot of females, how is one to find them? The process of finding a female who is willing to engage in mutah is very difficult and time consuming, so if he is out looking for different types of sex partners so that he can have "variety" then he is most probably, IF he finds one girl, going to have to constantly engage with mutah with only her as well, which won't really be helpful for what he wants.
    Now as for my husband personally, he is the type of man that finds it extremely difficult to get attracted to/engage in intercourse with a women whom he doesn't have love/admiration/respect for, so he says he would rather just wait for me to be with him rather than engage in mutah, HOWEVER he has my full permission and encouragement to go out and engage in it, as much as he wants, if he feels like he needs it and can't abstain anymore.
    In the case where i am with him and he still wants to do mutah, obviously i would let him he if wanted to, but my husband and i have a very open, honest, trusting and loving relationship, that is why we can talk about and agree on these things to begin with, so if in this situation he wanted it we would first sit down and have a conversation about what the reasons are for him desiring to engage in it to begin with, is it something that is lacking in our own relationship that we can work on/fix? Talking and coming down to the bottom of the desire will either bring us to a solution to the problem with us or an agreement that he should engage in it in order for the problem to go away.
    Anyway the best way to live a happy life is to accept Allah swt's laws psychologically, not just using your tongue, convince yourself that this is halal for a reason, you don't want to be like aisha who got upset when the prophet wanted to marry again, but like his other wonderful wives who went looking for a wife for him.
    It is VERY difficult erasing the already embedded mindset that society forces you to believe, polygamy is bad, your husband should love only you and care for only you, he is only allowed to remarry if there is a very good reason, etc. But when you tell yourself you want to better yourself and come to terms with Allah swts laws it honestly completely sets your free, makes you feel better about yourself and make your relationship all the more stronger.
    Instead of making a fight with your husband and being angry and threatening divorce, pouting etc, why don't you sit down and have an honest talk with him about why he is doing what he is doing, what he hopes to get out of it, what he feels is missing in your relationship, etc. This might fix many problems in your relationship and bring you closer together, trust me you wont regret it.
    And finally lol, if my mother or any other close female relatives of mine saw that this is my opinion they would go crazy :D lol cuz they are still all about "womens rights" "your husband is scum if he marrys another" etc.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Shay in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Didn't bother to read your entire post.
    Just want everybody here to know that whoever thinks im speaking in theoretical terms, im not, im experiencing it RIGHT NOW.
    Feel like asking my husband to register just so you all can see that its reality, but i don't think i care enough. I made the points i wanted to, whoever wants to benefit from it, great, whoever doesn't, hopefully hasn't lost anything.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from learniilm in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Didn't bother to read your entire post.
    Just want everybody here to know that whoever thinks im speaking in theoretical terms, im not, im experiencing it RIGHT NOW.
    Feel like asking my husband to register just so you all can see that its reality, but i don't think i care enough. I made the points i wanted to, whoever wants to benefit from it, great, whoever doesn't, hopefully hasn't lost anything.
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    3ashiqat-Al-Batoul got a reaction from Rashida in Muta Is Recommended?   
    Didn't bother to read your entire post.
    Just want everybody here to know that whoever thinks im speaking in theoretical terms, im not, im experiencing it RIGHT NOW.
    Feel like asking my husband to register just so you all can see that its reality, but i don't think i care enough. I made the points i wanted to, whoever wants to benefit from it, great, whoever doesn't, hopefully hasn't lost anything.
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