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3ashiqat-Al-Batoul

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  1. I'm writing a research paper this weekend about Israels illegal settlements. My professor was Canadian ambassador for Palestine, Israel, Jordon, Syria, and was in Lebanon for a while as well. He lived in the ME for 30 years and is honestly the least biased Canadian i've ever met, although there are some minor issues that I disagree with him on. Here's an interview where he talks a little about the settlement issue: http://watch.ctv.ca/news/latest/middle-east/#clip279131
  2. I agree that most if not all holidays are ways for companies to make money from consumers, I don't think anybody can deny that. BUT, just like there is a day for people to celebrate their birthday, there are days to celebrate other things like love. And you don't have to spend a lot of money, or any at all if you don't want to. You can have a home cooked dinner with candles, dress nicely, etc with your spouse. Most days we're so busy school/work/raising kids/cleaning house, etc etc we barely have time to sit and talk to our husband/wife. So setting aside a day to celebrate your love is a very good idea. Doing this continuously several times a year is even better, but if you cant, Valentines day is a good day to put everything aside and express love for each other.
  3. ^ LOL wow! Its also annoying when you yourself completely misread something and have several posts based on the misread information :lol: Thank you for that, that's what i thought. Now for those wondering, Sayed Khamenei does require the area under the chin to be covered! Wasalam. :)
  4. I love how two members in this thread are only able to read one half of a sentence, and completely ignore the other half which is right after the comma one of them even quoted. I think its hilarious how the sentence they are quoting is exactly what i have been saying this entire time, but in "nicer" words, so somehow now its acceptable. You people act like little emotional kids.
  5. The votes between males are about to become even. This is interesting
  6. ^ Burqah isn't the only form of hijab. You can wear pants and a loose long shirt with a normal hijab, and u can wear those in formal clothes. That isn't even close to being a good enough excuse to remove your hijab. :S
  7. Ok, that bug was disgusting and horrible. I have a feeling that was your intention so thanks a lot And yes it was like that, but it was black and thicker :unsure: Ive seen creatures like it before, but never so thick. It was strange and fearless and wanted to attack me. I think certain people on this board should have some RAHMA and stop cursing me :mad: Anyway, nobody has really answered my question? Why is it that so many people are afraid of them, not just disgusted by them or sickened, but actually afraid? And why is it that more females are than males are, females are just as capable of killing them and just as much bigger than them as males are.
  8. ^ http://english.bayynat.org.lb/Jurisprudence/sex.htm This one works.
  9. ^ That post kinda makes me less sympathetic, but nonetheless everything i said before holds true. Good luck to you too. :)
  10. ^ That post was very emotional and you can't imagine the pain I feel for you right now. I don't even want to imagine being in that type of situation, because just imagining that I would have to live that way hurts my heart, let alone having to actually experience it. Sister, all that has happened to you in your life, and your patience and raising your kids as religious good humans will lead you to jannah, all you have to do is end the relationship with this other man. I know how hard it must be, somebody caring for you and loving you for 4 years when you had absolutely nobody else, It will probably kill your heart to have to let go of that, but it is the only way. You can be held in such a high esteem in front of Allah swt. You can't begin to imagine the status of the oppressed, especially the one that shows patience and never stops having hope and faith in Allah swt. You don't have to remain in this situation. If the only reason your husband changed is to make himself appear nicer in front of others, and there's no chance of him actually going to counseling and fixing what has been broken, I advice you to go to a psychologist yourself and try to sort out all the emotional scars you have. The psychologist can give you the relief that this other man has been given you, without causing you more problems and making you feel guilty your entire life for doing something haram. You can be free of all of this pain, you can move forward and either learn to live happily within your situation, or accept that divorce is the only option and leave the marriage with dignity. You should not tell anybody that you were with another man however, and you must in fact move forward as if there was never another man, and truly repent before Allah swt for what you have done and never go back to that situation. You have obviously seen in my other posts what cheating means and how big of a sin and horrible it is. But this doesn't mean there is no hope like you said before, there is hope. You just need to take that step toward Allah swt, let go of this sin that you are committing, make this step and inshallah Allah swt will take the 10 promised steps toward you. Your life can and will get better, you just need to move forward. If you truly want to love your husband again that is an option, but you really do need counseling. I wish you the best, and please please take my advice about the cheating subject, it is crucial.
  11. I deleted my previous post due to a typo, i meant to say: Watch this, its an excellent movie. You truly wont regret it: http://www.youtube.c...h?v=_zTHefv17N0
  12. ^ That's interesting. I think its extremely annoying when different representatives give different answers. That happened with an issue that was a lot bigger in the past with Sayed Khamenei, and because I had already acted on the previous fatwa believing it was correct the other Rep (who was a scholar himself) said it was valid, but that in normal conditions doing so was wrong.
  13. I actually looked into that a few years ago, i send the question to both Sayed Sistani and Sayed Khamenei, Sistani replied that it is not obligatory to cover that area and Khamenei replied it is. Where did you hear that it is?
  14. Salam So I just have an encounter with one of those long, many legged, thick "bugs". I was sitting here minding my own business on an area with many couches stuck together at my university, and all of a sudden i see this bug creature thing coming toward me very quickly on the couch beside me, so i have a panic attack and get up quickly, try to figure out a way to get rid of it, and go behind the couch and pull it back so that it isn't touching anything around it. I then stand back to see if the thing will show up, and i see it crawling very quickly toward me on the ground. I thought bugs were supposed to be afraid of people? :unsure: Anyway, my question is: Why are there so many people that are terrified of small creatures that we are able to crush very easily? Is there an evolutionary reason? I would also like to see the ratio of male/female that have this irrational fear, so please also vote in the poll. Thanks, Wasalam
  15. In this thread she never said "I have committed adultery" but if you are going to say that i am assuming this based on nothing, then here you are wrong. I was following her conversations (or rather attacks) against members who wrote on this topic a few days ago and on one of their walls she wrote about her physical relationship, admitting it but not stating it. So I think in that she hasn't explicitly stated she has committed adultery you are right here. And so none of the shariah punishments (had they been eligible to be implemented) would be implemented unless she stated it clearly, 4 times. So I am going to take back the "fact" that she would be stoned, and just state that, had she gone to the imams and told them she was committing adultery she would be stoned. That is fact, nobody can disagree, but whether or not she is committing adultery, she only knows. so tlady, if you are, then if you went to the Prophet or Aimmah and admit it, they wouldn't speak to you in words like i did, they would order you be stoned. If you aren't committing adultery, and just engaging in an emotional relationship then your position in front of Allah swt is a lot less severe, and insha'Allah it will be easier for you to get out of the haram situation and repent. I don't really get what you are saying here. I haven't made up any punishments or rules, i have merely stated what Allah swt has stated in the Quran and what the prophet SAWW has stated. Actually i was referring to my original post on this thread. You can go back and read it and see what i meant by the statement that you quoted here. Also, you people think its okay for her to go on peoples walls and attack them simply because they didn't give her the reply she was looking for, THEN you go and copy what we replied to her attacks and make them look like evil negative comments. Hmm I recall saying I understand the circumstances that led to her being in the situation she is in, but what is the point in sitting here condemning her husbands behavior when he hasn't abused her for more than 4 years, and she began cheating on him after he stopped? I would never deny that marital abuse is a horrible, very haram phenomenon, tragic and heartbreaking and nobody should ever have to live in that situation, but when she comes on here saying her husband is good now, but she doesn't feel any feelings for him, wants to, but has been cheating on him for 4 years, i hardly think the abuse is the major topic. You want to disagree, go ahead. But all your advice to her and she hasn't once stated that she has any intention of leaving this other man. Why? Because nobody is giving it enough importance, its secondary to trying to tend to her wounds. I have stated my opinions several times and defended them, I have given her advice, and I think my obligation in this thread is now over. So take from what I said what you want and discard what you want, I am satisfied that I have done the best I can do. Wasalam all. :)
  16. ^ You are a sweet sister and it is very good of you to try to encourage reconciliation, but belittling adultery in order to reach that goal is not the correct path to be on. You may not think you are, but your first paragraph is doing exactly that, and that is precisely what I have been having a problem with. Anyway again, thanks for your advice, it was sweet, but I think this issue is way bigger than "be nice" :P Salam.
  17. ^ No problem, I respect everybody's opinion, but I have not attacked anybody, i have merely warned, advised, and showed somebody's hostility toward me for doing the former. If she didn't want her words to me to be shown to people she shouldn't have written them on my wall for everybody to see anyway. Since 2 others have done this, i will as well, i posted this in the other thread, but i think the people in this one need to see it too: Actually the 4 witness rule only applies if somebody wants to accuse somebody else of committing adultery. If somebody comes and admits to it, that is all that is needed for the Islamic punishment to be implemented, and thus when I say if she came to the Imams and told them she was committing adultery, she would be stoned it's because it is wajib on them to implement Islamic sharia. And no I didn't mean that I am more merciful than the imams, I was trying to outline that my words that she finds so harsh are nothing in comparison to what the Imams that she thinks would be so embracing and forgiving would be. Why? Because I am not allowed to implement Islamic Sharia even if i wanted to, so i can merely use words of warning, whereas the imams have an obligation to do the former. As for going to hell, Islam states if one dies while they are at the time in an adulterous relationship then they are going to hell. Its clear cut, very straight forward. So if my stating the facts of Islam makes her feel "hopeless" why didn't she just read what I actually said, which was in itself a plan to get out of her situation and thus, there was hope. I'm sorry you guys, I do understand your points about kindness and walking her through it, etc, but i simply can't agree in this situation, because if she doesn't understand the hugeness of her sin she wont ever stop committing it. Feeling guilty obviously isn't enough for her, since she has carried on with the relationship for 4 years with her guilt. What makes anybody think if her marriage gets back on track, the moment something else goes wrong she isn't going to go back into this type of relationship, most likely with the same guy she is with now? She might feel guilty about it, but guilt obviously isn't what she needs. She needs fear of Allah swt. She needs to be reminded what it means to be committing adultery, what implications, something to get her to stop doing it and not go back to it, even before her marriage problems are over. She needs to understand that this sin is so huge if she died with it she would go hell and if shariah punishment were to be implemented she would be stoned for it. It isn't something to feel guilty over, like lying, but something to repent for and get out of the situation of immediately. We won't agree about this, as usual :P but I hope you can at least somewhat understand my point of view, because I do understand yours. Wasalam.
  18. Actually the 4 witness rule only applies if somebody wants to accuse somebody else of committing adultery. If somebody comes and admits to it, that is all that is needed for the Islamic punishment to be implemented, and thus when I say if she came to the Imams and told them she was committing adultery, she would be stoned it's because it is wajib on them to implement Islamic sharia. And no I didn't mean that I am more merciful than the imams, I was trying to outline that my words that she finds so harsh are nothing in comparison to what the Imams that she thinks would be so embracing and forgiving would be. Why? Because I am not allowed to implement Islamic Sharia even if i wanted to, so i can merely use words of warning, whereas the imams have an obligation to do the former. As for going to hell, Islam states if one dies while they are at the time in an adulterous relationship then they are going to hell. Its clear cut, very straight forward. So if my stating the facts of Islam makes her feel "hopeless" why didn't she just read what I actually said, which was in itself a plan to get out of her situation and thus, there was hope. I'm sorry you guys, I do understand your points about kindness and walking her through it, etc, but i simply can't agree in this situation, because if she doesn't understand the hugeness of her sin she wont ever stop committing it. Feeling guilty obviously isn't enough for her, since she has carried on with the relationship for 4 years with her guilt. What makes anybody think if her marriage gets back on track, the moment something else goes wrong she isn't going to go back into this type of relationship, most likely with the same guy she is with now? She might feel guilty about it, but guilt obviously isn't what she needs. She needs fear of Allah swt. She needs to be reminded what it means to be committing adultery, what implications, something to get her to stop doing it and not go back to it, even before her marriage problems are over. She needs to understand that this sin is so huge if she died with it she would go hell and if shariah punishment were to be implemented she would be stoned for it. It isn't something to feel guilty over, like lying, but something to repent for and get out of the situation of immediately. We won't agree about this, as usual :P but I hope you can at least somewhat understand my point of view, because I do understand yours. Wasalam.
  19. ^ No I don't agree with people criticizing. And the difference is that according to Islam she is going to hell, but I am not Allah swt to say it for certain, thus i added the probably (i also did the last time i said it), where as the second means that like anybody else she may or may not go to hell.
  20. ^ Guess what? I am going to repeat what i said, and everybody that has a problem with it can bang their heads against a wall. If you were to die today, in the state of cheating on your husband and committing adultery, you would probably go to hell. Guess what you have to do to take yourself out of this status? Yes, that's right, exactly what i told you to do before: immediately remove yourself from the relationship you are in with the other man, and repent for it, and automatically, it isn't guaranteed that you are going to hell anymore. Now everybody can attack me again :D Go for it!
  21. Lol that's usually how it is with the Shia on this website. :)
  22. Yes I'm a saydiya and yes i have proof, we have a comprehensive family tree, but i won't be providing it on here, and i have it in hard copy anyway, so if i wanted to i couldn't. As for being treated better, not really. When Pakis find out they tend to be kinder, but otherwise no.
  23. ^ Okay then. If we have reached the level of mocking then i'm done talking to you too. :) Wasalam.
  24. ^ In the context of the hadith, the man came to tell the Prophet what his sin was, the prophet didn't ask him and put him on the spot, he wanted to confess. Secondly, stating somebody would most likely go to hell if they died while committing adultery without repenting is not saying they are going to hell, but making a point that unrepenting adulterous's go to hell. Seeing as you are going to go through posts picking at every little detail you can to prove your point, even having the audacity of, without knowing that a hadith isn't sahih (aka it can be sahih and the prophet may have replied in that manner) questioning something the prophet did, means that you really don't know what you are talking about or doing. Thus, I am done talking to you.
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