Hello sister, I pray that you are able to be with your husband soon, I just wanted to say that the constant mind changing & telling of different rules is normal, after finding out the reliable source of information, there shouldn't be any more discrepancies, don't worry. The reason for this is probably because he is getting his knowledge from different sources on the internet, and some sources are not very reliable. Like on the issue of dancing, there isn't any problem with dancing alone with one's spouse in their home. Most of all it is his duty Islamically to support you, he shouldn't have left you alone to pay bills, and especially worry about him, but his frustration is probably what led him to do so. You are in my prayers! Blessings~